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Goals: to not care if people like or want you, to not compare yourself to
others, to express your individuality
Manifestation:
Those of us with the Black Moon in Gemini are morbidly afraid of
rejection. We are people pleasers, which often leaves us wondering what
it is we ourselves like and dislike. This shadow manifests as a need to
make decisions or act in accordance with whatever gains acceptance from
others. It is damaging to the soul to pursue a life that others wish for us,
as it comes at the expense of the expression of individual talents. Action
based on or motivated by another leads to a suppression of the true self.
It is a great disservice not to explore who we really are. It is also
dangerous to “over-do” for others in hopes that they will like us;
ultimately it leads to burn out. At the other end of the spectrum, this
placement causes sudden and severe reactions to anything that hints at
potential rejection, often causing serious challenges with relationships
because we will reject someone before they can reject us. The Black
Moon in Gemini will bail out too early or stay way too long.
Healing and Transcending:
With the Black Moon in Gemini, it is necessary to face the need for
others‟ approval. Each of us has something special to offer the world.
What is important is not if others approve of us, but if we approve of
ourselves. That sounds very cliché, but with Black Moon in Gemini we
need to provide our own approval. When you are able to consciously put yourself
on the line to be rejected, intending that the outcome will not hinder your spirit, you will
have regained the power that is trapped in the shadow side. When the shadow is
healed, rejection ceases to be an issue because inner acceptance has been
achieved - creating a wealth of talent that is available to the world.
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Examine where you are not being self-“ish” or operating
from your true self.
When making decisions and planning your time and
resources, ask yourself who you are doing it for. The answer
should always be “for myself – for my highest and best which
in turn serves the highest and best of everyone.” This
doesn‟t mean you are supposed to forget about others; it
means that you put yourself into the equation. Healing this
shadow requires vigilant monitoring of your time, energy, and
money and how you spend them. It will quickly become
apparent when your energy is scattered and whose approval
you are seeking. By practicing making little decisions based
on your own needs, you will integrate and balance you in
relation to others.
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