Waikato Business News August/September 2023

Waikato Business News has for a quarter of a century been the voice of the region’s business community, a business community with a very real commitment to innovation and an ethos of cooperation.

Waikato Business News has for a quarter of a century been the voice of the region’s business community, a business community with a very real commitment to innovation and an ethos of cooperation.

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How to support<br />

someone you know<br />

who has been<br />

diagnosed<br />

• Be considerate. Stick to<br />

short visits, and don’t overwhelm<br />

your friend or colleague<br />

with advice, information<br />

or horror stories.<br />

Finding out someone you care about<br />

has breast cancer is a life-changing<br />

moment. Once the initial shock is over,<br />

you may find you don’t know how to<br />

behave towards them, what to say or<br />

how to support them.<br />

Tips for employers:<br />

• Be supportive and flexible.<br />

While some companies cannot<br />

sustain a woman taking<br />

a lengthy time off work, if<br />

yours can, it can remove<br />

a huge amount of stress<br />

for the woman. The added<br />

stress of financial worries<br />

can be lessened somewhat if<br />

an employer is flexible.<br />

• Take the woman’s privacy<br />

into account. While work<br />

colleagues can be close,<br />

make sure you ask her permission<br />

before making an<br />

announcement at work. It<br />

can be embarrassing and<br />

distressing for her if her<br />

illness is disclosed without<br />

her permission.<br />

Tips for work colleagues:<br />

• Contact your friend or colleague<br />

when you hear of<br />

their diagnosis. The longer<br />

you leave it, the harder it<br />

becomes. Sending a note<br />

to let them know you are<br />

thinking of them can mean<br />

the world.<br />

• Be specific in your help. It<br />

is often very difficult for<br />

women to accept help from<br />

others. Ask, “When can I<br />

cook you dinner?’’, rather<br />

than “Would you like it if I<br />

cooked dinner sometime?’’.<br />

Tips for partners:<br />

A partner may be at a loss as<br />

to what is the best strategy in<br />

caring for their wife or partner<br />

while dealing with their own<br />

emotions. A woman diagnosed<br />

with breast cancer needs their<br />

partner’s support more than<br />

ever before. There are countless<br />

ways family and friends<br />

can help, but a life partner is in<br />

a unique position to help emotionally.<br />

Here are a just a few:<br />

• Before appointments, help<br />

her make a list of questions<br />

to ask the doctor. Continue<br />

supporting her throughout<br />

her treatment, wellness<br />

plans and follow-up care for<br />

the future.<br />

• Ask what she wants and<br />

needs, and ask her to be<br />

truthful in telling you what<br />

she does and does not want<br />

from you and others.<br />

• Listen to her without judging<br />

or trying to come up<br />

with answers or solutions.<br />

• Communicate. Reassure<br />

her of your continued love.<br />

Illness can bring couples<br />

closer together but can<br />

also make any weakness in<br />

relationships more apparent.<br />

Open communication<br />

can help the relationship to<br />

survive the stressful time of<br />

change. A tender touch, a<br />

hug or holding a hand can<br />

often say more than words.<br />

• Recovery often takes longer<br />

than just the treatment<br />

time. It can take a long time<br />

to get back to normal and<br />

you both may not be at the<br />

same stage of recovery at<br />

the same time. Often, for<br />

women, the full impact of<br />

breast cancer doesn’t sink<br />

in until after treatment is<br />

completed, and by then, her<br />

partner may think things are<br />

on the up and up. Women<br />

may continue to experience<br />

a loss of confidence and fear<br />

of cancer recurrence.<br />

Tips for patients:<br />

• Accept help, or better yet,<br />

ask for specific help. This is<br />

not only to help you cope.<br />

Family and friends often<br />

feel inadequate because<br />

they do not know what to<br />

do. They appreciate being<br />

asked to do specific things<br />

to help (e.g. picking up children<br />

after school, sitting<br />

with them at chemotherapy,<br />

cooking a dinner) as this<br />

can lessen their feeling of<br />

helplessness and provide<br />

you with some practical<br />

help at the same time.<br />

• Be patient when dealing<br />

with shocked and frightened<br />

friends and family.<br />

Every person may react differently;<br />

they too need some<br />

time to wrap their head<br />

around the diagnosis.<br />

• Be honest if someone is<br />

being unhelpful. Set boundaries<br />

for visiting hours and<br />

gently guide your support<br />

people in their “help”. They<br />

may feel at a loss as to what<br />

is the best way to help and<br />

support you.<br />

ENTER<br />

NOW!<br />


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26 OCTOBER <strong>2023</strong><br />


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