The Parish Magazine March 2022


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Best Overall 2020, 2015

Best Editor 2019

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Best Overall 2020, 2015

Best Editor 2019

Best Print 2018

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Contents March 2022



— Choral and music plans, 7

— For your prayers in March, 7

— Christian Basics Part 2, 9

— Ash Wednesday, 9

— STAY, 10-11

The Persecuted Church, 11

— On Reflection: Deuteronomy, 13

— From the editor's desk, 13

— Mothering Sunday, 15

— Claude's view, 15

The joy of Lent, 17


— Life in The Ark, 19

— Platinum memories, 20-21

— 25 years of Ali's Pond, 22-23

around the villages

— Shaping up at school, 25

— Saving Karun, 25

— Scarecrows are back, 25

— Painting for the Jubilee, 27

— Heritage walk and talk, 27

— Eleven charities, one roof, 27

— Project Singers project, 29

— FoStAC quiz night, 29

history, 31


— Through the Palace gates, 33

— THRA opens again, 33

— Recipe of the month, 33


— Platinum poem, 34

— Metaphysical dean, 34

— Book Reviews, 35

The Potato Planters, 35


— Dr Simon Ruffle, 36

— Tinnitus, 37-38

The anxious word, 38

the sciences

— Reality beyond objects, 38


children's page, 41


— Church services, 3

— From the registers, 3

Parish contacts, 42

— Advertisers index, 42


March 2022 — Lent — Mothering Sunday




the church of st andrew, SERVING THE COMMUNITIES OF


Sonning Lock on a crisp winter's day

Picture: Ali Payne of Charvil


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Services at

St Andrew’s

Ash Wednesday 2 March

— 7.30pm Holy Communion with

the Imposition of Ashes

Sunday 6 March

— 8.00am Holy Communion

— 10.30am Family Service

— 4.00pm Choral Evensong

followed by tea in The Ark

Sunday 13 March

— 8.00am Holy Communion

— 10.30am Parish Eucharist

STAY and Sunday Club

Sunday 20 March

— 8.00am Holy Communion

— 10.30am Family Communion

— 3.00pm Messy Church in The Ark

Mothering Sunday 27 March

— 8.00am Holy Communion

— 10.30am Parish Eucharist

STAY and Sunday Club

— 6.0opm Sunday at Six in The Ark

with refreshments served on

arrival from 5.50pm-6.05pm


Morning Prayer is held in church

every Tuesday at 9.30am. During

school holidays please check the Week

Ahead notices for service details.

Mid-week Communion in The Ark is

held every Wednesday at 10.00am. Tea

and coffee is available following the


Home Communion at Signature at

Sonning is held on the first Monday

of each month at 11.00am. Visitors

must comply with the care home's

Covid restrictions so please check with

Signature at least four days before.

From the register


— Thursday 13 January, William John Fry, funeral service in Church followed

by cremation at Reading Crematorium

— Friday 4 February, Margaret Moore, funeral service in church followed by

cremation at Reading Crematorium

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The associate vicar's letter


It is a bit of a cliché to talk about new beginnings as we enter into the season of

spring, but the reality is that the last few months have been full of new beginnings

which I would like to share with you in this letter. I haven’t written the letter since

the summer due to illness and so I have a lot to say!

As you will be aware, I am the chaplain at Reading Blue Coat and this academic

year has seen the emergence of a new chaplaincy team made up of pupil chaplaincy

assistants, and next year, I am very excited to announce there will be a chaplaincy

prefect as well. The role of these chaplaincy assistants has been varied, but I want

to share just one example with you in which my two roles, parish and school, came


Although my school is in the parish, it can often feel as though my two roles

are very separate. However, chaplaincy assistant Minahil had a wonderful idea of a

fund raiser, which she organised herself, for Me2 Club which is an inclusion charity

for children and young people with additional needs and disabilities. She suggested

a cake sale and raffle. I decided to ask in church for volunteers to bake. Parishioners

ended up baking 11 cakes and we made just under £300! For me, it was an absolute

joy to see that connection between my school life and parish life.


Another new beginning that I have been excited about for months was the

resumption of Messy Church. We started in December with a special Christmas

party and since January we have met on the third Sunday of the month. I admit I

was slightly apprehensive as many of our regular attendees were now at secondary

school and I wasn’t sure how many people would come, but we had lots of families,

old and new, and it has been wonderful to see Messy Church back and thriving. I

am also pleased that we now have six young leaders to help run the activities, some

from the church community and some from Reading Blue Coat.

My favourite Messy Church activity has been the Frame of Hearts which we will

add to each month. I bought this frame online in the first summer of the pandemic

and kept it with eager anticipation for the day Messy Church restarted. Each child

and young leader has written their name on a heart and added it to the frame. The

idea is that each time a new child comes to Messy Church they also add their name

to the frame as our community continues to rebuild and grow.

The theme of Messy Church in January was Hope, something that I think we

can all relate to and something many of us have prayed for over the past two years.

The season of Lent starts this month when we prepare to remember the events

of Holy Week in early April. Lent is a time of reflection; there is a sombre and

penitential feel to the liturgy, hymns and prayers in church. But it is also important

to remember that at the end of this season comes the great feast of Easter. Easter

is the ultimate celebration of Hope as we see light conquering the darkness and life

conquering death.

As a final note, I would like to thank everyone who has supported me over the

past 5 months while I have been suffering with long covid and a number of other

longer term covid related conditions. Each thought, prayer, card or offer of help has

meant a great deal to me and my family, and I feel truly blessed to be part of such

wonderful communities, both in this parish and in my school.

With love and prayers, Kate

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Rev Kate with the Messy frame of hearts

Minahil and Liz from Me2 Club

Kate with head girl Charlotte at the cake sale

Felicity, Harriet and Charlotte with Rev Kate at the

Christmas party

Molly, Liz and Ella, three

Messy Church leaders

Messy Church crafters in action . . .

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Choral and music

plans surge ahead

after Covid rules

are relaxed

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The legacy of the music and choral

traditions at St Andrew’s which

date back over several hundred

years was fully evident on the first

Sunday of February when junior

and senior choirs played a full

part in our morning and evening

worship — at the 10.30am family

service we celebrated Candlemas

with Christingles and in the late

afternoon, Evensong was held for

the first time in two years since covid

restrictions were introduced at the

start of the pandemic.

The two services demonstrated the

diverse repertoire of both the junior

and senior choirs that spans music

from the 16th Century up to the

present day and encompasses an array

of different styles.

The morning family worship was

a joyful 'modern' occasion, while

the evening worship dates back to a

service written by Thomas Cranmer

in the 16th century but, despite it's

age — or perhaps because of it —

it was also joyous, although in a

different, way.


Evensong is now being held on

the first Sunday of every month

starting at 4pm. The first Evensong

since covid fell on 6 February and

so coincided with Her Majesty The

Queen's accession to the throne

70 years previously. The service,

The joyful celebrations at the

end of the Candlemas with

Christingles service (above)

were for Celeste (on the left)

who was also celebrating her

18th birthday.

(Below right) Four of the junior choir proudly display their Christingles, although one of them

seems to have eaten it already!

therefore, was an appropriate

occasion to commemorate the death

of the Queen's father, King George VI,

and celebrate the start of her reign by

following it with a special tea in The

Ark laid on by the social committee,

and attended by more than 60 people.

Future Evensongs will also be

followed by tea in The Ark, although

we can't promise that it will include

'The Toast' made to Her Majesty on

her special day!


The relaxation of the covid

restrictions has also meant that the

plans to boost further the music and

choral capabilities at St Andrew's

can push ahead once again. As well

as the organ scholarship that is now

well established, St Andrew's PCC is

inviting applicants for a new choral


It is envisaged that the choral

scholars will provide a strong core

within the choir and enhance it even

further. Potential applicants might

include university music students,

sixth form students hoping to study

music at university or music college,

potential Oxbridge Choral Scholarship

applicants or any other able singer

with a passion for collective music


It is hoped that the first choral

scholars will be starting in September

this year.


To further strengthen the music

making capabilities in the church,

the PCC is also seeking to appoint an

assistant organist to provide support

for the weekly Sunday services as well

as playing for weddings, funerals and

other events when needed.

Further information about the

scholarships and assistant organist

role can be obtained from Hannah

Towndrow, director of music, on:

For your prayers in March

— Marie Curie Nurses who provide support for all aspects of dying, death and bereavement

— Hannah Towndrow as she seeks to appoint an assistant organist and choral scholars

— All who are planning special events to mark The Queen's Platinum Jubilee

— All who are struggling to live with the side effects of covid

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Christian Basics — Part 2

Rev Paul Hardingham's series on the foundations of the Christian faith

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Ash Wednesday: mourning

3,000 years of sin

Adam and Eve


What's wrong with the world?

How can a God of love allow suffering? Many people

struggle with such questions, however the Bible helps us

to understand how sin affects both our own lives and the


Genesis provides us with a picture of how sin entered the

world. In Genesis 2:16-17, God gave Adam and Eve both

permission — 'You are free to eat from any tree in the garden'

— and a prohibition — 'But you must not eat from the tree

of the knowledge of good and evil’ — alongside warning

them of the consequences of disobedience — 'For when you

eat of it you will surely die'.


In Genesis 3, they broke God’s law by eating fruit

from the forbidden tree. As a result, their eyes were

opened to the nature of sin — 'they knew shame' and their

relationship with God was broken — 'they hid from him'.

As a consequence, death entered their lives.

This story reminds us that God gives us free will — an

essential aspect of being human — to choose whether he

will be at the centre of our lives or not.


The Bible offers different ways of describing how sin is:

— a spirit of independence: we don’t want God to

interfere with our lives, preferring our own ideas,

plans and ways of behaviour.

— ignoring the maker’s instructions: if you ignore user

instructions, you only have yourself to blame when

things go wrong! God created us to function with him

at the centre of our lives.

— missing the mark: we fail an exam even when we miss

the pass mark by one mark: ‘All have sinned and fall short of

the glory of God’ (Romans 3:23).


In a famous correspondence in The Times under the

title ‘What’s wrong with the world?’ GK Chesterton’s letter

simply said: ‘Dear Sir, I am.’

Vetre Antanaviciute-meskauskiene,

Lent begins with Ash Wednesday. But why 'Ash'? The

reason has to do with getting things right between you and

God, and the tradition goes back about 3,000 years to Old

Testament times.

In the Old Testament, the Israelites often sinned. When they

finally came to their senses, and saw their evil ways as God

saw them, they could do nothing but repent in sorrow. They

mourned for the damage and evil they had done and covered

their heads with ashes. Putting ashes on your head, and even

rending your clothes, was an outward sign of their heart-felt

repentance and acknowledgement of sin. (Genesis 18:27; 2

Samuel 13:19; Job 2:8, 30:19; Isaiah 58:5; Jeremiah 6:26; Jonah 3:6)

In the early Christian Church, the yearly 'class' of

penitents had ashes sprinkled over them at the beginning

of Lent. They were turning to God for the first time, and

mourning their sins. But soon many other Christians

wanted to take part in the custom. They heeded Joel's call

to 'rend your hearts and not your garments' (Joel 2:12-19). Ash

Wednesday became known as either the 'beginning of the

fast' or ‘the day of the ashes’.


The Prayer Book collect for Ash Wednesday stresses

the penitential character of the day. It encourages us with

the reminder of the readiness of God to forgive us and to

renew us, as do the Bible readings for the day which include

Paul’s moving catalogue of suffering: 'having nothing and yet

possessing everything.' (2 Corinthians 5:20b - 6:10)

The custom of 'ashing' was abolished in the 16th Century

Reformation, though the name for the day remained. Today,

throughout the Church of England, receiving the mark of

ashes on one’s forehead is optional. Certainly, the mark of

ashes on the forehead reminds people of their mortality:

'Remember that you are dust and to dust you will return' (Genesis 3:19).

The late medieval custom was to burn the branches used

on Palm Sunday in the previous year to create the ashes,

which is how it is done today in St Andrew's — we burn last

year's palm crosses and mix it with consecrated olive oil. All

who attend the evening Holy Communion service on Ash

Wednesday are given the option of receiving a cross on their


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STAY on Sunday

Our Sunday youth has also grown in

number and soon will need to spread

into the second upper room (read

on for more info on this exciting

next phase). We have continued

to cover the topic of relationships

since September 2021 and this has

meant we have thought about all

the different relationships in our

lives. What’s good and bad about

them? Where are they healthy and

sometimes unhealthy? What sort

of friends do we have? Who do we

fancy and what should we expect

from romantic relationships? What

influence do people in the media

have on us? What is it like being a

Christian in a country where you

get arrested, imprisoned or even

killed for being a Christian? These

themes have raised some amazing

conversations and resulted in new

ways of thinking for us all.

Second Upper Room Plan

During lockdown we had the amazing privilege of having the second upper

room built in The Ark because our youth work has steadily grown in the past 3

years. We need the extra space for groups on Sunday and for STAY on Friday.

This is an exciting time and the room is a blank canvas.

As with the first upper room, we sat with a small group of young people to come

up with a plan for the space. We then took the plan to the youth on Friday and

got a few more ideas. Of course we couldn’t promise everything — some asked for

padded walls and floor to make a wrestling room, and others wanted beds so they

can sleep when they get tired! After filtering out the more left-field ideas we are

left with a solid list of items that will transform the space into an amazing room of


Below are examples of the items we would love you to sponsor, only if you felt

able to, for the second upper room. As well as asking you, the lovely people of the

parish and church, we will also be asking the young people and their families to

help raise funds for the cost of the equipment. We have some ideas in the pipeline

so watch this space.

Please get in touch if you would like to sponsor an item or piece of equipment for

the young people. For more details of how to do this, or make a donation, contact

Hilary in the parish office on 0118 969 3298 or





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erful youth club on Friday nights in the Ark

to grow and flourish with new young people and

he old faces still coming along each week. In the

he youth have recently made yummy cookies,

kes and jam roly poly, as well as having all the

and games of youth club!

The Persecuted Church

Blasphemy in Pakistan

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By Colin Bailey

uth related ideas, chats or musings, email

ty on:

A church and mosque in Peshawar, the oldest city in Pakistan

Pakistan has the world’s second

strictest blasphemy laws in the

world after Iran, according to the

US Commission on International

Religious Freedom.

Blasphemy is punishable by death in

Iran, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Brunei,

Mauritania and Saudi Arabia. About

1,500 Pakistanis have been charged

with blasphemy over the past 30

years. No executions have taken


However, Islamic extremist groups

are known to attack or kill in extrajudicial

fashion those accused of

breaking the laws. Reports suggest

about 80 people since 1990 have been

killed in Pakistan over claims of


Christians are targeted, often

after a dispute that concerns work or

tenancy. In many cases, people who try

to help those charged with blasphemy

are also subjected to threats and


Laws outlawing insulting religion

have existed in the region since 1860

and were incorporated into Pakistan’s

Penal Code at the country’s founding

in 1947. The laws were strengthened

under the military government of

General Zia-ul-Haq (in office 1978-88).

Shahid Khan,

In 1998, on the steps of a court in

central Pakistan, Bishop John Joseph

committed suicide in a protest of

Pakistan’s strict blasphemy laws. He

had been campaigning for decades to

reform those laws.

A few days prior to his death,

a young illiterate man had been

convicted and sentenced to death for


In April 2021, the European

Parliament adopted a joint motion

for resolution on the blasphemy

laws in Pakistan, calling for more

comprehensive approaches to address

the abuses of blasphemy laws in

Pakistan. Yet Prime Minister of

Pakistan, Imran Khan, has been

calling for the introduction of

blasphemy laws in other countries.

In August last year, a Pakistani

Christian couple were acquitted of

blasphemy after 7 years on death row

and have left the country.

A Pakistani Christian, who was

accused of blasphemy in May 2017,

was sentenced to death by Rawalpindi

District Court in January this year.

Open Doors asks us to pray that

blasphemy laws will not be abused to

target Christians, and that the death

penalty for blasphemy is abolished

References and further Reading


Barnabas Fund:

The Conversation:

Deutsche Welle (DW):


Foreign Policy:

Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and Law:

Open Doors:

We will look at the broader situation affecting Christians in Pakistan in a future issue.

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On reflection . . .

By Elizabeth Spiers

Deuteronomy, Exodus

and Numbers

The Promised Land


In Deuteronomy 1:1 we are told that it takes 11 days to go

from Horeb to Kadesh Barnea by the Mount Seir road. So

from Egypt to the Promised Land it’s an 11 day journey.

Why would a journey of a few days have taken the Hebrews

escaping from slavery in Egypt 40 years?

First, they didn’t take the direct route. That would have

taken them too close to the Egyptians and they certainly

weren’t ready for any kind of fight. So God took them on

an indirect route and the Israelites didn’t like it. Two years

later, God brought them to Kadesh-Barnea, at the edge

of the Promised Land — the land ‘flowing with milk and

honey’. God was giving it to them forever to provide all

they needed for life.

However, after being slaves for so long, the Israelites

no longer had confidence in either themselves or in God.

Despite the plagues, their escape with gold and silver,

the parting of the Red Sea, and being led by the pillar of

fire by night and the cloud by day, they couldn’t realise

their position or appreciate what God had done for them.

Rather than obey God and go straight into the promised

land, they sent 12 spies on ahead first but only two of

them returned with a confident report that God would

help them conquer the land.

The Israelites rebelled by refusing to enter the land and

turned away from God, and they even longed for the ‘good old

days’ of poverty and slavery in Egypt. What a tragedy! They

still had so much of Egypt in their thinking and behaviour

that they thought going back to slavery would be better than

pressing on through adversity into freedom and a new life.


And it’s just like that for us today. We become Christians,

but there’s so much of our old lives in our thinking and our

behaviour that we often yearn for those days when we did

what we liked without reference to God.

He has a unique plan for each of us that he doesn’t

want us to miss. He wants us to enjoy the richness of our

relationship with him, but it depends on our willingness to

do things his way. So often we end up in our own wilderness,

wondering how on earth we got there. And unless we return

to God and confess our rebellion and our sin, we may be there

a long time. If you find yourself in the wilderness today, ask

yourself if it’s worth it. Is the dry and dusty place you’re in

better than living in the will of God? I can’t promise you it’s

easier being in God’s will — you may have to make some

sacrifices — but I can promise you it’s far more rewarding.

From the desk

of the editor

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We all have a 'second

nature' story to tell . . .

I am always pleased to hear from you, our readers,

whether you are complimenting or criticising the

magazine, or indeed complaining that you have not

received the latest copy — such complaints are, of

course, one of the best compliments!

The response to our January issue was particularly

encouraging and I am pleased that so many of you have

taken the time to tell me how much you enjoyed and

appreciated it. I hope you enjoy this issue.

One of the regular questions that I always find difficult

to answer is 'how do you manage to find so many different

interesting articles?' It's a bit like asking someone how

they manage to ride a bike or swim. There are many

things in life we all do without thinking about how we

actually do them. Even if we have not been on a bike or

in a swimming pool for years, most of us, having learnt

when we were younger, can still do it for as long as we are

physically able to. It is a 'second nature' for us.

Likewise, recognising the possibility of there being a

story to write about something, or someone, is for me,

'second nature'. At the age of 25 years I was thrown in

the deep end of journalism without any formal training

— I had spent the previous eight years training to be

an engineer! The only journalistic training I received

was being told by my newspaper editor that everyone

and everything has a story to tell, and 'I want the story

by 5pm today'! Now, 50 years later, recognising an

opportunity for a story is 'second nature'.


Standing by The Parish Magazine rack at the north

door of the church after the 10.30am Sunday service to

say goodbye to members of the congregation and hand

out copies of the February issue to those who don't have

it delivered to their home, I was pleased to be reminded

that several people take more than one copy to pass on

to friends and family, some of whom have moved out

of the parish but enjoy reading the magazine — covid

restrictions in the past did not allow us to stand by the

door and physically hand the magazine to anyone. Please

feel free to give your family and friends a copy.

While I edit every story and article that we publish,

many of them are written by our local contributors who

do an excellent job, or by a specialist church news agency

which is run by a journalist, who like me, is also a licensed

lay minister in the Church of England.

We all have a story to tell and if you have the urge to

share your story, or your special interest, with our readers

send it to me. I can't guarantee that they will all be

published, but I can guarantee that if it is published, I will

edit it — editing is another of my second natures!

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Hospitality: north,

south and west!

Hospitality, writes Claude Masters,

is a fundamental Christian activity

that we often hear referred to in

the Bible and in sermons, and is

something that, as well as offering

it to others, we can enjoy when it

is offered to us. Hospitality is not

confined to our homes or our church,

we can experience it wherever we

travel and sometimes it leads to

unexpected, but memorable, events


Mothering Sunday

The Fourth Sunday in Lent was called

‘Mid-Lent’ or ‘Refreshment Sunday’,

when the rigours of Lent were relaxed

more than was normal for a feast day.

It was called Mothering Sunday as a

reference to the Epistle reading for the

Day (Galatians 4:21-31). The Lenten

Epistles follow from each other with

teaching about our life as Christians

and how we are to follow Christ.

On Mid-Lent Sunday the Epistle

talks of bondage and freedom; the

bondage of the Law and the Old

Covenant as compared to the freedom

in Christ, 'the promised one', and the

New Covenant. Verse 26 reads: 'But

Jerusalem which is above is free, which is

the mother of us all.'

We gain our freedom from

Christ and, as it was seen before

the Reformation, the Church. Thus,

Mothering Sunday is about the

freedom that we gain through the

promise of Jesus delivered through

our Mother the Church.

People were encouraged to go to

their ‘Mother Church’ to worship and

give thanks so apprentices, and others,

went home for the weekend and often

took gifts home to their family.


On the other hand, Mother’s Day is

a secular festival invented in 1904 and

is celebrated on the second Sunday in

May in most countries in the world —

the UK seems to be the exception.

Mothering Sunday for Christians

is a special day because we give thanks

to God for two important parts of our

lives: our Church and our mothers!

Mothering Sunday is on 27 March.

that go beyond good food and drink.

An hospitable North Devon dairy

farmer asked me if I would like to

witness the birth of a calf. Witness

was hardly the word as I helped him

pull it out of the back end of the cow.

I had towed our caravan to

Trebyla for a holiday in North Devon

and sited it on a Caravan Club

Certified Location, or CL, at a dairy

farm. The owner made caravanners

very welcome and was keen to

involve anyone who showed interest

in the farm.

The calf I helped to deliver was

a beautiful big brown one but sadly

was still born. However, there was a

joyful twist. At about the same time,

the farmer's daughter gave birth to

his first grandchild 100 miles away in

South Devon and he invited us into

his house for the evening to wet the

baby’s head!

In the dairy was a vat that held

hundreds of gallons of milk and

when we arrived I was told to take

whatever we wanted, but not to turn

on the stirring paddle before taking

it. That way we got plenty of cream.

When paying the site fees before

leaving the farmer had no idea what

the retail price of a pint of milk was!

He was a good example of what being

hospitable means.


On another occasion we were on

the way to a holiday on the Gower

peninsula in South Wales when we

stopped overnight at a CL near the

Severn Bridge and took advantage of

the evening meals that were offered.

The site owner apologised saying that

they had visitors that evening so she

would bring the meals to us in the

caravan. It was fascinating to see her

The Parish Magazine - March 2022 15






followed by two burly farm workers

carrying the meals across the field

and the meal included a quart of

double cream which enhanced our

desserts for several days.

Nearer home, the Rendezvous

lunch in The Ark for Burns Night

was not quite what I was hoping

for — haggis, neeps and tatties —

although the sausages were tasty

and I can understand that we need

to pander to Sassenach tastes in this

neck of the woods! Sometimes being

hospitable means we have to tolerate

the preferences of others.


When our daughter lived in

Stirling my wife and I stayed with

her for a month in the summer and

enjoyed haggis several times.

In Scotland I imagine there are

as many restaurants offering haggis,

neeps and tatties as there are selling

fish and chips. There may also be

some near the border but, as with

single malt whisky, the further South

you go the less there is to be found.

There are over 120 distilleries in

Scotland and a hotel bar there is lined

with dozens and dozens of different

single malt whisky. A hotel I stayed

at in Bournemouth had only one on


As you may have gathered, I

enjoy a single malt and have several

different ones in our cocktail

cabinet. I have fancied becoming a

connoisseur but that would not be

wise nor could I afford it. However a

single tot of whisky is a lot cheaper

than a bottle of beer.

Cheers! or ‘Eggy Sheggy Reg’ as

they say in Hungary and lets all be

more hospitable!

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The joy of Lent

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Paulus Rusyanto,

I grew up with the idea that Lent was a dreary time in the Church calendar,

writes Bob Peters. The hymns always seemed dull, the sermons talked only

of repentance, there were no flowers to brighten up the church, we were

not allowed to say Alleluia and, worse still, we had to give up something we

enjoyed — as a child it was usually sweets or chocolate! As Ash Wednesday,

this year, falls on 3 March, I decided to look into how the traditions that go

with Lent developed and was reminded that it is meant to be a time of joyful


I have to admit that I should have

known this years ago, but as is

usually the case, our lives and beliefs

are often shaped by our childhood


My research led me to the work

of Father Norman Tanner, SJ, a

professor of church history at the

Pontifical Gregorian University in

Rome which was founded in 1551 by

Ignatius of Loyola.

In 1961, Fr Norman became a

Jesuit — a Roman Catholic order of

religious men that was also founded

by Ignatius. The order is known for

its educational, missionary, and

charitable works.

Fr Norman also studied church

history at Oxford University, where

he taught from 1978 to 2003.

He is considered to be a leading

expert in the history of church

councils — one of his papers that

makes interesting reading, 'A Short

History of Lent' can be found online




Fr Norman, explains that the

earliest mention of Lent in the

history of the Church comes from

the council of Nicaea in 325AD.

The original word used for the 40

days before Easter was tessarakonta a

Greek word meaning 40 and around

the world is translated in a variety of


In Anglo-Saxon England, however,

the 40 days became known as Lent, a

word that aptly meant 'lengthening'

— during the 40 days before Easter

the daylight hours steadily lengthen

and so gives us the perfect image of

'the light of Christ' slowly spreading

into the world.

Whatever it is called, the 40 days

reflects the time Jesus spent in the

wilderness being tested by the devil

after his baptism. (Matthew 4:1-11;

Luke 4:1-13)

The Lenten period is also mirrored

by the 40 'joyful' days of Advent

as we prepare for the Christmas



Fr Norman reminds us of this joy:

'It is important to remember that

Lent is a joyful season. The first Preface

for the Mass in Lent makes the point

very elegantly: Each year you give us

this joyful season when we prepare

to celebrate the paschal mystery with

mind and heart renewed. You give us

a spirit of loving reverence for you,

our Father, and of willing service to

our neighbour. As we recall the great

events that gave us a new life in Christ,

you bring to perfection within us the

image of your Son.'


All Christian denominations

observe Lent with different

traditions, and often individual

churches of the same denomination

have their own and ways of marking

the 40 days. In the past 2 years covid

has meant, and continues to mean,

that many of the in-person house

groups, services, and Lenten suppers

have not been possible.

At St Andrew's this year we

will be marking Lent by having a

Lenten reflection given by one of

the ministry team, during Morning

Prayer in the Church at 9.30am on

each Tuesday, starting on 8 March.

Lenten Morning Prayer will be

followed by coffee in The Ark.

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Life in The Ark is brighter than ever!

Before covid gripped the country The Ark at St Andrew's Church, which

opened in May 2017, was a hive of activity but sadly when the virus struck,

everything ground to a halt and the building stood empty. But the good news

is that, from the start of this New Year, it has burst into life again — and this

new life is looking even brighter than before!

At The Ark opening in 2017, Rev Jamie

outlined plans for the future. He told

the Henley Standard: 'We need space for

our growing Sunday school and our new

outreach programme, which will include a

pensioners’ lunch club and youth club. The

Ark has given us the facilities we need.'

Now, almost 5 years later — and

despite Covid — these plans are

not only back on track, but they are

exceeding expectations!


The 'growing Sunday school' Rev

Jamie spoke of is now a very active

Sunday Club for the younger children

who meet there on a Sunday morning,

and a young people's STAY group that

meet to explore how their faith can

help them come to terms with many

of the pressures that society puts

on them. The Sunday STAY group is

reaching the stage where they could

soon be outgrowing the room in The

Ark where they meet, and a second

room will need to be equipped so they

can split into two groups.


A key part of the outreach

programme Rev Jamie spoke of was

the creation of a youth club that meets

on a Friday evening. The club has

quickly got up and running again after

covid with some 50-60 young people



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turning up to enjoy the facilities that

provided for both indoor and outside

sports, games and activities.


The pensioners' lunch club, Rev

Jamie envisaged became 'Rendezvous

in The Ark' and this also has steadily

got going again after covid. Unlike the

children and young people's groups

where often the building is full of

games equipment and electronic

devices, Rendezvous becomes a

comfortable dining lounge where

members meet to enjoy an excellent

lunch prepared by Emma's Kitchen of

Twyford, and to share in 'grown up'


'It's a great opportunity to meet new

people and have the time to just sit, talk

about anything and everything, and to

laugh together — and to enjoy a good

meal prepared by someone else!'— is a

good summary of what the members

say the club is all about.


One of the other main reasons

for building The Ark was to provide

a comfortable and safe venue for

everyone, young and old, to meet

and chat with each other after the

main Sunday services and enjoy a

cup of coffee or tea. This was one

aspect of church life that sadly

disappeared during the worst days

of the pandemic, but again, the good

news is, it is now up and running.

Each week it seems, that more and

more members of the congregation are

feeling confident about meeting again

in a social environment.


The other good news is that the

Wednesday morning mid-communion

service held in The Ark is also back and

running again, and so is the coffee and

chat that follows it!

While all the above is very

rewarding for the members of the

church whose efforts not only raised

the money to build The Ark and in

doing so took a huge 'step of faith'

The Parish Magazine - March 2022 19

Messy Christmas

into the unknown because it could

easily have failed, there are two other

unexpected exciting developments

that have been made possible by The

Ark — Messy Church and Sunday at



Messy Church arrived in The Ark

in April 2018, about a year after the

official opening. It offers people of all

ages an alternative style of church in

which 'messy' activities help to explain

the Bible, the Christian faith and why

and how we pray, in a practical way

using everyday objects. Activities

revolve around craft, food, games,

music, story telling, sharing a meal

and music.

Messy Church soon became a

popular service that supplements the

more traditional services held in the

church and it attracts young and old

alike. It has returned after Covid on

the third Sunday of the month at 3pm.


Rev Kate

On the fourth Sunday of the

month at 6pm a small group of

church members began meeting to

explore another less formal, relaxed,

alternative style of worship, prayer and

Bible study.

Although, like Messy Church, this

was not on the agenda when The Ark

was designed, it has already proved to

be the perfect venue for this exciting

venture. Called Sunday at Six, it is

proving to be a huge success and each

month attracts a growing number of

families and people of all ages. Since

the re-opening of The Ark after covid,

the number of people who come along

to share in this new venture is now

around 50 - 60 and growing!

20 The Parish Magazine - March 2022


The day I met the Queen — and when I introduced

Prince Philip to the chopper in the board room!

By Gordon Nutbrown

During the 1980’s I was chairman of

the five operating companies that

comprised the Gieves Group. One of

these companies was Gieves & Hawkes,

the military and civilian tailors who

had the distinction of holding Royal

Warrants to Her Majesty The Queen,

Prince Philip and the Queen Mother.

In 1980, Gieves & Hawkes were invited

to publish a book of the Royal Naval

College Dartmouth and we asked that

Her Majesty the Queen might accept a


It was arranged that I would present

the copy to Her Majesty during a

forthcoming visit to attend her son’s

passing-out at Dartmouth: this was

Prince Andrew, later the Duke of York.

Rosemary and I attended the formal

luncheon and we both met Her Majesty

afterwards when I presented the book

to her.


Another of our companies in the

Group was the book printers and binders

Redwood Burn.

The bindery was at Esher and was

honoured with a visit from Prince Philip

the Duke of Edinburgh.

I escorted him on a tour of the

bindery which employed over 300


During the tour Prince Philip

frequently stopped to ask someone,

'What do you do?' When asked this

question one young lady replied, 'I work

the chopper in the board room'.

The Duke was clearly wrong footed by

this reply and quite possibly had visions

of miscreant directors being dragged to

the guillotine!

However, he seemed somewhat

relieved when I explained that this

particular young lady operated a

machine that cut the cover boards of

books to the required size in a room

aptly named the 'board room'.

Have you met Royalty

or have a memory

to share about the

Coronation or an

earlier Jubilee?

Above: Gordon

Nutbrown (left)

meets The Queen

in 1980.

Left: Gordon

welcomes Prince

Philip to

Redwood Burn

book binders.

Right: A copy

of the book

presented to

The Queen.

If you have, and

would like to share

them with our

readers send them to:

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Molly Woodley poses by The Queen's limousine after receiving the two purses of Maundy Money

Thank you for coming Ma'am!

Despite the Royal etiquette that you only answer questions when addressed by Her

Majesty The Queen, Molly Woodley, being her usual friendly and polite self, could

not resist thanking Her Majesty for coming. Molly obviously did not end up in the

Tower, as she can often be found saying the same thing to Rendezvous members

when they set off home after their lunch!

Molly met Her Majesty on Maundy

Thursday in March 2013. She had been

chosen to receive Maundy Money from

The Queen by the Oxford Diocese for

service to the church. The following is an

extract from her story published in The

Parish Magazine in May 2013.

'On the great day,'there were 87 men

and 87 women who were to receive the

‘Purses for Pensioners’. We were put into

alphabetical order, which worried me

slightly as I am a ‘W’ and I was number


Our companions took up their seats

in the Cathedral first and we sat in

front of them. I was relieved to see my

companion, Rev Jamie, in a prestigious

position right next to the sanctuary

where we had a perfect view of the Queen

and Prince Philip, and of the arrival

of the bishops and other dignitaries,

including the Queen’s personal body

guard, the Yeomen of the Guard, in full

dress uniform.

The distribution of Maundy Money

was in two parts, separated by hymns

and readings. As the Queen approached

me the Chapel Royal choir sang Zadoc

the Priest — it doesn’t get much better

than that!


When The Queen handed me the

purses she said, ‘These are for you.’ It

was an extremely humbling experience;

my Sovereign paying homage to me.

There were two purses, one red, the

other white. The red purse contained

a crown and a 50p piece minted in

2013, and the white one had specially

designed silver coins of 1p, 2p, 3p and

4p denominations, amounting to the

sum of 87p, the Queen’s age in April. The

purses were carried round the Cathedral

on silver gilt dishes that were once part

of the Chapel Royal Plate dating from the

reign of Charles II (1660 — 1685).

After the service we were invited to

lunch in the Great Hall of Christchurch.

A few of us were told that the Queen

had gone to the Dean’s office and if we

waited we might see her. We were so

delighted that we did this because she

came straight towards us and asked if

we enjoyed the service. I am told that I

thanked Her Majesty for coming!

We then proceeded into lunch to find

the room was so full we had to go into

another room, and oh what a shame we

had to eat with the Lord High Almoner

and the Sub Almoner.

It was a day filled with all the

historical pageantry that I love and it was

magical to be such an intimate part of it.

22 The Parish Magazine - March 2022

feature — 4


25 years ago this month, Ali's Pond nature reserve was created on Parish Council land at King George

King George's Field, became a designated Local Nature Reserve for its wildlife and amenity value in

The reserve has been managed with a gentle touch throughout this time by Ali and his volunteer Frie

1997 Creation! Ali's Pond liner is installed 1997

1997 The first trees are planted around

the new pond

2001 Volunteers hay

2004 Hedgerow planting after fire damage 200

2006 Sonning Fire Brigade Trust fill the

newly created Sonning Field pond


2006 Sonning Prima

pond dipping

2009 Log pile restocking 2013

2013 Filming pond clearance with George

McGavin, Big Wildlife Revival on TV

2013 Rt Hon Theresa

plant the Queen


2016 Reading Blue Coat School teachers

installing bird boxes

2019 Home Schooling Club gets to grip

with mini beasts

Pond residents: Great

The Parish Magazine - March 2022 23


's Field by Sonning resident and professional ecologist Alastair Driver. The 1 acre site adjacent to

2001. In 2006 the site doubled in size when Reading Blue Coat school bought the adjoining land.

nds of Ali's Pond. Here we present a pictorial journey to celebrate the silver anniversary of the site.

raking by hand 2003 Legacy of a visit by travellers 2004

2004 Fire damage caused by contractors

cleaning up traveller rubbish


ry School ready for 2008 Reading Blue Coat School pupils

2008 Snow in April

plant a new Sonning Field hedgerow

May MP helps to

's Diamond Jubilee Oak

2015 Hedge restoration work party 201

2016 Friends of Ali's Pond win a CIEEM

national award for small conservation

crested newts

Orange Tip, one of more than 20 species of

butterfly found in the nature reserve

Rainbows ahead for Ali's Pond Nature Reserve

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With all the focus on healthy living

in the early New Year, what better

time was there for Sonning Church

of England Primary School children

to take part in an initiative that

helped them learn the importance of

eating the right foods, the benefits of

a healthy lifestyle and taking regular


Reading Football Club visited the

school in January and February to

hold practical sessions and workshops

that included several games and

puzzles that highlighted good eating


Then the youngsters hit the

playground to enjoy a host of ball

skills and training stints, just like the

real professional footballers do at the

Madejski Stadium.

Governor Kate Voss also visited the

school twice to run assembly sessions

on good dietary practice, the benefits

of healthy living and some of the

pitfalls to avoid.

Over a four week period, the

children were also encouraged to try

new foods, run a mile a day, swish a

badminton racket, cut out fatty foods,

eat less chocolate, play netball, walk

or cycle to school, appreciate fruit and

vegetables, and give a new sport a go.

Chris Berry from Reading FC said,

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enthusiasm for trying new training

exercises and practicing ball skills. I

was also impressed by the knowledge

the children already had about healthy

living and which foods to choose to

stay in shape.'

The Parish Magazine - March 2022 25

Sonning School children shape up for 2022

Save the date

to save Karun

The International Committee of the

Inner Wheel Club of Reading Maiden

Erlegh is hosting a 'Saturday Brunch'

in Charvil Village Hall on 14 May in

aid of Karun School, Trichy, South


Inner Wheel supported the school,

which was severely hit during the

covid lockdown, by paying for two

sewing machines and for a ‘seamstress’

teacher to expand the knowledge of

both local women and girls at the

school. More details on:

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Scarecrows are back for the royal holiday!

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Local artists

painting for

the Jubilee

Sonning Art Group reports that

they are back to full capacity

following the pandemic and they

are now busy making preparations

for the Queen's Platinum Jubilee

weekend in June when they will be

staging an exhibition of their work

in Pearson Hall in conjunction with

the Scarecrow Trail. Their Jubilee

exhibition will be in Pearson Hall on

2-3 June. Three of the groups latest

pieces of art are . . .

The Parish Magazine - March 2022 27

Walk and talks but no film shows

Dinton Pastures by Maggie Hollidge

Salisbury Cathedral by Pauline Simpson

Rob Farquhar's dog

Reading Abbey

Mark Zhu,

Most of the Sonning and Sonning Eye events are now running again, the

main exception being The Film Club which is still temporarily suspended.

This month, there are two events to look forward to: a guided Heritage walk

around Reading Abbey and the Museum, and a talk in Pearson Hall on the

Thames during the Victorian and Edwardian eras.

The guided Heritage walk around

Reading Abbey starts at 2pm on

Tuesday 8 March. The Abbey is

famous for being founded in 1121 by

King Henry I, who was the youngest

son of William the Conqueror. The

museum is known for displaying

the only full replica of the Bayeux

Tapestry which depicts the Norman

conquest of England.

Details about how to join the

walk, which is limited to 20 people,

are available from Penny Feathers

(contact details below).

The Pearson Hall talk is on Friday

25 March and will be presented

by Simon Wenham from the

Department of Continuing

Education at Oxford University.

His subject will be 'Leisure and

Pleasure on the Thames through the

Victorian and Edwardian periods'.

Simon has written several social

history books about the importance

of leisure during that period and his

talk will explore how society had fun

and entertained themselves with

particular emphasis on boating and

the growth of local boatyards.

The talk starts at 7.30pm

(doors open at 7pm). Tickets are

£4 members, £5 guests and can be

obtained via:

or Penny Feathers 0118 934 3193,

Eleven charities share one roof

The Wokingham Charity and Community Hub, which opened in January, is

now home to 11 charities and organisations.

The hub, is in Waterford House, Erftstadt Court, RG10 2YR, and is open Monday

to Friday from 9am- 5pm to seek advice, help and support, or you can make

an appointment calling 0118 228 0480 or emailing The

charities based there are:

— Involve (which is managing the hub)

— Cranstoun Wokingham, a drug and alcohol recovery service for adults

— Home Start Wokingham District

— Health Watch Wokingham Borough

The Link Visiting Scheme

— Mind in Berkshire

— CLASP - Counselling Life Advice Suicide Prevention

— Promise Inclusion - for adults and children with learning disabilities

— Wokingham Volunteer Centre

— Wokingham Foodbank

— Citizen’s Advice Wokingham

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Project Singers March project . . .

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Suzanne Newman (left) with some of the Project Singers who entertained visitors to Sheeplands Garden Centre with Christmas carols last December.

Formed in September last year by

Suzanne Newman, Charvil's music

teacher and choir director, The

Project Singers are working on a

number of choral projects, the next,

of which, is being held this month.

The female voices choir rehearse at

Charvil Village Hall in two sections

— one for girls between the ages of

10 and 18 on Sundays between 6.15

and 7.45pm; the other for ladies who

rehearse on Mondays between 8.00

and 9.30pm.

Friends of St Andrew's

Church, Sonning

Notice of Annual General Meeting

followed by


Fish & Chip Supper

Thursday 17 March 2022

at 7.30pm in

The Ark

The singers' March project is A

Night at the Movies which culminates

in a concert at Norden Farm Centre

for the Arts, Maidenhead on 26

March at 7.30pm, when the choirs

will be singing a great selection of

songs from films including: Fame,

Singin' in the rain, Hopelessly devoted

to you, City of stars, We have all the

time in the World and a medley from

The Sound of Music.

They will be joined for their

concert by Crosfields Strings, an

ensemble from Crosfields School.

The Project Singers next major

project for the summer term is Let's

Sing! — all the songs being about

singing, such as: One voice, How can

I keep from singing, Cantar! Thank

you for the music and With a voice of


This project will culminate in

a concert in St Mary's Church,

Twyford on 3 July.

If you are interested in becoming

a Project Singer contact Suzanne on:

or 0118 934 0589.

Planning Your

Traditional Wedding?

Then you might like to

discuss the possibility of

marriage in our ancient and

beautiful parish church.

If so, call the vicar, Jamie

0118 969 3298

He will be pleased to help!

In aid of FoStAC fund raising to ensure sufficient funds

are available for any future emergency repairs.

Tickets £15 including Fish & Chip Supper

(Bring your own bottle/drink)

Please email Sally Wilson on mustangsallywilson@gmail or 0787 689 9513

to confirm your attendance. Quiz teams will be in tables of four and payment

can be made to any of the Trustees in advance of the event.

Closing date for numbers will be Wednesday 16 March at 10am so that food

can be ordered in advance.

Registered Charity No: 1101944

In addition to the stunning and historic location in Sonning,

we will work hard to provide you with a memorable and

moving occasion. We can provide a choir, organ, peal of

eight bells, beautiful flowers, over 100 lit candles set in

ornate Victorian chandeliers and the use of our beautiful

churchyard as a backdrop for your photographs.

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Was it really . . . ?

. . . 500 YEARS AGO from 9-17

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urged citizens to adhere to the core

Christian values and trust in God,

rather than, using violence to bring

about change.

. . . 175 YEARS AGO on 3 March

1847 that Alexander Graham Bell,

Scottish-born American engineer,

and scientist, was born. He is

credited with inventing the first

practical telephone.

. . . 100 YEARS AGO on 10 March

1922 that Indian independence leader

Mahatma Gandhi was arrested

and charged with sedition for his

campaign of non-cooperation against

the British Indian government. He

was sentenced to 6 years in prison

but released after 2 years as he

needed surgery.

Martin Luther (1483-1546) on an engraving

from 1859 by Nordheim and published in

Meyers Konversations-Lexikon, Germany.

Georgios Kollidas,

. . . 75 YEARS AGO on 1 March 1947

that the International Monetary

Fund began operating.

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Ireland resigned, and on 30 March

1972 that the British government

introduced direct rule of Northern

Ireland from Westminster (until


. . . 40 YEARS AGO on 3 March 1982

that the Barbican Centre in London

was opened. It is the largest arts and

conference venue in Europe.

. . . 30 YEARS AGO on 19 March 1992

that Buckingham Palace announced

the separation of the Duke and

Duchess of York (Prince Andrew and

Sarah Ferguson).

. . . 25 YEARS AGO on 6 March 1997

that Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II

launched the official Royal website:

. . . 80 YEARS AGO on 8 March 1942

that the bombing of Essen, Germany,

took place. It was the first attack on

a German city by the RAF following

the Area Bombing Directive of 14

February, which authorised the

bombing of civilian areas.

. . . 80 YEARS AGO, on 25 March

1942 that Aretha Franklin, the Queen

of Soul, was born. The American

soul/R&B/pop/gospel singer's hit

songs included Respect and I Say a

Little Prayer. She died 2018.

. . . 65 YEARS AGO on 25 March 1957

that the Treaty of Rome was signed,

creating the European Economic

Community (EEC) which came into

force on 1 January 1958. It was

renamed the European Community

in 1993 and dissolved in 2009, having

been replaced by the European


. . . 50 YEARS AGO on 24 March 1972

that the government of Northern

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. . . ALSO 25 YEARS AGO on 21

March 1997 the Rev W V Awdry,

clergyman and children’s writer,

died. He is best known as the creator

of Thomas the Tank Engine.


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Buckingham Palace gates

Throughout March and April you can

enjoy the tranquillity of Buckingham

Palace Garden when it is not usually

open to the public and discover its

highlights on a guided tour led by one

of the palace wardens.

You will be given special access to the

whole 39-acre grounds in springtime,

when the garden is at its fullest.

Throughout the season daffodils,

primroses and bluebells will emerge

in the meadows and the camellias,

magnolias and azaleas around the

garden will bloom.

You will be able to learn about

the role that William Aiton — then

Recipe of the month from Emma's Kitchen

Sausage, Apple and Leek Pie

Ingredients (Serves 6)

12 Cumberland sausages

2 large leeks, washed, trimmed, thick cut

2 Cox apples, cored and roughly chopped

2 tbsp wholegrain mustard

1 egg for glazing

Aughty Venable,

An opportunity to go through the

gates of Buckingham Palace

director of the Royal Botanic Gardens

at Kew - George IV and Queen Victoria

had in shaping the layout of the

garden, its wildlife and rare trees and

flowers, and how it is now used by The

Queen and other members of the Royal


The tour will end with an

opportunity to take pictures by the

Palace overlooking the lake. Should

you visit the gardens we would love

to be able to share your pictures with


To book a tour, and for more



1 tbs butter

3 tbs plain flour

250ml chicken stock

250ml cider

500g puff pastry

Method — Oven 2000C/Gas mark 6

Bake sausages for 30 minutes until browned and cooked through. Set aside and

allow to cool

Melt butter and fry leeks until softened (8-10 mins). Add the apples and cook

for a further 1-2mins, add the flour and stir until apples and leeks are coated

and cook for another minute. Slowly add the stock and then the cider, stir and

cook until a bubbling thick sauce. Add the mustard.

Chop the sausages and add to the sauce, stir until thoroughly mixed then add to

either six individual casserole dishes or one large one.

Add the puff pastry to the top, press down the edges and glaze on top.

Bake in the oven for 20-25 minutes or until piping hot.

Serve with seasonal vegetables and mashed potatoes.

Artur Szczybylo,

The Twyford and Ruscombe

Horticultural Association (TRHA)

store in Loddon Hall Road, Twyford

RG10 9JA — it's next to the

Twyford Doctors' Surgery — is

now open for members to purchase

horticultural goods on Sunday

mornings from 9.30-11.00am.

A ‘not for profit’ organisation TRHA

has been run by volunteers since

1956 and is affiliated with the Royal

Horticultural Society.

TRHA's main objective is to

promote gardening and allotment

cultivation to members of all ages

in the local community through

various activities that include a

monthly newsletter, three shows a

year and the sale of garden supplies

in the store.


Its members support a number

of local horticultural projects,

particularly 'Twyford in Bloom'

which is part of a nationwide RHS

event, although this year RHS has

decided to suspend it because of the

covid pandemic.

Last year, the pandemic led to

TRHA holding an informal show in

the autumn of 2021.

This year, the spring show will be

held on Saturday 26 March. Details,

when available, will be on the

association's website:

where membership details are also


Alternatively, contact: Jenny

Wager, on trhamembership@gmail.

com or 0118 932 0127. The annual

household membership is £8 per

year, or £7 for those over 65.

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The metaphysical dean

Psalm 21:1-7

Blessed people of platinum year

Of seventy years past and dear

Elizabeth your servant reigns

Christ-like her life with no unfeigns

The Queen shall joy in your strength, Lord

Rejoice in your salvation, Lord

You have, Lord, given her what she

Desired in heart, and heard each plea

For you meet her with the blessings

Of goodness, each her honour brings

You set crown of gold on her head

Faithful she peoples still has led

She asked life of you, and you gave

Her life, and salvation to save

Even length of days for ever

His witness to you fades never

Her glory is great in your deeds

In your salvation, it she heeds

Honour and majesty have you

Laid on her, as King David true

For she trusts in you as did he

Of old, now so these days does she

Through the mercy of the most High

She not be moved, knows you are nigh

Arthur C James,

Platinum Peace

By Steven Rolling

Tune: Gonfalon Royal ‘The royal banners forward go’


John Donne (1572–1631) was an English poet, scholar,

soldier, secretary and finally Dean of St Paul's Cathedral.

But he is most remembered for his poetry and is seen as the

greatest of the 17th Century ‘metaphysical’ poets.

He was born into a Roman Catholic family in London at a

time when the Church of England was the dominant faith,

and Roman Catholics were considered second class citizens.

Although he studied at Oxford and Cambridge, his Roman

Catholicism denied him his degree. So, in 1592, he went to

London to study law at Lincoln’s Inn.

In 1594 Donne converted to the Church of England, and

this opened up a new life for him. Two years later he joined

a naval expedition led by the Earl of Essex against Cadiz in

Spain. On his return in 1598, he became private secretary to

Sir Thomas Egerton, Lord Keeper of the Seal. All was going

well, until he fell in love with Egerton’s 16 year old niece,

Anne More, whom he secretly married in 1601. Egerton was

furious, Donne lost his job, and spent a short time in prison.


For several years after that he worked as a lawyer and in

1610 he wrote a book encouraging Roman Catholics to take

the oath of allegiance to the king. His book caught the eye of

James I, and Donne was appointed as a royal chaplain only a

few months after his ordination in 1615.

In 1617 Donne’s beloved wife, Anne, died, and four years

later he was appointed the Dean of St Paul’s Cathedral, where

he proved to be a much loved and inspiring preacher.

Throughout his working life, he continued to write poetry,

though most of it remained unpublished until 1633. It was

then mostly forgotten after his death, until early last century

when in the 1920's, both Ezra Pound and TS Eliot openly

acknowledged their literary debt to him. Donne’s place as one

of the greatest of the 17th Century ‘metaphysical’ poets is

now assured — metaphysical poets placed greater emphasis

on the spoken rather than lyrical quality of their verse.

The ARTS — 2

Book Reviews

Victorian Stained Glass by Trevor

Yorke, Shire Publications, £8.99

This beautifully illustrated guide

introduces the world of Victorian

stained glass which can be found in

countless British churches, municipal

buildings and homes. It is often

glowing with colour, with designs

influenced by the Gothic Revival, the

Arts and Crafts Movement, and even

the Art Nouveau, as a new century dawned. Its famous

designers include A W N Pugin, and Pre-Raphaelites

William Morris and Edward Burne-Jones. Trevor Yorke,

a historian, tells how Victorian craftsmen re-learned the

lost medieval art of colouring, painting, and assembling

stained glass windows, that in an age of industry became

mass produced.

The Bible: a story that makes sense

of life by Andrew Ollerton, Bible

Society, £11.99

This book explores how the story of

the Bible not only helps us understand

our lives, but also gives a framework

for making sense of life in general.

We can see how the narratives in the

Bible mirror the narrative arcs we go

through. Wherever you stand with the Bible, whether

you are seeking to find out its meaning for your own life

or just want to know more about its stories, this book is a

fantastic starting point.

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Enter my rest

Wikipedia, public domain

Rev Michael Burgess continues his series on God in the Arts with a look

at ‘The Potato Planters’ by Jean-Francois Millet. It hangs in the Museum

of Fine Arts in Boston.

At this time of the year, we are planning our gardens for the

spring and summer ahead. The book of Genesis opens with

a glorious account of God’s work of creation, and it also tells

us that God rested on the seventh day.

We all need to find that balance of work and rest, of activity

and slowing down in our lives. And we are not always good

at that because our world seems to be in the fast lane. We

rush everywhere, we rush out of habit, and we rush because

everyone around us is rushing.

This month’s painting, The Potato Planters by Jean–

Francois Millet, a 19th century French artist, portrays two

peasants at work. They don’t seem to be rushing, but Millet

has certainly portrayed the hard toil of their work, digging in

the earth from sunrise to sunset to eke out a living.

Millet was the son of a farm labourer and many of his

paintings convey the severe realism of peasant life. We can

sympathise with the couple working on the land, and our

eyes focus on them as they dominate the canvas.

But in the corner under the shade of a tree there is a

donkey and a sleeping child. The donkey knows only too well

the reality of toil and work, but here he is resting, enjoying

the peace and the shade.


Andy Merrifield, an American philosopher, has just

published an account of his travels with a donkey, Gribouille.

As they journey together, the donkey teaches him the value

of patience, the importance of going slowly through the

world, and the preciousness of tender friendship between

humans and animals. They are all caught up in the little

donkey in this painting.

The man and woman in the foreground may reflect our

own lives with the duties, the expectations and the demands

called of us at work. Take time to focus on the donkey,

enjoying his rest.

Take time this spring and summer to find relaxation and

recreation. The world may carry on spinning around us, but

we can stand apart, and enter into the rest that God enjoyed

after his work of creation.

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Dr Simon Ruffle writes . . . March hares?

March was the first month of the

Roman calendar, named after

Martius who is related to Mars

the God of war and was ancestor

of Romulus and Remus. In Saxon

times it was Lentmonat after the

spring equinox and, likely, where

the term 'lent' comes from

A quick note of the March hare:

Long before Lewis Carroll told us,

correctly, that the hare was mad

in May, but not as mad than in

March — the English hare was seen

fighting in March.

It was thought that these were

the males fighting for dominance.

That is incorrect; it is the females

fighting off the unwarranted

attention of the male hare as they

are not yet in season or interested.

March is early in the season which

lasts to September.


Humans are unusual in the fact

that we don’t have seasons as such

and it is on the topic of reproduction

that I want to write.

March is the world wide month of

endometriosis awareness.

Endometriosis comes from

Greek: end — inside; metro —

womb; and osis— disease. This is a

misnomer when referring to humans

but probably not in horses!

The uterus has a lining known

as the endometrium. This is a blood

rich lining that allow fertilised egg

to implant and lead to pregnancy.

This is the lining that is shed every


This lining can go wrong. It

can over grow, develop cysts and

the endometrial glands become


No one cause has been found but

it is likely to be genetic and related

to other autoimmune diseases that

cause inflammation, like asthma.

These inflamed glands can ‘seed’

outside the endometrium which

is what causes the symptoms of


Anatomy is important here as

the womb sits in the pelvis with

the bladder and bowel. These seeds

tend to sit only in the abdomen

and pelvis. Rarely, they can move

to other areas of the body such as

the brain, lungs and other mucosal


Symptoms of endometriosis

vary widely. Some women have no

symptoms whatsoever and some

can be crippled by period pain. This

is with or without endometriosis,

however, with the disease it is more

likely that symptoms occur.

Bloating, lower abdominal pain,

painful +/- heavy periods, and painful

sexual intercourse are the most

common symptoms.


Some symptoms that are due to

endometriosis can be mistaken for

other common issues such as irritable

bowel disease and urine infection.

Recurrences of these symptoms

and painful periods should trigger

investigation for the diagnosis.

Due to the commonality of

symptoms diagnosis is often delayed.

Diagnosis comes from a careful

history and often a trial of therapy. A

treatment for heavy periods such as

the pill or progesterone is used.

Diagnosis of endometriosis

involves an invasive process that isn’t

risk free, laparoscopy. A laparacope is

passed into the abdomen and pelvis.

As you can imagine this procedure

is not comfortable and not totally

safe. This also adds to the ‘delay’ in


Simon Ruffle

Endometriosis needs oestrogen,

so it does recede after the menopause

but denying women of oestrogen

through therapy also leads to many

side effects, unwanted symptoms and

other disease.

I’d need the whole Parish Magazine

to go through all the options for

treatment and would dilute the

message in this article that March is

‘awareness’ month.

Other issues with the diagnosis

of endometrial disease are misogyny,

embarrassment and trivialising

of female only issues. Oh, it’s just

period pain. Those of us of a certain

generation laughed along with Les

Dawson in drag mouthing ‘lady

problems’ and ‘the change,’ while of

its time, doesn’t help bringing issues

to prominence.

Maybe the female hares are onto


Neil Harrison,


'A mosquito'; 'reminds

me of a steam train';

'it’s hard to describe,

it’s not like anything

I’ve heard before' . . .

By Nic Wray

Communications manager, British Tinnitus Association

These people are talking about their tinnitus, a

condition often described as 'ringing in the ears' but

which can appear as almost any type of noise, or

mixture of noises. Some people even hear snatches of

music. Comedian and naturalist Bill Oddie’s tinnitus

plays trombone or bagpipe music!

While musical tinnitus such as Bill’s is fairly rare,

tinnitus is a very common condition. It is more prevalent

in people over 50, although all age groups can experience

it, even children. Tinnitus is experienced by over 600

people in the communities of Charvil, Sonning and

Sonning Eye alone — are you one of them?

Tinnitus is rarely spoken about, but it is a common

condition. About one in eight adults (7.1 million people)

in the UK have tinnitus, and of those, about 1 in 10

find it has an effect on their quality of life. This means

it can cause distress, anxiety, sleeplessness and lack of



The causes of tinnitus are not fully understood, but

some of the more common causes associated with it are:

— Hearing loss: the delicate hair cells in the inner ear

may reduce in number due to ‘wear and tear’ as people

age. This gradual change can cause hearing loss, which

makes tinnitus more noticeable as it is not masked by

external sound.

—Exposure to loud noise: hair cells can also be damaged

by loud noise, which could generate tinnitus.

— Stress and anxiety: it’s not always clear whether

stress causes the onset of tinnitus. However, tinnitus

may be more noticeable if you are anxious or stressed.

— Ear infections: middle ear infections can cause

hearing loss and tinnitus. This is normally temporary, but

it is important to get treatment from your GP.

Tinnitus is a symptom, not a disease, but it is wise

to see your doctor if you think you have it. Your GP will

be able to refer you to an Ear, Nose and Throat (ENT)

specialist and Audiology services.


Sadly, many people believe that ‘nothing can be done’

for tinnitus and that they just have to ‘learn to live with

it.’ While it’s true that there is currently no cure, there are

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Image credits:

man: Tibanna79,; mosquito: Vladvitek, dreamstime.

com; steam train:; triangle: Tibanna79,

management tools and methods available to ensure that if

you have tinnitus, you don’t have to ‘suffer’ from it.

The British Tinnitus Association’s booklet Living with

Tinnitus outlines five top techniques for learning to live

well with tinnitus:

— Information: you will probably feel better when you

find out more about the condition, that it is very common,

and that you are not alone.

— Correcting any hearing loss: if your tinnitus is

accompanied by any hearing loss, then trying to correct

this loss with hearing aids is often very helpful.

— Sound therapy: if the noises seem louder at quiet

times, particularly during the night, it may help to

have some environmental or natural sound from a CD,

a sound generator, or even a fan or ticking clock in the

background. Some people use in-ear sound generators.

— Relaxation: learning to relax is probably one of the

most useful things you can do to help yourself. Those

who practice relaxation techniques say they reduce

the loudness of their tinnitus and help them become

indifferent to it.

— Counselling: techniques such as Cognitive Behavioural

Therapy (CBT) can be helpful, either as a standalone

therapy or combined with sound therapy.

Tinnitus can make us feel isolated and trying to tackle

it alone can sometimes feel like a challenge. There is

support out there to help you to feel less alone.

The British Tinnitus Association (BTA) can offer

support through its freephone helpline, email, SMS/text

and web chat services. BTA's tinnitus support team has

many years of experience supporting people with tinnitus.

— Freephone helpline: 0800 018 0527

— Web chat:

— Email:

— Text/SMS: 07537 416841



BTA has developed a free online learning resource

Take on tinnitus, designed primarily for people who have

just begun to experience tinnitus. However, it is also a

turn to page 38

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What's the difference between a

cathedral and a physics lab? Are

they not both saying: ‘Hello’?

from page 37


valuable resource for those who have experienced the

condition long term.

Take on Tinnitus, which is designed so it can be used on

mobile phones, tablets or computers, includes an initial

taster session followed by seven 10-15 minute learning

modules covering the fundamentals of tinnitus, hearing

and tinnitus, benefits of using sound, the link between

tinnitus and relaxation, sleep and tinnitus, the benefits of

talking about it and living your life with tinnitus.


Artur Szczybylo,

Members of tinnitus support groups often share

experiences and advice. It can be helpful just getting to

talk with other people who have it.

Support groups may be facilitated by audiologists or

hearing therapists, volunteers with the condition or, in

some cases, by staff from local charities working in the


Every support group is different, but you can expect a

warm welcome and the opportunity to talk to others in a

similar position. Some groups meet in person, and some

meet online. All groups have the common desire to help

people with tinnitus and all the groups BTA supporters

have signed up to a Code of Practice.

Some groups organise guest speakers and are

structured. Other support groups place an emphasis on

emotional support and shared experience and are less

formal. And some do a bit of both.

Currently, the nearest group to Charvil, Sonning and

Sonning Eye meets in Marlow. Volunteer Gilly Wright

facilitates the group with the support of audiologists

Selma Becker and Kevin Jeffery at Help in Hearing. If you

would like to attend a meeting, contact: or 0345 222 0579

An anxious year for the young

The word ‘anxiety’ has been chosen by children as how

they would describe their experience of 2021. Oxford

University Press asked more than 8,000 pupils, aged 7-14, to

choose from a shortlist of 10 words which one they felt was

most applicable to them: anxiety, challenging, isolate, wellbeing,

resilience, bubble, kindness, remote, cancelled, empathy. The next

on the list were ‘challenging’, and ‘isolate’.

By Dr Ruth M Bancewicz, church engagement director, The Faraday

Institute for Science and Religion, Cambridge

Scientists often speak of a reality beyond the objects they

are studying, and for some this is encountered in powerful

episodes of wonder and awe. The Christian writer JW

Sire quotes the headline above from Annie Dillard in

his book 'Echoes of a Voice', which explores spiritual or

‘transcendent’ experiences.

Sire describes moments that are 'emotional, intellectual, highly

charged, usually sudden, unannounced, often odd, some weird,

others glorious', and places them on three different levels:

— Level 1: A material object that points beyond the material

reality. For example, someone might develop a sense of what

is good and evil, based on the actions of others.

— Level 2: Experience of something personal ... just behind

the surface of what we are directly experiencing, often

something with which one feels at peace or even at one, or,

perhaps, as dangerous or threatening.

— Level 3: A felt presence that has a specific character or

presence, for example, holiness, inspiring humility, fearful

awe or wonder.

The first two levels, says Sire, are fairly common.

The third is rare. He gives a wide range of examples,

including scientists. Some are religious or interested in

spirituality, others are atheists. For some, their moments of

transcendence carried a particular meaning, others simply

sparked curiosity.



The famous geneticist Francis Collins described several

significant moments when he was young: 'being transported

by the experience of looking through a telescope', or 'a Christmas

Eve where the descant on a particularly beautiful Christmas

carol…left me with a sense of unexpected awe and a longing for

something I could not name'.

These experiences meant that when Collins was faced

with the question of belief in God, 'all [his] arguments seemed

very thin'. Now, as a fully-fledged scientist and a believer

in God, he is able to say that 'for a scientist who occasionally

is given the remarkable privilege of discovering something not

previously known by man, there is a special kind of joy associated

with such flashes of insight.'

Footnote: If you are wondering why I chose the picture above of some

ancient olive trees it is because they are in the Jerusalem-Garden of

Gethsemane where I experienced such a moment of transcendence that

Ruth Bancewicz is writing about — editor


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11 - Adjusted the the pitch of pitch (5) of (5)

12 - Agreeable sound sound or tune (5) or tune (5)

13 Mislead (8)

13 - Mislead (8)

16 Mexican pancake (8)

16 - Mexican pancake (8)

18 Dry red wine (5)

18 - Dry red wine (5)

21 Dissatisfaction (5)

21 - Dissatisfaction (5)

22 Golf peg (3)

22 23 - Golf Small peg (3) antelope (5)

23 24 - Small Initiators antelope (11) (5)

24 - Initiators (11)



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5 - ___ pole: tribal emblem (5)

19 Large body 17 - Possessing of water (6) (5)

20 - Select; formally approve (5)

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Each of the nine blocks has to contain all the

numbers 1-9 within its squares. Each number

can only appear once in a row, column or box.


March brings us Lent and Mothering

Sunday. Lent is a time of spiritual selfassessment

as we prepare for Easter. It

is a time to turn to God, and grow closer

to him. Mothering Sunday reminds us

of not only the mothers that have loved

and raised us, but of Mother Church,

who has spiritually loved and nurtured

us throughout our Christian pilgrimage.

How many words can you find on these

themes in this month’s Word Search?!

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PUZZLE PAGE — the answers will be published in the next issue



2 - Unity (7)

2 Unity (7)

3 Necessary

3 - Necessary



4 Rained heavily 4 - Rained (6) heavily (6)

5 ___ pole: tribal emblem (5)

6 Expels from 6 - Expels a position from a position (5) (5)

7 Immoderate (11)

7 - Immoderate (11)

8 Compelling (11)

8 - Compelling (11)

14 Non-believer in God (7)

14 - Non-believer in God (7)

15 Careless mistake (7)

15 - Careless mistake (7)

17 Possessing (6)

20 Select; 19 formally - Large body approve of water (5)













1. Who downsizes to upgrade?

2. Which family business was established in 1968?

3. Who has spent 300 years on the River Thames?

4. Who gives a little help like your friend?

5. Who has apartments twice the size of an average home?

6. Who will light over 100 candles for you?
















































1. Sonning Scouts

2. Thames Valley Will Service

3. Bridges Care Home

4. The Mill at Sonning

5. Muck & Mulch

6. Mortgage Required Limited

Natalia Riabchenko,

40 The Parish Magazine - March 2022

Local Trades and Services


Locks changed, fitted, repaired and opened

Door and window locks fitted, UPVC door lock expert

Checkatrade member - Which Trusted Trader

Call Richard Homden: 0149 168 2050 / 0771 040 9216

Please mention The Parish Magazine when responding to advertisements


Linda Frewin MInstChp, HCPC member

General foot care and treatments

25 Ashtrees Road, Woodley RG5 4LP

0118 969 6978 - 0790 022 4999


Qualified Plumbing and Heating Engineers Gas Safe

25 years experience - local family run company

Office: 0118 961 8784 - Paul: 0776 887 4440


For jargon free help with your computer problems

PC & laptop repairs, upgrades, installations, virus removal

Free advice, reasonable rates

0798 012 9364


Electrical Installation and Smart Home Automation

Elliott — 0777 186 6696

Nick — 0758 429 4986


Reliable and affordable

Small jobs a speciality!

Call Andy on 0795 810 0128


Car Servicing, Repairs and MOT

Mole Road, Sindlesham, RG41 5DJ

0118 977 0831


A local business based in Sonning. TV - FM - DAB aerials etc.

Sky dishes. Communal premises IRS systems, TV points.

Free estimates - All work guaranteed

0118 944 0000


We are a family business with excellent references

and we are fully insured

All cleaning materials provided

For free quote call: Maria 0779 902 7901


Thames Valley Will Service

Also Lasting Powers of Attorney and Probate Service

We are still working during the pandemic period

0134 464 1885


0779 926 8123 0162 882 8130

Member of the Guild of Master Sweeps


Thirty-six years local experience

Family run company

0118 962 8527 0779 223 9474


For local odd jobs please call Phil on

0118 944 0000

0797 950 3908

Thames Street, Sonning


Reliable and friendly service for all tree care

NPTC qualified — Public Liability of £10million

0118 937 1929 0786 172 4071


Landscaping, garden construction,

patios, lawns, fencing, decking etc

0118 969 8989


Waste clearance from office, house, garden, loft

Licensed waste carriers, no job too small or large

Contact: John

0771 021 2056


Stump grinding and tree stump removal

Latest narrow access machinery

Contact: Mark

0798 495 7334 http://www.berkshirestumpremoval


Roger McGrath has 25 years experience

Restoration painting work of any size undertaken

For a free quotation call

Roger 0742 332 1179


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information — 2

Parish contacts

Ministry Team

The Vicar: Revd Jamie Taylor (Day off Friday)

The Parish Office, Thames Street, Sonning, RG4 6UR / 0118 969 3298

— Associate Vicar: Revd Kate Wakeman-Toogood / 0746 380 6735

On duty Tuesday, Friday and Sunday

— Youth Minister: Chris West (Westy) / 0794 622 4106

— Licensed Lay Minister: Bob Peters / 0118 377 5887

Children's Ministry

— Alison Smyly / 0118 969 3298


— Stuart Bowman / 0118 978 8414

— Liz Nelson / 0779 194 4270

Deputy Churchwardens

— Simon Darvall 0793 928 2535

— Sue Peters / 0118 377 5887

— Molly Woodley (deputy churchwarden emeritus) / 0118 946 3667

Parish Administrator

— Hilary Rennie / 0118 969 3298

Parochial Church Council

— Secretary: Hilary Rennie 0118 969 3298

— Treasurer: Richard Moore 0118 969 2588

Director of Music, organist and choirmaster

— Hannah Towndrow BA (Oxon)

Sonning Bell Ringers

— Tower Captain: Pam Elliston / 0118 969 5967

— Deputy Tower Captain: Rod Needham / 0118 926 7724

Parish Website:

The Parish Magazine:

— Editor: Bob Peters / 0118 377 5887

— Advertising and Distribution: Gordon Nutbrown / 0118 969 3282

— Treasurer: Pat Livesey / 0118 961 8017

The Parish Magazine is produced by St Andrew’s PCC and delivered

free of charge to every home in Charvil, Sonning and Sonning Eye.

The Parish Magazine is printed in the United Kingdom by The Print

Factory at Sarum Graphics Ltd, Old Sarum, Salisbury SP4 6QX

The Parish Magazine is distributed by Abracadabra Leaflet

Distribution Ltd, Reading RG7 1AW

The Parish Magazine template was designed in 2012 by Roger

Swindale and David Woodward

Advertisers index

ABD Construction 6

ACG Services Locksmith 40

Active Domestic Appliances 16

Active Security 30

ADD Plumbing 12

All Aerials 40

All Waste Clearance 40

Barn Store Henley 16

Berkshire Stump Removals 40

Big Heart Tree Care 40

Blandy & Blandy Solicitors 14

Blinds Direct 26

Blue Moose 8

Bridge House 43

Bridges Home Care 26

Bull Inn 8

Callaghan Carpets & Flooring 40

Chimney Sweep, Thames 40

Chiropody, Linda Frewin 40

Chris the Plumber 32

Clark Bicknell 40

Complete Pest Solutions 40

Computer Frustrations 40

Cruz Kitchens 28

Design for Print 28

EMDR Hypnotherapist 30

Freebody Boatbuilders 6

Fields Pharmacy 32

French Horn 44

Gardiners Nursing 8

Great House Sonning 24

Handyman and Decorating Services 40

Haslams Estate Agents 2

Hicks Group 16

Intersmart Electrical Installations 40

James Autos 40

Jones & Sheppard Stone Masons 32

Kingfisher Bathrooms 26

MC Cleaning 40

Mill at Sonning 4

M & L Healthcare Solutions 12

Mortgage Required 18

Muck & Mulch 28

Odd Jobs 40

Painter and Decorator 40

Pearson Hall Sonning 24

Reading Blue Coat School 26

Richfield Flooring 14

Seniors Helping Seniors 12

Shiplake College 14

Signature Cliveden Manor Care Home 28

Sonning Golf Club 32

Sonning Scouts Marquees 30

Smallwood Garden Services 40

Style by Julie 6

Thames Valley Water Softeners 6

Thames Valley Wills Service 40

Tomalin Funerals 24

Walker Funerals 12

Water Softener Salt 28

Window Cleaner 16

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Because you deserve

the very best

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Established for 35 years, the elegant Georgian Grade II listed Bridge House has extended its facilities to

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Our philosophy is built upon helping residents maintain their independence and dignity, whilst ensuring

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