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Join us on our Parish Day Trips!<br />

On a beautiful sunny day in mid September 2009, we set off by coach on our Parish Day trip to Winchester, Hampshire, the ancient capital<br />

of England. Aside from the delights of Winchester Cathedral, where Jane Austen is buried, we were treated to Winchester throwing open its<br />

doors to venues and attractions not normally open to the public, as part of the ‘Heritage Open Day’ weekend.<br />

Some parishioners visited Wolvesey, home of the Bishop of Winchester, others visited the Art Club Annual Exhibition and Ladybird Books Childhood<br />

Exhibition, amongst many other venues and attractions. <strong>The</strong>re were a lot<br />

of watering holes to keep us going, and of course plenty of shops.<br />

Amongst my own favourite venues was the Quaker Meeting House;<br />

I can only marvel at the beautifully kept gardens and indeed some of our<br />

parishioners enjoyed a lovely afternoon tea in the Quaker Meeting House<br />

gardens (see photo).<br />

So, what’s on the agenda for<br />

2010?<br />

Olga D’Silva<br />

Our Parish Day Trip by coach on Saturday 22nd May will take us to<br />

Pashley Manor Gardens and the historic cinque port of Rye.<br />

<strong>Parishioner</strong>s enjoying afternoon tea at the Quaker Meeting House, Winchester<br />

Pashley Manor is a quintessential English garden located on the<br />

Sussex and Kent border. It offers a blend of romantic landscaping, imaginative plantings and fine old trees, fountains, springs and large ponds.<br />

When we visit in May, fruit trees will be in blossom and bluebells will be carpeting the woodland, part of which visitors are welcome to walk through.<br />

A magnificent wisteria should also be cascading down the rear of the Manor house and we will see many tulips throughout the gardens. Our visit should<br />

also coincide with Pashley’s Sculpture Fortnight, with a display and sale of sculptures in the gardens and indoors. Pashley’s Garden Room Café serves<br />

refreshments, or you may just wish to bring a picnic .<br />

In the afternoon, we will visit the maritime cinque port of Rye which overlooks the River Rother and Romney Marsh. With enchanting cobbled<br />

streets, a medieval church and beautifully preserved historic houses, Rye is almost suspended<br />

in time and has a uniquely unhurried atmosphere. Here you may sample a Sussex<br />

cream tea with homemade cakes and scones in one of the tea rooms and there are good<br />

restaurants, pubs and inns to choose from. <strong>The</strong>re’s a host of unusual shops in Rye; antiques,<br />

collectors’ book and<br />

record shops and many<br />

art galleries, selling<br />

works by local artists<br />

and potters.<br />

Our Parish Day<br />

Pashley Manor Gardens<br />

Trip on Saturday <strong>18</strong>th<br />

September will take us to the seaside town of Deal and an afternoon excursion to<br />

Walmer Castle, the official residence of the Lord Warden of the Cinque Ports.<br />

Deal offers something for all ages. It has an excellent range of independent<br />

shops, two weekly markets, two castles (Deal Castle and Walmer Castle), wonderful<br />

<strong>The</strong> beach at Deal<br />

architecture, a pier and two small museums. <strong>The</strong> town centre is pedestrianised and mostly on the flat, making it easy to access. <strong>The</strong> town’s motto is<br />

‘Adjuvate Advenas’ or ‘Befriend the Stranger’ and is a friendly seaside town for visitors. It came first in the Telegraph’s ‘10 top spots to lay your beach<br />

towel’. If you don’t fancy packing a picnic, you will find many pubs, cafes and restaurants<br />

to suit all tastes from traditional to modern.<br />

In the afternoon, we head for nearby Walmer Castle, run by English Heritage.<br />

Walmer Castle is a beautifully furnished stately home with glorious gardens, views of the<br />

sea and history to immerse yourself in. Originally built during the reign of Henry VIII,<br />

Walmer Castle became the official residence of the Lord Warden of the Cinque Ports in<br />

1708. A recent Lord Warden was HM Queen Elizabeth, the Queen Mother, and our visit<br />

will give you an intimate view of some of the rooms she used and of the garden created<br />

for her 95th birthday. Facilities include the Lord Warden’s Tearoom , audio guides and gift<br />

shop. If we have time, we may just make a final beach walk as the sun sets, before returning<br />

home with our memories of the day. Make a note in your diary of both dates now, and<br />

look out for further details in the Newsletter.<br />

Support Patrick!<br />

<strong>Parishioner</strong> Patrick Cusworth is taking part in the Dextro Energy Triathlon, which takes place<br />

on Saturday 24 July. He is running/cycling/swimming in aid of <strong>The</strong> Passage, which is the<br />

homeless drop-in centre based in Victoria, London and provides people living on the street<br />

with both immediate basic care plus the chance to make a new start in their lives. Over<br />

200 people use the day centre every day and its 48-bed hostel is filled every night. This<br />

charity relies heavily on voluntary contributions to survive and will benefit enormously from<br />

your support,<br />

You can donate online to support this fantastic charity by going to Patrick’s Just Giving<br />

page at: http://www.justgiving.com/Patrick-Cusworth It is completely safe to donate online<br />

- your details are secure and won’t be sent on to anyone, and you won’t get any unwanted<br />

emails. <strong>The</strong> moneyyou donate will be paid directly to <strong>The</strong> Passage, who will also receive<br />

the Gift Aid (assuming you are a UK taxpayer) - so as well as being easy for you, the charity<br />

also gets a bigger donation.<br />

So please dig deep and thanks in advance for your support!<br />

DIARY DATES<br />

Saturday 22nd May 2010<br />

Pashley Manor Gardens and afternoon<br />

visit to historic town of Rye<br />

Saturday <strong>18</strong>th September 2010<br />

Seaside town of Deal and afternoon<br />

excursion to Walmer Castle<br />

St. Francis<br />

Social Club<br />

<strong>The</strong> St. Francis Social club is<br />

now up and running and<br />

open to all parishioners. We<br />

meet for coffee at 10.30 am<br />

every second Monday in the<br />

Society Rooms, opposite the<br />

church. We have decided to<br />

meet for lunch every month<br />

at different venues in the<br />

town, or on a bus route from<br />

the town (lunches must be<br />

booked). We will be meeting<br />

to play ten-pin bowling once<br />

a month as well. Further<br />

activities are planned when<br />

the weather has improved -<br />

river trips etc. Programmes<br />

for each month will be published<br />

in the weekly newsletter<br />

and posted on the notice<br />

board in the porch. Further<br />

information from Mary on<br />

01622 677448<br />

12 Questions<br />

by Charlotte Sexton<br />

(Year 10 student at St. Simon Stock School)<br />

This is the second time I have written this column, and my aim is for<br />

readers to learn something new about the people in our parish who we<br />

all know. In this issue I have interviewed Mary Adam, who is well<br />

known and loved in our parish for her dedication to parish events, trips<br />

and much more.<br />

1) What was your main profession in life?<br />

I taught for most of my life at various schools, because we moved<br />

around a lot. I taught at St Francis’ Primary, St Simon Stock<br />

Secondary School, Sittingbourne Convent and in Gravesend also. I<br />

was originally senior trained but after a flu epidemic in Margate, I<br />

gained a certificate to teach all ages.<br />

2) Have you lived in Maidstone all your life?<br />

No, we lived in Folkestone until 1975, when we moved to<br />

Maidstone. <strong>The</strong> whole family lived in the one house and I was one<br />

of six children.<br />

3) What is your favourite country?<br />

Austria, because it is a beautiful country, we’ve spent many a<br />

happy family holiday there, and I have a lot of fond memories.<br />

4) What programmes do you most enjoy?<br />

I enjoy costume dramas. I also enjoy murder mysteries, for example,<br />

Inspector Morse.<br />

5) What is your favourite film and why?<br />

It’s an old film from 1965, Dr Zhivago. It’s an emotional love story,<br />

with a beautiful soundtrack.<br />

6) If you were allowed to have one last meal, what would it be?<br />

Poached salmon in a white wine sauce, with new potatoes, fresh<br />

vegetables, and large glass of white wine.<br />

7) What type of music do you most enjoy?<br />

My mood usually dictates the music I listen to. I enjoy classical<br />

music, for example and Enya. Though I have a compilation of<br />

music, for example, ‘<strong>The</strong> Best of that Loving Feeling’ and I’ll<br />

choose something from that which suits my mood. I love theatre<br />

music also, especially Les Miserables, which I have seen ten times.<br />

8) Is there any famous person you’d really like to meet?<br />

Dame Judy Dench. She is very talented and I have admired her for<br />

a long time and would like to see what she is like in person.<br />

9) If you were marooned on a desert island, apart from the bible, what<br />

book and luxury item would you have?<br />

If there were such a book entitled, ‘How to survive life on a desert<br />

island, without Marks and Spencer’ A state of the art BBQ would<br />

be helpful, or am I allowed to ask for a helicopter?<br />

10) Have you made any new years resolutions, and if so, would mind<br />

disclosing them?<br />

I shall endeavour. I am trying to reduce the size of the beam in my<br />

eye, and become less of a grumpy old lady.<br />

11) Of all the trips you have organised in the parish, what has been<br />

your favourite destination?<br />

Bruges - It is a beautiful and fascinating city. <strong>The</strong>re is always something<br />

going on. I’d like to spend a weekend there sometime.<br />

12) Finally, if you could have one wish granted, what would it be?<br />

A new parish hall, now.<br />

Please pray for the children are making<br />

their First Holy Communion in June 2010<br />

Bobbie-Jo Adams<br />

Debo Adeleke<br />

Liam Aldred<br />

Amelia Armstrong<br />

Phoebe Baker<br />

Rhys Baker<br />

Elliott Baker<br />

Offiong Bassey<br />

Thomas Bowden-Brown<br />

Katie Bray<br />

Katharine Brenton<br />

Elinor Burt<br />

Jessica Butler<br />

Joseph Carter<br />

Rudo Chakonda<br />

Lucy Coupland<br />

Maia Coveney<br />

Cameron Daniel<br />

Jake Darby<br />

Alice Doherty<br />

Kristel Dumaran<br />

Caitlin Dunne<br />

Agustin Fernandez<br />

Katherine Fuller<br />

Gian Gadia<br />

Giselle Gadia<br />

Lukasz Galanty<br />

Eve Marie Gallen<br />

Amelia Gibbs<br />

Emmanuel Godinez<br />

Jose Godinez<br />

Carlo Godinez<br />

Ailish Haran<br />

Joshua Hewetson<br />

Ruben Heyse<br />

Bethany Hill<br />

Megan Holliday<br />

Jermaine Iffie<br />

Zhazha Iniba<br />

Stephanie Jackson<br />

Adrian Khoo<br />

James Kiely<br />

Faith Kilminster<br />

Joshua Ladlow<br />

Harry Lewis<br />

Molly Leyden-Mount<br />

Jakub Litwinski<br />

Megan Long<br />

Katie Manser<br />

Salomea McElroy<br />

Mariola McElroy<br />

Elise McGovern<br />

Marie Menoza ana Patricia<br />

Molina<br />

Adrian Molina<br />

Grace O’Halloran<br />

Luke O’Halloran<br />

Julia Pinkos<br />

Samuel Proyer<br />

Kamil Przybylski<br />

Jacob Seager<br />

Francis Sexton<br />

Sylvain Sourdat<br />

Ellie Tomlin<br />

Eloise Walsh<br />

Kieran Warner<br />

Brendan Washford<br />

Daniel West<br />

Thomas Whitbread<br />

Molly Woollett<br />

<strong>The</strong> following children are<br />

on the programme but will<br />

receive Frst Communion in<br />

Poland<br />

Patryk Ladniak<br />

Izabela Ladniak<br />

Mateusz Barcikowski<br />

Natalia Kobuszewska<br />

Nikola Kolebska<br />

Removed from the programme<br />

to Ashford<br />

Bartosz Woch<br />

Anti-Catholicism may come back to haunt Labour for years<br />

Patrick Cusworth.<br />

Political Consultant<br />

Music<br />

by Janet Norfolk<br />

Listen to the lapping of the lake,<br />

<strong>The</strong> dripping and the dropping of the rain;<br />

Music in the silence - music in the breeze,<br />

And music in the singing of the trees.<br />

<strong>The</strong>re s laughter too, in music of the brook;<br />

Rippling, poppling under mossy banks.<br />

Guggling and gurgling as it rushes by;<br />

Music for the dancing dragonfly.<br />

Music in fountains, splashing in the pool,<br />

In gushing torrents, streams and waterfalls;<br />

So listen to the music to be found<br />

In all of Nature s orchestra of sound.<br />

With a General Election due to<br />

be called any day now, the<br />

main political parties have<br />

begun to engage with individual voting<br />

groups. Of these, the Labour Party’s traditional<br />

support base amongst working<br />

class Catholics, particularly those in<br />

North West England, would previously<br />

have been considered comparatively safe<br />

- until now.<br />

Despite Alastair Campbell’s line that<br />

“We don’t do God”, the Blair<br />

Government maintained an ability to pass<br />

controversial legislation while respecting<br />

the beliefs of the religious - or at least<br />

without attracting excessive criticism<br />

from faith groups. Since 2005 however,<br />

Labour’s apparent paranoia regarding<br />

certain religious beliefs, has caused many<br />

grassroots Catholics to think twice about<br />

supporting Labour in 2010. Most recently,<br />

the apparent unwillingness of the<br />

Labour hierarchy to distance the Party<br />

from comments such as that by Labour<br />

councillor Tim Cheetham, who described<br />

Catholic pilgrims visiting the relics of St.<br />

<strong>The</strong>rese of Lisieux as “slobbering<br />

zealots”, caused dismay amongst commentators<br />

(as well as presenting the<br />

opportunity for Conservative<br />

Parliamentary candidate Louise<br />

Bagshawe, a practicing Catholic, to neatly<br />

conclude: “Labour’s anti-Catholicism<br />

is breathtaking sometimes”). A similar<br />

comment piece published by the Labour<br />

magazine Tribune accused the same pilgrims<br />

of being “sad,<br />

lonely and desperate”,<br />

before going on to<br />

describe religious belief<br />

as a “mumbo-jumbo<br />

dogma called faith”.<br />

Petty insults certainly,<br />

yet Catholics may find it<br />

easier to laugh off such<br />

comments if Tribune did<br />

not continue to enjoy<br />

Labour’s patronage in<br />

the form of a regular column written by<br />

Children’s Minister Ed Balls.<br />

When Catholics come to reconsider<br />

their voting options at the forthcoming<br />

General Election, many will cast their<br />

minds back to the debates on both the<br />

Human Fertilisation and Embryology Bill<br />

and implementation of the Sexual<br />

Orientation Regulations concerning gay<br />

adoption - yet the central point that may<br />

stick in the minds of the faithful was not<br />

that the Government ignored the beliefs<br />

of five million of its citizens but rather<br />

the manner in which the Church’s opposition<br />

was subjected to accusations of discrimination,<br />

bigotry and homophobia. In<br />

addition to the reaction by the<br />

Government and its press machine over<br />

the above issues, the manner in which<br />

various accusations regarding Ruth<br />

Kelly’s religious faith have been allowed<br />

to fester unchecked may lead many<br />

Catholics to question whether Labour<br />

remains their true political home. In one<br />

☺<strong>The</strong> school inspector asked a class; “Who blew<br />

down the walls of Jericho?” One of the pupils, a<br />

lad called Billy Green, replied promptly; “Please,<br />

Sir, it wasn’t me.” <strong>The</strong> inspector was amazed by<br />

this show of ignorance and brought up the matter in the<br />

headmaster’s study at the end of his visit. “Do you know? “<br />

he said, “I asked the class who blew down the walls of<br />

Jericho and young Billy Green said it wasn’t him.” <strong>The</strong> headmaster<br />

said: “Billy Green, eh?” Well. I must say that I’ve<br />

always found the lad to be honest and trustworthy and if he<br />

says that it wasn’t him, then it wasn’t him!” <strong>The</strong> inspector left<br />

the school without further comment, but lost no time reporting<br />

the full sequence of events to the Ministry of Education.<br />

In due course he received the following reply:<br />

Dear Sir,<br />

Reference the walls of Jericho. This is a matter for the<br />

Ministry of Works and your letter has been sent to them for<br />

their attention.<br />

such example, Labour<br />

MEP Mary Honeyball<br />

suggested that Catholics<br />

such as Ms Kelly should<br />

be restricted from holding<br />

certain public<br />

offices, before going on<br />

to accuse Catholics of<br />

holding a “vice-like grip<br />

across Europe” and of<br />

“interfering in the democratic<br />

process”. <strong>The</strong><br />

subsequent debates - during which no<br />

senior Labour figure saw fit to admonish<br />

Honeyball, much less raise the issue of<br />

her own fitness to represent Catholics in<br />

her London constituency - were followed<br />

by the resignation of Conor McGinn,<br />

Vice-Chair of Young Labour, who<br />

claimed he was impelled to resign due<br />

Labour’s “ingrained” anti-Catholicism.<br />

As he argued in his resignation letter,<br />

Honeyball et al. “are in effect, questioning<br />

the loyalty of Catholics and using<br />

Guy Fawkes-era language. This type of<br />

sectarian diatribe makes me wonder<br />

whether a prejudice that we all thought<br />

was long consigned to the past is slowly<br />

re-emerging”.<br />

One Labour MP who does not take<br />

lightly the support of Catholics is former<br />

Deputy Leadership contender John<br />

Cruddas, who commented that: “Those<br />

behind the attacks fail to understand the<br />

strength of the Catholic constituency - not<br />

just voters backing Labour, but also<br />

My mother Rita Emerson was born on 21st February<br />

1921 in Southfields, Wandsworth. Her<br />

family lived in Wandsworth throughout<br />

the Blitz and Mum always said her early adult<br />

life was difficult in World War II. <strong>The</strong> legacy<br />

of the bombs and anti-aircraft guns contributed<br />

largely to her increasing deafness<br />

later in life. She worked as a legal secretary<br />

and then a dispensing optician and there<br />

was little she did not know about eyes.<br />

My mother married my father Eric<br />

Emerson in 1949 and both converted to<br />

Catholicism before marrying, something that<br />

surprised their families, but they never regretted<br />

it and both found great comfort and support. Mum<br />

would relay the story of the curate at St Raphael’s Church<br />

Surbiton coming to the house to give her religious instruction,<br />

when she was preparing for her confirmation, and the alsatian<br />

dog almost bowling him over. Fr Timothy Nolan passed away<br />

in late 2008 but had kept in touch with the family all those<br />

years. After a few years in Leicestershire, in 1966 the family<br />

moved to Maidstone and Boxley Road. <strong>The</strong> Convent of the<br />

Sacred Heart was one reason for coming to Maidstone, as well<br />

as it being within commutable distance of London where Dad<br />

worked.<br />

While I attended the convent school the family were<br />

involved with the summer fetes and events and even one year<br />

saved the day by lending a reel to reel tape recorder to play out<br />

the music for some of the pupil dancing displays. Maria was a<br />

classroom assistant for 3 to 4 years with Sister Mary Paul until<br />

1970. In 1976 Mum’s only brother passed away suddenly and<br />

Mum quickly decided to take her own mother into the family<br />

home and looked after until she passed away in 1981, aged 94.<br />

Sadness struck the family again when in July 1987 Maria<br />

passed away aged 37 of cancer and just a few days later my<br />

father was told he too had cancer and he passed away in May<br />

the following year. All the family friends wondered how Mum<br />

and I would cope, but she said, “We have to look after each<br />

other now”, something we did for 21 years. Even in the last<br />

few months of her life, Mum would be doing jobs around thehouse<br />

and said, “ I can’t do much now but I do what I can.”<br />

among activists, unions and MPs”.<br />

Despite Cruddas’ warning however, the<br />

manner in which Labour has been seen to<br />

take this core base for granted has led to<br />

many Catholics now viewing Labour as<br />

the new ‘nasty Party’ where matters of<br />

faith are concerned. It is for this reason<br />

that Catholics may perhaps look very<br />

seriously at transferring their support, or<br />

at the very least, denying their votes to<br />

Labour where it matters. For example the<br />

result of last year’s Glasgow East byelection<br />

demonstrated the extent to which<br />

Catholics who were previously dye-inthe-wool-Labour<br />

supporters clearly<br />

became more flexible in their voting.<br />

Such flexibility combined with immigration<br />

steadily increasing from prominently<br />

Catholic EU countries may yet result in a<br />

situation where both main parties find<br />

themselves increasingly dependent upon<br />

Catholic support, whether tacit or otherwise.<br />

(c) Patrick Cusworth<br />

In Memory of my Mother Rita Betty Emerson<br />

1921 to 2000<br />

Margaret Emerson<br />

Reflection<br />

Happy are you when people hate you,<br />

reject you, insult you and say that you<br />

are evil, all because of the Son of Man!<br />

Be glad when that happens, and<br />

dance with joy, because a great reward<br />

is kept for you in heaven.<br />

Luke 6 22-23<br />

We got on well and on my days off Mum always liked to do<br />

something we could share, such as gardening or helping<br />

me to sort my stamps into types, or she would be sitting<br />

reading a magazine or knitting often with a<br />

cat on her lap, which invariably meant not much<br />

knitting or reading took place, while I was busy<br />

doing something else, such as letter writing<br />

or study assignments.<br />

Mum had become more frail and had<br />

been largely been housebound in the last couple<br />

of years so had not been able to attend St<br />

Francis’ Church but a private faith remained.<br />

She may not have been involved in church groups,<br />

although my father was a reader for a few years, but<br />

she would always give good counsel to those she met<br />

and I think it would be true to say that her vocation in life was<br />

60 years as a housewife. One of her philosophies in life was<br />

that a mother’s place was at home with her children and so it<br />

was no surprise that she had given up paid work before Maria<br />

was born. No matter who Mum spoke to, the postman, a<br />

friend, neighbour or professional person, they normally left<br />

her with a smile and had shared her laughter and sense of fun.<br />

All those who met her and knew her well can remember her<br />

smile, laughter and humour which stayed despite her lack of<br />

mobility and obvious pain at times. “<strong>The</strong>re is no point in being<br />

miserable” she would say and lived very much for the day<br />

,telling anybody who was fretting unduly about something<br />

that might happen in the future, “We have to get there first”.<br />

She had a long, happy life and God answered her prayer that<br />

she did not totally lose her sight or any of mental faculties in<br />

her later years, although there was a sense of frustration when<br />

she found there was something she could not manage and<br />

needed to ask for help. <strong>The</strong>re may be an extra empty seat in<br />

the pew at St Francis’ Church but her memory lives on in the<br />

lives of those she touched. I hope she would have been pleased<br />

this Christmas that I cooked a festive lunch for myself without<br />

her watchful eye beside me, although she had been a good<br />

teacher, and the Christmas trifle turned out well too and<br />

would, I think, have passed muster.<br />

Rest in peace Mum with Dad and Maria.<br />

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