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QUESTION: I know that it is customary to
invite the officiant but I was wondering what
the etiquette is today. My fiancé and I have
met the minister but we don’t have any
previous ties to him or the church we are
marrying in and by the time of the wedding
we will have had two quick meetings with
him. Is it required to send an invitation to him
and his wife?
ANSWER: While normally you would invite
your officiant to the wedding, if you have no
personal relationship with them it is not
required. Look at your budget – etiquette
would say yes but it is not necessary.
QUESTION: Is it normal to be nervous, well
more having second thought before you get
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married? I love my fiancé and want to marry
him but the more planning we do the more
nervous I get.
ANSWER: Nerves are completely normal!
Part of your nervousness comes from the
stress of planning such an important day.
Make sure to take time out of planning or
anything wedding-related to re-connect with
your fiancé – have a movie date or take a
weekend getaway. It will give you both a
chance to relax and de-stress.
QUESTION: I’m planning on hiring two or
three hairstylists to come into my home and
do all of our hair (10 bridesmaids and me) on
the day of the wedding. I thought I would be
responsible for this cost as it’s not absolutely
necessary to have your hair done by a
professional – but was wondering that if the
girls usually cover the cost of their own hair
for the wedding?
ANSWER: Traditionally your bridesmaids are
responsible for the costs associated with their
portion of the wedding day. The dress and
hair is normally each girl’s responsibility. It is a
nice gesture to help them cover the costs if it
is going to be quite high (having someone
come into your home is usually more than a
salon) but you are not responsible for the
total amount.
If you have questions about your
wedding day, send them to Gay at
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