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Celebrating difference and<br />
neurodivergence - part 3<br />
Other people are different on the inside<br />
This article is the third article in a series of six from Sensory Engagement and Inclusion Specialist,<br />
Joanna Grace, the activities described in each article build up to form a toolkit for celebrating<br />
difference and neurodivergence within your setting in a way that will benefit both the children and<br />
the adults. Joanna runs online training courses focused on strategies for supporting differently-abled<br />
children and promoting inclusive practice. Click here for more information.<br />
In articles one and two, we explored simple<br />
activities to get children thinking about<br />
their internal and external differences and<br />
we have repeatedly challenged ourselves<br />
to discuss these differences with children<br />
using non-judgemental language. A<br />
challenge, those of you who have taken<br />
it, I am sure will have discovered is harder<br />
that it first appears! The activity associated<br />
with this article is going to extend that<br />
thinking for the children even further, as<br />
they consider not just their own differences<br />
but the differences of others. But before we<br />
move on to that, it’s worth stopping to ask<br />
why we are doing this.<br />
Recognising and accepting difference<br />
allows everyone to be more authentically<br />
themselves. In addition to this, there<br />
are two big reasons why it is especially<br />
valuable for neurodivergent people, and<br />
especially so in the early years.<br />
Firstly<br />
When we publicly acknowledge that the<br />
internal workings of people’s brains are<br />
different, and we do this in an open and<br />
pragmatic manner, we protect against the<br />
misunderstandings that occur when people<br />
presume all brains work in the same way.<br />
I always like to draw the analogy between<br />
different types of computer software<br />
and hardware. Imagine you have two<br />
different computers: one Apple machine,<br />
one Windows. Both work. But they do<br />
so in different ways. When you try to run<br />
a Windows programme on the Apple<br />
computer, it doesn’t work. Not because<br />
the computer is broken, or the programme<br />
is wrong, but simply because of the<br />
mismatch.<br />
A lot of neurodivergent people grow up<br />
in environments set up for neurotypical<br />
people, receiving instructions that work<br />
for neurotypical people. When those<br />
environments and teaching strategies do<br />
not work for them, they are labelled as<br />
broken or disabled, when in fact, what<br />
they are, is different. Think about how<br />
careful you have been being about talking<br />
about difference using non-judgemental<br />
language. As you reflect on the impact of<br />
the misunderstanding described above<br />
you can appreciate the value in your<br />
carefully chosen words.<br />
Secondly<br />
Tremendous damage is caused by<br />
the narratives that develop around<br />
neurodivergent people. I am a big<br />
research geek, if you follow me on<br />
Twitter (@Jo3Grace) you will know how<br />
much I value researched-based practice<br />
and how much research I consume. When<br />
you explore the long term outcomes for<br />
neurodivergent people, so many of the<br />
struggles they face in later life are not<br />
a consequence of their difference but<br />
a consequence of the narratives that<br />
surround their difference.<br />
Here is an example. A child is born with<br />
a neurodivergent condition. One aspect<br />
of this condition is that they have different<br />
sleep patterns (this is a common feature<br />
of many neurodivergent conditions). Of<br />
course they look externally like any other<br />
baby, and no one knows as yet that they<br />
are different on the inside. They struggle<br />
to sleep, they are described as a “fussy”<br />
baby. They get older, in their toddler<br />
years the way they process language<br />
is different to their neurotypical peers<br />
(again this is common for neurodivergent<br />
conditions) receiving instructions they<br />
struggle to follow they often do not do<br />
as they are told. The adults around them<br />
refer to them as “naughty” and they<br />
receive various punishments. They move<br />
on to primary school where their sensory<br />
processing differences (again common<br />
in neurodivergent communities) make it<br />
difficult for them to sit still and focus on<br />
their work. The adults around them refer to<br />
them as “difficult”. All the while the story is<br />
developing that the problem is them. “Of<br />
course he is a naughty child, he was such<br />
a fussy baby what did you expect?” “He’s<br />
being difficult again, he’s always been like<br />
this, even as a baby he was so fussy.”<br />
When they hit their teenage years, their<br />
understanding of self is made up out of<br />
these stories. They believe themselves<br />
to be wrong in some way, to be lesser,<br />
to be bad. Their self esteem is low. They<br />
notice their difference from their peers and<br />
interpret it in the same way that the adults<br />
they have experienced in their life have<br />
taught them to do so. They witness their<br />
peers achieving and themselves failing,<br />
and they blame themselves.<br />
It is no surprise that when I read the<br />
research surrounding these populations,<br />
I find increased rates of mental ill health,<br />
greater likelihood of self-harm or substance<br />
abuse, greater risk of dying by suicide,<br />
lower rates of employment, and so on.<br />
It starts small but the language we use<br />
around difference is the beginnings of these<br />
stories. It is the stories, not the conditions,<br />
that cause the low self esteem and the<br />
mental health difficulties; these stories are<br />
dangerous.<br />
For a wonderfully positive example, I<br />
remember a young man who showed me<br />
around the special school that I worked at<br />
when I was a newly qualified teacher. He<br />
was about 14 when I started at the school<br />
and as a member of the school council, he<br />
had been tasked with giving me, the new<br />
teacher, a tour of the school. He started<br />
out by smartly introducing himself, clearly<br />
proud of the responsibility he had been<br />
given. He then immediately said “I have a<br />
learning disability, it can take me longer to<br />
understand things, and it helps me if you<br />
show me anything you want to explain as<br />
well as tell me about it.” And in his next<br />
breath he went on to talk about how good<br />
he was at swimming.<br />
I was so impressed. Here was a child who<br />
had been openly talked to about their<br />
difference, in his first utterances to me, he<br />
had already given me strategies I could<br />
use to support his understanding, and he<br />
had celebrated his abilities. That young<br />
man will have faced struggles in his life as<br />
he attempted to learn new skills, but the<br />
confidence he had in himself, knowing who<br />
he was and how his brain worked will, I’m<br />
sure, have equipped him to meet those<br />
struggles and overcome them. Imagine<br />
who he would be if he had felt that his<br />
difficulties in learning were in some way his<br />
fault? Which leads me on to why this is so<br />
important in the early years:<br />
Early years<br />
Often times, in early years settings you are<br />
supporting children who may be diagnosed<br />
with a neurodivergent condition later on in<br />
their lives. The differences between children<br />
become more apparent with age. But<br />
the impression we make and the stories<br />
we tell when children are small are the<br />
foundations for the stories other people will<br />
tell. Do you describe the child as “bossy”<br />
or as having “leadership skills”? Do you<br />
say “Peter always fidgets” or “Peter’s body<br />
likes to move”? The differences are subtle<br />
but they set a direction now that points to<br />
where that child might end up. The nuances<br />
matter.<br />
Imagine a start point, and an arrow<br />
pointing out from that start point. We direct<br />
this arrow with our utterances. It points to<br />
where that child ends up. The difference<br />
between “Peter always fidgets” and “Peter’s<br />
body likes to move” is small but the nuance<br />
matters. “Peter always fidgets” blames<br />
Peter, it is something he does, and it always<br />
has a notion of value judgement. Add to<br />
that the tone in which it is said and the<br />
arrow points very definitely in one direction.<br />
“Peter’s body likes to move” is very different,<br />
it’s now not Peter himself, but his body, and<br />
the “likes to move” could be used positively<br />
in a different context; “Let’s choose Peter for<br />
this game because his body likes to move.”<br />
The arrow points in a different way. Your<br />
words set the direction. The child grows and<br />
moves in that direct, a difference of a few<br />
degrees now can make a huge difference<br />
between where that child ends up.<br />
So set yourself that challenge again, that<br />
I have set you in all three of these articles:<br />
How can you tweak how you talk about<br />
difference to remove the judgement?<br />
Explore different turns of phrase, which<br />
would be best? Where do they lead?<br />
The task for the children is to make a reveal<br />
picture as before, but this time, not of<br />
themselves but of someone else. It could be<br />
fun to do one for a child in a book so that<br />
everyone is thinking about the same child.<br />
The question the children are answering<br />
is “What do you think they are thinking?” It<br />
is a very hard question, and you can offer<br />
support by giving possible answers. You<br />
could pair them up with friends and ask<br />
them to draw their friend thinking about<br />
their favourite food. The children could<br />
then find out what each other’s favourite<br />
food is and draw that. What we are<br />
aiming for them to appreciate, is that the<br />
other person maybe thinking differently to<br />
themselves. And whilst they are doing that,<br />
we are going to support them by talking<br />
about difference using non-judgemental<br />
language: good luck!<br />
Jo provides in person and online training to<br />
settings looking to enhance their inclusive<br />
practice for more information visit www.<br />
TheSensoryProjects.co.uk where you can<br />
also find resources to help you include<br />
children of all abilities. Jo is active on social<br />
media and welcomes connection requests<br />
from people curious about inclusive<br />
practice.<br />
Joanna Grace<br />
Joanna Grace is an international<br />
Sensory Engagement and Inclusion<br />
Specialist, trainer, author, TEDx speaker<br />
and founder of The Sensory Projects.<br />
Consistently rated as “outstanding” by<br />
Ofsted, Joanna has taught in<br />
mainstream and special school settings,<br />
connecting with pupils of all ages and<br />
abilities. To inform her work, Joanna<br />
draws on her own experience from her<br />
private and professional life as well as<br />
taking in all the information she can<br />
from the research archives. Joanna’s<br />
private life includes family members<br />
with disabilities and neurodiverse<br />
conditions and time spent as a<br />
registered foster carer for children with<br />
profound disabilities.<br />
Joanna has published four practitioner<br />
books: “Multiple Multisensory Rooms:<br />
Myth Busting the Magic”, “Sensory<br />
Stories for Children and Teens”,<br />
“Sensory-Being for Sensory Beings”<br />
and “Sharing Sensory Stories and<br />
Conversations with People with<br />
Dementia”. and two inclusive sensory<br />
story children’s books: “Voyage to<br />
Arghan” and “Ernest and I”. There is<br />
new book coming out soon called ‘”The<br />
Subtle Spectrum” and her son has<br />
recently become the UK’s youngest<br />
published author with his book, “My<br />
Mummy is Autistic”.<br />
Joanna is a big fan of social media and<br />
is always happy to connect with people<br />
via Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn.<br />
Website:<br />
thesensoryprojects.co.uk<br />
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