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Photogragh: Truong N. Q. Dan
Khieu Truong Minh Tu
Nguyen Gia Linh
Vu Quynh Trang
101 INSIGHT OF LOVE NO.1 FIRST LOVE

CONTRIBUTORS
Truong Ngoc Quynh Dan - S3817776
Editor for magazine
Nguyen Gia Linh - S3836451
Interviewer of
Khieu Truong Minh Tu - S3818263
Author of “Tips for building healthy relationship”
Vu Quynh Trang - S3836370
Author of “Stages in a relationship” article
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Content
Stages in a relationship
Stages in a relationship: Chat up, loved up and break up
Three main loved period which is common in a relationship
First love & Last love
“What do you think when we talk about first love?” The
definition and meaning of love is different for everyone,
however, the common point is being an unforgettable experiment
for us. Here is an interview about Bella-a girl who
is quite lucky in love, has a very beautiful first love which
happens to be her husband currently.
Tips for building healthy relationship
Every relationship needs a bit of work to maintain it staying
healthy even though how long it’s lasted. Here are some
tips for you to build a healthy relationship.
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Stages in a relationship:
Chat up, Loved up and
Break up
- Trang Vu -
I will divide into three main stages in
the relationship which include CHAT
UP, LOVE UP AND BREAK UP.
To begin with the chatting up stage,
which is considered as the beginning in
the relationship. In this stage, your mind
plays a vital role and mostly controls your
affection at all, you are vigilant either to
let someone know clearly about yourself
or to think of opening up to them.
Because worrying about the emotion will
hurt once choosing the wrong person
on the path of love, therefore, you rarely
share your information about yourself
with others and vice versa. Everything
you normally get to know about someone’s
attitude, interest,…. is based on
their social media accounts, even their
family and their friends.
In fact, this is the stage where you
start to have a feeling for one another,
you will experience a variety of feelings
which are very lightheaded and chaotic.
Your heart easily skips the beat when that
person suddenly appears, or the emotion
of indescribable delightful to be followed
by your crush on social media. Moreover,
you will be looking forward to the message
of your crush day by day, sometimes
you feel sad if one day they do not reply
to the messages. These are some
highlighted points of chatting up stage in
the relationship.
In terms of the loved-up stage, which
has all the obvious levels of feelings between
the couples. According to the psychologist
whose name is Elizabeth Kane,
she reveals that a person who has started
to fall in love, they definitely observe the
world through the lens of love and put
up with most everything as well as feel
amusing with everything their partner
does. Every day, your life gradually
becomes colorful and you spend almost
your time thinking about your partner.
Furthermore, you can do something
crazy that you have never done it before,
such as trying to make a cake for your
partner although you cannot even bake
a cake, spending a full day to collage the
heart shapes from the craft paper which
gives as a gift for your partner, even
though you used to be a kind of lazy and
unhandy person in the past. Certainly,
you can face some difficult challenges
during this stage, such as the times of
quarrel or some negative factors impact
on your relationship. But importantly,
once getting over it, your love will develop
into something more sustainable and
deeper, probably, you will end up with a
decision of getting married and building
a family with your partner in this stage.

Photo: Dan Truong
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With regards to the break-up stage,
which is definitely the rough time that no
one wants to come to their relationship,
but the truth is that not all relationships
are meant to last as we expect. The breakup
process will be the time that you and
your partner cannot find a common path
in a relationship, both of you feel too
tired and insensible with one another.
During the break-up process, it is undeniable
that you feel blindsided, useless, to
you, everything looks gray and the pain
overtaking you.
Furthermore, you can be weight loss,
stress, and sleeplessness, etc. Every
thought will leave you reeling and make
you focus on just that breakup pain.
Moreover, trying to concentrate on something
else that keeps the mind busier like
working hard or watching comedies will
be the choices that people usually do to
forget the sadness. But more than all,
friends and family will be the vital and
supportive people that help you to overcome
the pain. Importantly, life will lead
us to face and learn how to accept our
relationship has come to a breakup.
Love is not what you say
Love is what you do
Photo: Truong Dan
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FIRST LOVE
&
LAST
LOVE
Interviewer: Gia Linh
“The bonds of love comes to us
or not depending on destiny”
We are curious about how the relationship
started?
‘We studied at the same high school and he was
also my classmate. In my eyes, he is attractive
because not only is he a well-studied student
but he also sings well. I still remember the way
he confessed that he liked me by playing guitar
and singing Bryan Adams’s song named “Everything
I do, I do it for you” on Valentine’s day.
We have been dating for eight years.’
- Bella said -
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“Sometimes I would like to give up as soon as possible.”
There are several problems in love, so have you ever been
on the rocks in your relationship?
At that time, I didn’t know why he easily lost his temper and he shared
that recently he had a hectic business schedule. I completely sympathized
with him so I tried to do all the household chores and prepared his favorite
lunch meals every day. Also, I didn’t mind the way he ignored and criticized
me because I knew he was really busy. However, even if he was too
busy to such an extent that he couldn’t forget our anniversary. Our fifth
anniversary was on Thursday but because of his business meeting, we had
to reschedule it for Sunday. Anyway, he forgot about it. I still remembered
that I had been waiting for him for more than two hours in the French
restaurant without any call. Then I left furiously and went to my house.
And how the problem was solved?
After coming back to my house, I always thought Suzy Kassem once said
“You do not find love. It finds you”. Therefore, if he was my Mr. Right, he
would recognize his mistake and apologize to me. Also, we didn’t keep in
touch for a week until on Sunday night, he came to my house and apologized.
Do you have any plans for the future?
Since he was suffering from a stressful job, I do not want to put pressure
on him. Thus, I intend to change to a better company to earn a better
income. Maybe after a year, we will celebrate a small wedding with our
families, friends and build our own house. Since I saw him influencing too
much work pressure, I do not want to impose making money and raise
our family alone and I also wouldn’t like to repeat the old situation.
- Bella said -
You and your partner have a great moment when
you have been together so let’s make three “we”
statements each, which are unforgettable for you.
Firstly, we are having a couple of poodles which we adopted two years
ago. Secondly, we got matching tattoos which were each other’s names on
the chest. Finally, our favorite singers are Adam Lambert and Anne Marie.
Furthermore, he usually likes to spend night-time playing guitar and
singing to me. He played one of our Annie Marie’s favorite songs - “2002”
last night. These moments are imprinted forever in my heart and make
me love him more. Also, he is the only one who taught me how to love
and how wonderful love is. Additionally, he reminds me of the quote of
Ann Landers: “Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is a quiet understanding,
mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through
good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances
for human weaknesses.”
- Bella said -
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TIPS FOR
BUILDING
HEALTHY
RELATION-
SHIP
- Minh Tu -
It is undeniable that relationships
are a vital part of healthy
life, both physically and mentally.
When stepping in a relationship,
we all seek for a lot of
things, such as happiness, love,
respect, support and affection.
However, every relationship
needs a bit of work to maintain
it staying healthy even though
how long it’s lasted. Here are
some tips for you to build a
healthy relationship
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Be yourself
Having personal space and time.
Set boundaries.
Don’t act like someone else.
Show your full flaws.
If that relationship doesn’t give you
happiness, you need to say goodbye
Respect
Respect sees through the good, and learns to accept the bad.
Also, respect is the foundation of love.
Learning to respect is also learning to appreciate and tolerant their differences
in culture, backgrounds, lifestyle and personality.
Respect is the foundation of trust, safety and wellbeing.
Communication is key
Communication is the foundation
to build any relationship and is a key
to a love relationship.
Communication is also sharing a
part of yourself.
Healthy communication is the
foundation of trust and the best way
to express your emotions: happy,
angry, disappointed, surprised, etc.
Arguments allow you to solve the
deeper root of the problems and
helps you know your partner better.
Couples who have lack of communication
usually experience misunderstanding,
easily get stuck in
understanding each other and lead
to breaking up.
Spend some quality
time with your partner
Life cannot be all work and family.
Choosing activities both agree and
have fun such as a walk in the park,
a fancy dinner, a classic movie night,
grocery shopping, gardening.
Partners who do things together
become more closely connected and
come to enjoy each other’s company.
Enhancing the relationship stays
healthy and strong.
Photo: Dan Truong
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101 INSIGHT OF LOVE NO.1 FIRST LOVE
Photographer: Truong Ngoc Quynh Dan
Writer: Khieu Truong Minh Tu
Interviewer: Nguyen Gia Linh
Writer:Vu Quynh Trang
Aug - Sep 2020