8letters to the editorTHANKING THE GIANT IN OUR LIFEKindly allow me to convey my heartfeltthanks to one <strong>of</strong> the giants inour Army family. Our family hasexperienced every move that the SAArmy had us undergo as a blessedexperience.My husband continuously instils inour lives the fact that wherever we are,we are there to make love visible and tobelieve that success is the natural consequence<strong>of</strong> constantly applying thefollowing basic fundamentals. Firstly,constantly work hard. Secondly,respect and treat others as you wouldwant them to treat you. Lastly, humblenessis not a sign <strong>of</strong> humiliation;rather it is a sign <strong>of</strong> maturity.SINGLE WOMAN SORROWSAs a woman I personally believe thatbeing a single woman is the greatestexperience <strong>of</strong> them all. It is the perfecttime to be a little selfish and spoil yourself,spending time doing what youenjoy, going shopping whenever andwherever, free <strong>of</strong> worries that somebodyis waiting for you.Being single allows you to discoverwho you are. You will have an opportunityto experience what your likes areas well as your dislikes. The bright side<strong>of</strong> all this is that you get to know howto deal with life's testing situations thatare likely to arise and to know what todo when the stumbling blocks comeyour way, knowing that no man willcome to the rescue no matter how difficultthe situation might be.Sadly enough, you will be stigmatisedamong your colleagues, evenyour best girlfriends, who in generalwill not trust you with men. Anyonethey see you with will be labelled asyour boyfriend, regardless <strong>of</strong> age, race,S A S O L D I E R • NO VEMB ER 2 0 0 8In May 2008 my husband, Col J.P.M.Kobbie, was selected to attend a yearlongcourse in the USA. For this we feelvery blessed and humbled because werealise that it is an experience <strong>of</strong> a lifetime.For this experience we need to saya big thank you to General RobertMandita - the giant in our life - for thefact that he opted to let my husband furtherhis learning in another part <strong>of</strong> theworld with his family.General, you know we are gratefuland greatly appreciate your wisdom,calmness and loving support always.We thank you. Lilla Kobbie, wife <strong>of</strong>Col J.P.M. Kobbie (Proudly SANDFfamily)rank or even if he is married. You will beregarded as someone who does not havea life, especially if you are staying in abungalow, because you said you weresingle. Everybody will start havingexpectations, such as no man must cometo your room, they must not give you alift, be friendly to you, or be your friend.If one <strong>of</strong> these things I have mentionedhappens, that will be a nice subject forgossip for a week or two, even if thatputs you or your career in danger. Theydo not care.Women, let us get our unique, speciallives embraced by others and notdestroy them by ourselves. I took note <strong>of</strong>the things mentioned on the basis <strong>of</strong>day-to-day experience, and thus myconcern. Life is tough, we need to sticktogether, bad things are happening inour presence and we do not do or sayanything about them. Some men abuseus; they violate our rights, break ourhearts and destroy our lives. We see thateveryday and yet we do not supportDISCIPLINE GOES HAND IN HANDI went around asking people what disciplinemeant to them and some surprisinglytold me that I did not havediscipline myself and I told them that Idid have discipline and they said that Idid not have it according to the militarystandard. I have realised that disciplinein the military and civilianenvironment is absolutely not thesame. I think that we should all try tolive by the standard <strong>of</strong> military disci-A DISCIPLINEDSOLDIERMy question to all serving members <strong>of</strong>the SANDF is: What is a disciplinedsoldier? How do we see a disciplinedsoldier? Someone said: "Charity beginsat home". That means if you were nottaught how to behave, respect, shareand reason, soldiering will not changeyou. Is it discipline or the military way<strong>of</strong> living to stand three hours onparade? The same goes for saluting andpaying compliments. Please do notconfuse military culture with personaldiscipline. To all MSDS members, youhave what it takes to be real soldiersand I salute you for that.Rfn T.L. Mashala (MSDS member),10 SAI Bn, Mafikengeach other. Instead <strong>of</strong> giving support toother women who are living the curse,we abandon them with laughter ormore curses. We are not phenomenalenough to hold everyone's pain.Being single is not a bed <strong>of</strong> roses. Itfeels terrible at times, especially if youare staying miles away from homeand you only depend on friends. They,in turn, will spend more time withtheir loved ones or just be tired <strong>of</strong> yournagging.So for those who are single, I knowits difficult sometimes, but please donot just jump into a comfort relationship.You will be hurt more than youcan imagine. Live your life at large, letthem talk, they will not stop anyway.Lastly, have faith; no person was meantto live alone. You may feel as if you arethe only single person in the world andthat you will be single forever, but thisis not true. You are not an island; all youneed is patience. L Cpl M.M. Nkitseng,Infantry Schoolplinary codes since we are uniformedmembers, whether <strong>of</strong> high rank or low.What I have noticed is that all the basesor units are complaining about theMilitary Skills Development System(MSDS) members' discipline and most<strong>of</strong> the time they are talking about thewomen. When we see someone behavingin an inappropriate manner in thecivilian environment they say we do notblame the person or child, but the parents.I have asked why the parents andthe response was that the parents arethe backbone <strong>of</strong> every growing humanbeing.Do not expect your child or yourstudents to be disciplined while yourlife is not disciplined. When you showrespect you will earn respect. Do nottry to force a person to be disciplined,but coax him or her to be disciplined.Airman S. Mnikathi, 18 DSU
POSITIVE THINKINGWhatever comes into a person's mind,whether negative or positive, at theend <strong>of</strong> the day one has to make a decision.We are living in a world <strong>of</strong> challengeswith regard to our families,workplaces, churches and organisations.I have found that in spite <strong>of</strong> thechallenges one can still live becausechallenges are not there to destroy youbut to shake you. Where are you in thislife? Bill Ocean said: "Tough timesnever last, but tough people willstand".How do they last? They do notallow negative circumstances to controlthem. They take their position inthe midst <strong>of</strong> bad times, they refuse tobe consumed by doubt or speak nega-tively, because in the tongue lies life anddeath. Surround your life with goodthings, people that will speak positivelyabout you, motivate you and just pickyourself up and think constructivethings.There are people who think they areuseless, that there is nothing they cando, who think they cannot achievethings that they want to achieve in life.You are the boss <strong>of</strong> your own life.Therefore I will encourage you to bepositive, you can do it. Hebrew 1:16speaks about faith. Have faith and knowthat God is on your side. Stand firm,don't move, fight the good fight <strong>of</strong> faithand you will be blessing others.Chaplain B. Siqaza, DOD TSULET US FORGET ABOUT THE PASTThe universe <strong>of</strong> life is really mercifuland when we are willing to learn, wewill receive our lessons lovingly andgently.There are those times when whatcould be a deep valley turns out to bejust a little ditch. This means we aredown, but we can see our way up if wehave stumbled. Our faces have not hitthe ground.A friend <strong>of</strong> mine always remindsme that to stumble does not mean youfall; it means you move ahead a littlefaster. Stumbling into a ditch does notrender you helpless.There is something for you to grabor hold on to. Hopefully it is somethingyou have heard, seen or learntfrom a past lesson. A ditch is life's way<strong>of</strong> reminding you that there is a wake-upcall for you so that you will not make thesame mistake again. It is life's way <strong>of</strong>pointing out the warning signs. You willsee things you cannot ignore.You will know there are real dangersthat lie aheadYou must be very careful and youwill be required to make some harddecisions. Most importantly, you mustbe able to act decisively. If you do notrecognise the signs the knowledge aditch could very quickly turn into a valley- fight it. Your job is to figure out ifthe situation is to remain the same forthe rest <strong>of</strong> your life.What quality do you need to developTHE SUN SETS ON AN UNSUNG HERODLADLA (LT COL FUNDILE SIYONGWANA)The sunset has sealedYour eyes my brotherAnd the moon your lipsJust as serene and quiet asYour life was so you left usVery few knew, just how strong youWere beneath those calm watersDladla, your mind dwelt in the land <strong>of</strong> kingsAnd in the land <strong>of</strong> peace,Your brilliance shone in your smiling faceNever did you moan or groan in painOnly you knew how unbearable it wasNever did it show in your faceNever sought for gainBut for freedom from Apartheid painIn the far away fields <strong>of</strong> Angola,A commissar and writerYou were always there, to comfortTo counsel and to uplift our soulsDladla, you will be sorely missedDladla the african sun has risen with youInto our african skyThe continent which you so lovedAnd cherished, has swallowed youBeneath the troubled earthWhere there is pain no moreChaplain B. Siqaza.to have peace? Do you need patience,faith or a deeper understanding <strong>of</strong> whoyou are? If you can remember this, youwill realise that every valley experienceis an opportunity for you to comeone step closer to your greatness.Peace is a universal principle: oneby which we must all learn to live.The valleys help us to grow anddevelop the character traits we need t<strong>of</strong>ind peace within ourselves and in life,whatever the situation in which wefind ourselves.It is our attitudes and our consciousnessthat transform a temporaryvalley experience into spiritual growthand self-improvement. M.P. Masango,MtubatubaIntellectual, fighterOnly you knew your painDladla, the sun has set on youFresh water streams <strong>of</strong> the MagaliesTrickles over your still and motionless soulBye Dladla, go and prepareThe valleys <strong>of</strong> peace for usYou have done what is not easyYou have sacrificed your soulFor the freedom <strong>of</strong> your peopleAnd so you died leaving us with yourSpear still held highIt will never fall9A true soldier at warIn the reality <strong>of</strong> our life todayIn this democracy that you sacrificedYour entire youthful lifeDladla, the unsung heroThe quiet, mighty manThe lone soldierMentor, poet, writerGoodbye DladlaSleep Mkhonto, you have your ranksGeneral <strong>of</strong> the people you served, SleepSleep sleep. Col B.V. Martin, PretoriaNO VEMB ER 2 0 0 8 • S A S O L D I E R