ysr_april_2010

PEARL of CALMNESS
Transmuting and Transcending Anger
By Mystic Sudhir
My next door neighbour is
in a habit of parking his car in
front of my bungalow.
Though it doesn't cause us
much inconvenience, still we
have asked their security
guards to refrain from doing
so. Still their visitors would sometimes park their
car at the sore spot. We would in return park our
cars protruding to cause a bit of annoyance to our
neighbours. Gradually I realized it was becoming
more of an ego issue, and if not reined had the
potential for an absolutely unnecessary flare up.
I noticed certain emails being exchanged
between my colleague and a client. I agree that the
client representative is a little insensitive in
replying to emails and this in turn irritates my
colleague. Finally I suggested to my colleague that
though he has a point, it is not serious enough.
What is more important for us is not being one up
on him, but rather nurturing a healthy client
relationship. Holding on to our ego may only result in
spoiling a client.
Relationships, be it familial, social or business
ones, need to be attended with right speech. Our
conscious mind may forget after uttering a harsh or
sarcastic remark, but the receiver in majority of the
cases is unlikely to forgive and forget. The recipient
may wait for years and may be decades to return the
dark compliment if an opportunity arises. I recall
Mahatma Gandhi confessing in his writings, that he
never had to regret any spoken or written word. Before
any thought got the outward garb of speech, Mahatma
would weigh it with his chisel of wisdom.
Eastern philosophy, be it Gita, Yoga Sutra or an
esoteric Buddhist treatise suggest that each tremor of
our thought, every expression, all spoken words leave
a mark on our consciousness. This mark could be a
healing one in the form of gentleness, compassion,
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