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Brain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke PDF DownloadBrain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke KINDLEBrain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke EBOOKBrain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke EPUBBrain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke Read onlineBrain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke Full PDFBook Description: From a leading child psychologist comes this groundbreaking newunderstanding of children’s behavior, offering insight and strategies to support both parentsand children.Over her decades as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Mona Delahooke has routinely counseled distraughtparents who struggle to manage their children’s challenging, sometimes oppositional behaviors.These families are understandably focused on correcting or improving a child’s lack of compliance,emotional outbursts, tantrums, and other “out of control” behavior. But, as she has shared with thesefamilies, a perspective shift is needed. Behavior, no matter how challenging, is not the problem but asymptom; a clue about what is happening in a child’s unique physiologic makeup.In Brain-Body Parenting, Dr. Delahooke offers a radical new approach to parenting based on herclinical experience as well as the most recent research in neuroscience and child psychology. Insteadof a “top-down” approach to behavior that focuses on the thinking brain, she calls for a “bottom-up”approach that considers the essential role of the entire nervous system, which produces children’sfeelings and behaviors.When we begin to understand the biology beneath the behavior, suggests Dr. Delahooke, we giveour children the resources they need to grow and thrive—and we give ourselves the gift of a happier,more connected relationship with them. Brain-Body Parenting empowers parents with tools to helptheir children develop self-regulation skills while also encouraging parental self-care, which is crucialfor parents to have the capacity to provide the essential “co-regulation” children need. When parentsshift from trying to secure compliance to supporting connection and balance in the body and mind,they unlock a deeper understanding of their child, encouraging calmer behavior, more harmoniousfamily dynamics, and increased resilience.=====================================================================As a young writer, my naiveté about the publishing process nearly led me to financial ruin.Here’s how to avoid my mistakes.The first thing I tell debut authors is this: Assume nothing.If just one person had sat me down when I signed my first book contract and explained howpublishing works, how nothing is guaranteed, and how it often feels like playing RussianRoulette with words, I would have made much sounder financial and creative decisions. Iwould have set a foundation for a healthy life as an artist, laying the groundwork to thrive inuncertainty, to avoid desperation, panic, and bad decisions that would affect me for years tocome.How would my life be different if a fellow writer or someone in the industry had told me thatthe money I’d be receiving for my advances was absolutely no indication of what I couldmake on future book deals? What pain could I have avoided if they had advised me not tospend that money as though there would be more where that came from? I suspect I may
have avoided a near nervous breakdown and not come so perilously close to financial ruinand creative burnout. But no one came forward.Let me back up. One of the most respected publishing houses in the world gave me$100,000 to write two books, one of which was already finished, and I was feeling… well,fancy.As a kid who’d once stood in line with her mother to get food stamps, I could not believe thefigures in my bank account.Now, I want to acknowledge the inherent privilege that I hold as a white, educated,middleclass American. The problems I write about here are “struggles” many people wouldlove to have. They are good problems. Lucky, even. Growing up with a lack of financialliteracy didn’t mean there weren’t opportunities for me out there because of my positioningin the world. I had a leg up, even when it felt like I was in the trenches. Access equalsprivilege, and I understand that. I try hard to acknowledge my privilege and not be part ofthe problem, but didn’t do so explicitly in the original version of this article. Revising is myfavorite part of the writing process, and clearly a big part of my personal life. In fact I wish Icould go back and revise the past six years.I did play it smart, though: I didn’t quit my day job, and wrote a larger-than-usual check tomy student loan company when the advance came through. I didn’t know if this was aonetime thing or not.Each new book is like a weekend in Vegas: Maybe I’ll get lucky, maybe I won’t.But when I sold a trilogy to another publisher the following year for over $250,000 dollars(even now I cannot believe I wrote that sentence and, furthermore, that it’s true), I reallythought I had made it — forever, not just for a moment. Not for this one book deal. Forever.Otherwise, I reasoned, they would never have paid me such enormous sums. Thesepublishers must be investing in me for the long run. I was one of their own.It had happened twice in a row, these six-figures: Surely I had somehow become one of thechosen few. After years of research and struggle to break out in such a ferociouslycompetitive industry, I’d somehow come out ahead.But in that process, I’d somehow missed several critical aspects of the business, and thatwas on me (to some extent). Surely there were writers who had gotten the memo abouthow advances worked, and the ins and outs of publishing. But so much of an aspiringwriter’s life — and so many of the resources available to them — is focused on getting thatfirst book deal. What came after was beside the point.It would also be fair to say that the same energy and drive that had landed me a book dealin the first place guided much of my decision-making process in ways that weren’t alwayshelpful. I reasoned that if I’d achieved the impossible once, why not again? Someone has tobe on the bestseller list, win the National Book Award, have the big movie deal.Did anyone working with me — agency, publishing team — tell me that a sumptuousadvance was not something I should depend on or get used to? Or that, in fact, it’sextraordinarily common in the publishing industry for untested debut writers to be paid largesums that they may never see again? No. Did anyone in the publishing house take meunder their wing and explain to me how the company made decisions about future book
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