allure 23 August 2020

...continued from previous week
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Breastfeeding And Sexuality
Within days of giving birth, your breasts will be filled
with milk. Touching, rubbing or sucking on the nipples
during sex may make breast milk to flow and you may
even have leak or spray breast milk during orgasm.
Note that your vagina too will be dry for comfortable
penetration during mating. Therefore, spend time on
foreplay. Keep a bottle of a water-based lube handy
to make things easier when ruffling the bed sheets.
Furthermore, you may experience nipple pain
because of breastfeeding. This may make your flesh
sensitive. If uncomfortable with your man touching
your boobs during sex, be sure to tell him about this
ahead of time. Let him know you will prefer to have a
“look but don’t touch” rule, he can get arousal this way
from the visual while you feel more comfortable and
relaxed.
During this new and exciting time in your lives, it is
vital that you be open and honest with your lover, sex
postpartum can be fun and pleasurable. As with
everything else that is new in your life right now, you
need to work through this with your man. Have a
conversation about sex and how you feel about it, try
using these talking points to guide you:
*Bare your insecurities and concerns, it will allow
your partner to better serve you if you are honest
about how you feel — the good and the bad.
*Consider what you want by asking yourself what
you really seek in pleasure and intimacy right now. If it
is not penetrative sex, say so. If something doesn’t
feel comfortable, speak up. Similarly, listen when your
guy expresses his concerns and desires.
* You will know when you’re ready for sex again. If
it is not as soon as you want, that’s fine. You and your
spouse can explore other ways to be intimate. If you
are worried about pain or discomfort during mating,
talk with your doctor and consider taking your partner
with you to the appointment too. This way, you can
both ask questions and feel more secure in your
choices.
*Your body undergoes a lot of changes during
pregnancy and in the months after your baby is
delivered so, if sex does not feel as pleasurable
anymore (delivery can stretch muscles), talk with your
partner about trying a new position. Never assume it
is better to stay silent, pleasure and intimacy are a
two-way thing.
*Intimacy is more than sex while love making is
more than penetrative intercourse. If you and your
partner are looking for ways to reconnect and engage
one another in intimate ways, consider these
techniques:
*Kiss and make out with your clothing on, this
allows you to feel aroused again and may encourage
sexual activities in the future that both of you can look
forward to.
*Indulge in mutual masturbation and oral sex. Sex
toys may also be a good idea in post delivery period
while the surge of hormones, can make arousal and
sensual touching more pleasurable.
With a little time, effort and dedication, you and
your partner can find comfortable and meaningful
ways to reconnect and enjoy one another in this
post-natal period.
Bear in mind that this stage will pass; so, focus on
keeping the lines of communication open in the
meantime. Remember that intimacy is not equated
with having sexual intercourse. Rather, it is important
that you and your lover feel a closeness and bond
with each other. Kisses, an occasional nuzzle or a
back rub, may convey these feelings better than more
intense physical contact. Sincere compliments can
mean a lot to a new mother who may feel less “put
together” than she is used to, and may feel a little
self-conscious about her postpartum shape.
For this reason, it is important to share your
feelings about breastfeeding and new parenthood
with your mate whenever possible. Such
conversations can help preserve the intimacy of your
relationship during the physically challenging early
months, while also supporting your partner in her
breastfeeding efforts at a time when every
encouraging word helps.
If you love the sight of her breastfeeding your
baby, tell her how it makes you feel and if you
consider her new figure just as sexy, let her know.
Share with her your pride in her commitment to
breastfeeding as she breastfeeds in public, and make
herself available to satisfy your child’s hunger at all
times. This form of asexual support can eventually
help the couple to rediscover one another and reestablish
their intimacy and sexual expression.
Talk
SPOT
By - Rita Okoye
What some of your favourite
celebrities said and we listened.
“Don’t trust everything you see
on social media, even salt
looks like sugar. Some people
aren’t really all they “post” to
be. So, live your life and be
content with whatever it is you
have and have achieved for
yourself. Do not wish to be like
anyone else. Secret of social
media is; Packaging is
EVERYTHING!”
Juliet Ibrahim hammers
on negativity of social
media.
“Remove your eyes from somebody
else’s achievements. That glory you
see has a story that you couldn’t
survive, if it was your battle. Say no
to envy. It’s OK to be happy for
people in their winning seasons
trust me your time will come. The
Sky is big enough for all”.
Medlin Boss pens words on
marbles.
“Hey sis, do not do wife
duties for girlfriend prices.
And in case you’re
wondering, wife duties
include; having a baby for a
man. Living with a man
you’re not married to. Being
there for him when he is
down. Cooking and doing
chores for him. If you gave all
that already, why would he
be in a hurry? Why buy the
cow when the milk is free?”
Princess writes open
letter to women.
“Things will certainly get better
after this. We shall overcome and
gain what we have lost in these
past days. Nobody hypes you
better than you, after the lockdown,
go out and do great things. Do
things better than you would have
done them before but with your
masks of course and hand
sanitizers in your pockets”.
Yvonne Jegede
reemphasizes on the
importance of personal health.
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