Palisades-News-May-6-2015-

Page 6 Palisades News May 6, 2015HeardAbout TownBees Belong HereBees should be in our community.Cities throughout the United States includingNew York and San Francisco havesuccessfully and without significant problemsallowed beekeeping by residents.Helping bees is essential as they are facingserious colony collapse, which will affectour food supply. We in the Palisades claimto care for the environment and this is awonderful, fun and meaningful way to enhanceour gardens and the environment.No Left Turn on MaberyThere is no left turn from the OceanAvenue Extension onto Mabery. Violationsare subject to a $240 fine and, becausethe ticket pertains to a movingviolation, will add points on your licenseand can increase your auto insurance premiums.The intersection is under 24-hourvideo and clips will be shared with LAPD.Veteran Hard Luck StoryI just heard that the veteran Shane Parrish(in the story, April 30 “Veteran Toldto Leave the VA”), whose trailer at the golfcourse was seized by the West L.A. VApolice, found out his trailer had beenmoved from the golf course to a site nextto the Jackie Robinson ball park. He immediatelywent and claimed some of hisbelongings, but when he went back onApril 27 to retrieve the rest of his personalitems, the tow company had soldtrailer and it was gone. Someone reallyneeds to find out what’s going on at theV.A. Doesn’t sound good to me.No Paper DeliveryI look forward to receiving your paper,but it didn’t come on April 15, insteadit came out on Friday, April 17.(Editor’s note: We’re sorry that it was delayedcoming to your mailbox. Since thepaper is not delivered first class, the Post officecan decide if they want to hold it a fewdays before delivering. Hard copies are alwaysavailable the first and third Wednesdayof the month at the Palisades Library,Chamber of Commerce Office, Patrick’sRoad House, Ronny’s Market, Pharmacaand 15 other locations around town. Thecomplete edition is also available online atpalisadesnews.com.)Tree-Trimming Thank YouWe appreciate that the City had a largetree-trimming crew working in the Alphabetstreets this week (April 27 onward).They pruned some tall trees that reallyneeded work, and they identified severaldead trees that will be removed. I hopethe City can afford to send the crew toevery neighborhood in the Palisades.———————If you’d like to share something you’ve“heard about town,” please email it tospascoe@palisadesnews.comANN CLEAVESHelping Children with ConsequencesBy BARBARA RUTH WILLIAMSSpecial to the Palisades NewsParents today are much more involved intheir children’s lives than were parents ageneration or two ago. The good newsabout this is that parents know more abouttheir children, spend more time with themand give more thought to how they treatthem. The bad news is that many childrentoday are unable to pick themselves up whenthey fall—both literally and figuratively.No one will go through life never making amistake, always getting the job they want andhaving everyone they like, like them back. Butif the lesson they learn when they are young isthat it is never their fault when somethinggoes wrong, that mom or dad will “fix” thingsif they get the “wrong” teacher or someone ismean to them, then they will have no skills todeal with adult issues like losing a job or havingtheir heart broken.Some of how your children will deal withlife is genetic—they are more optimistic orpessimistic by nature, they approach newthings with timidity or abandon depending onthe cards they were dealt. But you make a bigdifference in how they ultimately respond todisappointment. There are so many things yourchildren learn when things go wrong, but if youfix it, they learn an entirely different lessonfrom the ones they might learn if you don’t.If you replace the clothes and toys that arelost or broken, your children learn they do nothave to take care of their belongings. But if theymust wear something old or unfashionable ornot get to play with a favored toy, they learnto be more careful with their things.VIEWPOINTIf you call the teacher to explain that theydidn’t do their homework because their soccergame went late, they learn they do not need toorganize their time nor take responsibility fortalking with the teacher about how to make upthe work. But if you don’t bail them out, theylearn to accept responsibility and problemsolve with the teacher.If your first response to anyone who says yourchild did something rude, mean or inappropriateis to offer a “reason”—he was tired, that childhas always given him a hard time, etc.—yourchild learns she is not responsible for her actions.But a reason is not an excuse: Do you want anadult who believes other people make himmad and therefore it is their fault if he yells,hits or throws things?Successful people recognize that they cannotcontrol how other people behave but they canalways choose how they react to others.We learn about life and how to behave bymaking wrong choices and learning what wewould rather do from the consequences of ourchoices. Don’t fix everything that goes wrongfor your children and thus prevent them fromlearning these lessons when the consequencesare small, or they will surely have to learnthem when the consequences are enormous.(Editor’s note: Barbara Ruth Williams isassistant head of school and director of parenteducation at Village School on Swarthmore. Sheis also a certified parent education instructor.)Founded November 5, 2014———————15332 Antioch Street #169Pacific Palisades, CA 90272(310) 401-7690www.PalisadesNews.com———————PublisherScott Wagensellerswag@palisadesnews.comEditorSue Pascoespascoe@palisadesnews.comSports EditorTyler Keckeisensports@palisadesnews.comFeaturesLaurie RosenthalLRosenthal@palisadesnews.comGraphics DirectorManfred HoferDigital Content and TechnologyKurt ParkAdvertisingJeff Ridgwayjeffridgway@palisadesnews.comGrace Hineygracehiney@palisadesnews.comAdvisorBill BrunsContributing WritersLaura Abruscato, Laurel Busby,Libby MotikaContributing PhotographersBart Bartholomew, Shelby Pascoe———————A bi-monthly newspaper mailed on thefirst and third Wednesday of eachmonth. 14,500 circulation includes zipcode 90272 and Sullivan, Mandeville andSanta Monica Canyons.Online: palisadesnews.comAll content printed herein, and in our digitaleditions, is copyrighted.Thought to Ponder“I have left orders to be awakened at any time in case of national emergency,even if I’m in a cabinet meeting.” ― Pres. Ronald Reagan (1911-2004)