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MAGAZINE<br />
October 2016<br />
N o 2<br />
www.mangwanani.co.za<br />
Kids and<br />
TECH<br />
WHEN TO LIMIT<br />
IT AND HOW<br />
BEACH<br />
Bliss<br />
health benefits<br />
of the beach<br />
Don't Forget<br />
Teachers' Day<br />
on 5 October<br />
STOP<br />
easy ways to<br />
global warming<br />
celebrity<br />
spa<br />
Experience:<br />
DJ Le Soul<br />
Where's Wanda?<br />
Find her and WIN<br />
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OFFERS
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10 18<br />
CONTENTS<br />
COVER STORIES<br />
5<br />
14<br />
18<br />
20<br />
Celebrity Spa Experience: DJ Le Soul<br />
Kids and Tech - When to limit and how<br />
Beach Bliss - Healthy benefits of the beach<br />
Easy ways to stop Global Warming<br />
FEATURES<br />
10<br />
16<br />
22<br />
Trick or Treat - How did Halloween come about?<br />
Why you get to celebrate your birthday every year<br />
Getting Married - How do you know for sure?
6<br />
CONTENTS<br />
HEALTH<br />
6<br />
25<br />
Your tongue can tell you what to eat<br />
What is Deja Vu and why it happens?<br />
LIFESTYLE<br />
9 Stress & Female Infertility and how to remedy it<br />
12 20 Signs you’re working with a true Leader<br />
ETCETERA<br />
4 E’s <strong>No</strong>te<br />
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E’S NOTE<br />
E D I T O R ’ S N O T E<br />
I cannot believe how fast this year is flying<br />
by! It was October 2015 just the other day. It<br />
almost feels like déjà vu. Talking of, we have an<br />
interes ng ar cle about the science of déjà vu,<br />
and you can experience our <strong>Mangwanani</strong> Déjà Vu<br />
package and stand a chance to win.<br />
So, it is that me of the year again when<br />
<strong>Mangwanani</strong>ans find themselves in the last<br />
quarter of the year preparing for year-end<br />
func ons (check out our year-end func ons<br />
here) and ge ng excited for family vaca ons!<br />
I am also excited and proud to showcase<br />
this second edi on of the <strong>Mangwanani</strong> magazine<br />
and hope that you can get value out of the<br />
ar cles we have included.<br />
As you may know, <strong>Mangwanani</strong> African<br />
Spa is built on the no on of Women<br />
Empowerment, so we were thrilled to host an<br />
inspiring young South African woman who<br />
encompasses Women Empowerment and is<br />
making waves on the South African music scenecelebrity<br />
DJ Le Soul. Read about her story on<br />
page 4.<br />
We also celebrate some significant days in<br />
October such as Boss's Day and Halloween. Read<br />
up on some interes ng ar cles related to these<br />
topics and take advantage of the amazing<br />
<strong>Mangwanani</strong> Halloween and Boss's Day offers we<br />
have available for you!<br />
This edi on also focuses on some<br />
important health and lifestyle topics ranging from<br />
tongue analysis, stress and infer lity, to global<br />
warming – which relates to our con nual focus<br />
on Responsible Tourism.<br />
As usual you stand a chance to win with<br />
<strong>Mangwanani</strong>. We are happy to announce that<br />
Lindi Matakane was the lucky winner of the<br />
#<strong>Mangwanani</strong>Birthday compe on. She wins<br />
herself a <strong>Mangwanani</strong> journal and a year's worth<br />
of <strong>Mangwanani</strong> experiences. Congrats Lindi, we<br />
look forward to welcoming you monthly for a<br />
Year's Worth of <strong>Mangwanani</strong> Spa treatments and<br />
products!!<br />
You also stand a chance to WIN this<br />
month. We would love to hear feedback from<br />
you. Send your feedback and sugges ons for our<br />
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Happy reading!<br />
Erin<br />
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celebrity<br />
spa<br />
Experience:<br />
DJ Le Soul<br />
Le Soul relaxes at <strong>Mangwanani</strong> Elangeni<br />
& Maharani<br />
CELEB SPA<br />
Le Soul has performed at many outdoor<br />
events such as Ugu Jazz Fes val, Midmar Music<br />
Fes val and Durban Summer Fest. Le Soul has<br />
also shared the stage with great names in the<br />
South African Music industry such as Black<br />
Coffee, Monique Bingham and Ruff Gum.<br />
Every Friday from 7pm to 10 pm you can<br />
enjoy Le Soul's House Music mixes on her show<br />
on Gagasi FM called Bring on the Night.<br />
<strong>Mangwanani</strong> Bou que Spa at Elangeni &<br />
Maharani in Durban had the privilege of hos ng<br />
Le Soul for a relaxing treatment:<br />
“My percep on of <strong>Mangwanani</strong> was<br />
"cultural & classy”. Most of my expecta ons were<br />
exceeded by the experience. The Bou que Spa is<br />
very calming and elegant.<br />
The actual massage deserves a repeat. I<br />
went for a "medium" pressure Tradi onal Full<br />
Body Massage and hot stone therapy. There's<br />
something about the energy at the Spa that<br />
relaxes you even before you begin your<br />
treatment.<br />
I highly recommend the treatments to<br />
fellow hard-working friends and more women in<br />
my industry”<br />
Le Soul<br />
<strong>No</strong>nkululeko Mdlalose, be er known as<br />
DJ Le Soul, is a 23 year old, renowned South<br />
African female DJ who has already made an<br />
impact in the South African music industry.<br />
The young Le Soul grew up in the<br />
township of Kwa-Mashu in KZN and was raised by<br />
a single mother. During her younger years she<br />
sang in her church choir and began to pursue<br />
playing the piano.<br />
In 2007, Le Soul won a na onal art<br />
compe on and was given the opportunity to<br />
travel to the UK, therea er she was appointed as<br />
the Ambassador for the Wildlife Environmental<br />
Society of South Africa.<br />
Today, this inspiring woman is a DJ,<br />
pianist, vocalist, producer, designer and ar st<br />
(pain ng). She is a resident DJ at Luna Rossa and<br />
Mondise MVG, and has released a single called<br />
Roller Coaster.<br />
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YOUR<br />
TONGUE<br />
CAN TELL YOU<br />
WHAT TO EAT<br />
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Your tongue reflects what is happening<br />
inside your body and is an easily<br />
accessible way to find out what your inner<br />
landscape looks like.<br />
These are things to look out for when it<br />
comes to tongue analysis:<br />
Shape Is your tongue thin and pointy, or is<br />
it more thick and flabby with tooth-marks around<br />
the edges? Is it quivery? Is some of it swollen<br />
while another part looks depressed? Is it long or<br />
can you barely s ck it out? Are there cracks?<br />
Colour Is it bright red? Is it pale? Is it<br />
almost purple? Is one part of the tongue a<br />
different colour than the rest?<br />
Coa ng Is it thick and white? Does it look<br />
greasy and yellow? Does it seem par cularly dry,<br />
or stripped of a coa ng? Is it especially moist? Is<br />
the coat even throughout, or are there<br />
differences in different parts of the tongue?<br />
COMMON TONGUE PRESENTATIONS<br />
Thick, Pale, Scalloped Edges A pale<br />
tongue that is swollen with scalloped edges<br />
indicates dampness within the body. This<br />
tongue is often associated with symptoms<br />
like loose stools, bloating, fatigue, cold, and<br />
excess worry.<br />
What to eat: If this is what your<br />
tongue looks like, you should emphasise<br />
warming foods and herbs (such as soup,<br />
lamb, beef, leeks, nuts, fresh ginger,<br />
rosemary, and cinnamon.) You can also<br />
incorporate moderate amounts of wild and<br />
basmati rice, corn, buckwheat and rye to<br />
drain dampness from your system.<br />
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What to avoid: Foods that enhance cold<br />
in the body. These are foods that are eaten<br />
straight from the refrigerator,<br />
greasy/fried/creamy foods, crunchy foods,<br />
cucumbers, ice-cream, bananas, cold drinks,<br />
clams, crab, grapefruit, watermelon, radishes,<br />
green tea, sour food, and raw vegetables.<br />
Thin, Red, Pointy, Dry This tongue<br />
presenta on is o en associated with what is<br />
known as “deficiency heat” in Chinese medicine.<br />
Symptoms associated with this tongue o en<br />
resemble menopause, including hot-flashes,<br />
night-sweats, insomnia, ringing in the ears, and<br />
dry skin and lips.<br />
What to eat: To nourish yourself,<br />
incorporate berries and seeds, naturally sweet<br />
foods (like honey, yams, and squash,) quinoa,<br />
rice, sour foods, parsley, and sea vegetables.<br />
What to avoid: If this is what your tongue<br />
looks like, and you’re experiencing similar<br />
symptoms, you’re going to want to avoid salty<br />
foods, as well as overly pungent or spicy foods,<br />
fried foods, sugar, and alcohol.<br />
Red Tongue-Body, Yellow Greasy Coa ng.<br />
This kind of tongue indicates heat, and is<br />
associated with symptoms such as irritability,<br />
rashes or pimples, easy swea ng, thirst, and dry<br />
cons pa on.<br />
What to avoid: If this is what your tongue<br />
looks like you should avoid spicy, rich, and greasy<br />
foods, alcohol, sugar, and limit your meat<br />
consump on.<br />
What to eat: Instead of foods that add<br />
heat to the body, incorporate more fish, steamed<br />
vegetables, salads, seaweed, wild rice, and fruit<br />
into your diet. Also, it might be wise to include<br />
bi er foods, herbs and le uce to drain the heat<br />
in your system.<br />
Quivery Tongue with a Red Tip Both a<br />
quivery tongue as well as a red- pped tongue are<br />
symptoms associated with stress, adrenal fa gue,<br />
depression, and insomnia.<br />
What to do: If this is what your tongue<br />
looks like you need to take extra me to take care<br />
of yourself. It would be wise to begin some sort<br />
of prac ce into your before-bed-rou ne, such as<br />
gentle yoga, or medita on.<br />
You might also find herbal teas with chamomile<br />
and lemon to be beneficial.<br />
One Part of the Tongue Looks Different<br />
than the Rest<br />
In Chinese medicine the tongue is<br />
considered a microsystem for the rest of the<br />
body. This means that different parts of the<br />
tongue relate to different organs and phaseelements.<br />
For example, if there is a dent in the<br />
centre of the tongue it could be an indica on of a<br />
Spleen or Stomach deficiency, meaning the<br />
individual is probably having diges ve issues at<br />
the moment.<br />
Perhaps there is an even coa ng<br />
throughout the tongue body, but there is a patch<br />
on the far le side that looks like it is stripped.<br />
This could indicate something going on with the<br />
Liver/Gallbladder func on.<br />
If there is a thicker, yellow coa ng, but it’s<br />
just in the back of the tongue, this indicates heat<br />
and might correspond with something like a<br />
Urinary Tract Infec on.<br />
Average Shape, Pink Body, Thin White<br />
Coa ng This tongue is considered normal.<br />
Congratula ons! Keep doing what you’re doing.<br />
These are just the most common<br />
examples of tongue presenta ons, and are<br />
meant to give you a very general understanding<br />
of tongue diagnosis. Most cases are not so clearcut.<br />
Some mes the symptoms don’t correspond<br />
or there are addi onal features that complicate<br />
the situa on. In such a case it is wise to.<br />
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S T R E S S<br />
H O W<br />
CONTRIBUTES TO FEMALE<br />
Infertility<br />
The major causes of female infer lity<br />
include Endometriosis, Polycys c Ovary<br />
Syndrome (PCOS) and other ovula on disorders,<br />
poor egg quality, hormonal imbalance, and<br />
blocked or damaged fallopian tubes.<br />
These might seem like a wide variety of<br />
issues at first glance, but when looked at from a<br />
Chinese medicine perspec ve these condi ons<br />
all boil down to either deficiency, stagna on, or<br />
both, with stress as the root cause of most cases.<br />
When it comes to physical impediments<br />
like blocked or damaged fallopian tubes, surgical<br />
interven on is o en the best op on for success,<br />
but when it comes to ovula on disorders, poor<br />
egg quality, hormonal imbalance, and even mild<br />
cases of Endometriosis, stress management can<br />
do wonders in increasing fer lity in many<br />
women.<br />
When it comes to physical impediments<br />
like blocked or damaged fallopian tubes, surgical<br />
interven on is o en the best op on for success,<br />
but when it comes to ovula on disorders, poor<br />
egg quality, hormonal imbalance, and even mild<br />
cases of endometriosis, stress management can<br />
do wonders in increasing fer lity in many<br />
women.<br />
Simply put, it all comes down to<br />
hormones.<br />
Hormones are chemical messengers that<br />
enter the blood, where they are carried from the<br />
gland that produced them to target cells upon<br />
which they act. Hormones can also trigger other<br />
hormones to be produced, released, or inhibited,<br />
crea ng chain reac ons in your body that<br />
influence everything from your energy levels,<br />
when you’re hungry, to whether or not you<br />
ovulate, and everything in between.<br />
Cor sol has a variety of func ons in the body.<br />
Two of its main func ons are to increase blood<br />
sugar and priori se blood flow to muscles so you<br />
have the energy you need to fight or flee your<br />
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... way out of a dangerous situa on.<br />
While this response is awesome in the<br />
short-term if, let’s say, you’re being a acked by a<br />
lion, it’s not so great if you experience stress<br />
throughout the day, every day- as many of us do.<br />
In addi on to giving you the strength to<br />
deal with any sporadic lion a acks you might<br />
encounter, cor sol also diverts blood away from<br />
your reproduc ve organs.<br />
This means that if you’re chronically<br />
stressed there’s a good chance that your<br />
endometrium (the inner lining of your uterus)<br />
may not be able to develop into the op mal<br />
nutrient-rich environment that is needed to<br />
nurture a growing baby. To make ma ers worse,<br />
the nega ve effects of cor sol are intensified<br />
when you are chronically stressed, leading to<br />
abnormal sex-hormone secre on which then<br />
impacts your ability to develop and release<br />
healthy eggs.<br />
So what are you supposed to do about it?<br />
Given the prevalence of chronic stress in our<br />
society, the first line of defence with women<br />
struggling with infer lity is to manage the impact<br />
stress has on their body.<br />
Regular weekly acupuncture treatments,<br />
herbal formulas, and stress-management<br />
techniques like mindfulness, yoga, selfpampering,<br />
and journaling are all important<br />
strategies to consider when dealing with chronic<br />
stress and infer lity.<br />
A er a few weeks of intense focus on reducing<br />
the impact of stress, dietary changes are<br />
recommended to support healthy hormone<br />
cycles, and increases in movement throughout<br />
the day is advisable.<br />
This mul -faceted approach to health can<br />
do wonders for a woman’s fer lity, overall health,<br />
and happiness in general!<br />
Trick<br />
or Treat<br />
How did Halloween come about?<br />
<strong>Mangwanani</strong> African Spa offers a<br />
number of massage treatments that relax and<br />
revitalise the body and mind resul ng in<br />
reduced stress levels.<br />
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Halloween is celebrated on 31st October<br />
every year. Halloween is the modern name of an<br />
ancient Cel c holiday "Samhain". People<br />
celebrate this day as a spiritual beginning of a<br />
new year. The various ac vi es done for<br />
Halloween are mostly associated with the idea to<br />
obtain good fortune.<br />
Ancient people believed that ghosts came<br />
back to earth on this day. It is said that on this<br />
day, the spirits of the dead come back to earth in<br />
search of living bodies to possess for the next<br />
year and try to return to the homes where they<br />
were living. So to appease these spirits, people<br />
offer fruits and nuts. If the spirits are not pleased,<br />
it is feared that the spirits would kill the people<br />
or destroy their property.<br />
Halloween costumes are tradi onally<br />
related to ghosts, skeletons, witches, and devils.<br />
Black and Orange are the famous colours for this<br />
day. The Jack-o-lantern is the fes val light for<br />
Halloween. Pumpkin is a good subs tute of the<br />
turnip, to be used as Jack-o-lantern.<br />
Trick-or-trea ng is a tradi onal<br />
celebra on for children on Halloween. Children<br />
in their costumes go from house to house, asking<br />
for treats, with a ques on, "Trick or treat?" The<br />
word "trick" refers to a threat to trouble the<br />
homeowners or their property if no treat is given.<br />
People generally give candy to the children who<br />
come to their house.<br />
<strong>No</strong>wadays many schools arrange<br />
Halloween par es for the kids. People usually<br />
have par es, wear Halloween costumes, do<br />
bonfires, tell and read scary stories about<br />
witches, skeletons, bats and ghosts and also<br />
watch horror movies<br />
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20 SIGNS<br />
S i g n s y o u ’ r e<br />
working with a<br />
true<br />
leader<br />
and <strong>No</strong>t Just a Boss<br />
Think about the best boss you've ever<br />
had. Maybe you're fortunate, and that person is<br />
your boss today. Maybe it's someone you recall<br />
fondly from years ago. Maybe you are lucky<br />
enough not to have a boss… but I am sure you<br />
have had one at some stage in the past.<br />
Regardless of who this person is, I'm confident I<br />
can describe him or her. That's because highly<br />
respected bosses o en have a lot in common<br />
with one another. Here are 20 of the key things<br />
they do almost every day.<br />
1. They Share Their Vision<br />
The most important thing a leader can do is<br />
provide his or her team with a goal that is worth<br />
their me and ensures that he/ she<br />
communicates it effec vely and o en.<br />
2. They Develop Exper se<br />
There is nothing more annoying than a boss who<br />
actually doesn't understand the job at hand.<br />
He/She doesn't have to be the number one<br />
expert in every fact of the job—that might be<br />
impossible—but he or she has to be competent<br />
at all levels.<br />
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3. They Respect People's Time<br />
Great bosses have li le tolerance for boring<br />
mee ngs, mandatory fun, and making others<br />
wait unnecessarily. They also avoid longwindedness<br />
when shorter remarks will do.<br />
4. They Set Priori es<br />
When you try to focus on everything, you're not<br />
focusing on anything. A smart boss understands<br />
that, and realizes that lack of focus can easily<br />
affect your lack of priori es which means the<br />
team isn't moving in the right direc on together.<br />
5. They Share Informa on<br />
Some bosses hold informa on and only give out<br />
li le bits, o en because they're afraid that if<br />
their team has all the facts, they might not be<br />
able to lead. There are legi mate reasons to<br />
control the ming of informa on sharing, but<br />
overall the more transparent a boss can be, the<br />
more respect the team will ul mately have for<br />
him or her.<br />
6. They Make Decisions<br />
Decisiveness. Very important.<br />
7. They Offer Praise<br />
People o en wonder how they are doing with<br />
work. Great bosses let them know, and they're<br />
especially vocal and public about it when they're<br />
doing well.<br />
8. They Demonstrate Empathy<br />
Great bosses are able to see things through other<br />
people's eyes, especially their employees'. Of<br />
course this doesn't mean that they are<br />
pushovers, but it does mean that they're<br />
concerned about their team on mul ple levels.<br />
9. They Offer Thanks<br />
Building a culture of gra tude starts at the top. If<br />
the boss doesn't take me to offer thanks to<br />
those around him or her, why would we expect<br />
that anyone else would?<br />
10. They Pull Everyone Together<br />
A great boss recognises the talents of members<br />
of his or her team, and strives to lead in a way<br />
that lets everyone maximise their effec veness<br />
together.<br />
11. They Ask Smart Ques ons<br />
They double-check assump ons in a nonannoying<br />
but thorough way that sends the<br />
message that they're on top of things. They<br />
aren't willing to accept that things should be<br />
done a certain way just because that's how<br />
they've been done in the past.<br />
12. They Have Respect for People's Lives<br />
They also recognise that people are just people.<br />
Work has to be a priority, but that doesn't mean<br />
it's the only thing in their lives. They recognise<br />
that their employees have spouses, children and<br />
friends that they need to care for, not to men on<br />
outside interests and ambi ons.<br />
13. They Hire Though ully<br />
A leader's most important role is some mes<br />
about assembling a team of great people and<br />
avoiding le ng toxic people join the team.<br />
14. They Accept Blame<br />
Ethical people accept blame for their failings.<br />
Maybe they don't dwell on it, but they accept it.<br />
Great bosses go a step further, accep ng the<br />
collec ve blame when the team comes up short,<br />
and then guiding everyone to move forward.<br />
15. They Have a Sense of Humour<br />
Great bosses can find humour in every day work<br />
challenges and recognise that the crisis of today<br />
is the joke of tomorrow.<br />
16. They Communicate Effec vely<br />
Great bosses find the words to explain what they<br />
mean and then back up what they say.<br />
17. They Model Ethical Behaviour<br />
Great bosses strive to uphold rules, social norms,<br />
and basic decency.<br />
18. They Celebrate Wins<br />
<strong>No</strong>body likes a boss who thinks the only reward<br />
for great work should be more of the same. Great<br />
bosses look for milestones to celebrate whether<br />
that means a 15-second recogni on or a fullblown<br />
party.<br />
19. They Strive for Excellence<br />
Because really, who wants to work for someone<br />
who strives simply to be adequate?<br />
20. They Make More Leaders<br />
Great leaders don't just make happy<br />
followers—they inspire more leaders with their<br />
examples. Just as important: They're thrilled, not<br />
threatened, when members of their teams go on<br />
to even bigger and be er things in life.<br />
If you have a Great Boss, don't forget to show<br />
you apprecia on for them this Bosses' Day 17<br />
October 2016.<br />
<strong>Mangwanani</strong> African Spa has some<br />
amazing experiences that you could give to your<br />
boss and let them get some me out away from<br />
work! Don't forget your Boss this Boss's Day!<br />
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Kids and<br />
TECH<br />
WHEN TO LIMIT<br />
I T A N D H O W<br />
It seems these days that kids are<br />
opera ng electronic devices such as<br />
smartphones prac cally moments a er being<br />
born. Just take a look around any local playgroup<br />
or playground and you will probably see kids as<br />
young as 2 or even younger clutching mom or<br />
dad's phone to play games or view videos. When<br />
it comes to technology, kids are not only star ng<br />
to use it at a younger age, but are using it in<br />
more varied situa ons, both at home and at<br />
school.<br />
Today, technology for kids is a source of<br />
learning and entertainment, and in a pinch when<br />
parents have to get dinner made or take a few<br />
minutes to answer emails, a terrific babysi er.<br />
For school-age kids, technology can be a<br />
double-edged sword. There are countless<br />
benefits that can be garnered from using<br />
technology: Computers can be used to do<br />
research, play online math games, and improve<br />
language skills. Television (and DVDs) can offer<br />
educa onal programming such as documentaries<br />
and other educa onal materials and even<br />
videogames can encourage developmental skills<br />
such as hand-eye coordina on (and some<br />
mo on-controlled ac ve games on the Wii or<br />
Xbox with Kinect can promote physical ac vity<br />
such as dancing). However, all these electronic<br />
devices can also have some dis nct<br />
disadvantages as well.<br />
Reasons why technology should be<br />
limited for kids:<br />
It may interfere with sleep. Ge ng<br />
enough sleep can be challenging enough for busy<br />
kids today who o en have homework and a erschool<br />
ac vi es crammed into their weekdays<br />
and extracurricular ac vi es and sports on<br />
weekends. Add to that numerous hours of TV<br />
watching and you have a recipe for sleepdepriva<br />
on in kids. Moreover, electronic<br />
s mula on, such as from watching TV or using<br />
the computer, has been shown to interfere with<br />
sleep (both falling asleep and staying asleep).<br />
It may cut into family me/person-toperson<br />
interac on. When we are using<br />
technology such as computers, games, and TV,<br />
we are not interac ng together and given how<br />
difficult it can be for families to find some good<br />
quality me to spend with each other, having<br />
technology cut into those moments is something<br />
parents may want to prevent as much as<br />
possible. While it can be fun to have a family<br />
movie night or play a videogame together, the<br />
fact is that screen me means less face-to-face<br />
interac on me.<br />
It may encourage short a en on span.<br />
Studies have shown that too much screen me<br />
may be associated with a en on problems.<br />
It may interfere with schoolwork. Children who<br />
watch a lot of TV are more likely to have lower<br />
grades and read fewer books. And research has<br />
shown that cu ng down kids' screen me may<br />
improve kids' health and grades.<br />
It may lead to less physical ac vity. More<br />
screen me has been associated with reduced<br />
physical ac vity and higher risk of obesity in kids.<br />
It may expose kids to too much<br />
adver sing and inappropriate content. Many<br />
television shows and commercials depict<br />
sexuality and violence as well as stereotypes and<br />
drug and alcohol use. Many commercials also<br />
promote junk food and toys in powerful and<br />
alluring ways that are designed to get kids to<br />
want these items.<br />
How to Limit Technology<br />
It can be all too easy to simply turn on the<br />
TV or let them play a videogame when your kids<br />
say they are bored. But there are many op ons<br />
when it comes to finding alterna ve forms of<br />
entertainment.<br />
Le ng kids use technology with limits can<br />
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e achievable if you keep some of these<br />
key ps in mind.<br />
· Do not put a TV in your child's<br />
room. Having a TV in the bedroom has been<br />
linked to a number of problems including lower<br />
school marks, sleeping problems, and obesity.<br />
· Turn it off. When the kids are not<br />
watching a specific program, turn off the<br />
television. Keep it off during meal mes and<br />
especially when they are studying or doing<br />
homework.<br />
· Help your child choose a<br />
videogame or a show. The best way to know<br />
what your child is watching or playing is by<br />
helping him/ her pick out a show or a game.<br />
When picking out a new family movie or game,<br />
read the reviews or previews, ask other parents,<br />
and above all, know your child and trust your<br />
own ins ncts.<br />
· Limit screen me. Whether it's<br />
one hour of TV and videogames a day or a couple<br />
of hours a week, limit the amount of me your<br />
child spends watching TV or playing videogames<br />
and s ck to that number.<br />
· Opt for alterna ves to technology<br />
ac vi es. Find great ways to spend family me<br />
together without tech devices, such as by playing<br />
board games or reading good books.<br />
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This Is Why You<br />
Get to Celebrate<br />
Your<br />
birthday<br />
E v e r y Y e a r<br />
Have you ever thought about why we<br />
even bother to celebrate birthdays? When you<br />
think about it, they're really just an opportunity<br />
for your friends and family to come together and<br />
congratulate you for surviving another year, but<br />
for some reason it's become far more than that.<br />
Although research on the exact origin of<br />
birthdays and birthday cakes remains<br />
inconclusive, there is enough of a consensus to<br />
piece together an approximate history. Perhaps<br />
someday a “Birthdayologist” will come along to<br />
set the record completely straight, but un l then,<br />
here is a short list of historians' best hypotheses<br />
on the evolu on of birthday celebra ons and<br />
the delicious cakes that so o en accompany<br />
them.<br />
Here are seven of the major<br />
developments throughout history that have<br />
led to you being able to do this once a year.<br />
1. Egyp ans started the party.<br />
When pharaohs were crowned in<br />
ancient Egypt they were considered to have<br />
transformed into gods. This divine<br />
promo on made their corona on date<br />
much more important than their<br />
birth into the world.<br />
2. Greeks added candles<br />
to cakes.<br />
The Greeks offered moon-shaped cakes to<br />
Artemis as form of tribute to the lunar goddess.<br />
To recreate the radiance of the moon and her<br />
perceived beauty, Greeks lit candles and put the<br />
on cakes for a glowing effect.<br />
3. Ancient Romans were the first to<br />
celebrate birthdays for the common man (but<br />
just the men). It seems that Romans were the<br />
first civiliza on to celebrate birthdays for nonreligious<br />
figures. Romans would celebrate<br />
birthdays for friends and families, while the<br />
government created public holidays to observe<br />
the birthdays of more famous ci zens. All of this<br />
said, female birthdays s ll weren't celebrated<br />
un l around the 12th century.<br />
4. Chris ans ini ally considered birthdays<br />
to be a pagan ritual.<br />
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Due to its belief that humans are born<br />
with “original sin” and the fact that early<br />
birthdays were ed to “pagan” gods, the<br />
Chris an Church considered birthday<br />
celebra ons evil for the first few hundred years<br />
of its existence. Around the 4th century,<br />
Chris ans changed their minds and began to<br />
celebrate the birthday of Jesus as the holiday of<br />
Christmas. This new celebra on was accepted<br />
into the church partly in hopes of recrui ng<br />
those already celebra ng the Roman holiday of<br />
Saturnalia.<br />
5. Contemporary birthday cakes were invented<br />
by German bakers.<br />
Although the general idea of celebra ng<br />
birthdays had already started taking off around<br />
the world like in China, where a child's first<br />
birthday was specifically honoured —<br />
Kinderfeste, which came out of late 18th century<br />
Germany, is the closest prerequisite to the<br />
contemporary birthday party. This celebra on<br />
was held for German children, or “kinder,” and<br />
involved both birthday cake and candles. Kids got<br />
one candle for each year they'd been alive, plus<br />
another to symbolise the hope of living for at<br />
least one more year. Blowing out the candles and<br />
making a wish was also a part of these<br />
celebra ons.<br />
6. The Industrial Revolu on brought<br />
delicious cakes to the masses.<br />
For quite some me, birthday<br />
celebra ons involving sugary cakes were only<br />
available to the very wealthy, as the necessary<br />
ingredients were considered a luxury. But the<br />
industrial revolu on allowed celebra ons like<br />
kinderfest and the subsequent equivalents in<br />
other cultures to boom. <strong>No</strong>t only did the<br />
required ingredients become more abundant, but<br />
bakeries also started offering pre-made cakes at<br />
lower prices due to advances in mass produc on.<br />
7. “The Birthday Song” was a remix, kind<br />
of.<br />
In 1893, Pa y Hill and Mildred J. Hill<br />
wrote a song they called, “Good Morning To All,”<br />
which was intended to be sung by students<br />
before classes began. The song eventually caught<br />
on across America, giving rise to a number of<br />
varia ons. Robert Coleman eventually published<br />
a songbook in 1924, adding a few extra lyrics that<br />
would quickly come to overshadow the original<br />
lines. The new rendi on became the version we<br />
now all know, “Happy Birthday To You.”<br />
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BEACH<br />
Bliss<br />
health benefits<br />
of the beach<br />
Many people feel a certain magne c<br />
a rac on to the beach. Well, it turns out there<br />
are some physiological reasons why that extends<br />
past just the simple relaxa on…<br />
Certainly, the waves and smell of the salt<br />
air are great for relaxa on, at least for a lot of<br />
people, but the beach itself provides some subtle<br />
health benefits. Unfortunately, we can't all live at<br />
the beach year-round but there are some simple<br />
ways to get most of the benefits at home!<br />
Vitamin D<br />
It's pre y common knowledge that we<br />
can get Vitamin D through exposure to sunlight.<br />
In humans, Vitamin D is much more than just a<br />
simple vitamin that we need to hit a target<br />
Recommended Daily Allowance of. Vitamin D is a<br />
hormonal precursor and science is constantly<br />
linking deficiency of Vitamin D to increased<br />
incidence of many diseases. Ironically, while<br />
Vitamin D is readily available (at least part of the<br />
year in most parts of the world) for free if<br />
produced from sun exposure, people are<br />
surprisingly deficient in it these days.<br />
Studies have found links between lowvitamin<br />
D levels and ‘Parkinsons disease, bone<br />
disease, blood clots, diabetes, heat disease and<br />
high blood pressure. A recent study even found<br />
the regular sun exposure helped women live<br />
longer. Yet another study found that regular sun<br />
exposure could cut breast cancer risk in half!<br />
Unfortunately, you won't get the benefits<br />
if you're covered up or slathered in sunscreen!<br />
One solu on is to op mise your sun tolerance<br />
and cover up when you have go en enough<br />
sun/Vitamin D for the day (make sure you do not<br />
get sunburnt). It is advisable to eat a high<br />
an oxidant and beneficial fat diet and<br />
take certain supplements that increase sun<br />
tolerance to help your body benefit from sun<br />
exposure.<br />
How to Get It At Home<br />
Since we can't all live at the beach yearround,<br />
it is possible to get Vitamin D at home.<br />
Obviously, sun exposure can accomplish this at<br />
home or at the beach. For mes of year when<br />
sun exposure isn't possible, Vitamin D<br />
supplements are available to take.<br />
Magnesium<br />
Magnesium is the eighth most abundant<br />
mineral on earth, and the third most abundant in<br />
sea water. More importantly, it is the fourth most<br />
abundant mineral in the human body and it is<br />
necessary in over 300 reac ons within the body.<br />
Every single cell in the human body<br />
demands adequate magnesium to func on, or it<br />
will perish. Strong bones and teeth, balanced<br />
hormones, a healthy nervous and cardiovascular<br />
system, well-func oning detoxifica on pathways<br />
and much more depend upon cellular<br />
magnesium sufficiency. So ssue containing the<br />
highest concentra ons of magnesium in the body<br />
include the brain and the heart—two organs that<br />
produce a large amount of electrical ac vity, and<br />
which can be especially vulnerable to magnesium<br />
insufficiency.<br />
Sea water and sand are a great source of<br />
magnesium and it is o en be er to get<br />
magnesium transdermally (through the skin).<br />
Unfortunately, magnesium is o en not well<br />
absorbed by the diges ve track, and is even more<br />
difficult to absorb in this way for those who are<br />
low in vitamin D, have poor gut bacteria or suffer<br />
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from a number of other health condi ons.<br />
The salt water itself is also detoxifying<br />
and helps pull impuri es from the body and skin.<br />
Salt water inhibits bacterial growth and skin<br />
infec ons.<br />
Get It At Home<br />
For those of us not able to get a daily soak<br />
in the ocean for our magnesium, there are some<br />
easy ways to supplement at home such as<br />
magnesium oil applied to the skin for absorp on<br />
or taken as an oral supplement.<br />
Leafy green vegetables, sea vegetables,<br />
kelp are especially good dietary sources of<br />
magnesium, though if you have a deficiency, it<br />
will be difficult to raise your levels enough<br />
through diet alone.<br />
The best ways to supplement with<br />
magnesium are:<br />
· In power from with a product I so<br />
that you can you van vary your dose and work up<br />
slowly.<br />
· In ionic liquid for so that it can be<br />
added to food and drinks and dose can be<br />
worked up slowly.<br />
· In transdermal form by using<br />
Magnesium oil applied to skin. This is o en the<br />
most effec ve op on for those with damaged<br />
dige ve tracts or severe deficiency.<br />
Grounding/Earthing<br />
A less common benefit of me at the<br />
beach is the grounding/earthing effect it<br />
provides.<br />
Basically, the theory is that our bodies are<br />
meant to come into contact with the Earth (a<br />
“grounding” force) on a regular basis. Posi ve<br />
electrons in the form of free radicals can build up<br />
in our bodies and direct contact with the ground<br />
balances this out as it is a nega ve grounding<br />
charge.<br />
Our bodies and cells have electrical<br />
energy, and especially with the high prevalence<br />
of Electromagne c waves, Wi-Fi and mobile<br />
phone waves, many of us have a high amount of<br />
posi ve electrons built up in our bodies.<br />
Throughout history, humans have spent<br />
me outdoors much more than we do in modern<br />
me and have been in direct contact with the<br />
soil. From walking on the ground barefoot, to<br />
gardening or lling the soil, humans have always<br />
touched the earth… un l recently.<br />
The sand and ocean water from the beach<br />
are both naturally conduc ve materials and both<br />
help ground the body and remove excess posi ve<br />
electrons. For the same basic reason that we<br />
ground electrical outlets to avoid the build-up of<br />
excess posi ve charge, our bodies need the same<br />
ground effect.<br />
To get this benefit, a person must be<br />
barefoot and in direct contact with the sand or<br />
ocean water, and this also works at home in<br />
direct contact with soil or sand…<br />
Get It At Home<br />
Obviously, walking outside barefoot is the<br />
easiest and cheapest way if you are able. To<br />
work, you must be barefoot and in contact with<br />
rock, dirt or water. The beach/ocean is possibly<br />
the best place as not only are sand and salt water<br />
extremely conduc ve, but salt water is also very<br />
high in magnesium. Perhaps this is why many<br />
people seem to sleep be er on vaca on at the<br />
beach!<br />
Relaxa on<br />
Stress is bad for health and the beach is<br />
wonderful for relaxa on. The soothing sound of<br />
waves, the air infused with healthy ions, and the<br />
massage of sand on the feet.<br />
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STOP<br />
easy ways to<br />
global warming<br />
Global warming has increased in vast<br />
increments in the last decade. In fact, in the last<br />
50 years, the earth's global temperature has<br />
increased by 3%. Pollu on caused by the release<br />
of carbon dioxide (Co2) into the air creates<br />
a blanket over the atmosphere. Global warming<br />
can be cause b y a whole chain of events to<br />
rupture ecosystems, weather pa erns, and a<br />
variety of other factors. We all play a part in our<br />
future.<br />
Here are prac cal and easy ways to stop<br />
or prevent global warming and not have to seek<br />
colonisa on on another planet.<br />
Replace Regular Incandescent Light bulb:<br />
Replace regular incandescent light bulb with<br />
compact fluorescent light (CFL) bulbs. They<br />
consume 70% less energy than ordinary bulbs<br />
and have longer life me.<br />
Drive Less or Carpool: By driving less you<br />
are not only saving fuel but also helping in<br />
reducing global warming. Also, look out for other<br />
possibili es like car-pooling. If you have<br />
colleagues who live in the same area then you<br />
can combine trips. If you need to go to a local<br />
market then either walk or go by bicycle. Both of<br />
them are great form of exercise. The biggest<br />
pollu on emi ng fumes are caused by oil and<br />
gasoline. Cu ng down consump on, is a huge<br />
step to reducing energy wastes.<br />
Reduce, Reuse, Recycle: Reduce your<br />
need to buy new products or use less, resul ng in<br />
a smaller amount of waste. Even if you need to<br />
buy, consider buying eco-friendly products. It is<br />
most effec ve of the three R’s. It simply says cut<br />
back where you are now.<br />
Reuse bo les, plas c containers, and other items<br />
bought at the grocery store. Reusing water<br />
bo les, yogurt cups, bread es, and other items<br />
is being conscious about what is already out<br />
there. It will lessen having to purchase other<br />
items that would fulfil the same func on. Try to<br />
use the disposable products into some other<br />
form. Just don't throw them away.<br />
Recycling unwanted paper, bo les, etc…is<br />
a great earth saving p. If possible, upcycle<br />
tables, furniture, and other outdated items to<br />
keep landfills clean. You can recycle almost<br />
anything such as paper, aluminium foil, cans, and<br />
newspapers. By recycling you can help in<br />
reducing landfills.<br />
Go Solar: Having solar panels installed is<br />
something readily possible and available.<br />
Incen ves and discounts given by government<br />
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agencies and energy companies make solar<br />
energy something to look into.<br />
Buy Energy-Efficient Appliances: Always<br />
buy products that are energy efficient as they can<br />
help you save a good amount of money on your<br />
energy bill. Energy efficient products can help<br />
you to save energy, save money and reduce your<br />
carbon footprint.<br />
Reduce Waste: Landfills are the major<br />
contributor of methane and other greenhouse<br />
gases. When the waste is burnt, it release toxic<br />
gases in the atmosphere which result in global<br />
warming. Reusing and recycling old items can<br />
significantly reduce your carbon footprint as it<br />
takes far less energy to recycle old items than to<br />
produce items from scratch.<br />
Use Less Hot Water: Buy energy saving<br />
geysers and dishwasher for your home. Avoid<br />
washing clothes in hot water. Just wash them in<br />
cold or warm water. Avoid taking frequent<br />
showers and use less hot water. It will help in<br />
saving energy require to produce that energy.<br />
Avoid Products with a lot of Packaging:<br />
Don't buy products with lots of packaging. When<br />
you buy such products you will end up in<br />
throwing the waste material in the garbage,<br />
which then will help in filling landfill sites and<br />
pollute the environment. Also, discourage others<br />
fro buying such products.<br />
Turn off the Lights: If you're not using a<br />
room, there's no need for the light to be on.<br />
Turn off Electronic Devices: Turn off electronic<br />
devices when you are moving out for a couple of<br />
days or more. Unnecessary usage of electronic<br />
appliances will not only save fuel i.e. coal by<br />
which we get electricity but also increase the<br />
life me of your gadgets.<br />
Plant a Tree: Plan ng trees can help much<br />
in reducing global warming than any other<br />
method. They not only give oxygen but also take<br />
in carbon dioxide, during the process of<br />
photosynthesis, which is the main source of<br />
global warming.<br />
Use Clean Fuel: Electric, smart cars, cars<br />
run on vegetable oil and so on are great<br />
examples for using renewable energy. Suppor ng<br />
companies that provide these products will help<br />
the rest of the mainstream manufacturing<br />
companies convert over.<br />
Look for Renewable Fuel Op ons: If you<br />
can't afford an electric car, buy the cleanest<br />
gasoline possible. When car shopping, look at the<br />
benefits of op ons that provide renewable fuel.<br />
Save Energy: When you consume less<br />
energy, less carbon dioxide is released into the<br />
atmosphere.<br />
Replace Filters on Air Condi oners and<br />
Furnaces: If you haven't, not only are you<br />
was ng energy, but breathing in dirty air.<br />
Cleaning a dirty air filter can save several pounds<br />
of carbon dioxide a year.<br />
Go Green: Using energy star appliances<br />
will not only save money, but also the amount of<br />
energy wasted in your home. Have a look at<br />
various was to go green.<br />
Service Your Car Regularly: Regular<br />
maintenance will help your car func on properly<br />
and emit less carbon dioxide.<br />
Download Earth Saving Apps: Available<br />
apps can help calculate your energy costs, as well<br />
as provide tools and ways to save energy and<br />
money.<br />
Conserve Water: You have heard this one<br />
many mes before, but it is ever so important.<br />
Remember, it takes energy to draw and filter<br />
water from underground.<br />
Taking a quick 5 minute shower will<br />
greatly conserve energy. The type of shower<br />
head used, will also aid in comba ng global<br />
warming. Take showers instead of baths. Showers<br />
use less water than baths by 25%.<br />
Stop Idling Your Car: It might be freezing<br />
outside, but unless your car is buried in snow,<br />
start your car as usual. It may take longer to<br />
warm up, but the world isn't just about you.<br />
Eat Less Hamburger: Besides carbon<br />
dioxide, methane introduced into the air<br />
contributes to global warning. With meat<br />
consumed by the seconds, the amount of cows<br />
breathing out methane is a huge contributor,<br />
thanks to our carnivorous diet and the billiondollar<br />
meat industry.<br />
Use a Clothesline to Dry Your Clothes:<br />
Most clothes shouldn't be put in the dryer<br />
anyway!<br />
Eat Naturally: <strong>No</strong>t only do the health<br />
benefits speak wonders for those who eat<br />
naturally, but it cuts down the energy costs used<br />
by factories who produce processed food.<br />
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Ride Your Bike: <strong>No</strong>t only is bike riding,<br />
healthy it reduces the amount of Carbon Dioxide<br />
released into the air. Walking is another easy way<br />
to reduce global warming.<br />
Use a Kitchen Cloth Instead of Paper<br />
Towels: Paper towels produce nothing but<br />
wasted energy. Think of the factory pollu on, as<br />
well as the tree consump on.<br />
Reuse Towels: Hang towels to dry, instead<br />
of popping them back in the wash a er a few<br />
uses.<br />
Check Your Tyres: When you drive make<br />
sure your tyres are inflated properly. If not, then<br />
your vehicle might consume more fuel which in<br />
turn release more CO2 in the atmosphere. Keep<br />
your engine properly tuned and drive less<br />
aggressively. Aggressive driving and frequent<br />
applying of brakes hampers the engine and can<br />
even lower the mileage of your car.<br />
Take Lunch in a reusable container: Each<br />
me you throw away that brown paper sack,<br />
more brown paper sacks are being produced in a<br />
factory as we speak.<br />
Get a Home Energy Audit Done: Call a<br />
home energy audit company and get an audit<br />
done for your home that will help you to iden fy<br />
areas that consume a lot of energy and are not<br />
energy efficient at all. Become Part of the Global<br />
Warming Community: Connec ng with others<br />
will help you become more conscious of the<br />
impact we all have. The Climate Change Na onal<br />
Forum and Global Humanitarian Forum are great<br />
avenues to know the latest facts, sta s cs, and<br />
efforts in making a difference.<br />
Actually Celebrate Arbor Day and Earth<br />
day: Although most of us hear about these days<br />
in passing, see what the buzz is all about. Plant a<br />
tree, pick up trash, or join a forum.<br />
Become Aware of Your Contribu on:<br />
With technology at your finger ps, finding<br />
informa on about protec ng the environment is<br />
everywhere. To help emit less CO2, the first step<br />
is being aware of how much you contribute.<br />
Spread the Awareness: Always try your<br />
best to educate people about global warming<br />
and its causes and effects. Tell them how they<br />
can contribute their part by saving energy that<br />
will be good for the environment.<br />
By being just a li le more mindful, we all<br />
can play our part in comba ng global warming.<br />
These easy ps will help preserve the planet for<br />
future genera ons.<br />
Geing<br />
Married<br />
How Do You Know for Sure?<br />
How do you know that he/ she is the<br />
one? The reply is always the same…. “You just<br />
know.” What does that mean anyway? You just<br />
know.<br />
Here are some things to help you know…<br />
Ask Ques ons<br />
Get to know him/ her very well by asking<br />
some important ques ons to know about their<br />
hopes, dreams, fears, expecta ons for marriage,<br />
and anything else you can think of. Talk about<br />
every possible situa on that could arise in a<br />
marriage and find out how he/ she will handle it.<br />
Ques ons can cover everything from how<br />
many kids you each want and where you would<br />
like to live to who would do the dishes and take<br />
out the trash.<br />
It's important to remember that some<br />
people are introverts and need me to process<br />
things before they answer. If your significant<br />
other is one of those people, respect that and<br />
allow him/ her to take the me needed. You<br />
don't have to cover all the ques ons at once.<br />
Spread them out among your other ac vi es and<br />
conversa ons. However, if you find that the<br />
person you are da ng repeatedly avoids<br />
answering ques ons, or feels that the whole idea<br />
is a waste of me, be careful. Even guys (or girls)<br />
who don't like to talk about their emo ons<br />
should be able to communicate freely with the<br />
person they love. If they can't, it could be a red<br />
flag in the rela onship.<br />
Meet the Family<br />
If you have "interes ng" family members,<br />
perhaps an over-protec ve father or an annoying<br />
sibling, having your date spend prolonged<br />
amounts of me with your family may seem<br />
scary. But when you marry someone, you also<br />
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marry that person's family. They come with the<br />
package. So it is important for each of you to<br />
know what you are ge ng into.<br />
In addi on to spending me with each<br />
other's family, discuss your childhood<br />
experiences. The way a person was raised shapes<br />
their belief system and who they become as an<br />
adult. For instance, how did they spend family<br />
vaca ons? Did they even take family vaca ons?<br />
How did their family handle conflicts? How did<br />
they handle finances? What are their holiday<br />
tradi ons? These seem like simple things, but<br />
when you combine two people with very<br />
different holiday tradi ons, sparks can fly when<br />
Christmas rolls around! If you know these family<br />
traits ahead of me, you are be er prepared to<br />
consider what each of you grew up with and<br />
decide which of those tradi ons you want to<br />
keep and which you want to change.<br />
It is also important to know about<br />
problems within the family. If there were things<br />
like abuse or alcoholism in either of your pasts it<br />
is important to discuss these issues.<br />
Consider Your Friends<br />
It is true that love can blind us. O en our<br />
friends can see things about our rela onships<br />
that we cannot. Do your friends like the person<br />
you are da ng? If your friends express concerns<br />
to you, don't immediately tune them out. Take<br />
some me to consider whether what they say<br />
has any truth in it.<br />
Take Your Time<br />
Regardless of what you heart (or biological clock)<br />
says, you do not need to be in a rush to get<br />
married. It is important to take the me to<br />
prepare yourself for such a huge step. Are you<br />
emo onally ready to get married? You should<br />
ques on your reasons for wan ng to marry this<br />
person. If it is to make you happy or relieve<br />
loneliness, you may find yourself disappointed<br />
a er the wedding. Or if you have emo onal<br />
wounds from your past that you have never dealt<br />
with, perhaps you should seek counselling about<br />
those issues before proceeding to marriage.<br />
Be sure your finances are in order and try to pay<br />
off any large debts before you get married.<br />
You Just Know<br />
Once you do all these things, you will<br />
have a much be er picture of who you are da ng<br />
and what you both expect in a marriage. There<br />
will always be new things that you learn about<br />
each other if you do get married, but knowing as<br />
much as possible from the beginning will make<br />
the transi on to marriage much easier.<br />
So how do you know for sure? I think my<br />
friends were par ally right. In a sense, you do<br />
”just know,” but it isn't because of some magical<br />
feeling that all is right with the world. Just<br />
knowing comes from me spent contempla ng<br />
your similari es, your differences, and how well<br />
you fit together.<br />
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Couples also need to take me to prepare<br />
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AND<br />
DOESWhy<br />
IT HAPPEN?<br />
“Wait a minute. I've been here before …”<br />
Have you ever experienced a sudden<br />
feeling of familiarity while in a completely new<br />
place? Or the feeling you've had the exact same<br />
conversa on with someone before?<br />
This feeling of familiarity is, of course,<br />
known as déjà vu (a French term meaning<br />
“already seen”) and it's reported to occur on an<br />
occasional basis in 60-80% of people. It's an<br />
experience that's almost always brief and it<br />
occurs at random.<br />
So what is responsible for these feelings<br />
of familiarity?<br />
Experiences of déjà vu are poorly<br />
Experiences of déjà vu are poorly<br />
understood in scien fic terms. Déjà vu occurs<br />
briefly, without warning and has no physical<br />
manifesta ons other than the announcement: “I<br />
just had déjà vu!”<br />
Many researchers propose that the<br />
phenomenon is a memory-based experience and<br />
assume the memory centres of the brain are<br />
responsible for it.<br />
Memory systems<br />
The medial temporal lobes are vital for<br />
the reten on of long-term memories of events<br />
and facts. Certain regions of the medial temporal<br />
lobes are important in the detec on of<br />
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familiarity, or recogni on, as opposed to the<br />
detailed recollec on of specific events.<br />
It has been proposed that familiarity<br />
detec on depends on rhinal cortex func on,<br />
whereas detailed recollec on is linked to the<br />
hippocampus.<br />
The randomness of déjà vu experiences in<br />
healthy individuals makes it difficult to study in<br />
an empirical manner. Any such research is reliant<br />
on self-repor ng from the people involved.<br />
Glitches in the matrix<br />
A subset of epilepsy pa ents consistently<br />
experience déjà vu at the onset of a seizure - that<br />
is, when seizures begin in the medial temporal<br />
lobe. This has given researches a more<br />
experimentally controlled way of studying déjà<br />
vu.<br />
Epilep c seizures are evoked by<br />
altera ons in electrical ac vity in neurons within<br />
focal regions of the brain. This dysfunc onal<br />
neuronal ac vity can spread across the whole<br />
brain like the shock waves generated from an<br />
earthquake. The brain regions in which this<br />
electrical ac va on can occur include the medial<br />
temporal lobes.<br />
Electrical disturbance of this neural<br />
system generates an aura ( a warning of sorts) of<br />
déjà vu. prior to the epilep c event.<br />
By measuring neuronal discharges in the<br />
brains of these pa ents, scien sts have been able<br />
to iden fy the regions of the brain where déjà vu<br />
signals begin.<br />
It has been found that déjà vu is more<br />
readily induced in epilepsy pa ents through<br />
electrical s mula on of the rhinal cor ces as<br />
opposed to the hippocampus. These<br />
observa ons led to the specula on that déjà vu<br />
is caused by a dysfunc onal electrical discharge<br />
in the brain.<br />
These neuronal discharges can occur in a<br />
non-pathological manner in people without<br />
epilepsy. An example of this is a hyponogogic<br />
jerk, the involuntary twitch that can occur just as<br />
you are falling asleep.<br />
It has been proposed that déjà vu could<br />
be triggered by a similar neurological discharge<br />
resul ng in a strange sense of familiarity.<br />
Some researchers argue that the type of déjà vu<br />
experienced by temporal lobe epilepsy pa ents is<br />
different from typical déjà vu.<br />
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The déjà vu experienced prior to an<br />
epilep c seizure may be enduring, rather than a<br />
flee ng feeling in those who don't have epilep c<br />
seizures. In people without epilepsy the vivid<br />
recogni on combined with the knowledge that<br />
the environment is truly novel intrinsically<br />
underpins the experience of déjà vu.<br />
Mismatches and short circuits<br />
Déjà vu in healthy par cipants is reported<br />
as a memory error which may expose the nature<br />
of the memory system. Some researchers<br />
speculate that déjà vu occurs due to a<br />
discrepancy in memory systems leading to the<br />
inappropriate genera on of a detailed memory<br />
from a new sensory experience.<br />
That is, informa on bypasses short-term<br />
memory and instead reaches long-term memory.<br />
This implies déjà vu is evoked by a mismatch<br />
between the sensory input and memory-recalling<br />
output. This explains why a new experience can<br />
feel familiar, but not as tangible as a fully recalled<br />
memory.<br />
Other theories suggest ac va on of the<br />
rhinal neural system, involved in the detec on of<br />
familiarity, occurs without ac va on of the<br />
recollec on system within the hippocampus. This<br />
leads to the feeling of recogni on without<br />
specific details.<br />
Related to this theory, it was proposed<br />
that déjà vu is a reac on of the brain's memory<br />
systems to a familiar experience. This experience<br />
is known to be novel, but has many recognisable<br />
elements, albeit in a slightly different se ng. For<br />
example: Being in a restaurant in a foreign<br />
country that has the same layout as one you go<br />
to regularly at home.<br />
Even more theories exist regarding the<br />
cause of déjà vu. These span from the<br />
paranormal - past lives, alien abduc on and<br />
precogni ve dreams – to memories formed from<br />
experiences that are not first-hand (such as<br />
scenes in movies).<br />
So far there is no simple explana on as to<br />
why déjà vu occurs, but advances in<br />
neuroimaging techniques may aid our<br />
understanding of memory and the tricks our<br />
minds seem to play on us.<br />
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