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Find Your People by Jennie Allen PDF DownloadFind Your People by Jennie Allen KINDLEFind Your People by Jennie Allen EBOOKFind Your People by Jennie Allen EPUBFind Your People by Jennie Allen Read onlineFind Your People by Jennie Allen Full PDFBook Description: The New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head offerspractical solutions for creating true community, the kind that’s crucial to our mental and spiritualhealth.“My dear friend Jennie Allen shows us how to make true emotional connections with the rightpeople so that our authentic relationships can be healthy for all.”—Lysa TerKeurst, author of It’s NotSupposed to Be This WayIn a world that’s both more connected and more isolating than ever before, we’re often tempted to dolife alone, whether because we’re so busy or because relationships feel risky and hard. But scienceconfirms that consistent, meaningful connection with others has a powerful impact on our well-being.We are meant to live known and loved. But so many are hiding behind emotional walls that we’reexperiencing an epidemic of loneliness.In Find Your People, bestselling author Jennie Allen draws on fascinating insights from science andhistory, timeless biblical truth, and vulnerable stories from her own life to help you:• overcome the barriers to making new friends and learn to initiate with easy-to-follow steps• find simple ways to press through awkward to get to authentic in conversations• understand how conflict can strengthen relationships rather than destroy them• identify the type of friend you are and the types of friends you need• learn the five practical ingredients you need to have the type of friends you’ve always longed forYou were created to play, engage, adventure, and explore—with others. In Find Your People, you’lldiscover exactly how to dive into the deep end and experience the full wonder of community.Because while the ache of loneliness is real, it doesn’t have to be your reality.=====================================================================As a young writer, my naiveté about the publishing process nearly led me to financial ruin.Here’s how to avoid my mistakes.The first thing I tell debut authors is this: Assume nothing.If just one person had sat me down when I signed my first book contract and explained howpublishing works, how nothing is guaranteed, and how it often feels like playing RussianRoulette with words, I would have made much sounder financial and creative decisions. Iwould have set a foundation for a healthy life as an artist, laying the groundwork to thrive inuncertainty, to avoid desperation, panic, and bad decisions that would affect me for years tocome.How would my life be different if a fellow writer or someone in the industry had told me thatthe money I’d be receiving for my advances was absolutely no indication of what I couldmake on future book deals? What pain could I have avoided if they had advised me not tospend that money as though there would be more where that came from? I suspect I may
have avoided a near nervous breakdown and not come so perilously close to financial ruinand creative burnout. But no one came forward.Let me back up. One of the most respected publishing houses in the world gave me$100,000 to write two books, one of which was already finished, and I was feeling… well,fancy.As a kid who’d once stood in line with her mother to get food stamps, I could not believe thefigures in my bank account.Now, I want to acknowledge the inherent privilege that I hold as a white, educated,middleclass American. The problems I write about here are “struggles” many people wouldlove to have. They are good problems. Lucky, even. Growing up with a lack of financialliteracy didn’t mean there weren’t opportunities for me out there because of my positioningin the world. I had a leg up, even when it felt like I was in the trenches. Access equalsprivilege, and I understand that. I try hard to acknowledge my privilege and not be part ofthe problem, but didn’t do so explicitly in the original version of this article. Revising is myfavorite part of the writing process, and clearly a big part of my personal life. In fact I wish Icould go back and revise the past six years.I did play it smart, though: I didn’t quit my day job, and wrote a larger-than-usual check tomy student loan company when the advance came through. I didn’t know if this was aonetime thing or not.Each new book is like a weekend in Vegas: Maybe I’ll get lucky, maybe I won’t.But when I sold a trilogy to another publisher the following year for over $250,000 dollars(even now I cannot believe I wrote that sentence and, furthermore, that it’s true), I reallythought I had made it — forever, not just for a moment. Not for this one book deal. Forever.Otherwise, I reasoned, they would never have paid me such enormous sums. Thesepublishers must be investing in me for the long run. I was one of their own.It had happened twice in a row, these six-figures: Surely I had somehow become one of thechosen few. After years of research and struggle to break out in such a ferociouslycompetitive industry, I’d somehow come out ahead.But in that process, I’d somehow missed several critical aspects of the business, and thatwas on me (to some extent). Surely there were writers who had gotten the memo abouthow advances worked, and the ins and outs of publishing. But so much of an aspiringwriter’s life — and so many of the resources available to them — is focused on getting thatfirst book deal. What came after was beside the point.It would also be fair to say that the same energy and drive that had landed me a book dealin the first place guided much of my decision-making process in ways that weren’t alwayshelpful. I reasoned that if I’d achieved the impossible once, why not again? Someone has tobe on the bestseller list, win the National Book Award, have the big movie deal.Did anyone working with me — agency, publishing team — tell me that a sumptuousadvance was not something I should depend on or get used to? Or that, in fact, it’sextraordinarily common in the publishing industry for untested debut writers to be paid largesums that they may never see again? No. Did anyone in the publishing house take meunder their wing and explain to me how the company made decisions about future book
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