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THE FIGHT SOCAL'S LGBTQ MONTHLY MAGAZINE SEPTEMBER 2019

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We are much more than a<br />

diagnosis. Doing your research,<br />

finding proper treatment and<br />

enjoying your life more fully.<br />

BY JAMES GUAY, LMFT<br />

Many of us have witnessed or<br />

experienced firsthand some<br />

form of mental illness and/<br />

or addiction. While this kind<br />

of psychological and emotional pain is<br />

common enough for us to have some<br />

level of familiarity with it, it’s even more<br />

common in the lesbian, gay, bisexual,<br />

transgender and queer community. Why<br />

is this and what can be done about it?<br />

Nick, in the late 1990’s, had HIV for over<br />

a decade and was one of the unlucky ones<br />

where the life-saving protease-inhibitors<br />

didn’t work for him. The first day I met him,<br />

he was in the hospital from AIDS-related<br />

wasting syndrome and was having his feet<br />

rubbed by a well-known politician. He was<br />

a force to be reckoned with, articulate and<br />

had been involved in politics as a gay activist<br />

fighting stigma around HIV and AIDS.<br />

To withstand the long days and late nights<br />

fighting for his community he used methamphetamine<br />

to keep up his energy and reduce<br />

his depression. Nick had been diagnosed as<br />

having a triple diagnosis (HIV, an addiction to<br />

speed and a mental illness).<br />

While the above is a composite of several<br />

of my first clients (to protect their confidentiality),<br />

it’s an example of the resiliency,<br />

strength and pain that we have felt as a community<br />

for decades. Mental illness and addiction<br />

are not intrinsic to being <strong>LGBTQ</strong> but they<br />

are a natural result of living in a society that<br />

is sometimes intolerant and even hateful toward<br />

us. Thankfully, we are much more than<br />

a diagnosis. We try to survive, thrive and do<br />

the best we can under sometimes enormous<br />

pressures for us to be different than who we<br />

are. <strong>THE</strong> <strong>FIGHT</strong> is real.<br />

30 <strong>THE</strong> <strong>FIGHT</strong> | www.thefightmag.com

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