BLNovToWeb

come unrecognizable. However, they are still in there and
despite what you hear them say, they want your loved one
back as much as you do. They just don’t know how. They
are too scared to fail, and therefore too paralyzed by that
fear to do it. So we wait for that moment of clarity and desire
in them, then we must act immediately. That window
of opportunity is often very short lived.
How much more grateful would we be this year if that
person you’re thinking about right now was finally free
from the control of addiction? Willing to do whatever it
takes. Wanting to listen and learn. Living in remission and
embracing the process to survive it. This can be happening
right now.
Let’s get back to defining help again. You can get
familiar with different treatment options, their methods,
qualifications, admissions criteria, locations, and cost.
This is a hard system to navigate and trying to do it when
your brain is fighting you and simply wanting to escape,
it’s almost impossible. I stand and applaud anyone who’s
done this entire process of seeking help and getting into
treatment while under the grasp of addiction.
Completely sane and sober people struggle to research
and find the appropriate treatment options. All the 1-800
number body brokers and fake pictures on websites telling
you how great their program is. Unfortunately the stories
of predators seeking to take advantage of our vulnerable
population is true. So you help.
Be prepared with those options should your person
say they are ready. They may need your help with transportation,
finding a temporary placement for a child or pet,
and I know I said that money isn’t always involved, but
it sometime is, they may need help with their insurance
deductible.
I personally have a money lending rule. I don’t do it.
I may give but I never lend. I also do not give money for
bail, probation, or restitution. Rent, car, and other household
needs to someone using is the same as buying them
drugs, so I don’t do that either. I have contributed to meals
together, as well as treatment payments like therapists,
physicians, and insurance deductibles. I do this because I
believe in feeding the positive beast to overcome the negative
pest. I can sleep very well at night sticking to this rule.
I strongly suggest it.
I hope you call them today and reconnect. I hope that
they appreciate your support and embrace it. However, if
you don’t get the response you want don’t give up. Don’t
ever give up on them. Give yourself whatever time you
need, then do it again.
If you suffer codependency and want help with understanding
some guidelines to protect yourself, please seek
out help for you first. This will help you be ready when
they really need you.
Good luck.
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