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VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AND GIRL-CHILD IN NIGERIA Women and girl-child are facing a lot of challenges in the country because of some unnecessary reasons that are more or less effective on the side of girlchild and such reasons are: EARLY MARRIAGE: This problem has led most of our females to an unconditional position that may effect their children in future. They are forced to early marriage because of the money imposed on school fees by the government and no finance for further education, the parents may advise the young girls to get married and give way for the boys, that is to say that Nigerians believe that a boy is the good fruit of the family. SENSITIZATION: Females are maltreated in their husbands’ house because they lack occupation, they are not engaged in anything meaningful that will contribute positively to the family affairs, instead they engage themselves in menial work. The men make decision for their wives because they think that women should not have any right and opportunities as men in the country. POLYGAMOUS FAMILY: Women are no more important in the society that a man will choose to marry more than two wives in a family, what an incredible act! Go to the streets, majority of the hawkers on the road are females and housemaids that could be something great in future. The house works are imposed on the girl-child, yet the government are doing nothing about it. By Iweajunwa Roseline Secretarial Department Don Bosco Technical Institute, Onitsha in Nigeria THE TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE OF THE YORUBA PEOPLE IN NIGERIA 8
The traditional marriage system of my tribe, the Yoruba is different from what is obtained nowadays among the people of other tribes. The system is interesting and error free if it is followed strictly as a process of getting married. However, the infiltration of the Western culture has affected the traditional marriage systems in Africa. In the traditional marriage system of the Yoruba people, a man does not just get engaged to a woman or goes into courtship simply because they happened to meet on the road or in a party but in a tortuous manner. A man’s marriage to a woman is a gradual process through which a man systematically, as it were, gets interested in a woman and works his way towards achieving his aim. In Yoruba land, a woman can be bestowed when the woman was still a baby, but then the man has to convince the family of the woman that he is of a good character. There are lots of things considered before a man can get a woman to marry as a wife among my people. He has to come from a good family lineage which does not have a trace of inherited diseases and which has been known to possess some attractable virtues worthy of such association as marriage. It is worthwhile to note that in the Yoruba traditional marriage system, a man woos a woman through ”alarinna” the traditional marriage counsellor and intermediary, who will go to declare the affections of a would-be suitor to the would-be bride. The ‘alarinna’ who is usually a matured woman in the society, and in most cases not a member of any of the families and makes the desire of the man known to the woman. After the woman must have consented through the ‘alarinna’, the man is not freed to visit the woman; he will now have to go further to get consent of the family of the woman. It is after the family of the woman has consented and given its tacit agreement that the man and the woman can be said to be engaged. The agreement will even come after the two families must have investigated each other and found out that they both have good lineage. The open expression of the agreement starts when the family of the man visits the parents of the woman to publicly declare that there is a beautiful “flower”, which metaphorically means the woman, in their compound that they want to pluck. It is after this first visit that a date will be fixed for the traditional marriage ceremony where the nuptial knot will be tied. The traditional engagement ceremony is the culmination of the process which begins either when the woman was bestowed to the man while she was a baby, mostly as an indication of friendship between the two families, or when he sees the woman as a matured adult and goes through the intermediary. 9
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