What Families Can Do 2019 Rev 8

As this is a time of upheaval for all of you, it can be hard for
parents to figure out what you need. However, your parents
love you, so ask for their help.
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Be as clear and specific as you can, general moaning is
not unreasonable, but may not achieve what you want.
If you can say ‘It would be good if….’ rather than ‘I hate it
when….’ others are more likely to listen.
Understand that all your family are going through changes
and may be dealing with very difficult feelings. Share your
feelings and try to give them room to deal with theirs.
Avoid getting caught up in arguments between your
parents. Don’t take sides, even if you are tempted; it isn’t
good for you or them.
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Be clear that you don’t want to be a messenger; it’s not
your job. Your responsibility isn’t to make arrangements,
but to help make the arrangements work.
Your family may be facing money worries, so producing
an exhaustive wish list may not be the best plan.
Families who don’t live together find a way to move on and
be happy but it can take time
You may feel sad about your old family but hurt and angry
feelings do get mended.
Try to be hopeful and positive about the future, it has
endless possibilities.
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