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INTRODUCTION
I was wonderfully undisturbed in my life as a bachelor.
Then I met a 5-foot-nothing Swedish-Filipino woman with an authentic spirituality
and an uncanny ability to light up a room. She was alluring. And after deciding I’d
rather not live without her, I asked if I could put a ring on her finger—that is, I
decided to officially invite another human to be in my personal space for the rest of
my life.
She consented.
We married in a barn.
It only took me a couple months to realize that I had no idea how to be married.
The practice of marriage for us young people today is increasingly unnatural—and
confusing.
Sociologists say marriage is fundamentally broken.
Historians say it’s outdated.
Post-moderns, many of them, say it’s not even necessary.
And tragically, statistics seem to say it’s not worth it.
We all share a constant exposure to disappointment in marriage. It’s put on display
every day—in the news, in celebrity relationships, in our parents’, friends’ or
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