stricture, you <strong>do</strong> not need a "Hatarah." If you have a strong desire <strong>to</strong> clean a lot, youdeserve a bless<strong>in</strong>g, especially for <strong>Pesach</strong>, "whoever is strict deserves a bless<strong>in</strong>g." Youshould not, however, force a stricture on <strong>your</strong>self, but accept it with love.SummaryIn light of what is written above, it should take about an hour for the d<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g room,two-three hours <strong>to</strong> kasher the kitchen, and another hour <strong>to</strong> clean the rest of the house.In short, about one day!All the rest of the clean<strong>in</strong>g jobs are either strictures or just made up. When we workhard, we use up our energy and get mad at the kids. You have <strong>to</strong> educate the kids --but not <strong>to</strong> educate them <strong>to</strong> be aggravated: "I <strong>to</strong>ld you not <strong>to</strong> go <strong>in</strong><strong>to</strong> this roomanymore! Why did you go <strong>in</strong>?! Eat on the porch! Eat stand<strong>in</strong>g up! Don't <strong>to</strong>uch!" Thewhole kitchen looks like it was overturned by vandals; the husband and kids aretrembl<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> fear <strong>in</strong> some corner and eat<strong>in</strong>g; the mother looks at them like a drillsergeant; there's anger between husband and wife. This is preparation for <strong>Pesach</strong>?!This is educat<strong>in</strong>g the kids? This is def<strong>in</strong>itely not sett<strong>in</strong>g a positive example! Ourmemories of <strong>Pesach</strong> should not be of a reign of terror.If you clean <strong>to</strong>gether with the kids, that is great, but it must be a happyadventure. First of all, you have <strong>to</strong> clean what you must – tak<strong>in</strong>g half a day – andafter that if you want <strong>to</strong> <strong>do</strong> other th<strong>in</strong>gs, you can clean with happ<strong>in</strong>ess and joy. Clean,s<strong>in</strong>g, pour water and "you will clean with joy from the wellspr<strong>in</strong>gs of salvation"(based on Yeshayahu 12:3).The Rama rules <strong>in</strong> the Shulchan Aruch writes: "Every person should sweep his roombefore Bedikat Chametz, and check his pockets for chametz, and the pockets or cuffswhere you sometimes put chametz also need <strong>to</strong> be checked" (Orach Chaim 433:11)The Mishnah Berurah (#46) adds: "It is the cus<strong>to</strong>m <strong>to</strong> sweep the whole house onthirteenth of Nisan, so that it will be ready <strong>to</strong> check immediately after nightfall on thefourteenth." This cus<strong>to</strong>m is enough. Beyond that, "whoever is strict deserves abless<strong>in</strong>g" -- as far as <strong>Pesach</strong> goes, but not as far as the kids go.
It is unders<strong>to</strong>od that I am not forc<strong>in</strong>g my op<strong>in</strong>ion on anyone. I am simply stat<strong>in</strong>g myhumble op<strong>in</strong>ion with explanations. Whoever accepts the explanations will listen andwhoever <strong>do</strong>es not accept them will not. I heard most of the practical suggestionsabout how <strong>to</strong> shorten the clean<strong>in</strong>g from women themselves. It is possible that awoman has a strong desire not <strong>to</strong> shorten this work, and just the opposite, she f<strong>in</strong>dsjoy <strong>in</strong> it. That is okay. Even she will benefit from all of the above, because she willnot feel pressured that she might violate the Halachah, but rather she will clean withsatisfaction and tranquility.The essential po<strong>in</strong>t is the dist<strong>in</strong>ction between chametz, which there is an obligation <strong>to</strong>clean with all the severity of the Halachah, and dirt – which should obviously beremoved, but not necessarily before <strong>Pesach</strong>. You can spread out the work ofremov<strong>in</strong>g dirt over the whole year, so that we and our families <strong>do</strong> not suffer before<strong>Pesach</strong>. I am not advocat<strong>in</strong>g poor housekeep<strong>in</strong>g. We should stand before chametzwith awe and fear, but not all dirt is chametz. Do not treat chametz cavalierly, G-dforbid, but at the same time, not everyth<strong>in</strong>g that is accepted as <strong>Pesach</strong> clean<strong>in</strong>g isdirected at chametz.Have a kosher and happy <strong>Pesach</strong>. We should ensure that we have a HAPPY <strong>Pesach</strong>and a KOSHER Purim. We should arrive at the Seder night neither tired nor ach<strong>in</strong>gbut happy, so that this night will be a powerful experience for the kids, and a greatsource of faith <strong>in</strong> Hashem, the Redeemer of Israel."Dirt is not chametz and children are not the <strong>Pesach</strong> sacrifice!"