2016 Summer Kansas Child
Summer fun and safety
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CHEYENNE<br />
SHERMAN<br />
WALLACE<br />
GREELEY<br />
HAMILTON<br />
STANTON<br />
MORTON<br />
LOGAN<br />
WICHITA<br />
KEARNY<br />
GRANT<br />
STEVENS<br />
RAWLINS<br />
THOMAS<br />
SCOTT<br />
FINNEY<br />
HASKELL<br />
SEWARD<br />
DECATUR<br />
SHERIDAN<br />
GOVE<br />
LANE<br />
GRAY<br />
MEADE<br />
NESS<br />
NORTON<br />
GRAHAM<br />
TREGO<br />
HODGEMAN<br />
CLARK<br />
FORD<br />
PHILLIPS<br />
ROOKS<br />
ELLIS<br />
RUSH<br />
PAWNEE<br />
EDWARDS<br />
KIOWA<br />
COMANCHE<br />
SMITH<br />
OSBORNE<br />
RUSSELL<br />
BARTON<br />
STAFFORD<br />
PRATT<br />
BARBER<br />
JEWELL<br />
MITCHELL<br />
LINCOLN<br />
ELLSWORTH<br />
RICE<br />
RENO<br />
KINGMAN<br />
HARPER<br />
REPUBLIC<br />
CLOUD<br />
OTTAWA<br />
SALINE<br />
MCPHERSON<br />
HARVEY<br />
SEDGWICK<br />
SUMNER<br />
WASHINGTON<br />
CLAY<br />
DICKINSON<br />
MARION<br />
BUTLER<br />
COWLEY<br />
MARSHALL<br />
POTTAWATOMIE<br />
RILEY<br />
GEARY<br />
MORRIS<br />
CHASE<br />
WABAUNSEE<br />
ELK<br />
NEMAHA<br />
LYON<br />
GREENWOOD<br />
JACKSON<br />
BROWN<br />
SHAWNEE<br />
COFFEY<br />
WOODSON<br />
DONIPHAN<br />
ATCHISON<br />
JEFFERSON<br />
DOUGLAS<br />
FRANKLIN<br />
ANDERSON<br />
ALLEN<br />
LABETTE<br />
CHAUTAUQUA<br />
MONTGOMERY<br />
JOHNSON<br />
MIAMI<br />
LINN<br />
BOURBON<br />
CHEROKEE<br />
REGION ONE<br />
opportunity to teach<br />
WILSON NEOSHO CRAWFORD<br />
Empower the Witnesses<br />
In bullying situations, however, the real<br />
power lies with the witnesses. A bully can’t<br />
be a bully without witness approval. Most<br />
witnesses have no idea of the power they<br />
have — they think the bully is running<br />
the show, and they have little or no ability<br />
to stop it. OUR MOST IMPORTANT<br />
JOB, THEN, IS TO EMPOWER THE<br />
WITNESSES!<br />
Research tells us that the critical use<br />
of witness power occurs within the first<br />
10 seconds of the bullying. The bully<br />
is watching for the reactions of those<br />
nearby — to see if they will join in, laugh<br />
in approval or look fearful and downtrodden.<br />
The bullier is also keenly aware<br />
of non-approval, and if that is shown, well,<br />
the bully’s days are numbered. Witnesses<br />
must learn this and use their power in<br />
ways that are comfortable. Some can talk<br />
to the bully, while others may only feel able<br />
to speak privately to the target. Any choice<br />
is a good choice, as long as it is a show of<br />
non-support for the bullier.<br />
Witnesses can:<br />
•§<br />
Talk to a trusted friend or adult<br />
•§<br />
Ask the target to play or go give them<br />
a hug<br />
•§<br />
Support the target privately by saying,<br />
“I am sorry that happened.”<br />
•§<br />
Respond publicly to the target. “This<br />
isn’t right. We don’t treat people like<br />
this at ABC Preschool.”<br />
•§<br />
Speak calmly to the bullier by saying,<br />
“That’s bullying. Stop it.”<br />
•§<br />
Talk to the bully and ask them if he/<br />
she is OK — is he/she sad or mad<br />
about something? Give the bully a<br />
hug. Only a very brave witness can<br />
try to befriend and help a bullier.<br />
Teaching Targets and Witnesses<br />
How to Speak Up<br />
Whatever lines we want the targets and<br />
witnesses to speak, we must help them<br />
to know HOW to speak them. They<br />
must always use a strong, calm voice<br />
— screaming back and calling the bully<br />
names only makes them become what they<br />
dislike — they become the new bully. So,<br />
“Knowing what’s right doesn’t mean<br />
much unless you do what’s right.”<br />
we must coach children how to use their<br />
strong inside voices, their information<br />
voices, so that their words and vocal tone<br />
show that they are in charge. Targets and<br />
witnesses must show that the bully is not<br />
strong enough to create any feelings within<br />
them — such as sadness, anger or fear.<br />
<strong>Child</strong>ren’s voices and body language must<br />
show that they are not annoyed or upset<br />
by the bullier — they are simply speaking<br />
the truth and showing their power. They<br />
are showing who is really in charge of the<br />
situation, and it is NOT the bullier.<br />
Promoting the Positive<br />
— Theodore Roosevelt<br />
Becky Bailey also teaches, “what you<br />
focus on, you get more of.” So, focus<br />
on the positives in your classroom<br />
— celebrate the kindnesses shown<br />
when a child helps someone or gives a<br />
compliment. Make a kindness bulletin<br />
board where children can do “put-ups.”<br />
Talk about being bucket-fillers of each<br />
others’ buckets. Read books like Words<br />
are not for Hurting by Elizabeth Verdick or<br />
One by Kathryn Otoshi. One beautifully<br />
and simply demonstrates witness power.<br />
<strong>Child</strong>ren have to watch us use empathy<br />
with others, find solutions rather than<br />
blame, and practice listening and<br />
negotiation skills. Show the children how to<br />
support a bully-free world. Be an example<br />
of how to build others up instead of tearing<br />
them down, and how to look at the world<br />
with our hearts instead of just our eyes. n<br />
Vicki Price, B.A., M.S., has been the Director of<br />
Education at CAPS (<strong>Child</strong> Advocacy and Parenting<br />
Services) in Salina, KS since 1992. She was an<br />
elementary school teacher and a school board<br />
member. At CAPS, she presents “Happy Bear”<br />
(a sexual abuse prevention play) and Bullying<br />
Prevention programs in area schools as well<br />
as teaches parenting classes. She also writes<br />
parenting articles for the Salina Journal. She and<br />
her husband, Scott, have 3 children, 2 sons-in-law<br />
and two grandchildren.<br />
Ensuring <strong>Child</strong>ren Enter<br />
School Ready to Learn<br />
<strong>Child</strong> Care Aware ® of <strong>Kansas</strong>-<br />
Region One has worked with several<br />
communities to assist with discussions<br />
on how to support child care providers<br />
and meet the needs of working<br />
families. <strong>Child</strong> Care Aware ® is able to<br />
provide materials that support learning,<br />
attend meetings to be a voice for young<br />
children and the early education field,<br />
and participate in phone calls to share<br />
information and data.<br />
Recently, the complex topic of<br />
child care supply and demand was<br />
discussed at a community meeting<br />
in Salina. From this facilitated,<br />
collaborative conversation, an Early<br />
<strong>Child</strong>hood Study Committee was<br />
formed. The committee, established<br />
by Bill Hall, superintendent of schools<br />
for USD 305, Salina, consists of early<br />
childhood partners, chamber of<br />
commerce members, United Way staff<br />
and school personnel.<br />
The committee will continue to<br />
facilitate valuable conversations in an<br />
effort to ensure all children in Salina<br />
enter school ready to learn. They have<br />
developed three focus areas with<br />
regard to child care:<br />
•§<br />
That there is high-quality care<br />
provided for children.<br />
•§<br />
That there are enough child care<br />
slots for working families.<br />
•§<br />
That child care is affordable for all<br />
working families.<br />
We are excited about this creative,<br />
collaborative discussion group and<br />
will continue to support this work,<br />
and similar work taking place in<br />
communities throughout Region One.<br />
After all, our mission is to ensure that<br />
high-quality early education is available<br />
to all <strong>Kansas</strong> families and children.<br />
Contact us today if you need<br />
information or resources by calling<br />
855-750-3343.<br />
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