<strong>The</strong>widow’smightPastor Keith Blakeof Tulsa, Oklahoma,declares confidentlythat the first comprehensiveministryestablished by theearly church wasdesigned primarily to meet the needsof widows (Acts 6). He asks whychurches today have not kept up aconscious, directed effort to do thesame in the 21st century.That question prompted Keith tobegin the Widow’s Might for the 21stCentury, a ministry to address theneeds of the widowed. While thereare large stores of material andresources for specialized ministriesof nearly every sort, churches andpastors will not find many resourcesto begin a ministry to the widowed intheir churches and communities willnot find much. To correct that omission,Keith has designed a way forlocal churches to not only meet theirobligation to the widowed in theircongregations, but for communityoutreach as well.Keith has written a book, anexcerpt of which is printed here, andhe has a website for more help andinformation, www.widowsmight21st.com. <strong>The</strong> <strong>Tribune</strong> is pleased tocommend this worthy ministry tochurches and pastors who want tofulfill an ancient biblical obligation.Excerpt from Chapter 8: Training an Elite Force for MinistryWhen one allows his mind to focus on theterm “Elite Force,” most likely his thoughtwill go to the armed services; the Marines, theNavy Seals, the Green Berets, the Blue Angels.Every branch of the armed forces has their specialteams who are recognized for their intensetraining and combat readiness. <strong>The</strong>se teamshave been trained, tested and prepared to anunbelievable level in readiness for the ultimateon the field of engagement. <strong>The</strong>ir physical,mental, emotional, survival, and sensory skillshave been “honed” almost beyond our imagination.In the process of their training they areconfronted with most every known situation towhich they could be exposed during a mission.Besides the “known” threats and foreseeablechallenges, there has been developed in theman awareness and capability to devise a planto deal with the unsuspected and unforeseendevelopments they may confront in the act offulfilling their ordered mission. Only whenthey have been “battle tested” does the fullmagnitude of their conditioning show its valueby allowing them to survive and face their nextobjective in victory.<strong>The</strong>re are multiplied thousands of peoplein every community and in every country inthis world who have experienced the most12 | <strong>Baptist</strong> <strong>Bible</strong> <strong>Tribune</strong> | February 2010
dramatic and potentially devastating battlein life, the “event” that made them a widowor widower. I stated previously that I believethat losing a spouse is the most devastatingexperience a man or woman will ever face. Noamount of reading, discussion, and advancedpreparation or, in cases of lengthy illness, thesad reality of their impending loss, can preparea person for that loss. One Texas lady stated,“This is not something you would ever chooseto go through yourself and you would neverwish it on another human being, ever.” Thislady wrote me a 22-page letter when she heardof my desire to begin this writing.Since no two scenarios are even close tobeing similar, it would not be possible, or evenwise, to try to approach clinically listing thestages in the procedures to follow in dealingwith widowhood. Since no two relationshipsmirror each other, the only common ground isthat they have lost a spouse in death. That commonthread is the only “level ground” you willfind as you approach the reality of a “Widow’sMight” ministry.One of the most unique characteristicsof the Widow’s Might ministry is that it canbecome totally self-sufficient. Granted, theremust first be a pastor, church, or senior groupwho will embrace with compassion the thousandsof people from every walk of life who arewidows. <strong>The</strong>n, the logical steps of providing theplace and an open heart and mind as to how tobest proceed in your family, church, or communitycome next. <strong>The</strong> next step is unique tothe beginning of most new ministry endeavorsbecause the staff, counselors, teachers, mentors,etc., are within the widows and widowersthemselves. In a church setting the pastor,deacons, and facilities are absolutely necessaryto ensure the proper guidance in counselfor the establishment and maintenance of thisministry.Often the most credible helpers as far as awidow is concerned are those, probably withinour own number, who with some degree ofsuccess, have and are navigating these watersthemselves. Sometimes the person who firstcrosses our mind when we think of widowhoodwill be the most recently widowed person weknow. Our heart goes out to them and we areovercome by our desire to help and comfortthem. While there is no substitute for theinvolvement of the pastor, church family andgenuinely close personal friends, real long termhelp will best be realized in people who passedthrough this experience themselves.How many times have I heard a widowsay about someone who has just had a loss, “Ireally hope someone will tell them, warn themor help them with the things they’re about toface.” My response is, “Well, why don’t you dothat, since the Lord has surely put that personon your heart, he must want you to take an activepart.” In the absence of a directed ministry,designed with situations like this in mind, theircomeback is, “But I wouldn’t want to intrudeinto his or her space at this time.” Timing is asensitive subject when dealing with hurtinghearts and yet the same Holy Spirit that ministersto hearts in regards to salvation is certainlycapable of leading and opening opportunitiesfor a sincerely interested friend. Enough said.No one will ever understand or be betterqualified or better received than someonewho has experienced the same loss. While thiswriter is not experienced here, and hope I willnot be for a very long time, I have noticed inalmost every attempt to minister to those whohave lost someone, there is a very real “gap” inmy ability to sympathize with a widow. I havealready shared my misuse of the phrase, “Iknow how you must feel,” in a previous chapter.As a 23-year-young pastor in the early seventies,God gave me a ministry changing realization: Idid not need to know everything about everything.I could “hand off” that vital operationto those much better equipped and qualifiedthan I was, and in the process gain the highestdegree of respect and love by both sides of thatequation. What I found out as a very youngpastor, was that “right under my nose” God hadgiven me people who have been trained in thetrenches of life, who could better minister toothers and be able to realize some “purpose”from their own loss.While gathering material and composingthis writing, I was talking to a successful businessmanwho shared that years before whenfaced with his loss, “I did everything wrong, Ijust went crazy. I was so angry I went with thewrong crowd, tried to find answers in a bottleand nearly died myself before someone whoreally cared ‘threw me a rope.’” You see, evensomeone who made major mistakes in howthey dealt with their grief can become a very effectivewarning sign for someone else. I can tellyou this man allowed God to gain victory in hislife and now years later is a very effective forcefor good in the ministry of the gospel.This chapter division, “Preparing an EliteForce for Ministry,” is the crescendo we havebeen looking for in this writing. 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