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All about Alumnitop photo: Courtesy <strong>of</strong> Bishari Films 2010, BoTTom photo: courtesy <strong>of</strong> Thomas Allen publishersCrimes Against WomenShelley Saywell explores so-called“honour killings” in her new filmThe girl wouldn’t wear the hijab; her father couldn’t bear thefeeling that he was losing control <strong>of</strong> her. A sensational murder.The cameras flash, the daily reporters meet their deadlines byfiling timely stories. But then they shift focus to the next day’sitem. Filmmaker Shelley Saywell (BA 1977 Woodsworth) hasmade a career <strong>of</strong> documenting what happens after the mainstreammedia moves on. For her celebrated 1997 film, Kim’s Story:The Road from Vietnam, she tracked down the girl shown runningnaked from a napalm attack in perhaps the most famous newsphotograph from the Vietnam War.Her latest film, In the Name <strong>of</strong> the Family, looks at so-calledhonour killings – including that <strong>of</strong> Aqsa Parvez, a MississaugaLearning toLet GoIn Marni Jackson’s newbook, Home Free: TheMyth <strong>of</strong> the Empty Nest(Thomas Allen Publishers),she contrasts her parents’ supportive but distantchild-rearing attitude with her own hands-onstyle. “The book explores how we went from thegeneration gap to this more fused kind <strong>of</strong> family,”she says. Speaking on the phone from her<strong>Toronto</strong> home, Jackson recalls bumming aroundEurope in her 20s, even living in a cave inGreece with a boyfriend, and hardly ever touchingbase with her folks. However, when her adultson takes <strong>of</strong>f on a hitchhiking tour <strong>of</strong> the AmericanSouthwest and Central America, she finds itemotionally difficult to be separated from him.Jackson’s publisher had asked her if shewanted to do a sequel to The Mother Zone, her1992 bestselling memoir about being an older firsttimemom. “I chuckled and said, ‘that’s hilarious,’because my son is now 24. But then I went, ‘waita minute, I’m still on the job here and he’s verymuch in my thoughts.’” She argues that theremust be some middle ground between excessivedetachment – as her mother lies dying, shelaments the emotional gap between the two – andexcessive involvement. “There’s more intimacynow [between parents and children] than therewas in my day, and that’s a good thing. But the jobis on the parental side – letting go.” – Alec Scottteen whose father and brother were recently convicted in herdeath. Saywell convinced an extraordinary variety <strong>of</strong> people totalk to her for this film, the winner <strong>of</strong> the Best Canadian Featureat this year’s Hot Docs festival. The interviews lend colour andnuance to the stories we’ve read about in black and white. Wehear the disturbing tale <strong>of</strong> a taxi-driving fatherwho follows his daughter everywhere in hiscar to see what she’s wearing and who herfriends are; we watch a mother talking andweeping near the graves <strong>of</strong> her two teenageddaughters, killed by her longtime husbandand their father.The film has no narrator; rather, the storyis told primarily through the girls who areliving this dual existence. It pr<strong>of</strong>iles theirextraordinary courage as they struggle t<strong>of</strong>ind a way to participate fully in the rituals<strong>of</strong> North American teen life, without utterlydisappointing the families they love. Thestory <strong>of</strong> a brother and sister, both Afghanimmigrants to the U.S., illustrates howintractable the problem can be. The brotherstabbed his sister 11 times – because she hadthe gall to suggest she wanted to move to New York for a summerjob, “without permission.” He speaks from behind barsat Attica, and is unrepentant: “She destroyed my family. If shedid listen to me, I wouldn’t be here.” The sister who somehowsurvived the multiple stabbings, tells her chilling accountcalmly. “He is stabbing me, and saying, ‘I am Muslim, I amgoing to kill you.’ And I am thinking, ‘Islam does not allowpeople to hurt an ant, how could you kill your own sister?’”– Alec ScottIn the Name <strong>of</strong> the Family will premiere soon on CTV.Visit www.magazine.utoronto.ca for an air date.autumn 2010 47