Breastfeeding - Mandy Mazliah
Breastfeeding - Mandy Mazliah
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Culture<br />
What Mothers Do - book review<br />
Sophie Broadbent reviews<br />
What Mothers Do by Naomi<br />
Stadlen<br />
‘The best book on parenting –<br />
brilliantly insightful’ – Guardian<br />
‘Naomi Stadlen writes with<br />
understanding, deep insight and<br />
humour’ – Sheila Kitzinger, Childbirth<br />
Educator, Mother.<br />
Website for background, events and<br />
opportunities to meet the author:<br />
www.naomistadlen.com<br />
This book totally changed the way<br />
I think about being a mother. It<br />
made me feel proud of the everyday<br />
work I’m doing ‘just’ being a mum,<br />
and it helped me understand how<br />
important the little things I naturally<br />
do are to my baby. As a new mum<br />
I’m constantly searching for ‘the<br />
answer’ to so many things, and this<br />
incredibly reassuring and thoughtprovoking<br />
book holds all I really<br />
need to know – that the small things<br />
that I do are worthwhile, that it’s ok<br />
to be overwhelmed by becoming<br />
a new mum, that other women<br />
experience similar things to me,<br />
and listening to my individual baby<br />
will give me the key to a fulfilled<br />
and happy relationship with her.<br />
Mostly, it’s given me confidence and<br />
made me feel like a good mum. It’s<br />
released me from the pressure of<br />
worrying about what I ‘should’ be<br />
doing, and allowed me to feel proud<br />
of what I’m actually doing as the<br />
unique parent to a unique child.<br />
My copy was calmly lent to me with<br />
a knowing look and a glowing review<br />
by a neighbour and mum of a 14<br />
month old boy when my daughter<br />
was newborn, but although I was<br />
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ploughing through huge epics like<br />
‘Gone With the Wind’ while feeding<br />
her in her early months, I’ve always<br />
preferred story-led books to factual<br />
ones and didn’t pick this up to read<br />
until she was 9 months old. I wish<br />
I’d done so sooner! It’s not a factual<br />
book – it’s more like listening in on<br />
a conversation. Any time is good to<br />
read this amazing, inspiring insight<br />
into the realities of moving from the<br />
world of full-time work to becoming<br />
a new parent for the first time – and<br />
all of the new experiences and<br />
questions that brings.<br />
Naomi is a mother of three and<br />
a grandmother of two. She is a<br />
psychotherapist and breastfeeding<br />
counsellor and published this book<br />
in 2004. It is made up of quotations<br />
from dialogues with new mums<br />
she has met during her years as a<br />
counsellor, grouped into chapters<br />
with titles like ‘Nothing prepares<br />
you’ and ‘So tired I could die’ – both<br />
of which are feelings I recognise!<br />
Naomi explains her thoughts on<br />
the emerging themes drawing<br />
similarities between mothers’<br />
comments, and offering thoughts<br />
and explanations of the cultural<br />
background of issues and why new<br />
mothers may feel the way they do.<br />
Most of the mums Naomi’s worked<br />
with live in London and came<br />
straight from a full-time career into<br />
parenting for the first time. Because<br />
they’ve been working, they’ve had<br />
very little intensive contact with<br />
babies until they had their own<br />
and although most of my family<br />
and friends have children, I fall<br />
into this category too. Naomi made<br />
me realise why - even though I did<br />
what I could to prepare by going to<br />
antenatal classes and speaking to<br />
friends - I experienced such a sense<br />
of shock at the birth of my first child.<br />
She’s shown me how I can feel<br />
proud of the time I’m spending with<br />
her now – and how valuable my dayto-day<br />
mothering is to my child ‘even<br />
when it looks like nothing’.<br />
It’s impossible to impart all of this<br />
book’s wisdom in this short review,<br />
but I’m certain that everyone who<br />
reads it will take something different<br />
and empowering away with them.<br />
Now when I’m in the supermarket<br />
I stand proud and say to myself<br />
“I’m not just shopping here today,<br />
I’m teaching my child about the<br />
world around her – no matter how<br />
mundane it may feel to me or appear<br />
to others”. And when people at work<br />
ask me what I’ve been doing for the<br />
last few months I won’t say “I’ve just<br />
been at home with my baby” – I’ll<br />
say “I’ve been mothering my child<br />
and working hard for every second<br />
of the day and night bringing up a<br />
new person in our world”. Thank you<br />
Naomi.