FLQ MAGAZINE 2ND ISSUE

FLQ 

Mag 

April-June 2017 

10 

REASONS 

WHY MEN 

CHEAT ON 

GREAT WOMEN 

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TRICKS 

TO MAKE HER 

ORGASM FASTER 

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GIRL ON 

TOP TIPS 

EVERY WOMAN 

SHOULD KNOW 

FASHION TRENDS 

OF THE QUARTER 

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BOOKS 

TO CHANGE 

YOUR 

SEX LIFE 

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NO-COST 

WAYS 

TO STAY 

YOUNGER 

FAIR SKIN 

6 POWERFUL 

HOME REMEDIES 

BAD GIRL 

SEX TRICKS 

CONFESSION 

FROM 

25 MEN 

HOW A VIRGIN 

FEELS LIKE 

THE GIRL -POWER EDITION 

BREAK-UPs 

HOW TO MOVE ON 

10 

THINGS 

MEN WISHED 

WOMEN KNEW 

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FLQ Magazine 

TABLES OF CONTENT 

Volume 2 

Number 1 

April-June /17 

ON THE COVER 

Page 

12 HOW DOES A VIRGINAL FEELS LIKE 

22 FASHION TRENDS 

42 9 GIRL ON TOP TIPS TO MAKE SEX 

A LOT SEXIER 

48 BAD GIRL SEX TRICKS 

68 4 BOOKS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR 

SEX LIFE 

82 WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE 

BREAKS UP 

35 HOW TO MAKE HER ORGASM FAST 

60 WHAT MEN WISHED WOMEN KNEW 

74 10REASONS MEN CHEAT ON GREAT 

WOMEN 

COVER TO COVER 

63 10 WAYS TO KNOW A CHEATER 

87 BENEFITS OF IVF 

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90 BLACK HAND

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EDITOR’S LETTER 

I have been The Editor-In-Chief for FLQ Magazine for 

the second issue now and believe me I have been 

nothing but too happy *laughing* , I have always loved 

to flip pages, and now am editing my own which is 

really exciting for me because I just love the job, enough 

with the blab, let’s move on. 

This 2nd quarter issue is made up of 100pages. Very 

defined and more developed than our last issue which 

means we are improving and changing with the 

feedback we got from you on our last issue. 

 

 

 

Feminine and sexy are back (with a twist) in this issue our cover says it all LET 

YOUR STAR SHINE with our GIRL POWER ISSUE ladies. This issue covers 

what makes us more stronger girls both in bed and in our everyday lives. 

This quarter’s issue covers a lot from teaching guys How To Help Us Orgasm 

*Wink* ,How We Deal With Break Ups, IVFs ,Why Men Cheat On Us, What 

Men Wished We Knew About Sex and a lot fuller package. 

April marks the start of a new quarter and a new magazine from us obviously 

lol, From fashion trends over the world By Hilary George-Parkin ,where she dissect 

the trends to keep us in the know of what-is-now in the fashion world and a perfect trend to 

shop our wardrobe this quarter. 

I am really in love with this issue I think am obsessed with it *laughing* I am. 

There are so many defined topics, stories and more in this issue. 

These days, GIRL POWER has been bought to the light, and has one way or 

the other redefined what we think of ourselves as women, which is a good 

thing. It gives us reasons to be more, reasons to strive and achieve more 

instead of settling for the less. Stay With Us—And Expect More. 

Muolokwu Rosemary Aka Lady9ice , Editor-In-Chief 

Snapchat; @Lady9ice 

Instagram: @Lady9ice 

Www.Facebook.Com/Ladynicelove 

Www.Twitter.Com/Sexydiva_Love 

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MEET THE CONTRIBUTORS 

Bella Pope 

Lover. Laugher. Writer. Reader. Guitar 

Player. Craft Enthusiast. Workout 

Junky. Wannabe Chef. Traveling Free 

Spirit. I’m just a small town gal fighting 

my way... 

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Paul Mangay 

Paul Timothy or Morty as 

he likes to call himself) is a 

writer-photographer based in 

Manila. After finishing a 

degree in Psychology he 

found himself swep... 

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Kayla Kissinger 

Kayla Kissinger is a writer and a dog mom who 

loves longs walks and used books. She likes 

animals more than people, and believes that the 

way people treat an... 

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Flirt. Tease. Fall in Love. Your Guide to Better Love and Relationships.... 

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CONFESSIONS 

WHAT DOES A VAGINA FEEL 

LIKE? 

25 CONFESSIONS FROM MEN 

By Paul Mangay 

THE QUESTION, WHAT DOES A VAGINA FEEL 

LIKE, IS WHAT YOU WOULD IMAGINE A 

HORMONE-RAGED PUBESCENT BOY WOULD 

ASK. HOWEVER, THE LADIES ARE NO 

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EXCEPTION.

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Being on the receiving end during sex, the experience is obviously 

different from their perspective. And they are undoubtedly equally 

curious about how their lady parts feel from their partner’s end of the 

business. 

ANSWERS TO THE QUESTION, 

WHAT DOES A VAGINA FEEL LIKE 

While the general response from the bulk of responders is the expected 

AWESOME or It feels really great, we *and probably most male sex 

toy designers* would still like to get into the specific details. 

We did so by consulting the so-called front page of the internet and 

solicited the creative answers of its experienced male populace. Here are 

the answers to the question, what does a vagina feel like. 

#1 THIS ANALOGY IS PROBABLY THE MOST 

HILARIOUSLY ACCURATE OF THEM ALL. 

Rub your tongue on the inside of your bottom lip. Its feels like that but 

warmer, wetter and tighter, oh and it’s on your c*ck so it feels amazing.- 

SlyFox28 

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#2 SOME STRAIGHT, 

INFORMATIVE ANSWERS. 

Like the inside of your mouth.-love2go 

#3 Depends on the vagina. No two vaginas are alike. Oh sure, they all 

have that slippery/warm/moist feel, but some are more ridgey, some 

are more velvet, some are tighter, some more open, and some lubricate 

better than others. 

#4 From behind, it’s tighter, and you can feel your cock glide over a 

ridge at the front of the vagina that feels fucking awesome for both 

genders. -unknown 

#5 It can vary wildly. At first entry, the opening can sometimes be 

clearly found, and other times there’s a bit of shoving involved. Either 

way… it’s electric. The first few thrusts feel like the life you once knew is 

over and the troubles you had a moment before will never matter again. 

#7 There’s also the physical and psychological pleasure of bottoming 

out. I have heard that it hurts, but that it’s a good pain. The feeling of 

striking a cervix is intense because that jolt often surprises a woman and 

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makes her flex. That one is more like a hand grasping it all along.tedcorp 

#8 It is amazing, and so much more amazing without a condom *but 

of course never on the first few go’s and only with someone you 

absolutely trust that is on birth control, where both of you are either very 

inexperienced or have been tested recently.* I’m new to sex but my girl is 

amazing. 

#9 It’s tight, warm, wet, and soft, with titillating ridgey texture. It’s 

like having your dick hugged from every direction. Once you are inside 

it feels like this moment is the only thing that matters or ever will matter, 

your problems, fears, insecurities, everything just vanishes. It is better 

than every drug I could 

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ever imagine.-unknown 

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#10 Bumpy with ridges to start out then squishy the further you go. 

Very warm, very wet. Nothing better in this world.-unknown 

#11 It’s just the warmest, smoothest, feeling. Essentially feels the same 

as wanking, but imagine your hand being a gorgeous woman moaning on 

top of you, her vaginal muscles contracting and milking your dick with a 

lube of the perfect temperature, slickness, oh and there’s the feeling of just 

pleasing someone with your dick, is so addictive.-mrtommins 

THERE ARE ALSO SUCCINCT BUT HILARIOUS 

DESCRIPTIONS OF THEIR PERSONAL 

EXPERIENCE. 

#12 Like a warm, wet hug.-TomBonner1 

#13 Like a sweaty hot taco -Cyloke 

#14 Like a microwaved, wet, beach towel.-kwjiboner 

#15 A velvet bag of puppy dog ears. -Concretia 

#16 Like opening the window and fucking the night.-VaginalFungus 

#17 Like f*cking a Jar of Mayonnaise -SirBoris 

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#18 It’s like I’ve taken clothes out of the dryer and outfitted my penis 

perfectly. -vedderer 

AND LET’S NOT FORGET THE REFERENCE FROM A 

BELOVED MOVIE CLASSIC. 

#19 Warm Apple Pie. -Parrk 

THESE GUYS GOT A LITTLE POETIC IN THEIR 

DESCRIPTION. 

#20 It’s your dick’s version of jumping in a hot shower after being out 

in the cold of winter. Like climbing into bed after a long day, like your 

favourite meal, eaten in your favourite place. It’s like finally having your 

house to yourself after having obnoxious house guests who’ve overstayed 

their welcome. 

Physically, it feels like the softest fabric you can imagine dipped in oil 

and heated to 98 degrees, wrapped tight around your dick. I remember 

at first I found it to be almost unbearable, the heat on my dick. It actually 

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hurt a bit. More like discomfort. Like sitting a little too close to a camp 

fire. But it’s something you quickly get used to-uncle_ruckus12 

#21 A million times better than you imagine. It’s like sticking your 

penis in heaven. -unknown 

#22 It’s like a warm glove filled with massage oil, fit nice and snug. 

And once it’s in there I feel the fire of man burning deep within my 

chest.-nopooponme 

#23 It would be like trying to describe color to the blind.shankems2000 

#24 Warm, moist, and wondrous.-Zhinenglaowai 

#25 Being inside her is the closest you’ll ever get to true enlightenment 

and happiness.-chopmeatsandwich 

So what does a vagina feel like? Well, just like penises, not all vaginas 

are alike. Each come with their own quirks and little surprises. But 

despite that, we are pretty sure that all men would agree that being 

inside the warm, moist, and slimy insides of their lady is one of the 

most pleasurable experiences for them and their thing. 

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FLQ FASHION TREND 

THE TOP 5 TRENDS FROM 

FASHION WEEK AROUND THE 

WORLD 2017 

By Hilary George-Parkin 


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The trends are in from Fashion Week shows, and we’ve got a good 

idea of what we’ll be wearing in the coming season—once we finally 

come out the other side of the cold weather that is. 

While many brands experimented with a see-now-buy-now format this 

season—Tom Ford, Thakoon, Rebecca Minkoff, and Ralph Lauren among 

them—the vast majority still did things the old-fashioned way, giving us a 

chance to preview their wares six months before they land in stores. Some 

of the trends that dominated 2016—off-the-shoulder styles, Vetementsstyle 

hoodies—are still kicking, but weren’t nearly as ubiquitous this time 

around. That said, there will still be plenty of bare clavicles, thanks to 

slouchy, one-shoulder pieces and a wave of skimpy bra tops, and 

athleisure’s influence still reigned at brands with sportswear in their 

DNA, such as DKNY, Lacoste, and Alexander Wang. 

Below, see the top ten trends that emerged at FWs. We know which ones 

we’re excited to shop—how about you? 

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both in terms of proportion (some looked capable of swallowing models whole) and in 

terms of popularity you’d be harder pressed to find a show that didn’t feature a little 

bit of flounce. The styles we’re most eager to get a hold of, though, were those that 

balanced the femininity with a little sleekness or ease—think asymmetrical dresses, oneshoulder 

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Bold, bright, and 

brilliantly textured, 

spring’s stripes are a 

jolt of energy in a sea 

of classic Bretons. 

And while they came 

in all shades of the 

rainbow this season, 

our favorites were 

those that featured 

graphic primary 

colors anchored 

down with some 

polished black 

(naturally, Rosie 

Assoulin’s sequin 

shirtdress was 

another standout of 

the week). 

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For those with ample confidence (and not-so-ample cleavage), there will be 

endless opportunities to take the crop-top trend to its logical conclusion and skip the top 

part all together. Lingerie-like pieces were paired with evening skirts, cropped jeans, slinky 

suits, 25 and more at shows as varied as Alexander Wang, Tory Burch, and Oscar de la Renta. 

With a few months yet till they hit the shelves, we at least have plenty of time to start


Milly by Michelle Smith; 

Alexander Wang; Kaelen 

(ImaxTree) 

All Tied Up 

Laces: no longer just for 

your sneakers. Thanks to 

this season’s runways, 

there will be plenty of 

creative ways to strap up 

for spring, both subtle 

Kaelen’s spliced shirts 

and suede dresses) and 

in-your-face (Alexander 

Wang’s bare, belted 

waists Milly’s criss-cross 

arm ties). 

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Cool Khaki 

Beige stopped being a synonym for boring the second Kim Kardashian 

slithered into Band-aid-colored bodycon, and this spring, neutral hues will 

be especially widespread. At Dion Lee, the timeless trench silhouette got 

transformed into tailored, slit-shoulder jackets and belted skirt-pants, while at Ulla 

Johnson and Creatures of the Wind, khaki’s sometimes-utilitarian feel was nixed by 

nipped waists and femme ruffles. 

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FLQ LIFESTYLE 

1. TRIM 

YOUR 

EYEBROWS 

Yes, something as 

simple, as trimming 

your eyebrows, can 

make you look 

younger. If your 

brows are the 

wrong shape and 

untrimmed, then 

they can actually 

make you look sad, 

as well as older. 

10 NO-COST WAYS 

TO STAY 

YOUNGER 

2. MOISTURIZE 

EVERY DAY 

3. GET A GOOD 

NIGHT’S SLEEP 

Another good Sleep gives your body 

tip for looking younger a chance to refresh and 

than your age is to rejuvenate it, and a 

moisturize your face, lack of sleep can speed 

hands and neck every up the aging process. 

day and it will help to Be sure to get your full 

keep your skin supple, eight hours of sleep a 

fresh and young night and give your 

looking. It’s amazing body a chance to 

how much difference recover from its 

this can make, over time, daytime exertions. 

so start your daily 

moisturizing regime 

today. 

5. DRINK A GLASS OF RED WINE A DAY. 

You shouldn’t overdo the alcohol, but a glass of red wine a day is very 

good for your health. Red wine contains a healthy dose of the 

antioxidant that can help prevent free radicals from damaging your skin 

and making you look older. 

6. GET PLENTY OF VITAMIN C 

4. CUT DOWN 

SUGER 

INTAKE 

Our next suggestion 

for looking younger 

than your age is to 

cut down on sugar. 

Too much sugar us 

bad for you in many 

ways, but did you 

know that it can also 

be the cause of 

wrinkles??? My 

guess, NO! cut down 

on surgery, sweet 

treats and cut out the 

soda, and you will be 

doing yourself and 

body a big favour. 

If your daily intake of vitamin C is 75mg, or more, depending n your age and weight, 

then that is believed t help stop wrinkles from developing. That’s only the 

amount of vitamin c that you would get from two medium sized oranges, so it’s 

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easy to achieve.


7. WHITEN YOUR 

TEETH 

Another good tip for looking 

younger than your age is to 

whiten your teeth. Use 

whitening toothpaste to keep 

your smile radiant and bright. 

Tea and coffee leaves stains on 

your teeth and this isn’t 

attractive, it makes you look 

older. 

8 WEAR LIGHT 

COLORED 

CLOTHING 

You have to think about this 

tip a bit, because although 

light colored clothing will 

make you look younger, dark 

colored clothes will make you 

look thinner. Ensure you check 

out what works best for you 

before you decide. 

9. DRINK 

WATER A LOT 

OF WATER 

It’s time for our favorite 

overall wellbeing tip, 

health and for looking 

younger than your age 

and always repeats the 

again and again; drink 

water! Drink plenty of 

fresh water every single 

day as least 2litres. 

Because dehydration will 

damage your skin, your 

hair and make you look a 

lot older. 

10. THINK YOUNG, LOOK YOUNG 

You are as young as you think and you don’t need surgery for that. It really is as much a 

physiological thing as it is Physical. If you think young, then you will act younger and every one 

will believe that you are younger, then you really are. Our lips are sealed, we won’t tell anyone! 

STAY HAPPY!!! 

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6 

POWERFUL HOME REMEDIES 

TO GETTING 

A 

FAIR SKIN NATURALLY 

1 2 

First of all always use a sun screen 

before stepping out in sun especially in 

SUNNY DAYS. Avoid going out from 11-00 

AM to 4-00 PM in hot season to get a fair skin. 

3 

Mix bread crumbs (aka a fragment or 

small amount of bread) with milk cream to get 

a fair skin. It is very good face mask for to 

make dry skin fair in the harmattan/winter 

season. 

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Use tea tree oil face cleaners. It helps to 

lighten the tanned skin due to sun. 

Also you can add a glass of orange juice to 

you daily diet. It helps a lot in giving you a 

fair skin. 

To make your skin glowing like after that of a 

facial, take a banana, mash it and smear on the 

face. Wash after 20 minutes. Your skin will 

It’s cost effective plus all the items listed are all in 

your kitchen 

Cleanse your skin regularly with Facial 

Cleansers. Moisturizing the skin after 

cleansing is equally important to get a fair and 

glowing skin. 

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Eating apples, peaches and guava also 

helps in lightening the tone of your skin. 

Applying lemon juice daily to those dark spots 

is the easy and effective home remedy to get a 

fair skin. 

In addition to this drink a lot of water. Include 

fresh fruits and vegetables in your diet. What 

you eat shows on your face. So be choosy in 

your diet and opt for fresh fruits and 

vegetables instead of junk food. 

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Take coconut milk and apply on face 

daily. This will make your skin fair. It also 

helps in removing scars and blemishes.

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Make her squirm with delight! 

Quick Note, before you read this guide: If you’re serious about learning how to 

make a woman orgasm and become a master of the g-spot. Then you need to read 

this before it’s taken down. 

Ok, let’s be serious for a minute, I want you to answer the following questions… 

1) ARE YOU AMAZING IN THE SACK? 

2) CAN YOU GIVE ANY WOMAN MIND BLOWING… PILLOW BITING… 

TOE CURLING ORGASMS ON DEMAND? 

If you said yes to both of those questions, then you can leave dude because it’s 

obvious that you’re a boss. 

But if you said no and bowed your head in shame like a lost little puppy who 

fumbles his way through the bedroom during nookie, then you’re going to LOVE 

what I’m about to teach you. 

After you’ve finished reading this entire post, you’re going to know EXACTLY how 

to make a woman orgasm faster than you ever thought humanly possible. 

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You’re going to understand why sex positions are crucial for nailing the G-Spot and 

why you must get her relaxed before sex to guarantee sensational orgasms that will 

leave her body numb with pleasure. 

ALSO WHAT YOU MUST DO 

STRAIGHT AFTER HAVING SEX. 

Are you ready? Because this isn’t some flimsy throw away bunch of hyped up tips… 

these are hard hitting, proven ways to make any girl scream with ecstasy… again 

and again. 

I got them from my pals over at Orgasm Arts, plus I’ve used them myself and they 

totally work. 

Ok awesome, let’s get started. 

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN 

ORGASM FAST (YES… ANY 

WOMAN) ON COMMAND 

First things first… get her completely relaxed. 

Now it’s a known fact that women find it much harder to get off and orgasm 

without any foreplay, so you should always try and introduce foreplay before sex, 

let those tricky fingers hang loose bro. 

But even before foreplay, you have to get her totally relaxed so she’s comfortable in 

your company. If she’s not relaxed, it’s game over… she’ll be faking like a pro. 

Take your time dude, just make her feel at ease so she’s practically begging you to 

have sex with her… this is when you take it to the next stage and bring out the BIG 

GUNS. 

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USE THESE 3 KILLER SEX 

POSITIONS 

Right then, once you’ve made her feel relaxed, clothes are off and you’re humping 

her like a jack rabbit, remember to use these 3 cheeky G-Spot moves: 

POSITION 1: ADVANCED DOGGY 

Perfect for pounding her ass. 

Assume the normal Doggystyle position, then guide her head down so it’s on the 

bed, make sure her ass is still in the air. 

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Now place a pillow underneath her stomach and tell her to rest on it. So she’s 

relaxed and just ready to be pounded. 

Lastly, just go for it. Thrust downwards, hard and with a steady pace so that it’s 

consistent. Try and maintain the thrusting for 5 minutes, if you can do that she’ll 

have a squirting orgasm in no time. 

POSITION 2: G-SPOT MISSIONARY 

HITS HER G-POT EVERY DAMN TIME 

Assume the normal missionary position, then take both her legs and place them over 

both of your shoulders. Place a pillow under her lower back and slightly lift her legs 

so her ass is just off the bed. 

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Now all you need to do is thrust hard and with a consistent pace. Mix things up by 

moving towards her face and whispering naughty things to her, also taking just the 

one leg and pumping her just like that. 

POSITION 3: GIRL ON TOP 

AWKWARD TO PULL OFF, BUT WORKS LIKE A CHARM. 

Yeeeehaa cowboy. Grab a chair and ask her to sit on top, make sure she leans back 

and holds onto the edge of the chair, arching her back as she does this. 

Now it’s up to her to do the work, but it’s important to tell her to ride you hard. Talk 

her through it by saying naughty things so she gets turned on and keeps going. 

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Make it a point to throw all of these positions in at some point and spend 5 to 10 

minutes on each. 

…THE AFTERMATH 

So let’s imagine you’ve just finished having sex and you’re both exhausted, give her 

a KISS AND A CUDDLE THEN SAY THAT YOU REALLY NEED TO BE 

SOMEWHERE… this will leave her wanting more. 

That’s how you make a woman orgasm faster than she ever has before! Oh if you’d 

like any more advanced sex tips like these I’d strongly recommend you check out 

Orgasm Arts, these guys are the real deal when it comes to teaching guys how to 

perform between the sheets. 

Ladies: What’s the best way to make you orgasm? Let us know on our social media wall 

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SEX GUIDE 

9 GIRL ON TOP TIPS TO MAKE SEX 

A LOT SEXIER! 

THE GIRL ON 

TOP SEX 

POSITION 

Before using any of these 

tips, remember this. 

You may feel awkward or 

uncomfortable about the 

way you think you look 

when you’re bouncing off 

your man, but your man 

would find you sexier 

than ever in the 

controlling girl on top 

position. 

When you’re on top, 

you’re the one controlling 

the sex, so don’t get 

carried away. 

You need to make your 

man feel like he’s playing 

a part too, and that’s the 

only way to enjoy great 

sex when you’re sitting 

over him. 

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for both of you. Use these 

things-to-know to learn 

more about the sexy girl on 

top position.

SEX GUIDE 

THINGS TO KNOW WHEN YOU’RE ON TOP 

When you’re on top, there are a few precautions to keep in mind and a few things 

you need to know to make sex more enjoyable for both of you. Use these things-toknow 

to learn more about the sexy girl on top position. 

#1 IT’S REALLY 

TIRING 

#2 PLAY 

WITH YOUR 

HAIR 

Sitting on your guy and pounding on him or 

grinding circles around his member isn’t as simple as 

it sounds. It’s really tiring. You’re not lying down 

doing the missionary here. You’re jumping on and Now and then, loosen your hair up and 

off all the time, and that involves a lot of your biggest 

use your fingers to play with it carelessly 

muscles like the ones in your legs. 

when your man’s looking at you. You 

Every now and then, rest your hands on the sides 

can pretend like you can’t notice him by 

of your man or place it over his chest so you can 

take the pressure off your legs. You’ll feel stronger turning your face away from him if you 

and enjoy the girl on top position better, trust me. 

feel awkward. It’ll definitely arouse him 

a lot more just watching you enjoy 

yourself, okay what next??? >>> 

LET HIM 

KNOW 

JUST 

HOW 

HORNY 

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YOU ARE 

#3 CUP YOUR 

BREASTS 

All guys love watching a girl play with her 

breasts. As you bounce off him, cup your 

breasts with your hands and move them 

against the sides of your body. Additionally, 

you can take his hands and place it on your 

breasts as you grind around him won’t feel 

involved.

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SEX GUIDE 

#4 LET HIM 

HOLD YOU 

Staying on top and moving aggressively 

#5 FOREPLAY 

WHEN YOU’RE ON 

TOP 

against him for more than a few minutes 

When you want to get on top, make him lie 

can leave you exhausted. To avoid feeling down on his back and stroke him all over. 

He’ll enjoy the attention because he really 

weak with fatigue and ruining the mood, 

doesn’t have to do much here. Blow him or 

give your man some control now and then. 

kiss him all around his member and turn him 

on. And once he’s fully ready, penetrate him. 

Grab both his hands and place it against 

Take your time before sitting on him or he 

your waist as you move up and down on 

may end up losing his erection. 

him. And press his hands firmly against When your man’s lying down, he can’t stroke 

your body so he gets the hint to lift you up himself or control the way you move, and the 

unpredictability can make him lose his 

and down along with your own 

erection. It takes time to move in sync with 

momentum. It’ll help ease your sex 

each other when you’re on top. And until 

workout and make him feel involved too. then, the erection you give him before 

And by doing that, both of you can 

penetration has to work its magic to keep him 

up 

actually last longer and enjoy the girl on 

top position for much longer. 

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SEX GUIDE 

By Kayla Kissinger 

#6 HE’S NOT AS STRONG AS YOU 

THINK 

Really, your man’s member is really, really sensitive. It doesn’t have a bone even if he has 

a boner. When you’re on top of him, a lot of your weight rests around his member. Move 

around in new motions or adjust your position now and then. But don’t sit on him hard or 

move in quick, opposite directions all of a sudden, without any warning. You may end up 

fracturing him down there if you don’t take it easy! 

IT DOESN’T HAVE A BONE EVEN IF HE HAS A 

BONER. 

#7 ENJOY HIS BODY 

What does your man do to your body when he’s on top? Do the same things to his body. Being 

on top is all about shedding your inhibitions and feeling in control. Lick his nipples, nibble his 

ears, grab his butt as you straddle him and do anything else that makes you feel good. Your 

man may actually be surprised and get turned on by seeing this new side of yours 

#8 DIRTY TALK 

Don’t just bounce up and down the whole way. You’ll tire yourself off or the 

constant thwacking will end up boring both of you. Get close to him and gasp 

something sexy in his ears. Whisper something dirty that’ll turn both of you on 

more. And in the heat of the moment, let your imagination run wild and dirty. 

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#8 READ HIS SIGNS 

The person on top has the important task of gauging the sex and working towards making 

it better. They control the way the sex goes and how it ends. So when you’re using the girl 

on top position, you can have fun controlling your man. But at the same time, you need to 

read his signs so both of you can orgasm together. 

If he seems to be distracted or in pain, slow down and see if it’s something you’re doing. 

Perhaps, you’re moving too aggressively and giving him a burn on his inner thighs. Or if 

he suddenly grabs you, stop moving your pelvis for a second to find out if he’s unable to 

hold on anymore. And most importantly, if his member starts throbbing inside you when 

you’re on top, he’s probably having a hard time holding himself back from blowing out, so 

slow down and help him get back his control or build yourself up to orgasm together. 

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SEX PROs 

BAD-GIRL SEX TRICKS 

By Jennifer 

Benjamin 

Bad girls are legendary yes you read that right girl lol — a guy who's 

been with one practically passes out from bliss when he talks about his 

experience. 

You might be thinking, "Who, me? Be a bad girl?" But any 

All men secretly 

crave boundarypushing 

action in 

bed, so whip out 

these moves to 

wow him like 

crazy trust me it 

would surprise u 

on how excited 

he gets. 

woman who wants to can wake up her hibernating vixen...and have a 

damn good time doing it! 

See, bed-devil status is about a fearless attitude, not how much sexual 

experience you have or whether you wear leather. "GUYS DIG 

WHEN WOMEN ARE UNBRIDLED AND 

UNINHIBITED, PUSH THEIR OWN BOUNDARIES, 

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BREAK THE RULES, AND ASK FOR WHAT THEY 

WANT," says Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of The Good Girl's Guide to 

Bad Girl Sex. So we boiled down the naughty qualities that make some 

women stand out, and then came up with seven audacious ideas for 

putting them into play. These tips and tricks will forever crank up the 

heat in your sex life. 

SLOWLY 

KISS YOUR 

WAY DOWN 

HIS TORSO 

DARE: BE THE BOSS IN BED TONIGHT 

A wickedly sexy woman knows how to deliciously exploit the power she 

has over a man. Tell your guy to lie down on the bed, then use handcuffs, 

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scarves, or a necktie to tether his 

hands together so he can't touch you. (If you're not game to use real 

restraints, you can simply hold his hands over his head.) 

Next, "you want to torture him playfully with your teasing," says sex 

expert Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do. 

"Slowly kiss your way down his torso, and just as you get to his pelvis, 

move back up to his ears and neck." 

As you tantalize him and he strains to touch you, ask him to tell you why 

he wants you so bad, explaining that you won't let him free until he 

convinces you. Once he's pleaded his case, release his hands, roll onto 

your back, and allow him to take over. After building up the erotic 

anticipation, it'll be like setting a windup toy loose on your body...and 

hearing him describe how hot you are will turbocharge your experience 

too. 

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DARE: SLIP INTO A NAUGHTY 

COSTUME 

To infuse your sex sessions with more attitudes, sometimes all it takes is 

looking the part of a true temptress. "One of the ways a woman can really 

show off her sexuality is by playing up different sides of her erotic 

personality," explains Jamye Waxman, author of Getting Off. 

If you're feeling like a flirty, girlie tease, put on a white cotton undie set or 

pale pink lingerie and pull your hair into a ponytail, or don a schoolgirllike 

plaid miniskirt with an oxford shirt tied above your navel. 

To become an X-rated seductress, wear something red or black in sheer 

fabric or lace, then add crimson lipstick and nails. "Outfits not only help 

you get in the moment, they also give him a visual turn-on and 

inspiration," adds Waxman. 

Just standing there in your flimsy finest may be enough, but a few teasing 

lines will definitely get the ball rolling. When playing the innocent card, 

say it's your first time, and ask him what you should do. As a seductress, 

whisper all the different ways and places you want to touch him. 

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DARE: LEARN TO TALK 

DIRTY 

Moans and sighs (Oh! Oh!) are easy. It's the dirty dialogue that really puts 

a triple-X stamp on your sex sessions. "TALKING DIRTY HEIGHTENS 

THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE, KEEPS YOU BOTH PRESENT, AND 

TURNS YOU ON EVEN MORE," 

says Royalle. "Plus, men actually like being told what to do in bed because 

it helps them get it right." 

First tell him how freaking' good he feels. (Tongue-tied? Try no-fail lines 

like "You feel so/You make me [adjective]"; "I love it when you [verb] my 

[body part].") Then you're set to show him the way to send you soaring, 

with something like, "Oooh, almost there. I need your [noun] on my [body 

part], just like this." 

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DARE: WATCH YOURSELVES 

HAVING SEX 

Body confidence and carnal 

curiosity are key traits of a sex 

goddess, and both are on full 

display when you make a sex 

tape. 

"Seeing yourselves misact gives you a voyeuristic thrill, almost as though 

you're peeping into your own bedroom. It feels taboo," explains Royalle. 

"You also get to see how your partner is responding and how you look 

when you're getting off." If you're worried about becoming the next Kim 

Kardashian, skip the tape and just hook the video camera directly up to a 

television in your bedroom — without recording — and watch yourselves 

while you're going at it. 

Since missionary doesn't exactly make for good TV, get into racier 

positions where you're facing the camera. Go for doggie-style so you can 

both see the action or girl-on-top so you can watch exactly how you move. 

And definitely get shots exchanging oral sex so you can see the orgasmic 

effect you have on each other. 

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• DARE: SUMMON HIS BURIED BAD 

BOY 

. 

Bad girls are known to 

capture a few prisoners in 

the sack, but a bold 

bedroom chick also enjoys 

enacting her own fantasies, 

shame-free. And one of 

women's top fantasies is to 

be taken. "It's a turn-on to 

feel like he wants you so 

bad; he just can't help 

himself," 

"Plus, when he's being aggressive, you have to fully 

give up the reins, which can help you be even more in the here and now." 

Instruct your guy to hide behind the door and "surprise" you by taking 

charge when you get home one night. He can either have his way with 

you right in the foyer or pull you into the bedroom. Or let him know that 

you're in the mood but want him to conquer you, caveman-style, even if it 

means playfully wrestling you to the bed as you try to slip out of his 

grasp. 

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• DARE: GIVE HIM A JOLT 

Breaking out of your touch-here-then-lick-there routine adds a lusty layer to the 

erotic experience. And fearless sexual playmates know that unexpectedly intense 

sexual maneuvers are even more exciting. "A forceful touch snaps your guy into the 

moment and heightens every sensation that follows," says Royalle. " 

The spontaneity also keeps him anticipating each touch, magnifying his excitement." 

Plus, the implied roughness invites him to tap in to his primal, wild sexual self. 

Grip his butt hard while in missionary, scratch his chest and the sides of his torso 

while in girl-on-top, or yank his head toward you to give him a passionate, damnstraight 

kind of kiss. If those moves elicit an excited response, firmly spank his butt, 

lightly bite his shoulder, or tug his hair in the act, you devilish thing. 

DARE: TRY SOME NAUGHTY 

PROPS 

Do something unexpected with toys you already have lying around the 

house. 

Hairbrush: A hard-bristled hairbrush is perfect for gently scratching his 

skin. 

Rolling pin: Run this baker's basic over his back and thighs during an 

erotic massage. 

Blush brush: Skip the pricey feathers you find at sex shops, and use this 

to tickle his neck, chest, arms, and package. 

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10 THINGS MEN WISH 

WOMEN KNEW ABOUT 

SEX 

Learn what he really wants in the bedroom and why, with these genius 

sex tips and advice. 

Freud called female sexuality "the dark continent"; if that's true, male 

sexuality could qualify as the dark planet. But when it comes to sex, guys are 

simple, right? Not true. The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, 

and as such, what you see and hear is typically the role, not the reality. It's no 

wonder, in trying to please the actor, a woman loses sight of a guy's true identity. 

Here are 10 "unmasking" facts you may want to know: 

1. WE RESPOND 

TO PRAISE 

2. WE LIKE IT 

WHEN YOU TALK 

Talking during sex stimulates more than our 

ears. What kind of talk? Dirty, praising and 

instructive are great starts. As amusing as it 

ay sound, a woman's words can make a guy 

feel as potent and virile as a Roman gladiator, 

even if he's a suburban banker. 

It's believed that men are so consumed by 

our libido that we have no selfconsciousness 

surrounding sex. But men 

are no different from women when it comes 

to compliments as catalysts for sexual 

confidence. This praise can be delivered 

before reaching the bedroom (give us the 

once-over and tell us how buff we look), 

and after (give us the once-over and tell us 

how buff we look naked). Along those lines, 

men worry about the size of their penis, 

their hair (or lack thereof) and other 

attributes. Try to be extra affirming about 

those sensitivities.

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. WE ARE NOT 

UST OUR… 

e penis gets all the press, but men 

ve "many erogenous zones," says 

ychologist Melodie Schaefer, PsyD. 

en tend not to correct women 

cause they're afraid women will shut 

wn and not touch them at all. But 

re are many places a woman should 

ch." Like the chest, the inner thighs 

d face. Two other key areas: Gently 

pping a man's testicles can be a real 

n-on, as it blends control with 

ease. Also, stimulating the 

rineum, the area between the 

otum and anus, will heighten 

asure during oral sex. 

4. WE ENCOURAGE 

FANTASIES 

"Men want to share their fantasies but worry their 

wives will shame or judge them," says Dr. Kort. 

Similarly, Dr. Schaefer reports that men wish 

women would reveal their imaginings. Want to 

open yourself to these possibilities? Try making a 

game of it. First, and most important, promise not to 

judge the other; then, privately write out scenarios 

that have tantalized you and place them in a box. 

When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you're 

both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, Dr. Kort 

recommends asking the author a key question: 

What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, its 

themes can be addressed in different, more 

comfortable scenarios. 

5.WE FEAR INTIMACY… 

…but not for the reason you think! Studies have shown that boys are more 

affectionate, even more expressive, than girls until they reach school age. At 

that time, social repression begins—of words, thoughts, feelings—and our 

desire for human connection goes underground. So taboo is this desire for 

intimacy that its possibility can terrify men—not because it's smothering, 

but because we realize how desperate we are for it. What's a woman to do? 

First, understand that your guy's hasty retreat post-sex may be about his 

own shock at how much he craves a connection with you (and how much 

he's denied it in life). Then, retreat a little yourself. This gives him time to 

see that his boyhood habits are, in fact, perfectly manly. 

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6. WE NEED YOUR 

HONESTY 

Sex can solve the stresses of a relationship, 

but it's often where the stresses show up. If 

we complain about a lack of sex (or your 

doing certain things only on our birthday), 

we may be overlooking serious issues that 

underpin such withholding. We need you to 

enlighten us. The male ego is often tied to 

sex, so it's easy for us to dismiss bedroom 

problems as female disinterest rather than 

issues we have a part in. Avoiding these 

problems, however, only perpetuates your 

feeling unseen and our frustration. 

3. WE APPRECIATE 

SEX FOR SEX'S 

SAKE 

Having said that about intimacy, sometimes a 

ittle "throw-me-down sex" is the right medicine. 

According to Joe Kort, PhD, a psychotherapist 

and sexologist, "Men want their wives to enjoy 

raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally. 

For men, it's not about dominating a woman, 

but ravishing her." On occasion, try letting him 

ravish you. 

7. WE ALWAYS 

NEED IT, BUT 

NOT FOR THE 

REASON YOU 

THINK 

Men are accused of being sexually 

insatiable, but women should rethink 

this. "Men see sex as a celebration," says 

Dr. Schaefer. "They wish women would 

take more of a 'carpe diem' approach to 

it. We move through life at the speed of 

sound, with multiplying challenges and 

pressures. It's easy to allow demands on 

our time and energy to rob us of the joy, 

pleasure and opportunity that sex 

affords us. On the long list of priorities, 

it should not be on the bottom rung." If 

that doesn't make you want to "seize the 

day" (or something else), consider the 

health benefits: Orgasms release 

oxytocin, which has been called the 

"bonding hormone," bringing couples 

closer together while it alleviates anxiety 

and stress, reduces blood pressure and 

promotes healing. 

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Lifestyle 

WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT? 

SNEAKY GIVEAWAYS OF A 

POTENTIAL CHEATER 

The question why do people cheat seems to be an easy one, but it is 

anything but easy to answer. These 10 things help you identify the 

signs. 

The answer to why do people cheat is not an easy one. Typically, no one 

thing makes someone look for the comfort of someone else’s arms while 

in a relationship. Also, the definition of cheating is different for everyone. 

THESE 10 THINGS SIGNAL THERE IS A 

CHEATER AMONG US 

The reasons people cheat are as numerous and confusing as the 

definitions of what cheating is. There are some major reasons that people 

cheat, however. And, if you are looking for someone in your life to be real 

and not screw you over, these are the signs you should look for both 

before you find someone to love and while you are in love. 

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#1 THEY HAVE PARENTS 

WHO CHEATED ON ONE 

ANOTHER. 

We grow up learning from what we live. 

If you saw one of your parents’ cheat on 

another, then it is not uncommon for the 

trend to continue. 

Learning respect and commitment by 

modeling what we see is one of the 

biggest reinforcing elements not only to 

a mature and happy marriage but to 

having a heavily committed one as well. 

#2 THEY ARE VERY 

INSECURE. 

Often when someone is highly insecure, 

they cheat on their significant other. 

Needing constant attention, praise, or 

the euphoria of having someone adore 

them is a very strong need for people 

who are insecure. 

Once the puppy love part of a 

relationship dies down, people who 

aren’t secure in themselves often look 

for someone outside of the relationship 

to make them feel relevant and 

worthwhile. 

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#3 THEY DON’T BELIEVE IN MONOGAMY. 

Some people believe monogamy is attainable and some don’t. Not everyone who 

enters into marriage and says I do really means I do. Sometimes they get married 

simply because it is the next step, or they feel compelled to make things official. 

If you don’t have a belief in the sanctity of marriage, when times get tough, it is 

much easier to get fulfillment with someone outside of the marriage than to work 

hard at trying to fix what is wrong within. If you want to ensure you are in a 

committed relationship, ask your significant other if they think monogamy is 

possible to begin with. 

Making a commitment in marriage is a very heavy thing and not to be entered 

lightly or without the intention to be monogamous. Unfortunately, not everyone 

feels the same way


#4 THEY ARE 

BORED WITH THE 

RELATIONSHIP. 

Once . the fun of being 

newlyweds and in love 

starts to be tainted by 

mortgage payments, 

children, and the strains of 

extended family, being in a 

committed relationship 

gets, well, boring. 

Wanting just a little 

attention and exhilaration, 

some people cheat for no 

other reason than boredom 

in their current relationship 

and wanting excitement. 

Not thinking about the 

consequences, they take a 

chance to have some cheap 

thrill hoping not to be 

discovered. 

#5 THEY ARE 

LOOKING FOR A 

WAY OUT OF THE 

RELATIONSHIP. 

Some people aren’t secure 

enough in themselves to 

leave a bad relationship 

without jumping ship. 

Sometimes they need a 

little help in the form of 

finding someone else who 

thinks they are 

worthwhile enough to 

push them to leave a 

failing relationship. 

Already disconnected 

from their current 

commitment, finding 

someone to cheat with, 

gives them the confidence 

and security they need to 

move on and out. 

#6 THEIR 

EMOTIONAL OR 

SEXUAL NEEDS 

AREN’T BEING 

MET WITHIN THE 

RELATIONSHIP. 

It is very difficult 

sometimes to 

have all your 

needs met in a 

relationship. 

Instead of 

working on the 

current 

commitment 

made, people go 

outside of their 

relationship to 

get their needs 

met. That can 

come in the form 

of sexual and 

emotional 

fulfillment. 

If someone isn’t getting what they need in their current 

relationship, and there is someone outside of the marriage willing 

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to give them what they crave, the pull is sometimes enough to


#7 THEY GET CAUGHT UP IN A MOMENT. 

We don’t always make the best decisions in the heat of the moment. Sometimes 

people cheat because they are drunk, upset, or just making a poor choice. 

Not considering the consequences or fallout, people in committed relationships 

slip up. Albeit, a huge slip-up! But, sometimes passion and outside influences 

can be enough for someone to make a bad decision that they end up regretting. 

#8 THEY FEEL 

UNAPPRECIATED AND 

UNLOVED. 

It is not uncommon for one or both 

partners to feel unappreciated or 

unloved in a relationship. There are 

times when you feel like if you just 

disappeared no one would even notice. 

Being lonely when you are alone is a 

horrible feeling. Being lonely when with 

someone is sometimes even worse. 

People sometimes cheat because they 

get to the point where they don’t feel 

any connection or that they mean 

anything to the person they are with 

and ask why not? 

#10 THEY ARE 

NARCISSISTIC. 

A narcissist is someone who cares 

only for their own needs. If you don’t 

satisfy them or you don’t adore them 

the way that they believe you should, 

someone who is narcissistic will have 

no problem going outside of the 

marriage to get their needs met. 

Having no ability to empathize, the 

cornerstone of a narcissist, they are 

incapable of seeing or caring about 

how it makes the other partner feel. If 

it makes them feel good, that is all 

that they need to know or care about. 

If you aren’t in love or if you aren’t % into the relationship, then you 

have an obligation to let the other person know and to finish one 

relationship before you take on another. 

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1) GUIDE TO GETTING IT ON! A BOOK ABOUT THE WONDERS OF SEX 

BY PAUL JOANNIDES AND GRÖSS DAERICK SR. 

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)3. SHE COMES FIRST: THE THINKING MAN’S GUIDE TO 

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WHY: Whether you’ve been inspired by 50 Shades of Grey or simply been a 

closeted BDSM fan for years, this book not only gives you tips, but also 

explores what being dominant and submissive even means and how 

it translates to your real-life personality. 

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10 DECEPTIVELY SIMPLE 

REASONS MEN CHEAT ON 

GREAT WOMEN 

Why do men still manage to stray despite how wonderful their current 

partners are? Let us give you some insight into the mind of the cheating 

man. 

Ah, the perpetual burden of knowing that some people, no matter how 

well they’re treated, will still cheat on their partners. This may come as a 

surprise, but there are times when even the most awesome, down to earth, 

intelligent and gorgeous women can still get cheated on. So what gives? 

What is it that these men want that their seemingly perfect partners can’t 

provide? 

It may be easy to say that a man would be more likely to cheat on a 

woman who is lazy, uncaring, abusive, manipulative or just downright 

boring. Cheating on her is the man’s form of lashing out because of 

something she doesn’t choose to improve. It’s a common scenario where a 

man may choose to blame his partner for his own infidelity. But what 

about those women who have done everything within their power to 

make sure their man is happy? 

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WHY DO MEN CHEAT ON 

PARTNERS WHO GIVE THEM 

EVERYTHING? 

If you’re baffled out of your mind about how these men find the gall to stray despite 

having a real keeper as their partner aka JayZ ..couching lol , let us fill you in on the 

dirty details. Here are some of the most common reasons men give when they cheat 

on truly wonderful women. 

#1 HE’S THREATENED BY HER. There are 

women who seem to have it all together. They’ve got great careers. They’re cultured 

and intelligent. And they know how to please their man. But despite this, the guys 

they’re with might still cheat simply because he thinks he doesn’t deserve someone 

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so awesome. This is not the woman’s fault at all! It’s the guy’s inability to handle this 

threat• that causes him to cheat. 

So what does he do? He finds another woman who’s not as great as his girlfriend 

and uses this other woman to feel like he still has the one up on another person. This 

gives him a bit of a self-esteem boost because whenever he’s with the other woman, 

he doesn’t feel the need to try and equal her success. 

#2 HE THINKS SHE’S DOING IT, TOO. Again, this 

may stem from insecurity and some form of paranoia. The guy cheats on his partner 

because he can’t seem to believe that someone who seems so perfect would just settle 

for him. He thinks that his partner must be cheating, and in turn, he does the same to 

her. 

He may think that his relationship is too good to be true. So in his poorly conceived 

defense, he convinces himself that his partner can’t possibly be faithful to a guy such 

as him. Therefore, he preemptively cheats on her before she has the chance to do it to 

him. 

#3 HE FEELS IGNORED. 

The thing about a well-rounded woman is that she may have other activities that 

take up the time that the guy thinks he deserves. She may be busy with her career, 

with taking extra classes, with getting fit, and a bunch of other things that can 

actually make their relationship thrive. 

So while his woman is out there improving herself, the guy is just sitting around and 

selfishly wallowing on the fact that he’s being neglected. When he’s done wallowing, 

instead of coming up with productive activities to do while his woman is busy, he 

goes out and finds another woman who can give him the attention he feels entitled 

to. 

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#4 HIS FRIENDS ARE DOING IT. 

Peer pressure can be the worst. A guy who hangs around with other guys who cheat 

may feel the need to prove himself to his gang. His pals may say that being faithful 

is boring, and that in order to assert their manliness, they have to sleep with as many 

women as they can. 

The guy, not wanting to be the loser• of the group, may acquiesce and find 

himself some girl who would agree to sleep with him. And even if he feels remorse, 

his pals may make him feel like he’s accomplished something. He gets positive 

reinforcement by being one of the cool guys• so he keeps doing it to stay as 

cool• as his friends. 

#5 THE OTHER WOMAN GIVES HIM 

SOMETHING HIS GIRLFRIEND 

CAN’T. 

There are some guys who just can’t seem to get over this one thing that their 

girlfriends can’t give them. Time, as mentioned earlier, is one of these 

things. Other things that his girlfriend may not be able to provide are a shared 

interest in certain activities or even sexual acts. 

Since the guy wants all the perks of being with his girlfriend, he finds another 

woman who will give him that one thing that his girlfriend can’t. For instance, he 

may be way more into sports than his girlfriend is. In not being able to get the sports 

rush with his number one, he goes to his number two to combine the thrill of his 

favorite sport with some mischief on the side. 

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#6 HE JUST WANTS A NEW 

EXPERIENCE. 

There are cases where a guy just wants to check out what else the world has to offer 

to him in terms of sexual conquests. He feels like the sex with his girlfriend is 

turning into a boring routine, so he ventures out and looks for something new. 

So instead of trying to spice things up with his girl, he goes out and hires a hooker or 

picks up a willing girl at the bar. These sexual encounters may be purely 

experimental and involve no feelings. But it’s still considered cheating, and it can 

still hurt his woman if she finds out. 

#7 HE CAN’T SAY NO. 

The great woman may be dating a nice, polite and sweet guy. He’s always worried 

about not pleasing other people, and he only ever stands up for himself when he 

really needs to. Enter a woman who persists in getting what she wants at any cost. In 

order to not hurt her feelings, he may politely entertain her. 

Entertaining the interests of another woman is a subject that’s still up for debate. But 

if the guy is too spineless to outrightly refuse this seductress, he may end up being 

swayed into cheating on his girlfriend, usually with a hefty dose of alcohol in the 

mix. Don’t get us wrong, it’s still his fault for not growing a pair at such a crucial 

time. 

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#8 “WHAT SHE DOESN’T KNOW 

CAN’T HURT HER.”• Sometimes the circumstances just 

fall into place so well that he can cheat without worrying about getting caught. For 

example, he’s alone on a business trip and he decides to sleep with a girl he met. 

Afterwards, they sever their ties and pretend that the whole thing didn’t happen. 

This scenario can be so tempting for some guys that they just go ahead and do it. The 

problem with this is just because she doesn’t know, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. It 

will hang on his conscience for the rest of his life. But for some guys, the extra 

weight on their conscience is completely negligible. 

#9 HE WANTS TO LEAVE HER, BUT 

HE NEEDS A REPLACEMENT. For whatever 

reason, this numbskull of a man may choose to leave a woman who’s already a 

catch. But instead of being a man and just saying what he feels outright, he feels like 

he needs a safety net to catch him when he jumps out of his relationship. That safety 

net can come in the form of another woman who’s willing to be his paramour until 

he gets the guts to leave his current girlfriend. 

The problem with this flawed logic is that instead of coming clean and just ending 

things on good terms, he chooses to ruin it by involving a third party. His fear of not 

finding a replacement soon enough pushes him to make his two relationships 

overlap, thus hurting at least one of the two women he’s dating. 

# He’s just a complete idiot. There are lucky men who attract wonderful women 

despite not being the usual kind of guy that these women would date. And what 

does he do with his incredible stroke of luck? He squanders it by cheating on her. 

Sometimes, this behavior is simply inexplicable. Maybe it’s just a habit. Maybe he’s 

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not clever enough to realize just what a catch she is. And the only way to explain it is 

by concluding that he’s just dumber than a bag of hammers. 

Knowing the reasons why these men cheat obviously won’t make their transgression 

any more forgivable. It does, however, allow you to anticipate the possible situations 

where the idea of cheating may enter his mind and push it out of his psyche before 

he even entertains the thought. 

No one deserves to get cheated on, least of all those who are doing their best to 

take care of their men. In an ideal world, great women will end up with 

wonderful partners who will cherish and adore them. But let’s face it, sometimes 

even the beauty gets stuck with a beast. 

Team LovePanky 

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WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE 

BREAKS UP WITH YOU BY TEXT 

Imagine waking up, 

feeling so happy, having 

this feeling that the day is 

going to be a great day, 

humming that favorite 

song of yours with a 

smile, picks up your 

phone to see this text you 

don’t understand from 

your other half. 

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You pause still trying as 

much as you can to blink 

uncontrollably to assure 

yourself it’s a dream but 

not its reality it’s the 

BREAK UP TEXT. 

Breaking up is hard to do, goes the old 

song. Well, maybe it used to be, when you 

had to tell the victim in person. Nowadays, 

many people just send a text message. 

Whether you think it’s cool or not to break 

up by text, here are a few basic rules to 

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follow if it happens to you:


RULE 1: DON’T RESPOND RULE 2: 

IMMEDIATELY EXPRESS YOUR 

Let’s assume you’re waiting for your love 

interest to pick you up for a date, and you 

suddenly and unexpectedly get a text saying 

it’s not gonna happen tonight, or ever, in 

FEELINGS 

POLITELY 

fact. No one would blame you for being a 

tad angry. You’d be tempted to write back 

immediately; no doubt a sarky hot blast. 

Don’t. Calm down first. Take a long shower 

or go for a run. Don’t get drunk, go to their 

house, and have screaming match. You’ll feel 

like a fool when you sober up. 

That said, be honest about how 

you feel. If you weren’t that into 

them, just write back a polite 

thanks for the good times and 

see you around. If your 

relationship was more intense 

and you’ve been blindsided, say 

RULE 3: CHECK YOUR REPLY 

MESSAGES WITH A FRIEND 

so in diplomatic terms. If what 

has disappointed you is the 

breakup via text, say so. 

Having a friend who is honest with you has never been more important than at 

this time. Think carefully about which friend to call to honestly assess your 

proposed reply. Choose the one who’ll tell you frankly you’ll sound a bit psycho 

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if you send this message.


RULE 4: REMOVE THEIR CONTACT 

DETAILS 

If, after this breakup, you have no interest in just being friends, 

delete your former love pursuit’s details. All of them. That way 

you won’t be tempted to make contact again. 

RULE 5: MINIMISE THE BREAK UP 

The aim of this rule is to come to see the positive side of the break up. You do this by 

imagining scenarios in which a break-up by text could have been worse. For example, 

at least he didn’t text me right before I started tripping down the altar. Or, at least 

she didn’t text me during the Arsenal game. The sun will soon start to shine again if 

you think this way. 

Breaking up via text message may not be the most honourable way to do end things, but 

we have to realize that it’s the modern equivalent of the Dear John envelope left on the 

mantelpiece. Our suggestion is that you don’t let it eat you up move on, and move up. 

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THE BENEFITS OF IVF 

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Many people don't like the idea o 

'test tube babies', but there are 

many benefits to making use of IVF 

treatments. Infertile couples visiting 

an IVF fertility clinic will find new 

hope of having a child of their own 

and starting a family. This is o 

course the main reason why IVF 

treatments are so popular 

what is IVF??IVF is a case where a 

woman is infertile; a donor egg can 

be inseminated and placed inside 

her womb during an IVF procedure 

The previously infertile woman wil 

have the chance to experience 

pregnancy and giving birth thanks 

to this procedure. Weak sperm can 

also make it difficult for a couple to 

conceive, but luckily the ICS 

treatment can help men overcome 

this obstacle. During this procedure 

the man's sperm will be injected 

directly into the egg and then 

placed into the woman's womb.

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Fertility testing is the first step for couples who struggle to conceive. Once the couple 

and their doctor receive the fertility test results, they'll know what steps to take in 

order to have a child together. 

It's important to do these tests because it is important to know which one of the 

Couple is infertile and why they are infertile. 

For example, a man with weak sperm would be considered infertile. In this case, the 

doctor can use his partner's healthy egg and perform an ICSI treatment in order to 

inseminate the egg. Conversely, if it's found that the woman does not have healthy 

eggs for whatsoever reason, a donor egg can be used. 

There are also cases where the woman has healthy eggs, but there is some other 

cause that stops these eggs from being released. An IVF fertility clinic can then 

simply combine the couple's sperm and egg before performing an IVF procedure. 

These reasons are why it's important to do fertility testing. The fertility test results 

will often determine which method the doctor chooses to use in order to help the 

couple conceive. 

A big bonus of babies born through IVF is that they are less prone to developing 

birth defects. The so-called 'test tube babies' have the advantage of receiving 

superior genetics and development, leading to a 

strong and healthy child. These children will have no disadvantages compared to 

children who were conceived naturally. Medical professionals agree that through 

IVF treatments, they are able to learn a lot about prenatal and postnatal care and 

development, which could benefit future generations. 

While there might have been a stigma around conceiving this way in the past, it has 

already started to fade away. IVF offers couples a chance to be parents and it gives 

life to strong, healthy children. As long as IVF is a practiced medical procedure, 

infertile couples will have hope of starting their own families together. 

As the technology advances and more is discovered on the topic, treatments 

improve constantly and make it easier to treat infertility. The benefits of IVF 

definitely outweigh the disadvantages by a long shot. 

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STORY TIME 

BLACK HAND 

HOW I LEARNED TO LOVE MY DAUGHTER’S 

IMAGINARY FRIEND. 

By Lisa Schmeiser 

↪ 

In the waning days of summer 2013, my toddler calmly announced, 

I have a friend named Black Hand. He’s here right now. You can’t see 

him. 

I’ve read enough fantasy and horror that my first thought upon hearing 

this was, Oh my God, the malicious undead have found a portal to this 

world through my innocent child. I really hope this doesn’t turn into a 

thing where we’re facing off against the forces of evil. Zelda Rubenstein 

has been dead for a while. 

What actually came out of my mouth was, So is he staying for dinner? 

Where do you think he should sit? Will you be setting a place for him? If 

you’re dealing with malice from beyond, best not to tip your hand that 

you’re on to it, right? 

Black Hand did stay for dinner. And like Sheridan Whiteside, this 

imaginary man who came to dinner has insinuated himself into our 

everyday life, and the surprises haven’t stopped. 

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It’s not what it sounds like 

They met in a party dungeon — don’t ask how or why a 32-month-old 

child was at one of those things because I’ve never been able to find out — 

where Trixie was apparently in attendance in her professional capacity as 

Dr. Hammer, the doctor of hammers. Whatever the meet-cute situation 

was about, Trixie and Black Hand have been fast friends since. 

Black Hand? one friend asked. Like the Serbian terrorist group that 

assassinated Franz Ferdinand? 

Black Hand? my mom asked. Like the Mafia racket? 

Baby? I called one day while Trixie was playing, Has Black Hand ever 

talked about Gavrilo Princip? 

No, she said. He mostly cries when I put him in time-out. 

How about omerta, honey? Has Black Hand ever talked about the code 

of silence? 

No, she said. 

Good, I replied. Let’s pick up these bristle blocks and start making 

dinner. 

Black Hand doesn’t want to clean up. He’s crying right now. He might 

go home. 

And that was the moment I was reassured that my daughter was not the 

plaything of fell forces from beyond the grave. If Serbian nationalists were 

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trying to reach from beyond the veil to carry out their mission, they 

wouldn’t be thwarted by my toys from the s. 

Obligatory Harlan Ellison reference 

We got more details about Black Hand in dribs and drabs. At first, Trixie 

dropped tidbits casually, while talking about something else. That’s how 

Black Hand frequently employed the powers of levitation and 

teleportation. Alas and alack, he couldn’t unlock the power of the 

alphabet. Trixie told us Black Hand would like to learn to read, but he 

didn’t know his letters. Is that because he can’t see them? I asked. No, 

he just cries because he doesn’t know them, replied my daughter. Then 

she spelled out the words in a traffic sign, which was our first clue that 

the power dynamics in her relationship with Black Hand were about to 

shift. But at that point, Black Hand still filled a unique niche: he had 

physical powers that obviously exceeded anything that we, her parents, 

could do — yet we had the power to put him in time-out or speak very 

sternly when he refused to behave. It was fascinating to realize that our 

preschooler was using Black Hand to work out any uncertainty she had 

about the limits of our parental affection for her or our willingness to 

maintain the rules that we expected everyone in the family to follow. 

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But at that point, Black Hand still filled a unique niche: he had physical 

powers that obviously exceeded anything that we, her parents, could do 

— yet we had the power to put him in time-out or speak very sternly 

when he refused to behave. It was fascinating to realize that our 

preschooler was using Black Hand to work out any uncertainty she had 

about the limits of our parental affection for her or our willingness to 

maintain the rules that we expected everyone in the family to follow. 

Every happy family is the same 

Once Trixie began negotiating the mind-blowing idea that not every 

family is alike, we learned more about Black Hand’s family life. After a 

playdate with a family headed by a lesbian couple, Trix bounced on my 

bed and told me that Black Hand had been raised by two mothers (Linda 

and Lola) and two fathers (Lewis and Cindy). 

Do they all love him? I asked, as she rocketed from corner to corner of 

the bed. 

Yes, she said. And that was all that needed to be said. 

But let’s not confuse parental quantity with quality I once wasted two 

hours on a Saturday afternoon repeating, to an increasingly irate threeyear-old, 

that I would not be buying Black Hand a bunk bed. My trump 

argument — Your mommy is not buying Black Hand a bunk bed 

because he has two mommies who can do that for him — was 

immediately invalidated when Trix threw herself to the ground and 

sobbed, No! His mothers buy big hair and capes! He has no bed! 

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I try not to judge other parents, but I feel very strongly that one ought to 

be able to make exceptions for the imaginary variety. Especially when 

they’re forcing their child to sleep on a pile of beehive wigs. 

The unseen hand of change 

The year between three and four unfolded, and we continued to talk to 

and about Black Hand, covering everything from the best way to cross a 

street to the wisdom of not freaking out when the nice lady at Costco runs 

out of Aidell’s sausage samples. 

Then, a month ago, Black Hand found love. 

Black Hand has a boyfriend, my daughter informed me. 

A friend that’s a boy? Or — 

No. A boyfriend, my preschooler said. 

Well, what does Black Hand do with his boyfriend? I asked, because 

you never know the proclivities of an imaginary 20-something man who 

befriends small children in a party dungeon. 

They mostly walk around the city and do art projects together. 

Later that day, I told my husband, You’ll be thrilled to know Black 

Hand’s become part of the s art scene in SoHo. 

And then, I admit, I wondered if Black Hand would ever seriously 

challenge the values I try to demonstrate in my everyday parenting. It’s 

one thing to be an invisible, levitating, makeup-wearing, omnisexual 

imaginary best friend. But what if he turns out to be a climate-change 

denier or a big fan of fracking? Would I push back? I am deeply 

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uncomfortable with the idea of explicitly forbidding my child from 

thinking anything. To regulate her relationship with Black Hand seems 

like a violation of her personhood on a fundamental level. 

Welcome to the liminality 

Black Hand has always been the ambassador from the borderlands of 

Trixie’s interior empire. When he first joined the family, it was fairly 

evident that his role was to act as Trixie’s surrogate in hypothetical 

situations. I used to think of her inquiries — Black Hand’s not going to 

hold your hand when we cross the street! What will happen? — as the 

toddler equivalent of the velociraptor testing the fences in Jurassic Park: 

are there consequences for every action? 

As Trixie’s gotten older, her regard for the boundaries of her life has 

become more complex. So has her relationship with Black Hand. He’s 

rarely an instigator or a surrogate in hypotheticals. Instead, Trix explains 

things to him. They’ve flipped the script in their relationship. 

I will be sad if Black Hand ever leaves us. He’s been a great friend to 

everyone in the family: He helped my shy toddler be brave by being the 

voice she needed. He taught her how to be silly, how to be funny, how to 

control her feelings, how to frame what-if questions. 

But it’s not my say whether or not Black Hand continues to levitate 

outside the kitchen window during dinner. The relationship is, and 

always has been, between Trixie and her friend. 

I am deeply, profoundly grateful to her protean pal, because he’s given 

me the gift of unfiltered access to my daughter’s inner life. There will 

come a day — sooner than I want, on a timeline I’ll never accurately 

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predict — when Trixie will decide to keep her dreams and fears private. 

She’ll draw an immutable line between her most private self and the 

stories she tells everyone else. 

On that day, her friendship with Black Hand will have run its course, and 

she’ll tell him goodbye. I don’t expect we’ll know. Days or weeks after the 

fact, it will dawn on us; I hope I have the good sense to quietly mark it in 

the bittersweet series of last-of-this milestones. 

But we’re not there yet. For now, when Trixie launches into whatever’s on 

Black Hand’s mind, I’m there to listen and to believe what she says. 

Illustration by Lucy Bellwood. 

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