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You can also think of the female gender role as being like
“chasing a butterfly....” Let me explain...
Picture this: You’re in a field that’s full of butterflies, and
all of the women who are openly emotional and playing the
female gender role are chasing them. Their sole job is to run
after the butterflies and enjoy how beautiful they are. But
if they’re only focused on the butterflies, they won’t be able
to pay attention to where they’re going. They might trip on
a rock, or step in a hole or chase it off a cliff. That means
it’s your job to move everything out of the way – to get rid
of the rocks and plug up the holes – so that they feel safe
pursuing the butterflies.
A woman can feel openly until she reaches the point that
doing so will have a negative effect on her. If what she's
feeling is going to harm her, you, or the relationship, then
you have to stop her. But don’t interfere until then. One of
the major misconceptions that men have is that women and
men speak the same language. I hate to break it to you, but
women are not speaking the same language as you. Women
are speaking from the point of view of someone who is playing
the female gender role. Things that they say don’t have to
make complete sense to you, and you don’t always need to
agree with them. All you need to do is understand that a
woman is speaking a different language because she wants
a different outcome for herself than you want for yourself.
There are things that you do that make you feel more like a
man that aren’t going to make her feel better as a woman,
and there are things that she does that make her feel good
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