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The Rebbetz<strong>in</strong><br />
Cont<strong>in</strong>ued from Page 11<br />
<strong>to</strong> people.<br />
“The rebbetz<strong>in</strong> was a person that<br />
you felt comfortable tell<strong>in</strong>g her<br />
everyth<strong>in</strong>g,” said hadassah Carlebach.<br />
“She listened and showed<br />
concern, and asked me how th<strong>in</strong>gs<br />
[were] go<strong>in</strong>g. [She] made me feel<br />
very good, and comforted me many<br />
times.”<br />
Follow<strong>in</strong>g her arrival <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> united<br />
States after <strong>the</strong> holocaust, Carlebach<br />
went <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong> for advice.<br />
“I needed <strong>to</strong> help feed <strong>the</strong> family, so<br />
I started teach<strong>in</strong>g,” said Carlebach.<br />
“I <strong>to</strong>ld her how hard it was for me,<br />
and she encouraged me.<br />
“when I mentioned, ‘I don’t th<strong>in</strong>k<br />
I’m cut out for it,’ “ <strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong><br />
expressed her understand<strong>in</strong>g, but<br />
<strong>the</strong>n added, “ ‘while you’re do<strong>in</strong>g it,<br />
do [your] best,’ “ cont<strong>in</strong>ued Carlebach.<br />
“ ‘She said do <strong>the</strong> best you can.<br />
whatever you are do<strong>in</strong>g at that po<strong>in</strong>t,<br />
do <strong>the</strong> best that you can do.”<br />
Indeed, Carlebach persisted, and<br />
excelled at teach<strong>in</strong>g for 20 years.<br />
louise hager, who is now a bus<strong>in</strong>esswoman<br />
liv<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> london, related<br />
<strong>the</strong> first conversation she had with<br />
<strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong> at age 14: The rebbetz<strong>in</strong><br />
wanted <strong>to</strong> know, “what did<br />
I enjoy? what were <strong>the</strong> subjects?<br />
who were my friends? She showed<br />
great <strong>in</strong>terest.<br />
“I have <strong>to</strong> admit, never hav<strong>in</strong>g been<br />
a particularly keen student, I came<br />
away want<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> give her someth<strong>in</strong>g,<br />
want<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> impress her, want<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong><br />
give her some good news,” added<br />
hager. “So I started <strong>to</strong> write <strong>to</strong><br />
her.”<br />
Do<strong>in</strong>g so turned out <strong>to</strong> be a big<br />
<strong>in</strong>centive <strong>to</strong> do better: “I made an<br />
effort <strong>to</strong> try and do well <strong>in</strong> school.”<br />
“The rebbetz<strong>in</strong> would relate <strong>to</strong><br />
anyone, even <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> [little] children,”<br />
said lew. “She would say [<strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> little<br />
ones], ‘Come <strong>to</strong> Doda [aunt].’”<br />
One time, <strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong> asked lew’s<br />
son <strong>to</strong> s<strong>in</strong>g a Chasidic melody known<br />
as a nigun.<br />
“he sang a [slow <strong>in</strong>trospective<br />
Chabad tune] and she had tears<br />
glisten<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> her eyes,” said lew.<br />
“he said, ‘Do you know it?’<br />
“She answered, ‘It’s my fa<strong>the</strong>r’s song<br />
[known as “<strong>the</strong> be<strong>in</strong>oni”].’ “<br />
life’s Partner<br />
In honor of 20 years s<strong>in</strong>ce <strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong>’s<br />
pass<strong>in</strong>g, Jewish educational<br />
Media released a new DvD featur<strong>in</strong>g<br />
<strong>in</strong>terviews with people who knew<br />
her.<br />
“’you know, my husband comes<br />
home very late,’” Gorl<strong>in</strong>-lassner said<br />
<strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong> <strong>to</strong>ld her at <strong>the</strong> end of<br />
<strong>the</strong>ir meet<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> (<strong>the</strong> mid-1980’s).<br />
“’he sometimes comes home [at]<br />
two, three <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> morn<strong>in</strong>g. and when<br />
he comes home, I am go<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> have<br />
so much <strong>to</strong> say <strong>to</strong> him’” about <strong>the</strong><br />
meet<strong>in</strong>g.<br />
“They would have d<strong>in</strong>ner <strong>to</strong>ge<strong>the</strong>r,”<br />
said weiss, referr<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> that time<br />
as <strong>the</strong> rebbe and <strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong>’s<br />
“private tea party.”<br />
Carlebach was amazed that <strong>the</strong><br />
rebbetz<strong>in</strong> steadfastly waited up for<br />
<strong>the</strong> rebbe.<br />
“I don’t know how many wives would<br />
The Rebbe of Kotzk<br />
Cont<strong>in</strong>ue from Page 9<br />
<strong>the</strong> many reasons for this cus<strong>to</strong>m<br />
is one that has an important life<br />
lesson.<br />
<strong>to</strong> use a bow and arrow effectively,<br />
<strong>the</strong> shooter must first pull <strong>the</strong> bow<br />
<strong>to</strong>wards himself. Once <strong>the</strong> bow is<br />
pulled as far back as possible, <strong>the</strong><br />
arrow can be released with significant<br />
force and hopefully meets its<br />
target quickly and accurately.<br />
The only effective way <strong>to</strong> change<br />
o<strong>the</strong>r people is <strong>to</strong> beg<strong>in</strong> with ourselves<br />
The lesson here is simple but<br />
powerful. In order <strong>to</strong> conquer and<br />
affect <strong>the</strong> world around us we must<br />
first move <strong>in</strong>wards. when we look<br />
deeply <strong>in</strong><strong>to</strong> our own soul, realiz<strong>in</strong>g<br />
<strong>the</strong> amaz<strong>in</strong>g potential that we possess,<br />
only <strong>the</strong>n can we <strong>in</strong>fluence<br />
o<strong>the</strong>rs.<br />
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stay up [regularly] till 4:00 <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong><br />
morn<strong>in</strong>g and wait for <strong>the</strong>ir husband<br />
<strong>to</strong> come home from [meet<strong>in</strong>gs] <strong>in</strong><br />
order <strong>to</strong> ensure that he wouldn’t be<br />
eat<strong>in</strong>g by himself,” she said.<br />
Those few <strong>in</strong>volved <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> rebbe<br />
and <strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong>’s medical care<br />
emphasized how each one tried <strong>to</strong><br />
shield <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r from pa<strong>in</strong>ful news.<br />
They would also call doc<strong>to</strong>rs on <strong>the</strong><br />
o<strong>the</strong>r’s behalf.<br />
“The rebbetz<strong>in</strong> would always call<br />
my fa<strong>the</strong>r on behalf of <strong>the</strong> rebbe,<br />
and <strong>the</strong> rebbe would always call my<br />
fa<strong>the</strong>r on behalf of <strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong>,”<br />
said Shem<strong>to</strong>v. “each one always<br />
called for <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r.”<br />
hager said that she learned about <strong>the</strong><br />
importance of human relationships<br />
from <strong>the</strong> rebbetz<strong>in</strong>.<br />
“valu<strong>in</strong>g people for what <strong>the</strong>y are,<br />
not knock<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong>m, build<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong>m<br />
up, try<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> br<strong>in</strong>g out <strong>the</strong> best <strong>in</strong><br />
people, <strong>the</strong> positive th<strong>in</strong>k<strong>in</strong>g: Those<br />
are all th<strong>in</strong>gs that she lived by,” said<br />
hager. “and that’s an example for us:<br />
look<strong>in</strong>g at <strong>the</strong> glass be<strong>in</strong>g half full,<br />
not half empty.”<br />
The rebbe of kotzk once said:<br />
“when I was younger I thought<br />
I would change <strong>the</strong> world. I <strong>the</strong>n<br />
decided that I would work on my<br />
city, and later concentrated just on<br />
my family. but now I have decided<br />
just <strong>to</strong> try and change myself.” I do<br />
not believe <strong>the</strong> kotzker rebbe meant<br />
that he would work only on himself<br />
and ignore o<strong>the</strong>rs. after all, he led a<br />
big community and was responsible<br />
for thousands of followers. what he<br />
was say<strong>in</strong>g is that <strong>the</strong> only effective<br />
way <strong>to</strong> change o<strong>the</strong>r people is <strong>to</strong><br />
beg<strong>in</strong> with ourselves.<br />
Improv<strong>in</strong>g our own character and<br />
personality is with<strong>in</strong> our control.<br />
we choose <strong>to</strong> progress or stagnate,<br />
<strong>to</strong> become angry or stay calm, <strong>to</strong> give<br />
or <strong>to</strong> hold back. we cannot control<br />
o<strong>the</strong>r people, but we can <strong>in</strong>fluence<br />
<strong>the</strong>m by mov<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong>wards. Chang<strong>in</strong>g<br />
ourselves will change o<strong>the</strong>rs.<br />
HEAP<br />
The HEAP Program Outreach Workers<br />
The scheduled appo<strong>in</strong>tments are on<br />
TUESDAY, February 17 -- 9:15 AM--3:30 PM.<br />
at <strong>the</strong> <strong>Crown</strong> <strong>Heights</strong> Jewish Community Council,<br />
387 K<strong>in</strong>gs<strong>to</strong>n Avenue (corner <strong>Crown</strong> St.).<br />
Please come early -- First come, first served<br />
GREAT NEWS. The outreach workers will accept BOTH regular<br />
and emergency applications. (To apply for emergency heap you<br />
must have a shut-off notice.)