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isolated physically and socially a family becomes, the<br />
more vulnerable a child becomes (Perry, 2006).<br />
Contact and access with biological family<br />
Contact with family is vital to the well-being of<br />
children while in <strong>care</strong>, and ongoing contact has been<br />
shown to facilitate family reunification. However, in<br />
the light of trauma theory, actual and felt safety needs<br />
to be established in relation to contact and access<br />
visits with family members. Establishment of this<br />
kind of safety is often beyond the means of <strong>care</strong>rs and<br />
workers. Advocacy for safety is very important. This<br />
also means that contact has to be properly supported,<br />
and <strong>care</strong>rs need to understand the child's experience<br />
of contact.<br />
Many children react badly to contact visits, returning<br />
to placement with destructive and oppositional<br />
behaviours. The reasons for this are complicated and<br />
include:<br />
Grief - the child may be reminded of both the <strong>care</strong><br />
they did receive from their natural family, and of the<br />
<strong>care</strong> they should have but did not receive. Children<br />
visiting extended family members can also be<br />
reminded of absent parents. Loss for these children is<br />
huge, loss of real people and loss of potential for love.<br />
Trauma - children are sometimes reminded of traumatic<br />
incidents when they see a family member who has hurt,<br />
frightened or neglected them. Children may be afraid<br />
that the adult will hurt them again, no matter how much<br />
supervision is provided, so they have a compounded<br />
reaction, the memory of hurt is activated, in the presence<br />
of the possibility of further hurt.<br />
Guilt - children often feel responsible for abuse - it is<br />
part of childhood to believe that everything that<br />
happens is somehow due to something you did or did<br />
not do - trauma is no exception, and many children<br />
feel responsible for the breakdown of the family, as<br />
they might be the one who disclosed, or who didn't<br />
keep their bruises hidden. Children in these situations<br />
are also sometimes blamed by the parent for the<br />
disclosure or for the abuse.<br />
Abuse - there are many examples of abuse continuing<br />
during contact visits, sometimes physical or sexual,<br />
sometimes threats.<br />
All of the above responses can create intense feelings,<br />
they can be confusing for children, and can easily lead<br />
to acting out behaviour, distress, rejection of the <strong>care</strong>r,<br />
or regression. This is not to say that contact should<br />
not happen, but the experience of the child must be<br />
acknowledged and understood.<br />
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