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Sex and Relationships: Exercises
It may be useful to also acknowledge that very often as women
we tend to put our partner’s pleasure before ours. However, it is
never too late to learn to talk about our physical and emotional
desires, and hopefully the session will enable us to do so.
Participants can also anonymously write down questions they
find difficult and put them in a special box or other designated
container to be addressed before the end of the session.
Timing: The session should take about 40 minutes (20 minutes
for Step 1 and 20 minutes for Step 2) depending on group size
and attitudes. Facilitators should allocate some time for difficult
questions. It is also important to have ground rules and an
icebreaker to help participants feel safe.
Format: Group discussion and body maps
Required materials: Flip charts, markers
Three or four flip charts put together with adhesive tape
to draw a body outline, or “body map” (quantity may vary
according to group size, plan to draw a body map for
every four women)
Sex and Relationships - 2
Recommended steps:
1. Open the discussion by asking:
• What were the early messages we heard about sex?
• How did they make us feel about sex?
• What kind of impact did they have on how we approach
sex and pleasure?
Responses may vary, but they may include negative
things such as:
• Don’t play with the boys.
• Men only want one thing.
• If a boy touches you, you get pregnant.
• Sex is sinful.
• Sex outside marriage is sinful.
To wrap up this part of the discussion we could ask:
• Do we still hold those beliefs?
• If they changed, how did this happen?
• How can we develop a positive language about
sex and pleasure?
Stress that there are no right or wrong answers and
invite different perspectives in the discussions from
all group members.