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SOUTHWOOD<br />
branches<br />
The challenge and beauty of genuine relationships<br />
By Peter Render<br />
There probably is no word more ubiquitous<br />
in Christianese than the word "love". The<br />
beautiful, longsuffering, and natural love<br />
of God. The love of brothers and sisters<br />
in Jesus toward one another. The love<br />
known between a husband and a wife. The<br />
love earmarked by devotion and longing.<br />
Regardless of etymology, "love" evokes<br />
a sense of necessary intimacy. It is that<br />
thing to which we are called that seems<br />
impossible to experience or grasp.<br />
Much to the chagrin of the rich Presbyterian<br />
tradition, it is commonplace in PCA<br />
churches to have a cognitive grasp of a<br />
subject like "love" without having much<br />
in the way of experience. Husbands and<br />
wives marry mistaking the conflation of<br />
lust and sexual intimacy with the calling<br />
to love and relational intimacy. Friends<br />
become business partners and quickly<br />
revert to the practice of business over<br />
"love" at the expense of one another.<br />
We jump into small groups seeking<br />
relationship, but really only desiring to<br />
have people get to know us at a certain<br />
level. The practice of any sort of biblical<br />
"love" is painfully elusive.<br />
The Inception of Pain<br />
There is little more heart-wrenching than<br />
hearing a child recount a story of his peers<br />
collectively discounting and renouncing him<br />
for little or no reason. There is something<br />
about bullying that has launched it to the<br />
fore in popular culture as something not to<br />
be tolerated. We can argue about political<br />
and social motives some other time. I<br />
am going to operate under a different<br />
hypothesis for the sake of this article. We<br />
will not stand for bullying because there<br />
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