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CONTENTS<br />
VOLUME XII • ISSUE 1<br />
24<br />
18<br />
36<br />
COVER STORY<br />
33 WHEN ROUTINE BECOMES<br />
LIFE SAVING<br />
20 YOUR LIBRARY CAN HELP<br />
YOU AND YOUR CHILD<br />
THRIVE THIS SUMMER<br />
48 COMMUNICATING WITH A<br />
TEENAGER<br />
FEATURES<br />
18 BOOK CLUBS – LOVE ‘EM,<br />
HATE ‘EM<br />
43 GEORGIA HOMEWORK HELP<br />
HOTLINE<br />
53 THE WELL<br />
HOME AND LIFE<br />
12 The Seller Mindset<br />
14 New Regulations Open 6 Estate<br />
Plan “Wormholes”<br />
16 Meet Pop Culture Expert Chris Crews<br />
22 Is Getting Divorced Contagious?<br />
40 Choice by Design<br />
FORSYTH FOODIE<br />
24 Fountain’s Food Adventures:<br />
Never Enough Thyme<br />
HEALTH & WELLNESS<br />
30 Your Pap Smear is Abnormal:<br />
Now What?<br />
36 Will this Supplement Help my Skin?<br />
38 One Heart, Two Kidneys,<br />
Three Pearls<br />
42 Six Strategies to Start Your Day<br />
44 The Gift of Gratitude<br />
46 Active Listening and Intentional<br />
Speaking<br />
BURGESS MUSINGS<br />
50 So, You Have an Oxygen Sensor<br />
Code<br />
FAITH<br />
54 The Ultimate Encourager<br />
55 What is Your Impossible?<br />
IN EVERY ISSUE<br />
10 Forsyth County Government<br />
11 News Around Forsyth<br />
56 The Country Preacher<br />
33<br />
“DON’T MISS<br />
A THING”<br />
WE’RE MOBILE...<br />
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CONTRIBUTORS<br />
VOLUME XII • ISSUE 1<br />
MY FORSYTH<br />
PUBLISHER<br />
Market Complete LLC<br />
Samantha Angeli is the<br />
graphic designer for My<br />
Forsyth She may be reached<br />
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co-founder, Investment<br />
Adviser Representative,<br />
RFC® . He may be reached<br />
at 470-839-9001 or info@<br />
arseneauadvisory.com<br />
Larry Brown is a retired<br />
journalist. Larry is a member<br />
of the Sawnee-Cumming<br />
Optimist Club and a mentor<br />
with Mentor Me North<br />
Georgia. A community<br />
volunteer and sought-out<br />
writer, he may be reached at<br />
browntrust@bellsouth.net.<br />
julie@marketcomplete.com<br />
678.614.8583<br />
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770.310.4486<br />
PHOTOGRAPHY<br />
Adam Pendleton<br />
Tom Burgess is the owner<br />
and operator of Christian<br />
Brothers Automotive in<br />
Cumming. Tom retired from<br />
the United States Air Force<br />
in 2009, after serving his<br />
country for over 22 years.<br />
He may be reached at<br />
Tom.Burgess@cbauto.net.<br />
Pam Evans is an<br />
Associate Broker with<br />
Century 21 Results. She<br />
may be reached at<br />
678-778-6551.<br />
David Fountain is a<br />
local food enthusiast and<br />
our community’s Best of<br />
Forsyth Financial Planner<br />
and Investment Advisor. You<br />
can reach him at foodie@<br />
fountainsfoodadventures.com<br />
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STAFF WRITER<br />
Jacqueline Thompson<br />
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media developer, writer,<br />
and the author of the book<br />
review blog The Book<br />
Buffet. She may be reached<br />
at thegraves@yahoo.com.<br />
Rev. David Hill, a long-time<br />
Cumming resident, may<br />
be reached at davidkhill@<br />
comcast.net. A retired<br />
preacher, Hill lives in North<br />
Carolina where he is enjoying<br />
spending time with his<br />
beloved grandchildren.<br />
Bernadette Leonard<br />
is a beauty salon owner<br />
and coach. She may<br />
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Her first book, The Amy<br />
Binegar-Kimmes-Lyle Book<br />
of Failures is a top eBook on<br />
Amazon.com.<br />
Leslie Marinelli is the<br />
Communications Manager<br />
at Forsyth County Public<br />
Library. She may be r<br />
eached at<br />
leslie.marinelli@forsythpl.org.<br />
Tracy Ann Moore-Grant<br />
has been practicing family<br />
law since 2002. She's a<br />
partner at Patterson Moore<br />
Butler. She may be reached<br />
at 770-889-0846.<br />
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Maria I. Morgan is an<br />
inspirational writer and<br />
speaker. She is the awardwinning<br />
author of Louie’s BIG<br />
day! She may be reached at<br />
maria@mariaimorgan.com.<br />
Katie Newman, LCSW, is a<br />
licensed clinical social worker<br />
with a Master’s of Social<br />
Work from the University of<br />
Georgia and Bachelor’s degree<br />
in Psychology from Hendrix<br />
College. She may be reached at<br />
Katienewmanlcsw@gmail.com.<br />
Narendra Singh, MD,<br />
FRCP(C), FACC, FAHA is the<br />
Director of Clinical Research,<br />
Atlanta Heart Specialists LLC,<br />
Atlanta, GA.<br />
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My Shift<br />
Ever have one of those moments where you ponder<br />
how you may have communicated something in a<br />
manner that the listener may have construed as wrong?<br />
I know I have, many times.<br />
Communication in today’s world seems a bit<br />
complicated. Everyone is busy. We are overloaded<br />
with messages – on our mobile phones, on displays,<br />
and in every aspect of our lives. Having time to actually<br />
see, feel and hear the messages may at times be<br />
complicated.<br />
Perhaps the beauty of listening – attentively and<br />
without judgement – may be something that is slowly<br />
becoming a thing of the past. Or is it?<br />
I think not.<br />
I am shifting my ability to listen by doing so without<br />
interruptions and preconceived notions – as best I can.<br />
I have learned that what I say may not be heard as<br />
intended, which may lead to errors, ill actions, and at<br />
times the loss of friendships.<br />
Spending time with kids is enriching. They deal with<br />
communication in a simple, honest way. There’s yes<br />
and no. There’s eye contact and sharing of words<br />
without expectations. With what some may consider a<br />
limited vocabulary based on age, children can simplify<br />
our world by being present – in conversations and<br />
actions.<br />
Perhaps it’s time to shift and relearn simple<br />
communication skills. I recently came across the<br />
following concept: The art of communication is like the<br />
brushstrokes the painter uses to create a masterpiece.<br />
It’s time for me to grab a new canvas, get some new<br />
paintbrushes and start painting again.<br />
Communication masterpiece – one brush stroke at a<br />
time.<br />
JULIE BRENNAN<br />
Publisher<br />
julie@marketcomplete.com
VOLUME XII | ISSUE 1 | <strong>MYFOR</strong>SYTHMAG.COM 9
FORSYTH COUNTY GOVERNMENT<br />
WHAT'S NEW<br />
FORSYTH COUNTY TO BEGIN MULTI-YEAR<br />
WATER METER REPLACEMENT INITIATIVE<br />
Forsyth County Department of Water & Sewer (FCDWS) will be installing new<br />
water meters at customers’ homes and businesses across the County over<br />
the next two years.<br />
“Forsyth County is committed to providing innovative solutions that<br />
support our community’s high quality of life,” said Water & Sewer Director<br />
Barry Lucas. “With many of our existing automated meters reaching the<br />
end of their useful life, we have the opportunity to replace our system over<br />
a two plus year period with an Advanced Metering Infrastructure (AMI)<br />
system that will help us better serve our more than 66,000 customers.”<br />
When installed, the AMI meters will provide customers with near real-time<br />
access to information about their water usage to help better manage<br />
water use and costs. AMI systems use remote reading technology that<br />
gathers consumption information accurately, more frequently and more<br />
efficiently. A secure online portal will also be made available for customers<br />
to easily track water use over any period of time and be alerted to leaks<br />
or unusual water usage.<br />
The new water meters are in line with Forsyth County’s commitment to<br />
serving customers in the most cost effective and operationally efficient<br />
manner possible. Prior to initiating this program, the County completed<br />
a comprehensive analysis that found the cost of implementing an AMI<br />
system will be offset by operational efficiencies and paid out of enterprise<br />
(non-tax) funds.<br />
The rollout of the new meters will occur in phases with the first phase<br />
beginning summer 2022. Customers will be notified with a letter roughly<br />
four weeks before their meter is installed, followed by a postcard roughly<br />
two weeks prior to installation. Both will include instructions to help<br />
customers prepare for the installation. Customers do not need to be home<br />
when the new water meter is installed.<br />
This project will impact the majority of FCDWS customers. However,<br />
customers who have had their water meter replaced in 2019 or later have<br />
already received an AMI meter and will not receive a new one.<br />
For more information concerning the project, visit<br />
forsythco.com/meterupgrades.<br />
STATUE RECOGNIZES SERVICE CANINES<br />
A statue monument with an engraved plaque was unveiled at<br />
the Coal Mountain Dog Park (4060 County Way) recognizing<br />
canines that have served in the U.S. Armed Forces and with<br />
First Responders.<br />
District 4 Commissioner Cindy Mills and President of the<br />
Forsyth County Patriots Alliance David Hopkins provided<br />
remarks during the event that was attended by community<br />
members as well as local veterans.<br />
“The County is always proud to honor our veterans and we<br />
hope this monument will be enjoyed by all that visit the dog<br />
park,” said Mills. “The American Humane Society estimates<br />
that each working service dog in the armed forces saves<br />
between 150 and 200 lives throughout their service, so to be<br />
able to recognize these dogs specifically at a dog park here<br />
across from the Animal Shelter is very special.”<br />
Funding for the monument was allocated out of a portion<br />
of funds for the Veteran’s Memorial located in downtown<br />
Cumming which came from SPLOST VIII funds. The Forsyth<br />
County Board of Commissioners approved the installation of<br />
the monument during their Dec. 21, 2021 work session.<br />
The statue design and location were determined in<br />
partnership with the Forsyth County Patriots Alliance. The<br />
artist of the monument is Susan Norris.<br />
The Coal Mountain Dog Park features synthetic dog turf,<br />
dog water fountains, climbing boulder, wooded areas, dog<br />
walk ramp, tunnel, sunshades, shaded benches and two<br />
family-style restrooms. The four-acre dog park is funded<br />
by donations, the Parks & Recreation Capital Funds and by<br />
SPLOST VIII. The park opened in Nov. 2020.<br />
www.forsythco.co<br />
Find us on Facebook at<br />
Facebook.com/ForsythCountyGovernment.<br />
Find us on Twitter by following @ForsythCoGov<br />
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Optimists Recognize<br />
Forsyth Student<br />
Orators<br />
by Larry Brown<br />
Four young orators won the recent 2022 Forsyth County Optimist<br />
International Oratorical Contest. More than 3,600 students from<br />
throughout the county competed. The local event is sponsored<br />
by the Sawnee-Cumming and Forsyth-Cumming Optimist Clubs.<br />
2022 Forsyth County Optimist oratorical winners (from left): Alex Jones, Otwell Middle School; Sanjana Diddige, Lakeside Middle School;<br />
Gargi Surange, Alliance Academy; and Samiksha Gaherwar, Lambert High School.<br />
Winning the county competition were Alex Jones, sixth<br />
grade, Otwell Middle School, representing the Forsyth-<br />
Cumming Club; Sanjana Diddige, eighth grade, Lakeside<br />
Middle School, representing the Sawnee-Cumming club;<br />
Gargi Surange, ninth grade, Alliance Academy, representing<br />
Sawnee-Cumming; and Samiksha Gaherwar, a senior at<br />
Lambert High School, representing Forsyth-Cumming. They<br />
each won $500 awards and represented Forsyth County<br />
at the zone competition. Sanjana Diddige and Samiksha<br />
Gaherwar won at the zone level and progressed to the<br />
area contest. Samiksha won there and will compete in the<br />
district contest.<br />
The competition is open to sixth through 12th-grade<br />
students from all Forsyth middle and high schools. A separate<br />
competition in Forsyth County allows fifth-grade students to<br />
gain experience. Speeches cover a variety of subjects. This year<br />
the topic was, “Staying Optimistic in Challenging Times.”<br />
The Oratorical contest is the longest running Optimist<br />
program, established in 1928, according to Carolynn Martin,<br />
president of the Sawnee-Cumming club. "The Forsyth County<br />
competition is the largest in the world,” she said. “We have so<br />
many bright and talented students here in Forsyth County. We’re<br />
grateful to the school coordinators, principals, club members<br />
and parents for their support of these remarkable students.”<br />
The Sawnee-Cumming Optimist Club meets the first and third Thursday evenings of each month. For<br />
information about Optimists, contact club president Janna Shacklett, janna9810@gmail.com.<br />
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THE SELLER MINDSET<br />
In an Extreme Seller’s Market<br />
By Pam Evans<br />
The question I am asked a lot right now by Sellers is, does it make financial sense for me to do<br />
anything to my house before putting it on the market. Inventory is super low, and most homes are<br />
receiving multiple Offers. So, why bother?<br />
Great question, and of course the answer is, it depends.<br />
Generally speaking, homes that are truly “market ready” meaning, they<br />
are fresh, clean, updated, and the most appealing sell for more money.<br />
So, the question is, do you want to leave money on the table by not<br />
maximizing the sales potential of your home?<br />
Think about when you are looking for a home. First look are the<br />
photos. Do they look amazing and make the home look amazing? Does<br />
the home convey, through photos, that it is attractive, well-maintained,<br />
and updated to appeal to today’s Buyer? If so, you will most likely want to<br />
see the home in person. If not, it may be a bit of a deterrent, and you may<br />
opt to put that home at the bottom of your list.<br />
When you then visit the home in person and see for yourself that it<br />
is truly a great home, with a nice lot, in a nice neighborhood, you are<br />
ready to make an Offer. And you probably notice that there are many<br />
business cards on the counter and perhaps a traffic jam on the street.<br />
Lots of competition because the home presented well. Generally, the<br />
more attractive the home, the greater the competition, and ultimately, the<br />
higher the sales price.<br />
Here’s my recommendation if you are a Seller debating how<br />
to proceed:<br />
• Talk to a reputable Realtor who will visit your home and give you<br />
an honest assessment with objective eyes. My goal when speaking<br />
with Sellers is to understand their objectives, any financial challenges,<br />
and ensure that recommendations I make will generate a return on<br />
investment. ROI. If you can spend $5,000 in getting your home ready,<br />
and sell it for perhaps $15,000 more because of your added effort, is<br />
that worth it?<br />
• Often fresh paint is ample and can be completely transformative.<br />
Colors go out of style regularly, and beige paint, with lots of nail<br />
holes and fingerprints will diminish the attractiveness of your home.<br />
• Some simple general maintenance is often helpful. If your front door<br />
threshold has lots of wood rot, think about the impression that<br />
makes on Buyers as they walk through the door. They are wondering<br />
what else has not been well-maintained and they will be more<br />
nervous about their Home Inspection.<br />
• De-clutter and clean. Always.<br />
The Bottom Line<br />
So, the bottom line is yes, of course, in this extreme Seller’s market,<br />
Sellers do not need to go to such effort as they would in a more<br />
balanced market. Sellers can cut corners for sure, and get away with<br />
an outdated Master Bath, torn, stained carpet, outdated colors, wood<br />
rot, and messy landscaping. You’ll still sell, and probably receive<br />
multiple Offers. However, how much more would you receive with<br />
some added effort?<br />
Seek some objective, qualified guidance and decide what makes most<br />
sense for you.<br />
Pam Evans is an Associate Broker with Century 21<br />
Results in Cumming and can be reached at<br />
678-778-6551.<br />
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New Regulations Open<br />
6 Estate Plan “Wormholes”<br />
& Why You Should Revisit<br />
Your Plan Right Away<br />
By Kurt Arseneau,<br />
Investment Advisor Representative, Registered Financial Consultant<br />
If 2021 taught us anything, life is unpredictable.<br />
I learned that living in the moment, not reflecting<br />
on the past, but learning from the past is very<br />
important. As Covid 19 was wreaking havoc<br />
on the world, many of us needed to focus on<br />
family and friends. It put in perspective how<br />
important and precious life really is.<br />
Your legacy plan may have changed without you even knowing, because<br />
who really had time to pay attention to estate planning changes. Law<br />
changes have created incredible estate planning opportunities for savvy<br />
Americans. However, massive changes may have made many estate<br />
planning strategies outdated. If you haven’t created or reviewed your<br />
estate plans in light of these new rules, you’re at risk of:<br />
• Accidentally disinheriting your spouse (because of an outdated trust<br />
or estate strategy)<br />
• Failing to take advantage of a temporary tax window (just through<br />
2025)<br />
• Shortchanging your loved ones by leaving Uncle Sam too much of<br />
your hard-earned money<br />
• Forcing your loved ones to liquidate their inheritance to pay taxes<br />
(because IRA rules changed)<br />
all because your will, trust, or estate plan hasn’t been updated to reflect<br />
the new laws. Right now, you have a limited window (just until Dec. 31,<br />
2025, or maybe sooner if lawmakers take these opportunities away) to<br />
take advantage of the possibilities introduced by recent laws.<br />
Below you will find the top new opportunities and the shocking changes<br />
that may put estate strategies at risk.<br />
1. DON' T ACCIDENTALLY DISINHERIT YOUR SPOUSE!<br />
Plans created prior to 2017 often included formulas based on old<br />
federal estate-tax exemption amounts (as low as $675,000 in 2001).<br />
A consequence of an outdated strategy could accidentally pass your<br />
entire estate to children or heirs, leaving your spouse with nothing. (1)<br />
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2. YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE CAN<br />
GIVE DOUBLE TAX-FREE<br />
Current laws doubled the federal estate<br />
and gift exemption through Dec. 31,<br />
2025 (it’s $12.06 million per person or<br />
$24.13 per couple in 2022 but is<br />
scheduled to return to 2017 levels soon).<br />
Savvy Americans are taking advantage<br />
of the higher limits to revisit old estate<br />
strategies and make gifts before deadline<br />
expires. (2)<br />
3. LEVERAGE ADVANCED TRUST<br />
STRATEGIES<br />
Recent law changes opened the door<br />
to advanced trust strategies that could<br />
potentially help you immediately cut<br />
your income tax bill, protect yourself<br />
from lawsuits, and create<br />
multi-generational tax shelters while<br />
giving you control over your assets now<br />
and in the future. (3)<br />
4. REVISIT YOUR POWER OF<br />
ATTORNEY<br />
When the estate tax exemption was<br />
lower, it made sense to give a trusted<br />
agent the power to make financial gifts<br />
(to avoid estate tax). Today’s much<br />
higher estate tax exemption means<br />
you might need to reconsider giving<br />
someone else too much control<br />
over your money.<br />
5. RETHINK YOUR “STRETCH” IRA STRATEGY<br />
If you planned to leave your IRA or 401(k) to children or<br />
grandchildren who would “stretch” the distributions across their<br />
lifetimes to create multi-generational legacy, you will need to think<br />
again. The 2019 SECURE Act killed the stretch IRA by forcing most<br />
non-spouse beneficiaries to withdraw (and pay taxes on) the full<br />
value of an inherited IRA or 401(k) within 10 years of inheritance.<br />
(4)<br />
If you have one, you MUST take action now to update your<br />
strategy.<br />
6. A TRUST MAY NOT BE THE RIGHT BENEFICIARY OF<br />
YOUR IRA<br />
“Pass-though” or “conduit” trusts were common ways to protect<br />
assets while allowing heirs the benefits of an inherited IRA Recent<br />
laws removed many benefits to making trusts beneficiaries of IRA. If<br />
you have one, you MUST take action now to update your strategy.<br />
If you are taking care of your loved ones, consider discussing<br />
the following with your attorney.<br />
• Are you currently making gifts to your loved ones?<br />
• Do you have a will? Has it been reviewed within the last 2-3 years?<br />
• Have you named beneficiaries for each of your accounts? Do any<br />
need to be added or removed?<br />
• Have you recently married or divorced?<br />
• Is there a charity that you would like to include in your strategies?<br />
Important! There are a number of charitable giving strategies<br />
that can help you give tax-free gifts to the causes you care<br />
about – and potentially reduce the taxes you pay now.<br />
• Do you need to protect any beneficiaries from life issues, such as<br />
divorce, addiction, or creditors?<br />
• Do you have any children with special needs or disabilities to<br />
provide for?<br />
• Do you have wishes for how you want your gifts to be used by your<br />
loved ones?<br />
• If you have minor children, have you named guardians or personal<br />
representatives? Are they up to date?<br />
• Is keeping your affairs private important to you?<br />
• Are you concerned about family dynamics around inheritance?<br />
You don’t have to create your Roadmap alone. If you’ve ever dealt with the<br />
estate of a loved one, you know that it’s a complex and often trying process.<br />
Getting it wrong means leaving your loved one with a complicated mess<br />
and potentially owing Uncle Sam a lot more than you intended.<br />
If you have an existing legacy plan, I highly recommend you revisit it right<br />
away. The window is closing by Dec. 31, 2025, or sooner, so time is of the<br />
essence.<br />
Until next time, stay healthy and safe.<br />
Sources:<br />
1.<br />
https://www.taxpolicycenter.org/sites/default/files/briefingbook/how_many_people_<br />
pay_the_estate_tax.pdf<br />
2.<br />
https://www.kiplinger.com/taxes/601639/estate-tax-exemption-2022<br />
3.<br />
https://www.kiplinger.com/article/retirement/T021-C000-S004-update-estateplans-in-light-of-new-tax-law.html<br />
4.<br />
https://www.marketwatch.com/story/inheriting-a-parents-ira-or-401k-heres-howthe-secure-act-could-create-a-disaster-2019-12-26<br />
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consult with a qualified professional for guidance before making any purchasing decisions.<br />
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INTERVIEW<br />
"I am looking for a dare<br />
to be great situation."<br />
-Llyod Dobler, “Say Anything”<br />
LESSONS FROM 80S<br />
POP CULTURE IN<br />
TODAY’S WORKPLACE<br />
An interview by Amy Lyle<br />
Pop culture expert Chris Clews expounded on why “Coming to<br />
Americas'” Prince Akeem and more 80s pop culture icons hold<br />
the keys to business and life success.<br />
A: The success of your book, "What 80s Pop Culture Teaches Us<br />
About Today's Workplace," has launched you into a dream career.<br />
How did that happen?<br />
C: I was 47 and in a job that wasn't working out for me. I was reflecting on<br />
my career when I heard (on the television) Judd Nelson’s character, John<br />
Bender, from “The Breakfast Club” say, "Screws fall out all of the time. The<br />
world's an imperfect place." My screws had fallen out. I decided to get a<br />
new set of screws which opened a new career journey.<br />
"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop to look<br />
around once in a while you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller<br />
A: What is it about 80s pop culture that you are drawn to?<br />
C: When I look back at 80s pop culture, I describe it as a glitter bomb<br />
of creativity that when exploded unleashed all of these wonderful and<br />
vibrant colors that became the movies, music, toys, collectibles, television<br />
and literature that we love today. There was something for everyone. Look<br />
at the Top 40 music for any year/month/week in the 80s and you'll find a<br />
mix of musicians such as LL Cool J, Kenny Rogers, Depeche Mode, Motley<br />
Crue, Debbie Gibson, Culture Club and Chaka Khan.<br />
A: Give us an example of a lesson from an 80s movie that might be<br />
unexpected.<br />
C: Take Prince Akeem from<br />
“Coming to America,” for example.<br />
Born a prince and the heir to<br />
the throne in his country of<br />
Zamunda, he’s given a leadership<br />
position without earning it and<br />
is surrounded by “Yes” people.<br />
Whatever he asked they did, and he didn’t like that. He wanted people<br />
to like him for who he is as a human being not for simply being royalty.<br />
He decided to go to Queens, NY where no one knows him and strip away<br />
anything that would signal he was royalty. He took a job sweeping the floors and<br />
handling the garbage at a fast-food restaurant (McDowells) and at one point<br />
said, "When you think of garbage think of Akeem." Ultimately people do find<br />
out he is a prince; by then he had earned their respect and credibility. With<br />
his humble actions, he teaches us that "Unearned leadership creates pleasers.<br />
Earned leadership creates believers."<br />
A: When I think of my favorite movies from the 80s, they were from<br />
John Hughes who gave us so many classics, including “Sixteen<br />
Candles,” “Ferries Bueller’s Day Off,” “The Breakfast Club” and<br />
“National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation,” just to name a few. Who<br />
is your favorite John Hughes character?<br />
C: Del Griffith (played by John Candy) in “Planes,Trains and Automobiles.”<br />
Del was funny and lovable but also overbearing because he was so broken<br />
from the loss of his wife—his one true love. He just wanted to be liked and<br />
"We're all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at<br />
hiding it, that's all." Andrew, “The Breakfast Club”<br />
loved and he needed the warmth of personal relationships. He was all of us<br />
rolled into one complex and totally awesome character.<br />
A: What's the most underrated movie of the 80s?<br />
C: There are so many for so many different reasons. I'll throw out two –<br />
“Lucas” and “Three O'clock High.”<br />
A: Congratulations on your speaking tour. Where will you be the next<br />
few months?<br />
C: Thank you! The next few months I have keynote speaking engagements<br />
in Lexington, KY, Chicago, Orlando, and Atlanta with several others not<br />
quite finalized as of yet but very close to being able to share publicly.<br />
People are really excited to gather again which is totally awesome! I'm also<br />
launching a third book in my series in August of 2022 and beginning to<br />
plan book signing events.<br />
A: Where can people find you?<br />
C: My website is chrisclews.com. On social media you can find me on<br />
the following:<br />
Twitter - @80spopculture | Instagram - chrisclews80s<br />
LinkedIn - Chris Clews | Facebook - @chrisclews80s<br />
YouTube - Chris Clews, Author and Speaker<br />
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Book Clubs<br />
Love 'em, Hate 'em<br />
by Jacqueline Thompson Graves<br />
I have many friends who are Readers. Readers tend<br />
to find each other. “Whatcha readin’?” begets many a<br />
friendship. Sometimes these Readers clump together creating<br />
Clubs. The only problem with clubs is- most clubs of any kind<br />
come with rules. Some Readers like rules. They were the good<br />
kids in school, the teacher’s pets who sat on the front row, raised<br />
their hands, wore pretty hair bows and wrote essays about<br />
whatever the teacher suggested. But I got sent to the principal’s<br />
office on the first day of kindergarten, so I never was too keen<br />
on rules. If I am going to voluntarily join a club, it’s not going to<br />
be one with six pages of rules.<br />
Here’s how the rules go for most book clubs. We meet a certain<br />
day. If you miss twice, we kick you out. We all read the same book.<br />
We discuss it at the book club. You are forbidden to call each other<br />
and chat about it while you are reading it, while you are excited<br />
about the book, while you are in its throes. You must wait until the<br />
book club leader allows you to (after raising your hand, of course)<br />
offer discussion in response to her questions. Your answers cannot<br />
be too “out there” or she will (just like that teacher) pull you aside<br />
and have a friendly little talk.<br />
Sound familiar? I went to that book club exactly once.<br />
Then there was another one where almost no one ever read<br />
the book, yet they wanted to be a part of the discussion. “How<br />
can you have an opinion when you haven’t read the book?” I<br />
finally blurted out in frustration. I got another little talk.<br />
At last, my girlfriends and I hit upon what we felt was the<br />
perfect not-exactly-a-book club. We created a book report<br />
club. Our main focus was eating a meal together potluck style<br />
and drinking wine. (See there, some of you like it already.) At<br />
some point during the evening, we each took a turn sharing<br />
what we had recently read. It could be anything: fiction or non,<br />
recommendation or stay away from, even cookbooks, magazines<br />
and movies were fair game, especially if one of us had not had<br />
time to read lately. Our goal, our focus was our friendship.<br />
We met for years, laughing, eating, drinking, passing around<br />
good books, watching movies after reading the latest bestseller<br />
(Hunger Games, for example). One of those friends introduced<br />
me to Martha Grimes and her British style murder mysteries.<br />
I’ve read every one of Inspector Richard Jury’s investigations<br />
and even helped him solve a couple of them.<br />
Maybe you, like me, don’t mesh with a traditional book club.<br />
Maybe you stay in your red chair by the fire reading, chuckling,<br />
underlining, enjoying – alone. Maybe you’re perfectly happy.<br />
Maybe what you don’t know is you could be perfectly happier if<br />
you shared it all with a group of other Readers. Book clubs don’t<br />
have to have six pages of rules. Book clubs can be Friends with<br />
Books clubs. Where do you find one?<br />
You start one. You simply ask another Reader,<br />
“Whatcha readin’?” and you go from there.<br />
Jacqueline writes a book review blog at www.thebookbuffet.wordpress.com. She is currently<br />
not in a book club as all her Reader friends moved away (not all at the same time). She is sitting<br />
in her red chair by her fire reading, underlining, chuckling and missing the potlucks and wine.<br />
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Your<br />
LIBRARY<br />
Can Help You and<br />
Your Child Thrive<br />
This Summer<br />
BY LESLIE MARINELLI<br />
Everyone needs a little “R & R” over the summer. Forsyth<br />
County Public Library (FCPL) can help ensure that<br />
second “R” stands for RELAXATION instead of academic<br />
REGRESSION. Here’s how:<br />
SO LONG, SUMMER SLIDE!<br />
Studies have shown that without regular reading and learning<br />
activities, students can lose roughly one month of school-year<br />
achievement over the summer. This is known as learning loss<br />
or summer slide.<br />
Good news: summer slide is avoidable through enriching activities<br />
and daily reading. Better news: FCPL offers a sea of free materials,<br />
programs, and resources to help your kids say “So long!” to summer slide<br />
and become lifelong learners.<br />
SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE<br />
FCPL also provides a fantastic array of free summer events for all ages!<br />
From magic shows, professional storytellers, and “explosive” STEM<br />
programs for school-aged kids, to teen workshops in cooking, writing, and<br />
improv, to bass fishing secrets from one of the South's most experienced<br />
and skilled anglers, there is something for everyone at FCPL this summer.<br />
Best of all, every program is free and open to the public.<br />
Sign up for our Weekly Program Planner and we’ll deliver a list of<br />
our highlighted programs for the weekend and week ahead to your inbox<br />
every Thursday: www.bit.ly/fcpl-wpp<br />
For more information about Forsyth County Public Library or any of our<br />
resources or upcoming events, please visit www.forsythpl.org or connect<br />
with FCPL on social media @forsythpl.<br />
OCEANS OF POSSIBILITIES<br />
Keep your kids reading this summer with our reading incentive program!<br />
This year’s theme, Oceans of Possibilities, will keep them engaged through<br />
fun, free activities, and the chance to earn incremental prizes all summer.<br />
Sadly, fewer kids than ever are reading for pleasure today according<br />
to a Pew Research study. Reading incentive programs “gamify” reading,<br />
making it more fun and less of a chore. Plus, rewards and recognition<br />
of reading achievements help motivate students to keep reading. For<br />
reluctant readers, the activities element of summer reading programs can<br />
draw them in and serve as a gateway to reading.<br />
So sign up! Track reading and activities to earn points, badges,<br />
incremental prizes, and grand prize entries from May 25 through July 31,<br />
2022. Visit forsythpl.beanstack.org to register.<br />
Leslie Marinelli is the Communications Manager<br />
at Forsyth County Public Library where she was<br />
a children's librarian for four years. Prior to her<br />
work at the library she was a writer and editor<br />
who has been featured in The Huffington Post,<br />
CNN's Headline News, Parenting Magazine, and<br />
Northside Woman. Originally from Pittsburgh,<br />
Pennsylvania, Leslie has lived in Forsyth County<br />
for 19 years, is a mother of three, and can often<br />
be found shouting "DROP IT" while chasing her<br />
rescue pup, Birdie.<br />
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Is Getting a Divorce<br />
Contagious?<br />
By Tracy Ann Moore-Grant<br />
I have noticed a trend over my 20 years<br />
of doing family law. I will get a new client,<br />
and a few months later, another one who<br />
is a friend, neighbor, or family member<br />
of the first client. Then perhaps it snowballs<br />
from there and includes a few more friends,<br />
cousins, or coworkers. And yes, I am appreciative<br />
of the referrals but when the people from the same<br />
close circle start getting divorced, I can’t help but<br />
wonder if getting a divorce is contagious?<br />
In getting to the heart of this issue, I wasn’t<br />
surprised to find that studies have shown that<br />
divorce is in fact contagious. A 2013 study<br />
found that study participants were 75% more<br />
likely to become divorced if a friend is divorced<br />
and 33% more likely to end their marriage if a<br />
friend of a friend is divorced (1) . In the same way<br />
that having babies can become popular within a<br />
person’s social network, so can divorce. Ideas as<br />
to why this happens vary. Some speculate that<br />
members of the group getting a divorce bring<br />
the idea into the group making the topic more<br />
normalized and less taboo. Others think that<br />
when your close social framework has a role in<br />
supporting healthy marriages you tend to also<br />
take care of your own marriage better. In essence<br />
positivity creates a support system for healthy<br />
marriages and divorce and negativity can break<br />
relationships down. People may also be attracted<br />
to the “fun and free” lifestyle they perceive their<br />
friends and family to be having post-divorce and<br />
want to join in.<br />
Although I am a divorce attorney, I am<br />
supportive of marriage. One thing a divorce<br />
attorney never wants to do, is divorce people<br />
who could have repaired their marriage. A<br />
Pew Research Study from 2014 shows that<br />
6% of divorced couples remarry each other.<br />
So when presented with a new divorce case, I<br />
always want to make sure that the marriage is<br />
in fact over. Especially when a party appears<br />
to be within the “social distance” of another<br />
divorce, I recommend that the individual<br />
takes a step back and reflects on their reasons<br />
for a divorce. Did these reasons exist prior to<br />
learning of a divorce of a close contact? Is their<br />
spouse on the same page or are they surprised<br />
by the decision? Has the couple tried marriage<br />
counseling or similar to try to get back on<br />
track? What do they think their life will look<br />
like a year from now and is that a better view<br />
than today?<br />
The decision to get a divorce should not<br />
be taken lightly as it affects children, finances,<br />
futures and can take an emotional toll on all<br />
involved. If you have someone in your close<br />
circle who has chosen to divorce, my advice is to<br />
take a moment to pause and take stock of your<br />
personal situation before you get swept up into<br />
the process. And if that fails-wear a mask, wash<br />
your hands and don’t catch a divorce.<br />
1<br />
McDermott, Rose and Fowler, James H. and Fowler, James<br />
H. and Christakis, Nicholas A., Breaking Up is Hard to Do,<br />
Unless Everyone Else is Doing it Too: Social Network Effects<br />
on Divorce in a Longitudinal Sample (October 18, 2009).<br />
Available at SSRN: https://ssrn.com/abstract=1490708 or<br />
http://dx.doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.1490708<br />
TRACY ANN MOORE-GRANT has been<br />
practicing family law in North<br />
Georgia since 2002. She is a<br />
partner at Patterson Moore<br />
Butler in Cumming, Georgia<br />
and is also a mediator,<br />
arbitrator and guardian ad<br />
litem. You can get more information on<br />
her firm’s website at<br />
www.PattersonMooreButler.com<br />
or directly at the Amicable Divorce<br />
Network website at<br />
www.AmicableDivorceNetwork.com<br />
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FORSYTH FOODIE<br />
FOUNTAIN’S FOOD ADVENTURES<br />
Never Enough Thyme<br />
FANTASTIC FOOD. INCREDIBLE PEOPLE.<br />
By David Fountain<br />
Never Enough Thyme is a family owned-and-operated gourmet restaurant featuring fresh,<br />
homemade American cuisine with locations in Halcyon and downtown Alpharetta. The menu<br />
offers a wide variety of options for every palette. Co-owner Michele Doyle says, “If you’re in<br />
the mood for healthy or not healthy I have it”. Some healthier options include a crisp fresh<br />
salad, lemon roasted cod, or a sauteed vegetable quinoa bowl. You can also indulge in some<br />
belly warming meals such as spaghetti and marinara with homemade meatballs, meatloaf with<br />
mushroom merlot gravy, or one of David’s favorite a classic juicy cheeseburger with bacon.<br />
Michele’s favorite dish on her menu is the Chicken Picatta, a lightly breaded tender chicken<br />
filet sautéed in house made lemon caper sauce served with basmati rice pilaf. Michele loves<br />
to use the rice to soak up the extra sauce from the chicken.
The Doyle family has been cooking since 2001.<br />
Originally from New Jersey, the Doyle family was<br />
looking for a lower cost of living and opening a<br />
small business. From the inspiration of Michele<br />
Doyle’s mother, Marie, and creating that homey<br />
neighborhood feel, Never Enough Thyme let a<br />
dream become a reality. The Doyle family then<br />
packed their belongings and moved to Alpharetta<br />
opening their restaurant together.<br />
Michele was able to watch as the community<br />
grew around her, and over time Michele grew<br />
such a deep connection with her community; she<br />
was able to maintain a loyal following for the last<br />
20 years. From customers to staff, she has had the<br />
pleasure to meet incredible people. Some of her<br />
staff have been with her for 12-14 years. Her local<br />
“friendly neighborhood feel” has set her apart<br />
from those around her.<br />
Like so many others, the pandemic has<br />
affected the restaurant. “It was incredibly hard<br />
for small businesses." She had to quickly adjust<br />
to the new normal; masks, gloves, and plexiglass<br />
became the everyday. Even the dining room<br />
had to close. “Many small businesses did not do<br />
well.” Thankfully, Never Enough Thyme survived<br />
through catering and takeout. The payroll<br />
protection plan offered to small businesses during<br />
Covid also helped. The Alpharetta location offers<br />
a takeout window, and the staff was taking the<br />
food out to cars. In the heat of the pandemic,<br />
jigsaw puzzles were even being offered, anything<br />
to get traction going again for the restaurant. At<br />
the end of it all, her most popular dish, Chicken<br />
Casserole, is what saved them. The Chicken<br />
Casserole dish is a creamy blend of chicken and<br />
noodles covered with a buttery cracker mix.<br />
Looking to the future, Michele is excited for<br />
a new concept, Nauti Dog. It will showcase hot<br />
dogs, cheesesteaks, bratwurst, Italian sausage,<br />
anything in a bun. Looking to open in March<br />
in downtown Alpharetta. Michele will bring<br />
the family feel and cost friendly options to her<br />
new location. Make thyme to visit one of the<br />
two locations and keep a lookout for the new<br />
restaurant, Nauti Dog.<br />
NEVER ENOUGH THYME<br />
neverenoughthyme.net<br />
ALPHARETTA CITY CENTER<br />
8 S Main St | Alpharetta, GA 30009<br />
470-395-3977<br />
HALCYON<br />
6655 Town Square | Suite 1250<br />
Alpharetta, GA 30005<br />
678-297-1124<br />
David Fountain is a local food enthusiast and our community’s Best of Forsyth Financial Planner<br />
and Investment Advisor. You can reach him at foodie@fountainsfoodadventures.com<br />
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Your Pap Smear is Abnormal...<br />
Now What ?<br />
By Dr. Annie Kim, MD, FACOG<br />
Cervical cancer is the easiest gynecologic cancer to<br />
prevent, with regular screening tests and followup. There<br />
are currently two screening tests that can help prevent<br />
cervical cancer or detect it early. The Pap smear looks for<br />
precancerous changes on the cervix that might become<br />
cervical cancer if not treated appropriately. The HPV test<br />
detects the human papillomavirus that can cause these<br />
cellular changes. The Pap smear is recommended for all<br />
women between the ages of 21 and 65 years old, and this<br />
test can be done in your doctor's office.<br />
If your Pap smear is normal, then routine followup is<br />
recommended as recommended by your doctor. An abnormal Pap<br />
smear is one in which the laboratory interprets the cellular changes to<br />
be different from those normally seen on a healthy cervix. Although<br />
an abnormal test result can be worrisome, it does not necessarily<br />
mean you have cervical cancer. Of the 3 million women who receive<br />
an abnormal result from a Pap smear each year, only about 10,000 are<br />
actually cases of cervical cancer.<br />
There are a few conditions that might cause an abnormal Pap<br />
smear result, including HPV, which is the most common cause.<br />
HPV is a common sexually transmitted infection, and most sexually<br />
active individuals have been exposed to at last one of the more than<br />
100 known strains of HPV. Other sexually transmitted infections,<br />
including gonorrhea and chlamydia, as well as vaginal inflammation<br />
from bacterial vaginosis or a yeast infection can also cause changes<br />
on your Pap smear.<br />
If you have an abnormal Pap smear, your doctor will probably ask<br />
you to come back for a follow-up appointment for a procedure called<br />
a colposcopy. Colposcopy is an outpatient procedure where your<br />
doctor takes a closer look at the cervix using a special instrument<br />
called a colposcope, which combines a bright light and magnifying<br />
lens. If abnormal cells are seen, then a biopsy is performed and<br />
sent to the lab to determine whether these cells are cancerous or<br />
precancerous. The type of cells that are found on biopsy will dictate<br />
the treatment. Moderate to severe precancerous cells need to be<br />
removed by procedures such as conization or loop excision, but if<br />
the biopsy is completely normal, then more frequent Pap smears<br />
would be recommended. The most important thing to know about<br />
an abnormal Pap smear is that as long as you follow up with all of the<br />
recommended testing, you are not likely to develop cervical cancer.<br />
Therefore, it is crucial to be proactive about your health and schedule<br />
well-woman visits with your gynecologist every year.<br />
Modern OBGYN has three convenient office locations. Visit our newest office at Avalon in Alpharetta located at<br />
2710 Old Milton Parkway Suite 100, Alpharetta, GA 30009. For more information on our practice and providers,<br />
visit www.reyesobgyn.com.<br />
Dr. Annie Kim, MD, FACOG is board certified. She is a Diplomate of The American Board of Obstetrics and<br />
Gynecology, a member of the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, and a member of the<br />
American Association of Gynecologic Laparoscopists. Dr. Annie Kim is a native of Johns Creek. She sees patients in<br />
our Cumming and Johns Creek offices.<br />
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WHEN ROUTINE BECOMES<br />
LIFE SAVING<br />
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When Doris Smith came to Northside Hospital Forsyth<br />
for a routine outpatient Gastrointestinal (GI) procedure,<br />
little did she know this visit would save her life.<br />
“I arrived a little early on<br />
Monday morning for my<br />
test,” Smith recalled. “I was<br />
placed in a pre-procedure<br />
room, where they started<br />
to monitor my heart before<br />
the procedure.”<br />
The healthcare team noticed something was<br />
not right and performed an EKG.<br />
What happened next saved Smith’s life.<br />
Dr. Leach took Smith to the Cath Lab after<br />
reviewing the results of the echocardiogram to<br />
make sure there were not blockages.<br />
“A Cardiac Cath is a procedure, in which a<br />
thin, flexible tube (catheter) is guided through<br />
a blood vessel from the wrist into the heart to<br />
diagnose and treat certain heart conditions,<br />
such as clogged arteries and certain valve<br />
Dr. Steven Wang<br />
problems,” Leach added. Thankfully, Smith’s<br />
heart did not have any blockages.<br />
By this time Smith realized that she needed a<br />
lot more care than she originally expected when<br />
walking in to have a GI procedure. The next day,<br />
Dr. Steven Wang, a non-invasive cardiologist<br />
with NCVI, took Smith to the operating room<br />
to perform a procedure called a Cardioversion.<br />
“The folks taking care of me realized that I<br />
was in atrial fibrillation, AFib for short. They<br />
told me the GI procedure would have to wait<br />
and that I needed care of another issue; my<br />
heart was not pumping in rhythm, and I was at<br />
risk of a stroke,” Smith explained. “The quick<br />
actions of the cardiology team saved my life.”<br />
Smith was quickly admitted into the hospital<br />
and an echocardiogram (EKG) was performed<br />
to see how the heart’s chambers and valves<br />
were pumping blood through her heart.<br />
“An echocardiogram uses ultrasound<br />
technology to see how well the heart is working<br />
and how blood moves through your heart.<br />
During the echocardiogram it was discovered<br />
that her heart was pumping less than 40% of<br />
its capacity,” stated Dr. Christopher Leach, an<br />
interventional cardiologist with Northside<br />
Cardiovascular Institute (NCVI). “We needed<br />
to find out what was causing her problems.”<br />
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Dr. Christopher Leach Dr. Kashyap “Tiku” Patel Dr. Steven Wang Dr. Heather Westmoreland<br />
“A cardioversion is a medical procedure by which an abnormal<br />
cardiac arrhythmia is converted to a normal rhythm using<br />
electricity,” Dr. Wang explained.<br />
The procedure was a success; electricity was used to shock Smith’s<br />
heart back into normal rhythm.<br />
Smith spent the next few days taking her medicines to keep<br />
her heart rhythm in check and improve her heart function and<br />
learn about changes she needed to make at home to prevent<br />
future issues.<br />
“I had the best care I could have asked for,” Smith stated. The<br />
grandmother of four vivacious children realized how lucky she<br />
was to have stepped into the hospital for a routine test.<br />
“The doctors that cared for me were kind and knowledgeable,”<br />
Smith added. “I am very grateful to Dr. Leach, Dr. Wang and Dr.<br />
[Kashyap] Patel for their care. The staff was amazing too!”<br />
“The advances in cardiac care are remarkable. Our cardiologists<br />
work together; we share insights about the patients we are treating<br />
so that they’re well-informed about treatment options, no matter<br />
what their heart condition may be,” explained Dr. Patel. “Our<br />
patients have the entire team caring for them – whether they<br />
come into the Emergency Department or a scheduled visit to one<br />
of our offices.”<br />
Smith is back home enjoying time with her beloved grandchildren.<br />
She is grateful to the team at NCVI and Northside Hospital<br />
Forsyth for saving her life.<br />
ABOUT NORTHSIDE<br />
CARDIOVASCULAR INSTITUTE (NCVI)<br />
Northside Hospital Cardiovascular Institute<br />
provides heart care that is personal, professional,<br />
compassionate and comprehensive. Northside<br />
Hospital Cardiovascular Institute’s team of top<br />
board-certified cardiologists is recognized for<br />
ground-breaking research, compassionate patient<br />
visits and standard-setting leadership that is followed<br />
by heart specialists throughout the nation.<br />
NCVI serves patients in 13 locations<br />
throughout Metro Atlanta and North Georgia.<br />
Northside Cardiovascular Institute<br />
2000 Howard Farm Drive<br />
Suite 450, Cumming, GA 30041<br />
404-962-6000<br />
Northsidecvi.com
By Weston Waxweiler, MD, FAAD<br />
WILL THIS SUPPLEMENT<br />
HELP MY SKIN?<br />
I am asked that question quite often by my patients. The focus of this article<br />
is on oral supplements and how they affect our skin.<br />
Let us start alphabetically and discuss Vitamin<br />
A. Vitamin A is an essential nutrient that<br />
helps to maintain both the dermis and<br />
epidermis of your skin. Vitamin A also helps<br />
to prevent UV damage by protecting against<br />
collagen breakdown and absorbing free<br />
radicals which thus reduces inflammation.<br />
This vitamin also plays an important role in<br />
wound healing. Too little Vitamin A can leave<br />
your skin bumpy and itchy.<br />
Biotin (Vitamin B7) is an important<br />
component in keratin production. Keratin is<br />
a protein found in hair, skin, and nails. Biotin<br />
also helps to regulate the amount of oil that<br />
your skin makes, which is important for both<br />
healthy hair and skin. Low amounts of Biotin<br />
in your body can lead to brittle nails and<br />
weaker hair.<br />
Vitamin C is another strong antioxidant<br />
that helps protect against inflammation and<br />
sun damage. Vitamin C is also an important<br />
cofactor in the production of Collagen.<br />
Fun fact: soldiers in the British Navy used<br />
to be nicknamed “limeys” as the British<br />
Navy mandated that ships on long voyages<br />
incorporate limes, an excellent source of<br />
Vitamin C, into their diet. Too little Vitamin<br />
C can lead to easy bruising and bleeding gums,<br />
a condition known as scurvy (often present<br />
in other naval soldiers before the days of<br />
refrigeration and modern medicine).<br />
Collagen is one of the most prevalent<br />
proteins in your body and makes up 75% of<br />
the non-water weight of your skin. Collagen<br />
supplements can help to improve wrinkle<br />
depth and increase skin hydration while<br />
decreasing the roughness of your skin.<br />
Vitamin D helps to create and maintain what<br />
is known as the “skin barrier” which is your<br />
skin’s ability to protect itself from moisture loss<br />
and attacks from bacteria and other pathogens.<br />
Too little Vitamin D can thus lead to less<br />
moisture in the skin.<br />
Zinc is present in some of its highest<br />
concentrations in our body in the very<br />
top layers of skin. Zinc is an important<br />
component of wound healing after a cut or<br />
other damage to your skin. It helps cells to<br />
strengthen their walls and specialize their<br />
functions as they develop. Low levels of Zinc<br />
can cause your skin to have an eczema-like<br />
rash that doesn’t heal with typical creams<br />
and moisturizers.<br />
Talk to your doctor before you consider<br />
taking any supplements. While it is beyond<br />
the scope of this article, it is actually possible<br />
to “overdose” and take too many of some of<br />
supplements, which can lead to other problems<br />
that can be dangerous to your health.<br />
Dr. Weston T. Waxweiler M.D., FAAD, is a board-certified dermatologist. Dr. Waxweiler is originally from Duluth GA and graduated from<br />
Duluth High School. He completed his undergraduate degree with honors at Davidson College on a full-scholarship. While an undergraduate,<br />
Dr. Waxweiler developed a desire to practice medicine while working on a medical study-abroad trip in Kikuyu, Kenya. He then went on<br />
to medical school at the Medical College of Georgia where he graduated with honors as well. Dr. Waxweiler completed his dermatologic<br />
residency at the University of California Irvine where he gained extensive experience with skin cancer, pediatric dermatology, and cosmetics.<br />
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2. MONITOR REGULARLY<br />
Kidney health is measured in two simple ways.<br />
The first is a blood test that tells you about kidney<br />
function - your estimated GFR (glomerular<br />
filtration rate). An eGFR of greater than 90 is<br />
normal, under 60 represents stage 3 kidney disease,<br />
under 30 is stage 4 while under 15 is stage 5 and<br />
usually means a need for dialysis. The second test<br />
is a urinalysis that tells you about kidney damage<br />
by measuring the amount of protein being spilled<br />
in the urine UACR (urine albumin to creatinine<br />
ratio). Less than 30 is acceptable while greater than<br />
300 is indicative of significant kidney damage.<br />
Based on these results your health care providers<br />
can offer additional testing such as ultrasounds,<br />
CT, MRI or even biopsies and cystoscopy.<br />
One Heart,<br />
Two Kidneys,<br />
Three Pearls<br />
By Narendra Singh, MD<br />
Chronic kidney disease (CKD) affects 1 in 7 US adults. Many of<br />
the risk factors that cause heart disease also affect the kidneys<br />
such as diabetes and high blood pressure. Infections, kidney<br />
stones, autoimmune disorders and inflammation all contribute to<br />
kidney damage. The net effect of chronic injury to the kidneys<br />
is end stage renal disease (ESRD) that results in the need for<br />
dialysis or a renal transplant. Both events are life changing. CKD<br />
is also a major risk factor for heart disease which in turn is the<br />
leading cause of death in this patient population. Sadly 9 out of<br />
10 people with CKD are unaware of their disease. Not surprisingly<br />
prevalence increases with age. Fortunately, there are things you<br />
can do to protect your kidneys.<br />
1. STAY HEALTHY<br />
Regular exercise especially aerobic activities<br />
improve kidney function. Controlling your sugar<br />
intake to prevent diabetes or prediabetes is very<br />
important. Monitoring your blood pressure,<br />
eating a low salt diet and drinking plenty of fluids<br />
will protect kidney function. Water helps clear<br />
sodium and toxins from the body and reduces<br />
the risk of painful kidney stones. Avoid smoking<br />
and be careful of using too many over the counter<br />
medications such as NSAIDs (ibuprofen and<br />
naproxen) which can damage the kidneys.<br />
3. CHOOSE DRUGS WISELY<br />
The first step is to avoid drugs or supplements<br />
that can damage the kidneys. Always talk with<br />
your pharmacist or doctor when starting a new<br />
medication. Diuretics are used to relieve the fluid<br />
retention seen in kidney disease but should be<br />
used sparingly as they can damage the kidneys.<br />
In diabetic patients, two classes of medications<br />
have been shown to protect the kidney. The<br />
first are ACE inhibitors (such as lisinopril<br />
and ramipril) or an ARB (such as losartan or<br />
valsartan). After that a new first in class drug<br />
finerenone (Kerendia) can protect both the<br />
heart and kidneys. For many patients with CKDincluding<br />
those without diabetes, the use of an<br />
SGLT2 inhibitor can not only protect the kidneys<br />
but improve overall survival! These drugs include<br />
dapagliflozin (Farxiga), empagliflozin (Jardiance)<br />
and canagliflozin (Invokana). All these therapies<br />
require close monitoring and guidance<br />
Heart and kidney disease can both have<br />
devastating consequences. I’m hoping these<br />
three pearls will help you save two kidneys, one<br />
precious heart and a wonderful you.<br />
NARENDRA SINGH, MD,<br />
FRCP(C), FACC, FAHA<br />
Preceptor- Mercer University, Atlanta, GA<br />
Director, Clinical Research, NSC Research, Atlanta, GA<br />
Director, Canadian Collaborative Research Network<br />
Affiliated with Piedmont, Northside and Emory Health<br />
Systems<br />
1100 Northside Forsyth Dr, Suite 345,<br />
Cumming, GA, USA, 30041,<br />
Phone 678- 845-8960<br />
5400 Laurel Springs Parkway, Suite 1401,<br />
Johns Creek, GA, 30024<br />
Phone 678- 208-0165<br />
Email-DrSingh@nscresearch.org or<br />
DrSingh@nsccardiology.com<br />
www.heartdrsingh.com<br />
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Choice by Design<br />
By Bernadette Leonard<br />
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice.<br />
Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make, makes you. Choose wisely.”<br />
- Roy T. Bennett<br />
HOW WE THINK, ACT, AND PLAN SHAPE OUR<br />
FUTURE DESTINY. We can’t always dictate life situations, but we<br />
can decide how we will choose to react to them. Think about it - we all<br />
go through similar circumstances: disappointments, death, chronic illness,<br />
successes, financial strains, failures, love, divorce, and so much more. The<br />
major difference between you and others isn’t the circumstance itself, it is<br />
how you choose to handle and react to current circumstances in order to<br />
move forward.<br />
You can choose to:<br />
• Ignore or Listen<br />
• Give up or Persist<br />
• Follow or Lead<br />
• Fear or Have Faith<br />
• Blame or Forgive<br />
• Stay Stagnant or Grow<br />
• Be Negative or Have Positivity<br />
• Deny or Accept<br />
• Gossip or Seek Wisdom<br />
Daily deposits of positive reactions and choices can eventually lead to a<br />
more carefree lifestyle and earn the respect and trust of others. Would you<br />
live your life differently knowing that the impact of a reaction and decision<br />
can be stronger than the action itself? Our life can take off in any direction<br />
depending on the choices and decisions we make today.<br />
Life is funny in the way that when we make unwise choices, it causes us<br />
to pause and reflect; thus, changing our perspective for our next decision<br />
or reaction. Living a fulfilled life takes a positive and disciplined mindset.<br />
We must set a plan and design our decisions for success.<br />
TOMORROW IS NOT PROMISED, SO START TODAY.<br />
Here’s a simple strategy implementation that can allow you to take a plan<br />
and turn it into actions that will set you up for disciplined and designed<br />
choices. Executing these daily and being consistent will help you be effective:<br />
• Be organized.<br />
• Start with simple goals.<br />
• Evaluate your progress and failures.<br />
• Be accountable.<br />
• Believe in your plan.<br />
Life can be stressful and overwhelming, and we can often feel anxious at the<br />
end of the day. This could be caused by stress at work, financial situations,<br />
health, loss of a loved one, or relationships, making it hard to implement<br />
consistent choices in our daily routine for our well-being and future self.<br />
If you don’t put yourself first, no one else will. Be mindful and make sure<br />
you’re getting enough sleep, eating wisely, exercising, practicing self-care,<br />
and doing something you enjoy daily. It’s the small acts that will add up to<br />
get you refocused for intentional choices.<br />
Life is one great design, and each choice can lead to great change.<br />
Bernadette Leonard is a beauty salon owner and coach.<br />
She is passionate about adding value to the lives around<br />
her, continuous growth and personal relationships.<br />
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6 Easy Strategies to Start Your Day<br />
By Christine M. Roberts<br />
I bet you’ve heard that before. It sounds like a<br />
good idea. But actually, implementing a morning<br />
routine?<br />
It boils down to creating positive habits that<br />
feed into one another and ultimately roll up to<br />
a better you.<br />
Having a morning routine will allow you<br />
to feel healthier both mentally and physically,<br />
improve your relationships...when you feel good,<br />
you are more enjoyable to be around. You are<br />
more productive, have a healthier mindset, and<br />
the list goes on.<br />
I am going to share 6 strategies that will<br />
drive you to start your day on fire and create<br />
momentum:<br />
IT BEGINS THE NIGHT BEFORE.<br />
To start your morning on fire, take five minutes<br />
the night before to determine what time you will<br />
get up (be sure to get enough sleep). Write down<br />
and map out the schedule for your morning.<br />
When you are intentional the night before, you<br />
are mentally priming your brain to be prepared<br />
for executing your plan. The following steps will<br />
guide you in creating your plan.<br />
GET UP WHEN THE ALARM GOES OFF.<br />
Be true to yourself. If you are committed to getting<br />
up at 6:00 a.m., keep the promise. Be realistic,<br />
figure out what your morning plan is and ensure<br />
that it is something you can and will commit to.<br />
MAKE YOUR BED.<br />
If you make your bed every morning first<br />
thing, you will feel a sense of accomplishment<br />
and satisfaction. This will set you up for success<br />
and create momentum for your day. If you are<br />
balking at this because you think it takes too<br />
long, I challenge you to time yourself, you will<br />
be surprised how quickly this can be done and<br />
how good you’ll feel.<br />
TAKE 15 MINUTES OF QUIET TIME<br />
EACH MORNING.<br />
Use this time to pray or think and set the<br />
intention for your day. This practice is necessary<br />
in order to imagine how your day will go,<br />
envision the meetings, calls, situations that<br />
you anticipate, and how you want them to go.<br />
Identify three things that you are truly grateful<br />
for and write them down.<br />
HAVE A MINDSET OF MOVING YOUR<br />
BODY.<br />
This does not mean you have to run three miles<br />
every morning or do a 5:00 a.m. boot camp,<br />
although, if that’s your jam, then go for it!! Just<br />
move...getting outside for a power walk, do a<br />
free workout from YouTube, park further away<br />
at the grocery store, take the extra trip up the<br />
stairs at home, whatever it is to move, it all adds<br />
up. You can do it!<br />
SHOW UP FOR YOURSELF.<br />
Put on an outfit that makes you feel good. Do<br />
your hair, put on some makeup, and spray on<br />
your favorite fragrance. You will have a whole<br />
new attitude. Do whatever it is that makes you<br />
feel together. When you get yourself together,<br />
you’ll exude confidence and take on the “can<br />
do” attitude.<br />
No matter what your personality type is,<br />
each of these strategies are achievable and<br />
will add value to your life. They will give<br />
you a sense of purpose, allowing you to<br />
cope with situations that used to push you<br />
over the edge. We can’t control everything<br />
around us, but we can set ourselves up for<br />
success.<br />
You Deserve to Be Your Best Self!!<br />
If you're having trouble getting on track, check<br />
out our Mindset Reset Coaching Program to<br />
get results and create your best life.<br />
p.s. would love to connect on social.<br />
Christine is a speaker, success coach and author. She speaks to organizations on<br />
leadership, company culture, time-management and more. Also, consider working<br />
with her for group or 1:1 coaching to increase productivity, gain more time, and<br />
maximize the results in your life.<br />
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EMERGING VISIONARIES<br />
Arnav Tripathi<br />
For initiatives that range from promoting<br />
financial inclusion to advocating for economic<br />
equality, five young people were named<br />
Grand Prize winners by Prudential Financial’s<br />
Emerging Visionaries program at a four-day<br />
summit held earlier this Spring at Prudential’s<br />
Newark headquarters.<br />
GEORGIA HOMEWORK<br />
HELP HOTLINE<br />
Arnav Tripathi, 17, of Cumming, Georgia,<br />
founded the "Georgia Homework Help Hotline,"<br />
an organization that supports individuals in<br />
obtaining their GEDs through its free website,<br />
where they can live chat with a tutor, submit a<br />
problem for help or sign up for weekly tutoring.<br />
Tripathi is a student at South Forsyth High<br />
School. He worked with Lynn Sennett, former<br />
Workforce Development Coordinator at The<br />
Place of Forsyth County.<br />
Arnav was inspired to start the hotline<br />
after realizing how important a GED is for<br />
accessing employment and a well-paying<br />
salary, leading to an approximate 25% increase<br />
in salary opportunities for GED graduates<br />
on average. Homework Help Hotline aims to<br />
tackle the educational and economic barriers<br />
that prevent people from getting their GED.<br />
Arnav is partnering with local nonprofit<br />
organizations to spread awareness of the<br />
initiative and is looking to expand nationally<br />
in the near future.<br />
Arnav was one of the 25 winners, named in<br />
February, who earned a $5,000 prize.<br />
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The Gift of<br />
GRATITUDE<br />
By Ashley Baer<br />
Gratitude means having the quality of<br />
being thankful. Research has shown that<br />
gratitude increases wellbeing, resilience<br />
and overall happiness while reducing stress<br />
and depression. It literally rewires our brain<br />
for positivity. A Harvard study on gratitude<br />
showed that people who wrote about their<br />
gratitude were more optimistic.<br />
Gratitude is a practice but also a way of life. Daily gratitude has psychological benefits like enhancing mood, increasing<br />
positive thoughts, self-satisfaction, and awareness. The physical benefits such as boosting immunity, improving sleep,<br />
and lessening aches and pains are striking.<br />
HERE ARE EFFORTLESS WAYS TO BEGIN A DAILY PRACTICE:<br />
• KEEP A GRATITUDE JOURNAL: Every day write three things you are grateful for. If not a writer, say them<br />
out loud as you feel the gratitude.<br />
• PRACTICE A GRATITUDE MEDITATION: Try to sit and feel gratitude for the simplest blessings in your life.<br />
As you sit, breathe in gratitude for the first thing that pops into your mind. Think of someone that you are grateful<br />
for in your life and reflect on why. Think of a moment of pain that helped you grow. It is our most difficult moments<br />
that transform us. As you breathe, be grateful for this breath, and this life.<br />
• WRITE A THANK YOU LETTER: Write a monthly letter to someone who impacted your life.<br />
• PAY IT FORWARD: Treat someone anonymously such as buying a coffee for the car behind you in the<br />
drive through.<br />
Gratitude is a practice of mindfulness, but it has many of the same benefits when practiced on its own. The brain cannot<br />
be both negative and grateful at the same time, so whenever I notice my thoughts turn negative, I quickly shift them to<br />
gratitude. Where your attention goes, your energy flows, so focus your attention on all the things we have to be grateful<br />
for in this life.<br />
I know I am.<br />
“Gratitude is an antidote to negative emotions, a neutralizer of<br />
envy, hostility, worry, and irritation. It is savoring; it is not taking<br />
things for granted; it is present-oriented.” - Sonja Lyubomirsky<br />
ASHLEY BAER is a meditation teacher on the app Insight Timer. To learn more, visit her page:<br />
http://insig.ht/ashleybaer<br />
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Mindful<br />
MINUTE<br />
BY KATIE NEWMAN, LCSW<br />
Active Listening & Intentional Speaking<br />
THE PATTERNS OF OUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE, “SELF TALK,” CAN BE PATTERNS WE USE TO<br />
VIEW AND COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS. THIS IN TERM CAN SABOTAGE OUR INTENTIONS<br />
LEAVING US FEELING DEFEATED, DEFLATED, MISUNDERSTOOD AND NO CLOSER TO OUR<br />
GOALS. TRY USING THESE WAYS TO CHANGE THE WAY WE COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS<br />
IN OUR LIVES TO HELP YOU WITH THOSE TRICKY LANDMINES IN COMMUNICATION.<br />
Often times these questions give us enough time to think through<br />
our thoughts and sift out the opinions, judgement, sarcasm and<br />
folly giving us more wisdom and intention in our words.<br />
Learning (or relearning for those of us who are out<br />
of practice) how to be an active listener can help in<br />
maintaining a strong relationship or completing tasks.<br />
It not only shows a person that you hear them but also<br />
that you are engaged in the conversation. Active listening<br />
additionally aids in memory retention of topics discussed.<br />
HERE ARE SOME TIPS ON HOW TO BE AN ACTIVE LISTENER:<br />
• Pay attention: Focus on the speaker & avoid any<br />
distractions.<br />
• Show that you are listening: Nodding and keeping an<br />
open posture.<br />
• Provide feedback: Reflect on what has been said and<br />
ask questions if appropriate.<br />
• Avoid judgment: Allow the speaker to finish and avoid<br />
interrupting with counter arguments.<br />
• Respond appropriately: Be honest and respectful with<br />
your response.<br />
Intentional speaking can be hard for those of us who are<br />
used to just speaking our minds without reservation. I usually<br />
tell my clients the three Question Rule when we are deciding<br />
if we should say something to a family member, friend or<br />
coworker.<br />
1. “Is it true?”<br />
2. “Is it Kind?”<br />
3. “Is it necessary?”<br />
Intentional Speaking can be particularly tough to express<br />
yourself clearly with topics of high emotion. Why not use the<br />
new year to try these nonviolent communication methods<br />
from the work of Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. to master<br />
difficult conversations? This process helps you stay in the “here<br />
and now”<br />
• Open with a positive intention - establish safety by stating<br />
a win-win intention that is attractive to you both.<br />
• State your observation - these are the facts (what you<br />
hear, see, smell, touch, do) free of evaluations, judgements,<br />
diagnosis of motives, or strategies.<br />
• Express how it makes you feel - communicate with this<br />
person the emotional experience (free of thoughts or<br />
interpretation) that represent your needs.<br />
• Express your need - this could represent your values, wants,<br />
and desires (without preferences or strategies for how the<br />
needs are met).<br />
• Make your request with a clear invitation to take specific<br />
action to contribute to the needs expressed (without<br />
blame or punishment).<br />
“Together we will create brave space<br />
Because there is no such thing as a "safe space"<br />
We exist in the real world<br />
We all carry scars, and we have all caused wounds.<br />
In this space<br />
We seek to turn down the volume of the outside world,<br />
We amplify voices that fight to be heard elsewhere,<br />
We call each other to more truth and love<br />
We have the right to start somewhere and continue to grow.<br />
We have the responsibility to examine what we think we know.<br />
We will not be perfect.<br />
This space will not be perfect.<br />
It will not always be what we wish it to be.<br />
But it will be our brave space together,<br />
And we will work on it, side by side.”<br />
- Invitation to a Brave Space by Micky Scott Bey Jones
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Communicating with a<br />
TEENAGER<br />
Is it simple?<br />
By Jeff Mogan<br />
Corner Farms<br />
The answer is not a clear yes or no.<br />
But it is a goal within everyone’s’ reach.<br />
I often look at what a teen may need in his/her life in order to be able to communicate<br />
with us about what they are doing and be able to so effectively. We talked about<br />
us as parent’s being a safe place for our teen to go to. What that means is us not<br />
automatically condemning or persecuting our teens for things they want to talk<br />
about. That means, anything they want to say should be open for discussion.<br />
As parents we have options. We can be open, or we can shut the door before they<br />
try. Keeping in mind that when we shut the door, our teen WILL find someone to<br />
talk about whatever is on their mind with someone else. That is not something we<br />
want to see or hear about, as it may not be the best person for them to talk to.<br />
With that said, if we want to be a safe place for our teen to talk about things that are<br />
on their mind, they must be also brave enough to be able to come to us.<br />
How do we get our teens to be brave enough? That is a huge problem in itself. Let’s<br />
look at some ways to do that. If the goal is to get our teens to be brave enough, we<br />
must first create trust in us and trust in them. Here are some simple exercises to<br />
try with your teen to create a safe place for them and have them be brave enough<br />
to enter that space.<br />
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1) Have simple conversations about simple<br />
subjects. Don’t tell your teens they are<br />
wrong for simple thoughts. Tell them you<br />
want to talk about anything they want to<br />
open up about and just listen to their story.<br />
2) Make it a point to talk about the things<br />
or items that interest them. For example,<br />
they listen to rap music, but you don’t like<br />
rap music. Don’t tell them you don’t like<br />
rap music. Instead listen to the songs they<br />
like to show them they matter to you. You<br />
may hate it, but they will love it.<br />
3) I regularly share with parents that in<br />
order to connect with their teen, they must<br />
be present. Put your phone down, even<br />
if your teen doesn’t, and just sit. When<br />
parents come to a conversation, they are<br />
always trying to solve a problem. Teens<br />
are never trying to solve a problem. By<br />
just being present, you leave the space and<br />
time open to anything your teen wants to<br />
talk about. It may take some time; it may<br />
take an hour or two. However long it takes,<br />
we should never be in a hurry. Leave the<br />
space open to conversation; be available<br />
and present.<br />
4) Be positive. It's important for us to go to<br />
our teens and have positive conversations.<br />
As parents it's hard for us to have<br />
conversations where we are not trying<br />
to solve a problem. Let’s try connecting<br />
with our teens without trying to change<br />
or fix them. Whenever we tell our teens<br />
they should change or fix something, we<br />
are basically telling them they are broken.<br />
Engage in a conversation about the things<br />
they do well. Success breeds more success.<br />
In order to connect and communicate effective<br />
ly with our teens, we must pay attention to who<br />
we are communicating with. We have to be<br />
intentional on when we communicate and what<br />
we are communicating about. As we look to<br />
connect, always try and connect on a positive<br />
level in order to be able to connect with your<br />
teen when there is a struggle.<br />
We hope these ideas help in your<br />
journey to connect and communicate<br />
with your teens. Email us at<br />
jeff@cornerfarmsforsyth.com<br />
and share your thoughts on how to<br />
communicate with your teens.
SO, YOU HAVE AN OXYGEN<br />
SENSOR CODE…<br />
By Tom Burgess, Owner, Christian Brothers Automotive, Cumming GA<br />
Identifying the cause (or causes) of an oxygen sensor trouble code is<br />
not as easy as you might think. The first step is to determine which<br />
O2 sensor is sending out-of-parameter data, as vehicles can have up<br />
to six sensors. Thankfully, diagnostic codes often contain location<br />
information of the sensor reporting bad data to make that part easier.<br />
What can cause an O2 sensor code if not a failed sensor? One reason<br />
can be fuel trim levels. The system works like this: the O2 sensor<br />
before the catalytic converter tells the computer how much unburned<br />
oxygen is in the exhaust. Based on this information, the computer<br />
will add more or less fuel. This feedback fine-tuning loop of fuel trim<br />
happens continuously. If there are fuel injectors sticking open or<br />
clogged, the motor will run rich or lean and the O2 sensor will report<br />
the problem – and obviously changing the sensor will not shut off<br />
the CEL light because the sensor is fine, it’s the car that has the issue.<br />
One of the most common reasons a Check<br />
Engine Light (CEL) will illuminate in your car<br />
or truck is for an Oxygen (O2) Sensor code.<br />
Many folks think that simply means the<br />
sensor has failed and replacing it will solve<br />
the problem. That may indeed be the case,<br />
but you might be surprised to know there<br />
are actually hundreds of reasons a working<br />
oxygen sensor may be giving readings<br />
outside of normal parameters. And that’s all<br />
it means when the CEL illuminates for an O2<br />
sensor, it just means the data received by<br />
the vehicles computer from the sensor is not<br />
within the programmed normal range. If the<br />
sensor fails it will provide out-of-parameters<br />
data, but the sensor may be working perfectly<br />
and the vehicle has an issue, and the sensor is<br />
alerting you to the problem.<br />
Another common problem is faulty ignition in a cylinder caused by<br />
a fouled plug, or a failed coil pack or plug wire – any of these will<br />
cause the engine to run poorly and could result in an O2 sensor code.<br />
Ignoring the CEL for these conditions can cause damage to the engine<br />
or catalytic converter, poor idling, and hurt your gas mileage. If an<br />
O2 sensor downstream of the catalytic converter is throwing a code,<br />
it could indicate a problem with the catalytic converter. A leaking<br />
exhaust system can also cause inaccurate O2 readings, tripping a light<br />
and causing the wrong amount of fuel to be injected. If the O2 sensor<br />
has failed, merely replacing an O2 sensor might fix the problem in<br />
the short term, but for many of the reasons listed above, failing to<br />
determine what caused the O2 sensor to fail may lead to the new one<br />
being ruined soon after being installed.<br />
And finally, many vehicles heat the sensor prior to taking a reading. As<br />
carbon and ignition by-products begin to coat the sensor, the vehicle<br />
will heat the sensor longer and longer to get an accurate reading. If<br />
you change out the sensor and don’t tell the vehicle that you have<br />
done so, it will preheat the new clean sensor for too long and can burn<br />
it up the first time you start the car!<br />
The bottom line is this: an O2 code does not simply mean it’s time<br />
to replace the sensor. More often the code is caused by an actual<br />
problem, and properly diagnosing the functionality of the sensor and/<br />
or what is actually happening in the engine is very important for the<br />
health of your wallet and your car or truck.<br />
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The Well.<br />
Be Real. Be Loved. Belong.<br />
A ministry focused on the desire<br />
to provide a safe and loving space<br />
for people to gather together to find<br />
hope and healing through community<br />
and a relationship with Jesus Christ<br />
is the purpose of The Well.<br />
Founded by Tonya Cohen, the start<br />
of what is now known as The Well<br />
started during a Bible Study in her<br />
home. “I learned that doing life in<br />
community was life changing and<br />
life giving, and I wanted to find<br />
a way to help others have what<br />
I had found,” Cohen explained.<br />
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Photos by Abbie Franklin.<br />
“As I was volunteering at a safe house in Atlanta for women who are<br />
rescued from human trafficking, I met a young girl who grew up in<br />
my town, attended church as a child, recently graduated from the local<br />
high school and just stumbled onto the wrong path through a drug<br />
addiction that started with a little partying during her high school<br />
years. This girl's story made me realize that this is happening in my<br />
own backyard, and I wondered how to help girls like her before they<br />
find themselves on the wrong path. With all of these thoughts in mind,<br />
I asked the Lord, "Why, What can I do to help and "How: He showed<br />
me a vision of Jesus meeting with the Woman at the Well (from Chapter<br />
4 of the Gospel of John),” Cohen added.<br />
The Well is, Cohen explained, a place for everyone. “It is a place for all<br />
of us to be come together to fill our souls with the living water and spill<br />
out the water of life onto others. It is a place that fosters total wellness<br />
of the mind, body, soul and spirit through sessions, events, community<br />
partners, prayer and connection. We foster creativity and beautiful,<br />
organic experiences with God and people.”<br />
The Well is open Monday through Thursday from 9:30 am - 2:30<br />
pm for coffee, prayer, connection, friendship, devotions and more.<br />
Creekstone Village Shopping Center<br />
1790 Peachtree Parkway,<br />
Suite 201<br />
Cumming, GA<br />
www.thewellconnection.org<br />
thewell.belong@gmail.com<br />
678-730-0424<br />
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The Ultimate Encourager<br />
By Maria I. Morgan<br />
Have you ever been discouraged? I have. Discouragement can color everything around you. Put<br />
you on a path you're not meant to travel. Cause you to compare yourself to others. And just<br />
downright mess with you.<br />
But God...<br />
Don't you love those two words? God delights in turning things<br />
around. He can rearrange things so masterfully that discouragement is<br />
overthrown by encouragement. Pause for just a minute. Did you notice<br />
the root word in both 'discourage' and 'encourage' is the same? Courage.<br />
Courage is defined as "bravery; intrepidity; that quality of mind<br />
which enables men to encounter danger and difficulties with firmness,<br />
or without fear or depression of spirits; valor; boldness; resolution" (KJV<br />
Dictionary). It appears 20 times in the King James Bible. Here are a few<br />
of the verses:<br />
Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for<br />
the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor<br />
forsake thee. Deuteronomy 31:6; KJV<br />
Be strong and of a good courage: for unto this people shalt thou<br />
divide for an inheritance the land, which I sware unto their fathers to<br />
give them. Joshua 1:6; KJV<br />
Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that<br />
hope in the Lord. Psalm 31:24; KJV<br />
Beautiful. Verses full of encouragement. They motivate and<br />
spur us on to trust in and have faith in God. On the other hand,<br />
discouragement deprives us of confidence and extinguishes our<br />
courage. We give in to doubt and fear.<br />
In the middle of our uncertainty, let’s turn to God. He is an<br />
encourager like no other. Let Him encourage you today!<br />
Can I pray for you?<br />
Heavenly Father. Forgive us for the many times we let our<br />
circumstances discourage us. Help us look to You for strength and<br />
encouragement. Thank You for inviting us to “come boldly unto the<br />
throne of grace that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help<br />
in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16; KVJ) We love You, Lord. In Jesus’<br />
name, Amen.<br />
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What is your<br />
“Impossible”?<br />
One of the advertisers for the Olympics<br />
is using the phrase or slogan: "Start your<br />
Impossible." For these outstanding athletes<br />
from many different and diverse nations,<br />
where they are today, at this moment in time,<br />
probably looked "impossible" 6-8-10 years ago.<br />
But someone in their life's circle, a parent, a<br />
friend, a teacher, a mentor, a pastor or "The<br />
spirit of the Lord," motivated, encouraged and<br />
challenged them to take their very special talent<br />
and skill and develop it to its absolute fullest<br />
potential and maximum athletic performance.<br />
They committed themselves to "pay whatever<br />
price it would take" in personal discipline,<br />
commitment and sacrifice to develop their<br />
individual skill and achieve "their impossible."<br />
What is your "Impossible"? It may not be<br />
competing in the Olympics, or could it be?<br />
Whatever it is, if you’re willing to commit<br />
yourself and pay the price to develop and<br />
achieve it, you can then look back on your life<br />
without regret and wondering "What might<br />
have been?" So, what's "your impossible"?<br />
Philippians 4:13<br />
“I can do all this through<br />
Christ who strengthens me”.<br />
JOHN A. FISCHER,<br />
Chaplain-N.A.C.M.,<br />
Life Tribute Officiant,<br />
770-866-5875<br />
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The Country Preacher<br />
By Rev. David Hill<br />
Will we ever go back to the “good old days”?<br />
Remember when riding your bike on a<br />
grocery errand wasn’t so dangerous that you<br />
needed to be accompanied by an adult? Many<br />
of my teenage friends owned a Beagle rabbit<br />
dog so they could go hunting after school.<br />
Although we lived near a big city, we never<br />
heard of anyone shooting at anything with less<br />
than four legs or feathers. Usually if they were<br />
successful, it become a part of their meal.<br />
My first job was selling personalized<br />
greeting cards house to house and farm to<br />
farm. Most of today’s parents would not feel<br />
that it is safe enough for a preteen. What has<br />
happened to our society? Removing the Ten<br />
Commandments from the schoolhouse and<br />
courthouse did not give us a better sense of<br />
right and wrong. Profanity, whether partly<br />
spelled or spoken, has become so common<br />
that we hardly notice even when it is used as<br />
part of the TV news.<br />
Adam and Eve had heard the voice of<br />
God in the garden. They no doubt wondered<br />
what they had lost when disobedience hid<br />
them from fellowship with God. The Ten<br />
Commandments are the words showing<br />
the character and righteousness of God.<br />
They were written with “His finger in<br />
tablets of stone” (Deuteronomy 9:10). The<br />
commandments were sometimes referred to<br />
as the Oracles of God or the Law. We have<br />
replaced His commandments with our version<br />
of theft, murder, disrespect for authority, and<br />
disobedience to parents (Romans 13:1-12;<br />
1Timothy 2:1-6). “Let every soul be subject<br />
unto the higher powers. For there is no power<br />
but of God: the powers that be are ordained of<br />
God. Whosoever therefore resisteth the power,<br />
resisteth the ordinance of God (Romans 13:1-<br />
2). The Ten Commandments were in unison<br />
in their message. To break a Commandment<br />
is to make a person guilty of sin (James 2:10).<br />
Romans 3:23 says “For all have sinned and<br />
come short of the glory of God”.<br />
It is prophesied that Satan will use a world<br />
leader to unite the nations against the Lord<br />
and His Christ (Psalm 2:1-3). This world<br />
leader is referred to as the “man of sin . . . the<br />
son of perdition; Who opposeth and exalteth<br />
himself above all that is called God, or that<br />
is worshipped; so that he as God sitteth in<br />
the temple of God, shewing himself that he<br />
is God” (2 Thessalonians 2:2-3). The Day of<br />
Christ (2 Thessalonians 2:3) is at hand.<br />
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ADVERTISER DIRECTORY<br />
APPLIANCES<br />
ChefPro Appliances – pg. 19<br />
770-415-2119 | www.chefproappliances.com<br />
AUTOMOTIVE/CAR REPAIR<br />
SERVICES<br />
Christian Brothers Automotive – pg. 51<br />
470-253-7376 | www.cbac.com/cumming<br />
CRISIS INTERVENTION<br />
Corner Farms– pg. 47<br />
770-355-2755 | www.cornerfarmsforsyth.com<br />
CYBER SECURITY/<br />
TECHNOLOGY SOLUTIONS<br />
Critical Path Security – pg. 62<br />
770-224-6482 | www.criticalpathsscurity.com<br />
DANCE ACADEMY/<br />
INSTRUCTION<br />
Cumming Dance Academy – pg. 9<br />
770-781-4922 | www.CummingDanceAcademy.com<br />
EMBROIDERY<br />
Amigo Embroidery – pg.59<br />
404-216-5740 | www.amigoembroidery.com<br />
FINANCIAL PLANNING<br />
Arseneau Advisory Group – pg. 157<br />
470-839-9001 | www.arseneauadvisory.com<br />
Financial Consultants Group, Inc. – Inside Back Cover<br />
770-627-2121 | www.ForYourFuture.net<br />
GIFTS<br />
Edible Arrangements – pg. 25<br />
470-575-2363<br />
HEATING/VENTILATION/<br />
AIR CONDITIONING<br />
Shelnutt HVAC – pg. 57<br />
706-265-5854 | www.shelnutthvac.com<br />
HOBBIES<br />
Atlanta Hobby – pg. 3<br />
678-513-4450 | www.atlantahobby.com<br />
JEWELER/JEWELRY STORE<br />
Gems In Art – Inside Front Cover<br />
770-844-8005 | www.gemsinart.com<br />
Lance’s Jewelry –Back Cover<br />
770-781-5500 | www.lancesjewelry.com<br />
MUSIC<br />
Matilda’s Under the Pines– pg. 5<br />
www.matildasmusicvenue.com<br />
PHOTOGRAPHY<br />
Adam Pendleton Photography – pg. 45<br />
678-208-7077 | www.adampendleton.com<br />
PHYSICIANS/MEDICAL<br />
SERVICES<br />
Cleaver Medical Group – pg. 32<br />
770-800-3455 | www.cleavermedicalgroup.com<br />
Georgia Highlands Medical Services – pg. 41<br />
770-887-1668 | www.ghms-inc.org<br />
Modern OBGYN – pg. 31<br />
404-446-2496 | www.reyesobgyn.com<br />
Narendra Singh, MD – pg. 39<br />
678-679-6800; 770-622-1622 | www.heartdrsingh.com<br />
The Southern Skin and Beauty Bar – pg. 37<br />
770-284-8763 | www.southernskinandbeauty.com<br />
REAL ESTATE<br />
Hello Pam Evans Real Estate – pg. 13<br />
678-778-6551 | www.hellopamevans.com<br />
The Dinsmore Team – pg. 51<br />
770-712-7789 | www.dinsmoreteam.com<br />
RESTAURANTS /FOOD<br />
SERVICES/CATERING<br />
Casa Nuova Italian Restaurant – pg. 23<br />
770-475-9100 | www.casanuovarestaurant.com<br />
Cherry Street Brewing Home of Rick Tanner’s – pg. 27<br />
770-205-5512 | www.cherrystreetvickery.com<br />
CIPS – pg. 28<br />
770-288-5533 | www.cipscoffeeroasters.com<br />
Lenny’s Subs – pg. 28<br />
678-947-0336 | Fax orders: 678-947-5343<br />
Palapa’s Bar and Grill – pg. 29<br />
770-889-1002 | www.palapasbargrill.com<br />
Tam’s Backstage – pg. 26<br />
678-455-8310 | www.tamsbackstage.com<br />
Tam’s Tupelo– pg. 26<br />
470-839-2024 | www.tamstupelo.com<br />
SHOPPING | RESTAURANTS |<br />
SERVICES<br />
Vickery Village Forsyth – pg. 7<br />
www.vickeryvillageshops.com<br />
TOY BOUTIQUE<br />
Wheezy’s Toy Boutique – pg. 21<br />
713-516-3985<br />
TRANSPORTATION/<br />
NON-EMERGENCY<br />
ABW MedTrans Solutions – pg. 57<br />
678-567-6644<br />
WINERY<br />
Cork & Glass – pg. 23<br />
678-694-8812 | www.corkandglass.com<br />
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