Final Rites [11292012] - AlHuda Sisters

5. The Sunnah is that the relatives and the neighbors make food for the family of the deceased; this is based on the Hadith narrated by ‘Abdullah bin Ja’far (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: ”When the news of Ja’far’s death came, Allah’s Messenger said: ’Prepare food for Ja’far’s family, for they have heard (received) something that preoccupies them.’” (Abu Dawud, At-­‐Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah, Ahmed, Al-­‐Hakim, Al-­‐Baihaqi) Narrated ‘Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) that whenever one of her relatives died, the women assembled and then dispersed (returned to their houses) except her relatives and close friends. She would order that a pot of Talbina be cooked. Then Tharid, (a dish prepared from meat and bread) would be prepared and the Talbina would be poured on it. ‘Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) would say (to the women): “Eat of it, for I have heard Allah’s Messenger saying, "The Talbina soothes the heart of the patient and relieves him from some of his sadness (by giving rest and comfort).” (Al-­‐Bukhari) 6. It is recommended to wipe over the head of the orphans and honor them. It is reported by ‘Abdullah bin Ja’far (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet wiped over his head three times and every time he wiped, he said: "O Allah! Make the children of Ja’far his success.“ (Ahmed, Al-­‐Hakim, Al-­‐Baihaqi) Innovations to be Avoided1. Commemorating the first, third, seventh and 40 th day following someone’s death and on the first anniversary. 2. Reciting the Qur’an and dedicating the reward to the dead person (Khatmah). 3. Avoiding the celebration of ‘Eid because of a death in the family. Refusing to visit people on ‘Eid for the same reason. 4. Visiting the graves of one’s parents every Jumu’ah (Friday). 5. Visiting the graves specifically every ‘Eid, or in the month of Rajab, Sha’ban or Ramadan. Source: Funeral Rites and Innovation by Shaikh al-­‐Albani -­‐ 15 -­‐