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The Key to Healing and Growth: Your Core Value
deciding that “he’s not good enough,” or “that’s not worth it,” or “I’m
not worth it.” Devaluing brings a temporary spike in energy, because
it invokes a subtle form of anger or disgust directed at yourself or others.
Devaluing behaviors (such as criticism, verbal aggression, and
actions motivated by contempt or disgust) feel briefly more empowering
than the depressed mood of low value creation.
Everyone devalues sometimes, and we’re especially prone to it
after intimate betrayal. But in the long run, if you devalue more than
you value, your life will be pretty bad, even if a lot of good things happen
to you. I’ve seen considerable evidence of this since my frequent
media appearances have attracted some rich, famous, and powerful
clients, whose lives are filled with good fortune. It’s amazing how
creative they are at finding ways to make themselves miserable, simply
because they choose to devalue more than they value.
On the other side of the coin, if you value more than you devalue,
your life will be good, even if a lot of bad things happen. My primary
example is a mother I knew who lost both her teenage sons. Within a
year, one son died in an accident and the other was killed while
defending a preteen girl, whom he didn’t know, from a bully’s
unwanted advances. Out of nowhere, this woman’s only children were
taken from her. Yet she turned the deaths of her sons into inspiration
for other members of the community through her impassioned advocacy
for various youth groups. She was the most charismatic and genuine
person I’ve ever met, because, despite the enormity of her
misfortunes, she valued more than she devalued.
States of Core Value and How to
Access Them
Like all psychological drives, core value works as an unconscious
component of the human motivational system. However, to aid in