February is LOVE Month! Give some!Letting GoWhen someone you love diesand you want to keep all that was his,*do not hold on too tightlyto the material things he left behind.He had to let them go, and so must you.Just keep what meant the most to himwhich still holds the essence of his being— light and peace, love and caring.Remember, his spirit is still alive,as a source of love and encouragement.Feel it surrounding you,nourishing, strengthening you,and allow it to lead you into the worldto find new joys in living.*(or hers)- Krin AndertonTreasuring Those We LoveBy Vesta CopestakesThe recent accidental death of mybrother David, followed by the suddenillness and death of my father A.D.,opened me to conversations I neverknew. I know that people die every day,but their stories have never touched meso frequently and so deeply as they donow. One story after another has flowedinto my heart through conversation,letters, cards and e-mails. People sharetheir sorrows and lighten each other’sloads.A recent knock on my front doorbrought me face to face with a beautifulman grieving for his dying wife. Tearsstreaming down his cheeks werefollowed by a flood of words over herimpending death, his message he wantseveryone to feel and hear, and thehorrible loss he is experiencing.“I want everyone to hold on to thosethey love and cherish. Make sure thepeople you love know that you lovethem. Every day is important.”Sarah Alice Burkdoll is dying ofbrain cancer. Who knows how long shewill live, but her time is limited on thisearth. She and Dean have shared a mereeight years of laughter and joy - eightsweet years. People who find love laterin life know how precious love really is.When we are young we fall in and out oflove and feel confident there is anotherlove waiting just beyond the next bend.In time some give up on the concept aftertoo many broken hearts. Others keeplooking even though they are so set intheir ways the chances seem slim.But as Dean said, “You come to knowthat you can’t change someone else. Youbend and adapt to each other willingly.Sarah and I laugh together. We laughwhen we have nothing to laugh aboutand then we laugh more. I’ve neverlaughed with anyone like I do with her.Please tell people to keep Sarah in theirthoughts and prayers.” And we will.And Dean as well as his heart and lifetravel this path.And my friend Lindsay who suddenlylost her precious Daniel Farley to a heartattack as they were watching football andfolding laundry just weeks ago. Daniel, aman of sweet joy and laughter. Oh howhe loved Lindsay, his dog Woody, hisfriends who are family, the ocean andriding its waves on his surfboard. NowI am attending his memorial instead ofenjoying conversation over the kitchencounter.Tracy’s wonderful Daddy - dyingbefore her eyes. But he’s ready andlaughing his way down the path. He’s anold man now who lived a good life. Hemay be ready - but Tracy’s not. No oneis ever ready to lose someone we love.Daryl’s Daddy taking the same path.It’s breaking Daryl’s heart, but how canhe complain - his Dad is 95. How manypeople live that many years - hail andhearty right up to the fading end.When someone old dies, we accept itas part of life. Good for them - they livedlong and well. When someone youngdies - no matter what befell him or her,we grieve for the future they never had.Parents feel the ultimate pain of losinga child before they themselves die. Theorder is all wrong. My Daddy’s heartnever recovered from David’s death.He’s my baby brother - my heart willnever heal as well - mend yes, heal no.That’s the way it is.Paul called to tell me both his motherand brother died this last year - as didJeffery’s mother and brother. How manymore. Hundreds. Thousands - eachwith a story to be shared. Why doesthe Universe want to take these loving,joyful people away from us? We don’tknow and we’ll never know. The onlything we can be sure of is that love andlife are precious and taking it for grantedis a big mistake. This is a gift like noother. We don’t get to keep it. We onlyget to use it and pass it along. Best toremember that while we are holding itin our hands.26 www.westcountygazette.com ~ 2-14-08
“The best thing for being sad is to learn something. Thatis the only thing that never fails. You may grow oldand trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awakeat night listening to the disorder of your veins, youmay miss your only love, you may see the world aboutyou devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honourtrampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only onething for it then ~ to learn. Learn why the world wagsand what wags it. That is the only thing which the mindcan never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by,never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting.”- spoken by Merlyn the Magician in T. H. White’s, *The Once and Future King*When Your True Heart...by Diane BodachWhen you find yourself at the bottom of the ocean no one has to say, “Swim!Swim for your life toward the light!”Your arms, your heart, your legs, your lungs, your brain, your eyes, every partof you is fixated on that point of light,and your body works with all the efficiency of which it is capableto propel you toward it.When your true heart reveals to you that which you really want,though a lioness stands at the gate with teeth like snow white daggerspointing up and down, she will not keep you from entering.Ancient chains of clinging, judgment, This is how I do it”,mind and fear slip away like silk off silk.Open to your true heart and the surging tide that knows no seasonwill fill you up with JoyEVACUATIONby Bethany ArgisleWhen you are running for your lifewhen you are surrounded by firewhen air becomes rarewhen motion changes it’s speedwhen you are but a mere seedblown to bitsyour habitatyour life rhythmwe are all wildlifecrispy tornbeyond forlornsouls scorn choicestorched porchespanic in your heartswhen all you knowfragments and ashall the pastwhat is true shall arisehath drawn us closer to the roaring of the Galatic Growlat war against ourselvesat your front doorat forevermorethe smoke is so thickheroes step up to the fire’s ferocityhungry flames rising higherhigher than the mountainshigher than the skyare you ready to fly?are you ready to die?know your circlecalm your switchescalm your snitchquisitionbreathing is a treasurelove is the pleasurethe word blessing has the word LESS in it...Listen to KOWS, 107.3 FM,community radio for the Kindom ofOccidental and West <strong>Sonoma</strong>2-14-08 ~ www.westcountygazette.com27