Do They Match Report Bangladesh - World Population Foundation
Do They Match Report Bangladesh - World Population Foundation
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August, 2010 <strong>Do</strong> they match?<br />
raises suspicion in society, so many young students go to the boys to meet their sexual<br />
needs. The boys go to hotels for sex, and sometimes they also go to student hostels.<br />
When one of the sex workers who was only ten was asked if he enjoyed having sex with<br />
men, he said he feels attraction neither for men nor for women, but he just does it for<br />
money. An NGO called ‘Bondhu’ provides them with services and education. None of the<br />
boy sex workers have visited Tarar Mela either. We are not aware of any study on the<br />
first sexual experiences of <strong>Bangladesh</strong>i men. However, it cannot be said that many boys'<br />
first sexual experience is with a prostitute. Some might have first sexual experience with<br />
their girlfriends, others with their relatives or maid servants and many wait to get<br />
married to have the first sexual experience.<br />
4.3 Pornography<br />
Although the majority of the boys and girls were not either involved in romantic love or<br />
sexually active, they satisfied their curiosity and found pleasure in watching pornographic<br />
movies or erotic videos, reading pornographic magazines, masturbating etc. The young<br />
researchers observed that various erotic visual and written materials are found in the<br />
town. Boys and girls go to cyber cafés to watch porn movies on the internet. The young<br />
researchers have found that mobile phones are widely used for erotic purposes. All the<br />
older and younger boys said that watching pornographic clips on mobile phones is a<br />
common practice. Boys buy a 7 minute pornographic movie clip for only three taka from<br />
mobile shops (equivalent of 0,04$ or 0,03€). Boys download pornography from friends'<br />
mobiles through Bluetooth. <strong>They</strong> described the varieties of pornography available on<br />
mobiles: for example, ‘foreigners’, ‘cut-paste’ and ‘cut piece’ etc. (usually uncensored<br />
pieces of film). In addition to mobile porn there are locally made musical videos or joke<br />
videos which have lots of erotic elements. There are also cheaply printed magazines with<br />
erotic pictures and texts which are also popular, mainly among boys. Many boys and girls<br />
said they use mobiles for romantic or erotic pleasure. Girls said they get engaged in<br />
erotic conversations through mobile phones late at night. It should be noted that this<br />
kind of erotic pleasure is obtained also by the boys and girls who are involved in romantic<br />
love or sexual relationships.<br />
4.4 Stigma and fear<br />
The YRs found that although some of the older and younger boys were involved either in<br />
romantic relations or in sexual relations, the majority kept themselves away from any<br />
such engagement. The reason they gave for this was that they were afraid of familial and<br />
societal stigmatization. The boys said society had a negative attitude towards premarital<br />
romance, and in particular sex. According to the boys, adults think that romantic love<br />
may lead to sexual relations, which are prohibited in this society before marriage. As a<br />
result the family has no tolerance for romantic relationships between young people. Many<br />
boys and girls said that they thought their parents, extended family members, and even<br />
their teachers would be very angry if they heard that they were engaged in romantic<br />
love. <strong>They</strong> thought that their movements might be restricted. However, this fear was<br />
more intense among the girls. The girls mentioned that if they were found to have love<br />
affairs, the reputation of their families in society would be decreased. <strong>They</strong> thought this<br />
might hamper their future marriage, as girls who have a history of love relationships find<br />
it difficult to get a bridegroom, and also they need to give more dowry7 than the others.<br />
7<br />
<strong>Do</strong>wry: money or goods that a woman (through her family) brings to her husband or husband’s family upon<br />
marriage.<br />
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