HOSPICE AR07 C:Layout 1 - Hospice of the Rapidan
HOSPICE AR07 C:Layout 1 - Hospice of the Rapidan
HOSPICE AR07 C:Layout 1 - Hospice of the Rapidan
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A Wife’s Love 1<br />
My experience with <strong>Hospice</strong> <strong>of</strong><br />
<strong>the</strong> <strong>Rapidan</strong> was brief, but it<br />
meant a great deal to both my<br />
husband and me. My husband<br />
died only a few days after<br />
entering hospice. I have since<br />
learned this is not unusual, as<br />
almost a third <strong>of</strong> patients pass<br />
away less than a week after<br />
beginning hospice.<br />
As my husband’s illness<br />
progressed, my daughter, who is a<br />
nurse with a lot <strong>of</strong> hospice<br />
experience, suggested I speak with <strong>Hospice</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> <strong>Rapidan</strong>.<br />
I was a bit reluctant, as was his doctor who equated hospice<br />
with “giving up”, but at my daughter’s urging I met with one <strong>of</strong><br />
<strong>the</strong>ir nurses. When I understood what was involved, I decided<br />
hospice was <strong>the</strong> right option for both my husband and me.<br />
From that moment on, <strong>Hospice</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> <strong>Rapidan</strong> took care <strong>of</strong> everything. They handled <strong>the</strong> paperwork and arranged for a<br />
hospital bed, oxygen, and everything needed for my husband’s feeding tube to be quickly delivered and installed in<br />
our home. Everything was ready when my husband returned home, and our hospice nurse and her team were with<br />
us frequently over <strong>the</strong> first few days. On his third day home, my husband developed a lot <strong>of</strong> congestion. I called our<br />
hospice nurse, who understood immediately that this was <strong>the</strong> end <strong>of</strong> life. She assured me he was not in pain (one <strong>of</strong><br />
my big fears), that he was able to brea<strong>the</strong>, and that it would be over quickly.<br />
I was able to go to him, hold him in my arms calmly in <strong>the</strong> home we shared, and be with him during <strong>the</strong> last minutes<br />
<strong>of</strong> his life. This would not have been possible in <strong>the</strong> hospital or if I hadn’t understood what was happening. <strong>Hospice</strong> <strong>of</strong><br />
<strong>the</strong> <strong>Rapidan</strong>’s compassionate honesty and immediate attention made his death peaceful for both <strong>of</strong> us, which I consider<br />
a valued gift.<br />
Since my husband’s death, Craig Wilt, <strong>Hospice</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> <strong>Rapidan</strong>’s grief coordinator, has been so helpful. He is kind and<br />
patient and I look forward to our conversations each month.<br />
<strong>Hospice</strong> made a world <strong>of</strong> difference for both <strong>of</strong> us in just a few days. Now I am grateful for that every day.<br />
Dorothy Erlenborn<br />
Wife <strong>of</strong> John Erlenborn,<br />
10 term Congressman from Illinois<br />
2006–2007 ANNUAL REPORT<br />
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