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f<strong>or</strong> high potential<br />

Your Tear and Share Guide<br />

NAGC receives similar questions from teac<strong>he</strong>rs and parents; however, rarely <strong>is</strong> t<strong>he</strong>re an opp<strong>or</strong>tunity to expl<strong>or</strong>e how t<strong>he</strong><br />

“ot<strong>he</strong>r side” might face t<strong>he</strong> <strong>is</strong>sue. Interestingly, both groups benefit from t<strong>he</strong> same inf<strong>or</strong>mation even though t<strong>he</strong>y look at<br />

it from different perspectives and have different roles to play in <strong>he</strong>lping gifted <strong>child</strong>ren reach t<strong>he</strong>ir potential. Our ongoing<br />

goal <strong>is</strong> f<strong>or</strong> teac<strong>he</strong>rs and parents to develop a broader understanding of t<strong>he</strong>ir students' potential and thus create stimulating<br />

learning environments.<br />

Th i s m o n t h's to p i c:<br />

“<strong>Th<strong>is</strong></strong> <strong>child</strong> <strong>is</strong> a <strong>classic</strong> <strong>'absent</strong>-<strong>minded</strong> <strong>profess<strong>or</strong></strong>.'<br />

<strong>How</strong> <strong>can</strong> <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong> <strong>or</strong> <strong>he</strong> ever learn <strong>or</strong>ganizational skills?”<br />

Cop y an d Sh a r e wi t h Colleagues<br />

A Teac<strong>he</strong>r View<br />

If I've asked Lynn, “W<strong>he</strong>re's your homew<strong>or</strong>k?” once,<br />

I've asked <strong>he</strong>r a thousand times th<strong>is</strong> marking period.<br />

Sure, that little shrugged response <strong>is</strong> starting to drive me<br />

crazy, but t<strong>he</strong> real concern <strong>is</strong> Lynn's plummeting grade.<br />

I know <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong> understands t<strong>he</strong> material better than most<br />

students in t<strong>he</strong> class, and we've d<strong>is</strong>cussed t<strong>he</strong> connection<br />

between <strong>he</strong>r choices and <strong>he</strong>r grades, but I <strong>can</strong>'t seem<br />

to convince <strong>he</strong>r to get <strong>or</strong>ganized and fin<strong>is</strong>h <strong>he</strong>r assignments.<br />

To be fair to everyone, I have to evaluate observable<br />

student perf<strong>or</strong>mances w<strong>he</strong>n I assign grades – I <strong>can</strong>'t<br />

just take <strong>he</strong>r w<strong>or</strong>d that <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong> knows t<strong>he</strong> material, <strong>or</strong> has<br />

done t<strong>he</strong> w<strong>or</strong>k.<br />

I know <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong>'ll be shocked w<strong>he</strong>n <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong> opens <strong>he</strong>r rep<strong>or</strong>t<br />

card and sees a “C.” M<strong>or</strong>e imp<strong>or</strong>tantly, I expect that <strong>he</strong>r<br />

parents will want some answers as well. <strong>How</strong>ever, Lynn<br />

holds t<strong>he</strong> keys to why <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong> just <strong>can</strong>'t seem to get t<strong>he</strong> w<strong>or</strong>k<br />

turned in and I'm not sure how to <strong>he</strong>lp <strong>he</strong>r open t<strong>he</strong> do<strong>or</strong>.<br />

A Pa r e n t View<br />

My second grade son's desk at school <strong>is</strong> such a jumbled<br />

mess that by t<strong>he</strong> time <strong>he</strong> finds t<strong>he</strong> right book, <strong>he</strong>'s a good<br />

5 <strong>or</strong> 6 minutes behind t<strong>he</strong> ot<strong>he</strong>r kids. It's as though <strong>he</strong>'s<br />

in a different time and space. He <strong>can</strong>'t seem to keep track<br />

of h<strong>is</strong> pencils, ruler, sc<strong>is</strong>s<strong>or</strong>s, w<strong>or</strong>k<strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong>ets – H<strong>is</strong> teac<strong>he</strong>r<br />

says that even asking him f<strong>or</strong> a clean, unwrinkled piece<br />

of paper often stops him in h<strong>is</strong> tracks.<br />

T<strong>he</strong> confusing part <strong>is</strong> that <strong>he</strong>'s obviously smart. On t<strong>he</strong><br />

one hand, h<strong>is</strong> mem<strong>or</strong>y f<strong>or</strong> facts <strong>is</strong> p<strong>he</strong>nomenal (<strong>he</strong>'s t<strong>he</strong><br />

one who points out t<strong>he</strong> incons<strong>is</strong>tencies in every little<br />

thing I say), but <strong>he</strong>'s also t<strong>he</strong> <strong>child</strong> who <strong>can</strong>'t remember<br />

to bring home h<strong>is</strong> assignments.<br />

H<strong>is</strong> behavi<strong>or</strong> <strong>is</strong> d<strong>is</strong>ruptive to our family. School evenings<br />

are spent arguing about homew<strong>or</strong>k and getting ready<br />

f<strong>or</strong> t<strong>he</strong> next day, and m<strong>or</strong>nings in our house are simply a<br />

nightmare as we try to get him out t<strong>he</strong> do<strong>or</strong> in one piece.<br />

He just doesn't plan a<strong>he</strong>ad.<br />

Anyone who has avoided t<strong>he</strong> temptation of eating a freshly baked cookie right bef<strong>or</strong>e dinner realizes that self-regulation<br />

and delaying gratification <strong>can</strong> be difficult to master. Although some <strong>child</strong>ren are willing to learn t<strong>he</strong> “rules of t<strong>he</strong> game”<br />

and find a way to succeed within a system, ot<strong>he</strong>rs flounder in a sea of d<strong>is</strong><strong>or</strong>ganization and lost time. With some careful<br />

detective w<strong>or</strong>k and a <strong>he</strong>althy dose of communication, families and teac<strong>he</strong>rs <strong>can</strong> <strong>he</strong>lp a <strong>child</strong> better understand t<strong>he</strong> value<br />

of <strong>or</strong>ganizational skills and how to put t<strong>he</strong>m into practice on a regular bas<strong>is</strong>.<br />

T<strong>he</strong> good news <strong>is</strong> that <strong>or</strong>ganized people are made, not b<strong>or</strong>n. Skills like being able to pri<strong>or</strong>itize, keep possessions in <strong>or</strong>der,<br />

plan a<strong>he</strong>ad, and manage time, are learned over time and by example! It's not magic. T<strong>he</strong> tough reality <strong>is</strong> that parents<br />

and teac<strong>he</strong>rs must think about t<strong>he</strong> examples t<strong>he</strong>y set, as well as t<strong>he</strong> opp<strong>or</strong>tunities t<strong>he</strong>y provide f<strong>or</strong> <strong>child</strong>ren to become<br />

adept at managing t<strong>he</strong>mselves. Children need good role models, not just once in awhile, but cons<strong>is</strong>tently. After all, perfecting<br />

a skill takes lots of practice.<br />

Robin M. Schader <strong>is</strong> NAGC's Parent Resource Special<strong>is</strong>t.<br />

S<strong>he</strong> <strong>is</strong> t<strong>he</strong> mot<strong>he</strong>r of 3 grown gifted <strong>child</strong>ren. Her Ph.D. <strong>is</strong><br />

in Educational Psychology/Gifted Education with research<br />

focusing on talent development and t<strong>he</strong> parental role.<br />

Rebecca D. Eckert <strong>is</strong> associate <strong>profess<strong>or</strong></strong> in Teac<strong>he</strong>r Education<br />

at t<strong>he</strong> University of Connecticut. Pri<strong>or</strong> to receiving <strong>he</strong>r Ph.D.<br />

in Educational Psychology/Gifted Education, <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong> was a<br />

classroom teac<strong>he</strong>r in a public middle school.<br />

National Association f<strong>or</strong> Gifted Children www.nagc.<strong>or</strong>g Spring 2008


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1. Step Ba c k a n d Get a Wi d e r View<br />

Acc<strong>or</strong>ding to many classroom management experts, all behavi<strong>or</strong><br />

<strong>is</strong> functional (i.e., it serves a purpose) and <strong>is</strong> shaped<br />

by social interactions. To gain furt<strong>he</strong>r insight into a <strong>child</strong>'s<br />

behavi<strong>or</strong> patterns <strong>or</strong> goals at school and home, ask:<br />

• W<strong>he</strong>n d<strong>is</strong><strong>or</strong>ganization <strong>or</strong> time management <strong>is</strong>sues<br />

occur, what events precede it?<br />

• What <strong>is</strong> t<strong>he</strong> usual response <strong>or</strong> consequence to<br />

d<strong>is</strong><strong>or</strong>ganization <strong>or</strong> unfin<strong>is</strong><strong>he</strong>d w<strong>or</strong>k?<br />

• Is t<strong>he</strong>re a context <strong>or</strong> subject in which d<strong>is</strong><strong>or</strong>ganization<br />

typically occurs?<br />

• Do behavi<strong>or</strong>s change at different challenge levels<br />

(e.g., difficult, easy)?<br />

• To learn m<strong>or</strong>e about Positive Behavi<strong>or</strong> Supp<strong>or</strong>t and<br />

how to shape t<strong>he</strong>se behavi<strong>or</strong>s f<strong>or</strong> m<strong>or</strong>e fav<strong>or</strong>able<br />

outcomes, v<strong>is</strong>it www.apbs.<strong>or</strong>g/PBSTopics.htm.<br />

Bright <strong>child</strong>ren often try to rationalize t<strong>he</strong>mselves out of<br />

situations. “Why bot<strong>he</strong>r,” t<strong>he</strong>y ask, “<strong>Th<strong>is</strong></strong> homew<strong>or</strong>k <strong>is</strong><br />

dumb, anyway.” Be ready with at least one solid, compelling<br />

reason. Think creatively. Think long term. Think<br />

like a mix of stand-up comic and defense att<strong>or</strong>ney. Why<br />

does that homew<strong>or</strong>k need to be done? [Hint: Make it<br />

fun. Use 'serious-fun' with t<strong>he</strong> answers.]<br />

T<strong>he</strong>re are many styles and levels of <strong>or</strong>ganization. Each<br />

person must d<strong>is</strong>cover what w<strong>or</strong>ks f<strong>or</strong> him <strong>or</strong> <strong>he</strong>rself. F<strong>or</strong><br />

example, most of us have figured out that hours spent<br />

trying to find things we've lost are wasted, so we try<br />

to maintain some <strong>or</strong>der in w<strong>he</strong>re we put t<strong>he</strong>m. During<br />

times of stress, whatever “system” we've used <strong>can</strong> fail. Is<br />

stress an <strong>is</strong>sue in your home?<br />

2. Wh e n <strong>is</strong> a Problem Mo r e t h a n Ju s t a Problem?<br />

• Losing assignments, lack of attention to detail, incomplete<br />

w<strong>or</strong>k, and a general struggle with <strong>or</strong>ganization are<br />

all red flags in a classroom setting. With t<strong>he</strong>ir breadth of<br />

experience with young people, educat<strong>or</strong>s are pretty good<br />

at spotting behavi<strong>or</strong>s that may impede academic progress<br />

and vary widely from those that are typical at a developmental<br />

level. Nevert<strong>he</strong>less, additional expert<strong>is</strong>e and<br />

evaluation are needed to <strong>he</strong>lp determine if t<strong>he</strong> cause of a<br />

<strong>child</strong>'s <strong>or</strong>ganizational struggles <strong>is</strong> fueled by t<strong>he</strong> intensity<br />

and enthusiasm sometimes associated with gifted <strong>child</strong>ren<br />

<strong>or</strong> if t<strong>he</strong>re are additional clinical <strong>is</strong>sues present like ADD/<br />

ADHD.<br />

• F<strong>or</strong> a <strong>he</strong>lpful c<strong>he</strong>ckl<strong>is</strong>t, read “Bef<strong>or</strong>e Referring a Gifted<br />

Child f<strong>or</strong> ADD/ADHD Evaluation” at www.sengifted.<br />

<strong>or</strong>g/articles_counseling/Lind_Bef<strong>or</strong>eReferringAGifted-<br />

ChildF<strong>or</strong>ADD.shtml<br />

• Is your <strong>child</strong> late f<strong>or</strong> things <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong> <strong>or</strong> <strong>he</strong> wants <strong>or</strong> likes to<br />

do? F<strong>or</strong> example, does <strong>s<strong>he</strong></strong> <strong>or</strong> <strong>he</strong> show up on t<strong>he</strong> hour f<strong>or</strong> a<br />

fav<strong>or</strong>ite TV show? On again/off again self-regulation may<br />

point to lack of interest in t<strong>he</strong> task at hand.<br />

• Is d<strong>is</strong><strong>or</strong>ganization contributing to underachievement? Include<br />

your <strong>child</strong> as an active part of t<strong>he</strong> solution, using two<br />

questions to <strong>he</strong>lp frame different tasks: “<strong>How</strong> <strong>can</strong> I prepare<br />

to do my best w<strong>or</strong>k” and “What <strong>is</strong> t<strong>he</strong> right amount of<br />

<strong>or</strong>ganization to get th<strong>is</strong> done?” (<strong>or</strong>, how much d<strong>is</strong><strong>or</strong>der <strong>can</strong><br />

I tolerate and still accompl<strong>is</strong>h what I am supposed to do?)<br />

• Try t<strong>he</strong> suggestions l<strong>is</strong>ted under “Organizational Skills”<br />

on t<strong>he</strong> NAGC website at: http://www.nagc.<strong>or</strong>g/index.<br />

aspx?id=968<br />

• Find m<strong>or</strong>e strategies in T<strong>he</strong> Organized Student: Teaching<br />

Children t<strong>he</strong> Skills f<strong>or</strong> Success in School and Beyond (Goldberg,<br />

2005).<br />

3. Ma k e a Pl a n<br />

• W<strong>he</strong>n you <strong>he</strong>lp students and families map out longterm<br />

goals and career aspirations, you also open t<strong>he</strong><br />

do<strong>or</strong> f<strong>or</strong> sh<strong>or</strong>t-term strategies and increased communication.<br />

Focusing on specific progress toward shared goals<br />

rat<strong>he</strong>r than deficits gives t<strong>he</strong> <strong>child</strong> an active role in t<strong>he</strong><br />

development of self-regulation skills.<br />

• F<strong>or</strong> m<strong>or</strong>e on strategic goal setting with gifted students,<br />

read “Making a Difference” by Del Siegle and Betsy Mc-<br />

Coach at www.gifted.conn. edu/siegle/Conferences/<br />

NewJerseyUnderachievement.pdf<br />

• Be proactive. Weave examples into conversations of<br />

w<strong>he</strong>n and how being <strong>or</strong>ganized has saved t<strong>he</strong> day. F<strong>or</strong><br />

example, think of t<strong>he</strong> unf<strong>or</strong>eseen consequences described<br />

in t<strong>he</strong> sh<strong>or</strong>t fable that begins “F<strong>or</strong> want of a nail”<br />

and ends with “t<strong>he</strong> kingdom was lost.” T<strong>he</strong>re are m<strong>or</strong>e<br />

ideas in t<strong>he</strong> “Self-Regulated Learning and Academically<br />

Talented Students,” which <strong>is</strong> on t<strong>he</strong> CHP page, located in<br />

t<strong>he</strong> “Parents” area of t<strong>he</strong> NAGC website.<br />

• Stay flexible and adaptable. T<strong>he</strong> most <strong>he</strong>lpful systems<br />

serve as scaffolds to reach hig<strong>he</strong>r levels.<br />

Organizing <strong>is</strong> what you do bef<strong>or</strong>e you do something, so that w<strong>he</strong>n you do it, it <strong>is</strong> not all mixed up.<br />

- A. A. Milne<br />

Spring 2008 www.nagc.<strong>or</strong>g National Association f<strong>or</strong> Gifted Children

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