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down on paper as reference during the discussion. Be prepared and ready to
face the consequences when this confrontation is over. It could be the end of
your job or a friendship.
Again, you have the right to assert yourself. This is your life and your
workplace. It should not be a place where you dread going to each day.
Everyone needs to have personal standards for how they treat themselves and
how others treat them. Boundaries have to be set and maintained even in the
workplace. We will discuss more about boundaries later on.
Assertiveness, not aggressiveness, is what is essential for you to feel
better about yourself and develop better relations with others. It will also help
keep the unpleasant or discomfort levels to a minimum, relieve stress, and
maybe even move your career forward. Learning to be assertive could even
move you into a leadership position one day.
Remember, while assertiveness can help you get what you want out of
life, aggression will bring about resignation or involuntary compliance on the part
of those around you. We are talking about the best-case scenario. The worse
case is that they resent you, resist anything you want from them, and maybe
show downright hostility to boot. This is not what you want at all. Aggression
simply decreases your chances of getting what you really want.
Aggression will only bring in fear, threats, and hostility because of
manipulation, where you force and coerce people to do it your way. You cannot
always make someone give in to what you want. As they say, “You might win the
battle, but you will lose the war.”