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2008 NEWSLETTER Number 1 Serial No. 53<br />
<strong><strong>In</strong>troduction</strong> to <strong>Qualities</strong> of<br />
<strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong> in<br />
Adolescence and Adulthood<br />
Karina Weichold<br />
Department of Developmental Psychology, University of Jena<br />
Jena, Germany<br />
E-mail: karina.weichold@uni-jena.de<br />
and<br />
Bonnie L. Barber<br />
School of Psychology, Murdoch University<br />
Perth, Western Australia, Australia<br />
E-mail: b.barber@murdoch.edu.au<br />
<strong>Romantic</strong> relationships offer opportunities for some of the most joyful and fulfilling<br />
moments in life, as well as some of the most miserable. Research is growing on both of these<br />
aspects of partnerships, and their roles in development. What is perhaps more neglected is<br />
the consideration of the role of culture in the study of how romantic relationships facilitate<br />
or hinder healthy development. This issue of the newsletter brings together scholars from<br />
all corners of the globe in our search to understand diverse qualities of romantic relationships<br />
in adolescence and adulthood, and how those are linked to development.<br />
We lead off with a North American feature focused on the<br />
developmental contributions of romantic relationships to<br />
key psychosocial tasks in adolescence. The second feature<br />
highlights some of the darker sides of romantic relationships<br />
for young adults in <strong>In</strong>dia. The third article underscores<br />
the challenges and opportunities in romantic<br />
relationships for sexual minority youth. The final feature<br />
considers the spousal experiences and meaning of marriage<br />
in Africa. Our two commentaries, from distinguished<br />
scholars in Israel and Germany, expand on these themes,<br />
and suggest important new considerations for future<br />
research. All of the authors highlight the centrality of<br />
romantic bonds to our social experiences, offering insights<br />
into the growing breadth of research on developmentally<br />
crucial features of relationships.<br />
<strong>Of</strong>fering fresh approaches to research in this area are<br />
two “Reports from the Lab.” Articles in this section report<br />
on scholars’ everyday working conditions or collaborations<br />
within a research setting that may be unusual or challenging.<br />
<strong>In</strong> this case, we have one paper from a research group<br />
in Finland investigating spousal relationships. The data<br />
were collected using a diary method via mobile phones to<br />
capture daily family dynamics. A second report focuses on<br />
the initiation of romantic relationships and the establishment<br />
of committed relationships in American young<br />
adults. Data here were collected through online assessments.<br />
Both papers introduce modern ways of collecting<br />
prospective longitudinal data in the field of exploring<br />
romantic relationships and they summarize advantages<br />
and difficulties experienced by applying such modes of<br />
data collection.<br />
The contributors to the Special Section features,<br />
commentary, and lab stories include scholars who are<br />
international leaders in research focused on romantic<br />
relationships. We are grateful for the contributions of<br />
these scholars who have reminded us of the diversity of<br />
experiences in romantic partnerships.<br />
Adolescent <strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong>:<br />
Beginnings, Endings, and Psychosocial<br />
Challenges<br />
Jennifer Connolly and Caroline McIsaac<br />
Department of Psychology, York University,<br />
<strong>To</strong>ronto, Canada<br />
E-mail: connolly@yorku.ca<br />
<strong>Romantic</strong> relationships first develop in the adolescent years<br />
and their emergence forever changes the nature of young<br />
people’s interpersonal and intrapersonal functioning.<br />
<strong>Relationships</strong> with a romantic partner are fundamentally<br />
different from any other relationship that an adolescent<br />
may have had up to that point because of their potential to<br />
meet sexual needs as well as social and personal ones.<br />
These relationships have also been posited to make important<br />
contributions to the development of intimacy, sexual<br />
identity and autonomy throughout adolescence. Yet it has<br />
only been in recent years that these relationships have<br />
been recognized by developmental psychologists (Collins,<br />
2003) as “dating” was previously viewed as an activity not<br />
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worthy of serious theoretical or empirical concern. This<br />
state of affairs has changed dramatically in the last decade<br />
or so and there is now a substantial body of theory and<br />
research on adolescent romantic relationships and their<br />
developmental significance.<br />
Our interest in the study of romantic relationships grew<br />
out of a research agenda focused on adolescents’ peer<br />
relationships. Studying adolescents’ peer networks and<br />
their interactions with friends showed that there were<br />
important relationships which were not being fully<br />
accounted for. <strong>In</strong> particular, there were significant relationships<br />
with other-sex peers, some of whom were boyfriends<br />
or girlfriends, embedded in their social networks which<br />
were not being modeled (Connolly & Johnson, 1996). These<br />
initial findings inspired a compelling curiosity to better<br />
understand these relationships and created a research<br />
agenda broadly focused on their development. <strong>To</strong>gether<br />
with my graduate students, we have been pursuing three<br />
central research themes over the past decade. These topics<br />
can be summarized in the following way: 1) understanding<br />
how and why adolescents’ romantic relationships begin<br />
and end; 2) examining intimacy and autonomy in romantic<br />
relationships, and finally; 3) exploring the developmental<br />
and contextual predictors of precocious entry into romantic<br />
relationships. We have approached this research from a<br />
developmental-contextual perspective in which we understand<br />
romantic relationships as unfolding within a broader<br />
social context made of up peers, family and ecological<br />
systems. Within this approach we are cognizant that<br />
romantic relationships are themselves a context for the<br />
navigation of salient developmental tasks (Connolly &<br />
Goldberg, 1999). <strong>In</strong> this article, we summarize some of our<br />
findings, focusing on how they advance our understanding<br />
of adolescents’ romantic relationships and also noting areas<br />
for future study.<br />
First, it is important to situate our research geographically<br />
and methodologically. Our research is largely<br />
conducted in the “field” that is, in middle schools and<br />
high schools in the south-central region of Canada. This<br />
is a typically North American context, closer in values<br />
and structures to America than to Europe or other parts<br />
of the world. Canada, and especially <strong>To</strong>ronto, is very<br />
diverse culturally and a wide range of ethno-cultural<br />
groups are represented in our samples. This diversity has<br />
allowed us to explore facets of romantic relationships<br />
across cultural lines, which we believe is critical to understanding<br />
romantic relationships and the contributing role<br />
of context in their development. Turning to our methods,<br />
we typically use self-report surveys completed by<br />
students in school. Conscious of the limitations associated<br />
with these samples of convenience, we have devised<br />
numerous strategies to maximize students’ participation<br />
in our research, and our samples typically include<br />
upwards of 70 percent of the eligible students (McIsaac,<br />
McKenney, & Connolly, 2007). Our research is most often<br />
collected longitudinally over periods ranging from one<br />
year to over eight years. <strong>In</strong> addition, we have used observational<br />
methods to study the internal dynamics of<br />
adolescents’ relationships with their romantic partners,<br />
especially in the study of conflict and negotiation. As with<br />
our school-based research, our observational studies are<br />
also collected “in situ”, through visits to adolescents’<br />
homes. These multiple methods allow us to gain a more<br />
nuanced understanding of youth relationships in diverse<br />
settings.<br />
Beginnings of <strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong><br />
One of our primary concerns has been to understand how<br />
and when romantic relationships begin. This undertaking<br />
is more complex than it might appear at first glance as there<br />
is considerable fluidity in the boundaries that define<br />
adolescents’ romantic relationships. At any one point in<br />
time, roughly half of adolescents report that they are<br />
currently in a romantic relationship. But it would be incorrect<br />
to assume that the other half of adolescents have no<br />
romantic involvements.<br />
Findings from our lab suggest that they are most likely<br />
involved in romantic activities that are part of a continuum<br />
leading from mixed-gender involvements to actual<br />
romantic relationships (Connolly, Craig, Goldberg, &<br />
Pepler, 2004). <strong>In</strong> a study of 1284 adolescents in grades 5<br />
through 8, we tabulated the kinds of romantic involvements<br />
students reported over the course of a school year.<br />
Our results document three types of romantic activities:<br />
mixed-gender affiliations, dating in groups, and dyadic<br />
romantic relationships. We also found that these romantic<br />
activities were sequentially organized in stages that led<br />
adolescents progressively away from associating only with<br />
same-gender friends to having a boyfriend or girlfriend.<br />
Dating in groups appeared to be a key activity along this<br />
progression because it bridged lower and higher levels of<br />
romantic involvement, functioning as the activity that most<br />
often preceded the formation of a romantic couple as well<br />
as the most frequent romantic activity following the termination<br />
of a relationship. We also found that dating in groups<br />
was more commonly reported than dyadic relationships,<br />
consistent with the emergent and fluid nature of romantic<br />
relationships in adolescence.<br />
The importance of group dating was also highlighted<br />
in a study of 180 high school students whom we followed<br />
from grade 9 to 11 (Connolly, Furman, & Konarski, 2000).<br />
We found that their mixed-gender peer groups comprised<br />
the most proximal social context for forming romantic<br />
relationships. This continuity can be attributed to their<br />
shared base in meeting affiliative needs. As such, within the<br />
North American context in which adolescent peer connections<br />
are encouraged, group dating is the point of intersection<br />
for romantic interests and the world of peers.<br />
Endings of <strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong><br />
While developmentally important and phenomenologically<br />
salient, romantic relationships tend to be shortlived,<br />
often lasting less than six months to a year (Connolly<br />
& Johnson, 1996). It is almost inevitable then that most<br />
young people will experience a romantic break-up at some<br />
point during their adolescence (Shulman & Kipnis, 2001).<br />
Despite being a normative aspect of romantic experience,<br />
very little is known about these dissolutions or why they<br />
occur.<br />
<strong>In</strong> our lab we have embarked on some initial investigations<br />
of romantic dissolutions, focusing on mapping<br />
these experiences and their normative functions. <strong>In</strong> two<br />
studies of young people ranging in age from 11 to 25<br />
(total N = 1357) we have obtained information on their<br />
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Table 1. <strong>Romantic</strong> Relationship Dissolution Experiences Across<br />
Adolescence and Emerging Adulthood<br />
Age range<br />
Experience with dissolutions 11–13 14–16 17–19 20–25<br />
Had a break-up<br />
No 54% 30% 23% 6%<br />
Yes 46% 70% 77% 94%<br />
Number of break-ups<br />
1–2 65% 71% 56% 38%<br />
3–5 17% 21% 28% 33%<br />
>5 18% 8% 16% 23%<br />
Break-up in past 12 months<br />
Yes 78% 72% 66% 48%<br />
No 22% 28% 34% 52%<br />
Break-up initiator<br />
Self 40% 41% 42% 45%<br />
Mutual 44% 40% 38% 35%<br />
Partner 16% 19% 20% 20%<br />
Note. For 11–13 n = 533, 14–16 n = 409, 17–19 n = 223, 20–25<br />
n = 192.<br />
relationship turnovers over the course of a year, (Connolly<br />
& McIsaac, 2003; 2004). These results, shown in Table 1,<br />
support the view that relationship terminations are<br />
common throughout adolescence. Moreover, the number of<br />
youths who have had a termination increases steadily with<br />
age, as well as the total number of terminations that they<br />
have had. Also varying with age is the likelihood of having<br />
had a recent breakup, with younger adolescents being more<br />
likely to report a breakup in the last 12 months, compared<br />
to late adolescents and emerging adults. This is most<br />
probably due to the increased capacity for older youths to<br />
sustain more enduring relationships which are less vulnerable<br />
to rapid dissolution. Constant across age, adolescents<br />
told us that their relationships more often ended because of<br />
their own or shared dissatisfaction rather than being<br />
rejected by their partner.<br />
Although the retrospective nature of our data do not<br />
allow us to draw firm conclusions about what actually transpired<br />
at the time of the break-up, our findings nonetheless<br />
suggest that adolescents continue to think about their failed<br />
relationships. Studying their dissolution accounts, even<br />
after the event, may provide a window into the psychosocial<br />
needs which were not met in that relationship. From<br />
a developmental perspective, the unmet needs that lead to<br />
break-ups may be very similar to the social needs which<br />
motivate adolescent involvement in relationships in the<br />
first place. One direction that we are pursuing in our<br />
research is to employ prospective data to explore whether<br />
these needs can be framed in terms of adolescents’<br />
struggles with key psychosocial tasks.<br />
<strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong> and Psychosocial<br />
Tasks<br />
Based on our research, as well as that of others, it is our<br />
view that romantic relationships in adolescence provide an<br />
important opportunity for learning about how to connect<br />
with a significant other while simultaneously maintaining<br />
some degree of autonomy in their thoughts, behaviors and<br />
self-perceptions (Connolly & Goldberg, 1999). Several<br />
theorists (Blatt & Blass, 1996; Shulman & Knafo, 1997) have<br />
conceptualized the balance between connectedness and<br />
individuality as a life span challenge of close relationships<br />
and we have found this view helpful in conceptualizing<br />
adolescent romantic relationships. <strong>In</strong> our view, the ways<br />
in which connectedness and autonomy are expressed<br />
in a romantic relationship emerges progressively, as<br />
adolescents gain experience with romantic partnerships<br />
and also as their relationships deepen emotionally. <strong>In</strong>itially,<br />
romantic relationships are motivated by a need for connectedness<br />
which is cumulatively expressed through passionate<br />
attraction, affiliative bonding, and emotional intimacy<br />
(Connolly & Goldberg, 1999). These interwoven forms of<br />
connecting with a partner are apparent in adolescents’<br />
concepts of the motivational appeal of romantic relationships.<br />
<strong>In</strong> a study of 1755 young adolescents, perceptions of<br />
the unique features of romantic relationships were evaluated<br />
with an open-ended response format. Using content<br />
analysis to code their responses, we found a clustering of<br />
connectedness functions which included affiliation, sexuality<br />
and emotional intimacy. Affiliation was the most<br />
commonly reported connectedness feature, a finding which<br />
supports our work on the importance of companionship<br />
and shared activities in romantic development for<br />
adolescents. A multi-level understanding of connectedness<br />
was evident, despite the young age of the participants and<br />
their relative lack of experience with a romantic partner.<br />
Consistent with this, intimacy functions continued to be<br />
fundamental to romantic relationships throughout adolescence.<br />
At the same time there is increasing capacity to actualize<br />
these forms of intimacy with age. Older adolescents,<br />
by virtue of their expanding experiences with romance, are<br />
able to sustain longer-term relationships within which<br />
intimacy can flourish (Connolly & Johnson, 1996; Seiffge-<br />
Krenke, 2003).<br />
<strong>In</strong> contrast, we know less about the expression of<br />
autonomy with a romantic partner. This may be due to the<br />
traditional empirical focus on the parent-child relationship<br />
as the central context for the resolution of autonomy tasks<br />
and the difficulty of generalizing these findings to the<br />
romantic domain (Collins, Laursen, Mortensen, Leubker, &<br />
Ferreria, 1997). Further complicating matters, autonomy<br />
issues are not always apparent in adolescents’ romantic<br />
relationships because the need to differentiate the self from<br />
the partner only arises when high levels of intimacy<br />
threaten personal boundaries. These issues typically come<br />
to the forefront in the latter stages of romantic development<br />
when age and experience combine to lead to more<br />
committed relationships. Consistent with this developmental<br />
view, our study of the romantic concepts of young<br />
adolescents did not reveal any recognition of the potential<br />
autonomy components of romantic relationships<br />
(Connolly, Craig, Goldberg, & Pepler, 1999). Similarly, in a<br />
study of 230 mid- and late adolescents, we found that<br />
comfort with independent decision-making was associated<br />
with intimacy only in longer-term romantic relationships<br />
(Taradash, Connolly, Pepler, Craig, & Costa, 2001). Girls in<br />
this study, in contrast to the boys, showed more ease with<br />
asserting their own ideas and decisions in their romantic<br />
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relationships, a finding that echoes girls’ more advanced<br />
fluency in dyadic relationships. We have continued to look<br />
at how boys and girls negotiate autonomy in their relationships<br />
with each other in an observational study of conflict<br />
management in romantic couples at age 16 (McIsaac,<br />
Connolly, McKenney, Pepler, & Craig, manuscript under<br />
review). Conflict is an interpersonal situation which<br />
demands self-expression and so is ideally suited to the<br />
study of autonomy processes. <strong>In</strong> analyzing the dynamics<br />
between boyfriends and girlfriends, we found that couples<br />
who managed conflict successfully showed both a capacity<br />
for the respectful self-expressions of their differences and<br />
an acceptance of the independence of their partners. The<br />
reciprocity was largely dependent on the girl’s actions in<br />
the relationship as her facility with conflict negotiation set<br />
the tone for the autonomous expression of both herself and<br />
her partner. <strong>Of</strong> particular interest, we also found that girls<br />
who were restrictive in their management of conflict also<br />
influenced their boyfriends, but in a negative direction. A<br />
future direction of our research program is to better understand<br />
gendered styles of interaction and how they may lead<br />
to differential success in the balancing of autonomy with<br />
intimacy.<br />
Early Timing of <strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong><br />
Our studies of romantic development reveal typical<br />
patterns of romantic activities and romantic relationships<br />
across early, middle and late adolescence. Yet viewed<br />
through a different lens, these findings can reveal patterns<br />
of romantic activity that are atypical. We have been especially<br />
interested in early entry into romantic relationships<br />
because precocity in the heterosexual domain is a risk factor<br />
for depression, school problems, and externalizing behaviors<br />
(Bingham & Crockett, 1996; Neeman, Hubbard, &<br />
Masten, 1995). <strong>In</strong> our longitudinal study of young<br />
adolescents, we found that having a boyfriend or girlfriend<br />
before the age of 13 was linked to specific peer and family<br />
dynamics (Friedlander, Connolly, Pepler, & Craig, in press).<br />
<strong>In</strong> particular we found that atypical romantic patterns were<br />
associated with involvement in peer groups with high<br />
levels of dating and delinquent activities, as well as low<br />
supervision in the family. We have also studied how early<br />
adolescent romantic trajectories may be influenced by problematic<br />
peer behaviors. During the middle-school years,<br />
peer harassment expands to opposite-sex targets<br />
(McMaster, Connolly, Pepler, & Craig, 2002) and this may<br />
create non-optimal conditions for emerging romantic<br />
relationships. Our study of middle-school youth found that<br />
early adolescents who bullied their peers were more likely<br />
than non-bullies to report high levels of conflict and<br />
physical aggression with their partner (Connolly, Pepler,<br />
Craig, & Taradash, 2000).<br />
At first glance these studies of young adolescents may<br />
lead to the conclusion that romantic involvement at this age<br />
is harmful. We caution against this interpretation and<br />
suggest that when studying potential risks, one must be<br />
attentive to the level of involvement and the type of<br />
activity. <strong>In</strong> fact, our staging studies show that casual affiliative<br />
attractions are highly normative for early adolescents<br />
and other researchers have shown that these activities are<br />
linked to positive perceptions of the self (Darling, Dowdy,<br />
Van Horn, & Caldwell, 1999).<br />
Conclusions<br />
Our research on the stages, tasks and timing of romantic<br />
relationships paints a holistic picture of these interactions,<br />
highlighting their developmental underpinnings as well as<br />
their responsiveness to contextual variation. Disconfirming<br />
earlier views that romantic relationships are unknowable<br />
and unimportant, our research suggests that they unfold<br />
systematically and serve multiple psychosocial functions.<br />
This view reinforces the notion that romantic relationships<br />
are a critical social context for preparing youth for successful<br />
relationships in later life.<br />
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<strong>Romantic</strong> Relational Aggression and<br />
Psychosocial Adjustment among<br />
Adolescents<br />
Sunil Saini<br />
Department of Applied Psychology, Guru<br />
Jambheshwar University of Science and Technology,<br />
Hisar, Haryana, <strong>In</strong>dia<br />
E-mail: ssaini.psy@gmail.com<br />
The early adolescent years are a critical transitional period<br />
because it is during this time that boys and girls progress<br />
from same-sex to other-sex relationships, including<br />
involvement with romantic partners (Connolly &<br />
Goldberg, 1999). <strong>Romantic</strong> relationships are an integral<br />
feature of adolescent development. These relationships<br />
typically begin around 14 to 15 years of age, initially as an<br />
extension of involvement in mixed gender peer groups<br />
(Feiring, 1996). The romantic relationship is associated with<br />
both positive mental health such as the provision of social<br />
support, the enhancement of self-esteem, preparation for<br />
adult relationships, and the development of intimacy<br />
(Connolly & Goldberg, 1999) and negative mental health<br />
such as feelings of depression, especially among adolescent<br />
girls (Davila, Steinberg, Kachadourian, Cobb, & Fincham,<br />
2004). Not much literature is available on how romantic<br />
relational aggression and victimization affects psychosocial<br />
functioning in adolescence. Linder, Crick, and Collins<br />
(2002) found that college students who reported using<br />
relational aggression within their romantic relationships<br />
were less trusting of their current or most recent partner,<br />
and more frustrated, jealous, and clingy in their romantic<br />
relationships. Bagner, Storch, and Preston (2007) also found<br />
similar results indicating that romantic relational<br />
aggression was related to poor psychosocial functioning.<br />
Aggression in <strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong><br />
Aggression in romantic relationship can be broadly defined<br />
across a range of behaviours, including physical assault,<br />
kidnapping, acid throwing, rape and even murder.<br />
However, it is also important to consider the less physical,<br />
but still hurtful, relational aggression in romantic relationships.<br />
Examples include flirting with others to make a<br />
romantic partner jealous, threatening to break up with a<br />
partner if the partner will not comply, or giving a partner<br />
the silent treatment when angry. Media has highlighted<br />
many such cases in the capital of <strong>In</strong>dia and other metro<br />
cities. Although research has been conducted on romantic<br />
relational aggression in Western cultures, little research has<br />
examined romantic relational problems in <strong>In</strong>dia. Therefore,<br />
the present research is focused on romantic relational<br />
aggression and psychosocial functioning among <strong>In</strong>dian<br />
youths.<br />
Relational aggression in romantic relationships is of<br />
great concern due to its negative individual and societal<br />
impact. It has been found that adolescents who date,<br />
particularly those who experience stress in their romantic<br />
relationships, report higher levels of depressive symptoms<br />
than their non-dating peers (Davila et al., 2004). Specifically<br />
with regard to romantic relational aggression, evidence<br />
suggests that men and women experience romantic<br />
relational aggression at similar rates and that romantic<br />
relational aggression predicts a negative perception of<br />
relationship quality and depression (Bagner et al, 2007;<br />
Linder et al., 2002; Morales & Cullerton-Sen, 2000). <strong>In</strong> view<br />
of such findings, it is especially critical to identify relational<br />
aggression in romantic relationships and associated<br />
personal and social risks.<br />
There is a strong relation between romantic relational<br />
aggression and relational victimization. Some of the roots<br />
of these issues may manifest in earlier peer relationships.<br />
Relational aggression toward peers and being the target of<br />
relational aggression in the peer group are associated with<br />
loneliness, depression, and peer rejection (Crick & Grotpeter,<br />
1995). Friendships of relationally aggressive children<br />
have higher levels of exclusivity and jealousy than the<br />
friendships of non-relationally aggressive children (Crick &<br />
Grotpeter, 1995). Further, relationally victimized children<br />
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report lower levels of friendship quality and satisfaction<br />
than non-relationally victimized children (Grotpeter,<br />
Geiger, Nukulkij, & Crick, 2001). Such early links of<br />
relational aggression to relationship quality highlight the<br />
need for the study of relational aggression in romantic<br />
relationships, particularly as it may be linked to the<br />
psychosocial adjustment areas of social anxiety, loneliness,<br />
depression, and alcohol use.<br />
<strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong> and Psychosocial<br />
Adjustment<br />
Social anxiety means the fear of being negatively evaluated<br />
by others. These evaluative concerns lead to unwanted<br />
anxious feelings, thoughts, and sensations in (real or anticipated)<br />
situations. <strong>To</strong> limit contact with these unwanted<br />
experiences, socially anxious people exert a great deal of<br />
effort to avoid and control anxiety and the situations that<br />
might induce it (Hayes, Wilson, Gifford, Follette, &<br />
Strosahl, 1996). Socially anxious people are more socially<br />
isolated, less likely to be married or in romantic relationships,<br />
and have unsatisfactory social relationships<br />
(Wittchen, Fuetsch, Sonntag, Muller, & Liebowitz, 2000).<br />
There is minimal work on romantic relational aggression<br />
and social anxiety. <strong>In</strong> a recent study, Bagner et al. (2007)<br />
found that romantic relational aggression was positively<br />
related with social anxiety in females.<br />
Loneliness is a state of emotional distress arising from a<br />
discrepancy between one’s desired and achieved level of<br />
social interaction (Peplau & Perlman, 1982). It is distressing<br />
particularly in romantic relationships. Previous research has<br />
asked participants whether or not they are lonely, calculated<br />
percentages, and computed correlations with personality or<br />
other demographic variables. Loneliness as a maladjustment<br />
within romantic relationships has been mostly overlooked<br />
in romantic relationship research literature. The<br />
present study examined loneliness as the consequence of<br />
aggression in romantic relationship in <strong>In</strong>dian youths.<br />
Studying sources of depression in romantic relationships<br />
is of much interest because depression is the most<br />
prevalent problem during adolescence (particularly for<br />
girls) and is associated with romantic dysfunction at later<br />
ages (Whisman, 2001). Symptoms of depression and social<br />
anxiety are common characteristics of adolescence<br />
(Birmaher et al., 1996; La Greca & Lopez, 1998) and may be<br />
risk factors for impairment in adulthood (Aalto-Setaelae,<br />
Marttunen, Tuulio-Henriksson, Poikolainen, & Loennqvist,<br />
2002). Symptoms of depression and social anxiety may also<br />
be precursors to more severe psychopathology, including<br />
major depressive disorder and social anxiety disorder,<br />
which are chronic disorders that often originate in adolescence<br />
and continue into adulthood (Birmaher et al., 1996).<br />
It is likely that relational aggression is related to levels of<br />
depression experiences within relationships.<br />
Studying the impact of romantic relationship aggression<br />
on psychosocial adjustment is very important because<br />
youths may be more vulnerable to negative outcomes due<br />
to their inexperience and lack of close supervision. Studies<br />
have shown that more than 25 % of adolescents are victims<br />
of dating aggression (Wolfe & Feiring, 2000) resulting in<br />
romantic break-ups which in turn, lead to drinking, suicidal<br />
ideation, attempts and completion (Brendt et al., 1993;<br />
Joyner & Udry, 2000; Monroe, Rhode, Seeley, & Lewinsohn,<br />
1999). Peer pressure further facilitates the perpetration of<br />
aggressive acts in romantic relationships. Thus, by understanding<br />
the relationship between aggression in romantic<br />
relationships and adjustment difficulties, more effective<br />
interventions for these individuals can be implemented.<br />
The Present Research<br />
The following three hypotheses guided this study: (i) there<br />
would be a significant gender difference in aggression in<br />
romantic relationship and experience of romantic relational<br />
victimization among youths (ii) romantic relational<br />
aggression would be significantly associated with romantic<br />
relational victimization (iii) romantic relational aggression<br />
and victimization would be positively correlated with<br />
social anxiety, loneliness, depression and alcohol use.<br />
Adolescents from the age group of 16–22 years from<br />
Guru Jambheswar University of Science and Technology,<br />
Hisar were surveyed. <strong>Romantic</strong> relational aggression was<br />
assessed by using scale developed by Morales, Ruh, and<br />
Werner (2002). Social anxiety was measure by using La<br />
Greca and Lopez (1998). Loneliness was measured by using<br />
Jha’s (1997) loneliness scale. Similarly, depression was<br />
measure by The Beck Depression <strong>In</strong>ventory Second Edition<br />
developed by Beck, Steer, and Brow (1996). Alcohol<br />
problems were assessed by seven items related with<br />
alcohol-related behaviors and consequences associated<br />
with alcohol use and dependence. Results are summarized<br />
in Table 1 and Table 2.<br />
Table 1. Means and Standard Deviations of <strong>Romantic</strong> relational aggression, <strong>Romantic</strong> relational victimization and Social Anxiety, Loneliness,<br />
and Depression<br />
<strong>To</strong>tal sample<br />
Gender<br />
(N = 183) Male (N = 73) Female (110)<br />
Dependent variable Mean (SD) Mean (SD) Mean (SD) t<br />
<strong>Romantic</strong> Relational Aggression 10.50 (7.1) 12.8 (7.13) 8.90 (6.6) 3.69**<br />
<strong>Romantic</strong> Relational Victimization 9.24 (7.2) 11.8 (6.68) 7.50 (7.0) 4.11**<br />
Social Anxiety 75.37 (14.6) 76.95 (10.08) 74.32 (16.8) 1.19**<br />
Loneliness 95.48 (14.7) 91.39 (14.7)0 98.19 (14.1) 3.13**<br />
Depression 12.70 (10.9) 15.67 (12.0)0 10.73 (9.0) 3.16**<br />
*p < .05; **p < .01.<br />
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Table 2. Pearson product-moment correlations among <strong>Romantic</strong> Relational Aggression and Social Anxiety,<br />
Loneliness, and Depression (N = 183)<br />
1 2 3 4 5<br />
1. <strong>Romantic</strong> Relational Aggression 1.00**<br />
2. <strong>Romantic</strong> Relational victimization .79** 1.00**<br />
3. Social Anxiety .21** .25** 1.00*<br />
4. Loneliness .25** .16** .16* 1.00**<br />
5. Depression .39** .31** .08* .24** 1.00<br />
*p < .05; **p < .01 (2-tailed).<br />
Findings reveal a significant gender difference in<br />
romantic relational aggression. This is inconsistent with<br />
past research (Bagner et al., 2007; Linder et al., 2002) that<br />
has not found gender differences in romantic relational<br />
aggression. The gender differences indicate that males<br />
report both more relational aggression and victimization.<br />
There are different possible explanations for this. First,<br />
males may have higher self-esteem, and larger egos than<br />
females, and are perhaps therefore more sensitive to provocation<br />
and loss of respect by others (Fischer, Rodreiguez, &<br />
Mosquera, 2001). Further, males get more angry when their<br />
partner does not pay attention to them. This might be due<br />
to cultural differences and developmental issues. For<br />
example, girls in the <strong>In</strong>dian socio-cultural context, are<br />
“supposed to” be quiet, calm and show more refined<br />
behavior in comparison to males (Saini & Trama, in press).<br />
Therefore, it is possible that socialization practices and<br />
modelling may inhibit the emergence of relational<br />
aggression among girls when compared to the western<br />
cultures studied in previous findings.<br />
My second hypothesis was to examine the association<br />
between romantic relational aggression and romantic<br />
relational victimization. There is a high relation between<br />
romantic relational aggression and victimization, suggesting<br />
that relationships characterized by these behaviours<br />
have some reciprocal aggression. However, it is also<br />
important to note that use of self-report may not accurately<br />
reflect levels of victimization. Males simply may be more<br />
likely than females to report being victims of aggression,<br />
including romantic relational aggression. Therefore, it is<br />
suggested to use other methods such as having both<br />
partners in the relationship report to confirm this result.<br />
The final aim of the study was to examine correlations<br />
between romantic relational aggression, victimization, and<br />
psychosocial functioning. The findings show that romantic<br />
relational aggression was significantly and positively<br />
related to social anxiety, loneliness and depressive<br />
symptoms. <strong>In</strong>dividuals who reported using romantic<br />
relational aggression reported being more socially anxious,<br />
lonely and depressive. Results are consistent with previous<br />
findings on romantic relational aggression and depressive<br />
symptoms (Davila et al., 2004; Kashdan, Jeffrey, Volkmann,<br />
Breen, & Han, 2007). La Greca and Harrison (2005) also<br />
found that negative interactions with a best friend (e.g.<br />
conflict, exclusion) predicted adolescents’ depressive<br />
symptoms, even after controlling for other aspects of social<br />
functioning (rejection, victimization).<br />
<strong>In</strong>dividuals who reported being victimized in romantic<br />
relationship were similarly more socially anxious, lonely,<br />
and depressed. Results are consistent with previous<br />
findings (Graham, & Juvonen, 1998; Linder et al., 2002).<br />
Graham and Juvonen (1998) found that peer victimization<br />
in adolescents was associated with internal distress, including<br />
feelings of loneliness, social anxiety, and low self-worth.<br />
Both overt and relational victimization have been related to<br />
adolescents’ reports of depression, loneliness, and low selfesteem<br />
(Prinstein, Boergers, & Vernberg, 2001). Prospero<br />
(2007) in a study of mental health symptoms of partner<br />
violence also found significant relationships between<br />
partner violence victimization and anxiety, depression,<br />
hostility and somatization.<br />
Conclusion<br />
<strong>In</strong> sum, the associations between romantic relational<br />
aggression, victimization and psychosocial functioning are<br />
consistent with previous findings, i.e. higher levels of<br />
romantic relational aggression and victimization are<br />
associated with maladjustment and poor psychosocial<br />
functioning. These relationships are independent of gender<br />
and play an important role in development of social<br />
anxiety, loneliness and depressive symptoms. No association<br />
was found between romantic relational aggression<br />
and alcohol use. Only ten boys and two girls reported<br />
alcohol use. It might be due to the participants’ socioeconomic<br />
background.<br />
Limitations of the study should also be noted. First,<br />
the participants were university students in <strong>In</strong>dia,<br />
limiting generalizability and therefore conclusions cannot<br />
be made about romantic relational aggression in other<br />
populations. Second, there was a big gender difference in<br />
the sample. Third, the present findings yielded evidence<br />
of concurrent associations between romantic relational<br />
aggression and victimization and depressive symptoms,<br />
but they are unable to allow us to infer which, if either,<br />
preceded the other. Fourth, students did not report any<br />
alcohol use. It might be that they have underreported<br />
these behaviors.<br />
Despite these limitations, the results of the present<br />
findings have several practical and clinical implications.<br />
Most importantly, the present findings have important<br />
implications in school/college/university setting where<br />
such relationships are very common and health care<br />
providers can be aware of risk factors involved with<br />
romantic relational aggression and victimization so that<br />
students at risk could be identified and necessary services<br />
could be provided. Additionally these findings demonstrate<br />
that knowing about an individual’s use of relational<br />
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aggression against one’s romantic partner is also an indicator<br />
of victimization in the relationship and his/her<br />
psychosocial functioning.<br />
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Same-Sex <strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong> in<br />
Adolescence and Adulthood<br />
Lisa M. Diamond<br />
Department of Psychology, University of Utah<br />
Salt Lake City, Utah, USA<br />
E-mail: diamond@psych.utah.edu<br />
The 1983 publication of Blumstein and Schwartz’s American<br />
Couples marked a turning point in research on same-sex<br />
relationships. During the 10 years prior to the publication<br />
of this volume, which reported the most detailed and<br />
thoroughgoing comparisons to date between heterosexual<br />
and same-sex couples, fewer than 50 books, chapters, or<br />
articles in the psychological literature had focused specifically<br />
on same-sex couples. <strong>In</strong> the 10 years after the book’s<br />
publication, the number of publications increased 5-fold,<br />
and nearly doubled again during the next 10 years. These<br />
are welcome changes: Rigorous investigations of same-sex<br />
romantic relationships from adolescence to adulthood<br />
make a number of important contributions to relationship<br />
research more generally.<br />
First, such investigations diversify our fundamental<br />
knowledge base about romantic relationships. Historically,<br />
most academic scholarship on romantic relationships has<br />
focused exclusively on heterosexual couples. Hence,<br />
comparing the relationship processes and experiences of<br />
same-sex and heterosexual couples allows researchers to<br />
explore a broader range of process-oriented theories about<br />
romantic relationship functioning and the factors that<br />
promote relationship stability and satisfaction across<br />
different contexts and within different populations. Second,<br />
examining same-sex relationships allows for more complex<br />
investigations of the role of gender in relationship functioning.<br />
Most romantic relationship research takes for granted<br />
that every romantic couple includes one male and one<br />
female. Yet by directly comparing male-female couples to<br />
female-female and male-male couples, researchers can<br />
begin to disentangle how different combinations of genderlinked<br />
attitudes, skills, and expectations influence relationship<br />
functioning. Finally, investigating same-sex romantic<br />
relationships reveals critically important information about<br />
sexual-minority (i.e., non-heterosexual) individuals and the<br />
ways in which their social and developmental experiences<br />
are unique.<br />
The Social Context of Same-Sex <strong>Romantic</strong><br />
<strong>Relationships</strong><br />
Typically, same-sex romantic relationships are described as<br />
lesbian/gay/bisexual relationships, but this is not entirely<br />
accurate. Not all individuals involved in same-sex relationships<br />
consider themselves lesbian, gay, or bisexual, and<br />
furthermore, openly-identified lesbian/gay/bisexual individuals<br />
often have histories of both same-sex and other-sex<br />
relationships. Hence it is important not to presume that<br />
identity labels and relationship experiences (past, present,<br />
or future) correspond. This is particularly true across<br />
different cultural environments. Presently in the United<br />
States, there are large and visible lesbian-gay-bisexual<br />
communities in many large urban centers, where individuals<br />
pursuing same-sex relationships can receive social<br />
support and validation. Yet this is not uniformly true crossculturally.<br />
Hence, researchers interested in pursuing international<br />
investigations of same-sex romantic relationships<br />
must take particular care not to presume that participants<br />
in such relationships will openly claim lesbian-gaybisexual<br />
identities.<br />
My own longitudinal research on sexual identity, for<br />
example, has found surprisingly high variability in sexual<br />
identification and patterns of sexual relationships in young<br />
women over time. <strong>In</strong> 1995 I began interviewing 89 lesbian,<br />
bisexual, “questioning,” and “unlabeled” women about<br />
their attractions, identities, and behaviors, and have reinterviewed<br />
these women every two years since then, with<br />
a retention rate of approximately 90 % (Diamond, 1998;<br />
2000b; 2003; 2005; 2008; in press). Since the beginning of the<br />
study, two thirds of the participants have changed their<br />
identity labels, and the majority have histories of romantic<br />
or sexual relationships that flatly contradict their current<br />
identity labels (i.e., lesbian-identified women getting<br />
involved with men, heterosexually-identified women<br />
getting involved with women). Hence, an important challenge<br />
for research in this area is to adopt broad strategies<br />
of sample recuitment and data collection that capture the<br />
full range of individuals’ same-sex and other-sex experiences—and<br />
their psychosocial implications—regardless of<br />
how individuals personally conceptualize and label their<br />
sexuality.<br />
<strong>In</strong> growing acknowledgment of these complexities,<br />
researchers increasingly use the term sexual minorities to<br />
refer to all men and women with same-sex attractions and/<br />
or relationships, either currently or in the past. This term<br />
acknowledges the fact that regardless of one’s identity<br />
label, same-sex attractions and relationships—in both the<br />
U.S. and around the globe—place individuals firmly outside<br />
conventional societal norms.<br />
This emphasis on minority status is relevant and<br />
important because although tolerance and acceptance of<br />
same-sex sexuality have been gradually increasing (Loftus,<br />
2001), considerable prejudice and sometimes outright<br />
condemnation of same-sex sexuality continues to exist. This<br />
creates a range of unique social and psychological challenges<br />
for same-sex couples, such as the threat of physical<br />
violence (i.e., Brenner, 1995), disapproval or denial of one’s<br />
relationship from either partner’s family-of-origin (Caron<br />
& Ulin, 1997; LaSala, 2000; Oswald, 2002; Patterson, 2000),<br />
and also low-level stressors such as difficulty making hotel<br />
room reservations (Jones, 1996), receiving poor service and<br />
rude treatment during routine shopping (Walters &<br />
Curran, 1996), or uncertainty about bringing one’s partner<br />
to family functions (Caron & Ulin, 1997; Oswald, 2002).<br />
<strong>Of</strong> course, such factors are likely to vary dramatically<br />
as a function of different cultures’ attitudes toward samesex<br />
sexuality. Given that the bulk of research on same-sex<br />
couples is conducted in the United States, it is important to<br />
keep in mind that, among Western nations, Americans are<br />
particularly conservative in this regard. Widmer, Treas, and<br />
Newcomb’s (1998) analysis of 24 industrialized countries<br />
participating in the <strong>In</strong>ternational Social Survey Program<br />
found that 70% of Americans believe that homosexual sex<br />
is “always wrong,” compared with 39% of Canadians, 58%<br />
of British, 45% of Spaniards, and 42% of West Germans. The<br />
most conservative attitudes were found in Northern<br />
Ireland (80% reporting “always wrong”), Hungary (83%)<br />
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and the Philippines (84%), whereas the most accepting attitudes<br />
were found in the Netherlands (19%). Such variation<br />
must be taken into account when drawing inferences about<br />
the relevance of social stigma for same-sex couples across<br />
diverse cultural contexts. It also bears noting that no<br />
research has systematically tested whether same-sex<br />
couples living in more tolerant communities, cultures, or<br />
nations have substantially different relationship dynamics<br />
or outcomes than those living in more stigmatizing<br />
environments. This is an important area for future research.<br />
The Role of Gender<br />
Gender differences in interpersonal attitudes, cognitions,<br />
and behaviors, and their implications for couple functioning,<br />
have long been topics of vigorous research and debate,<br />
and studies of same-sex couples have provided unique<br />
opportunities to examine how broadly gender-related<br />
effects operate. One of the most common research questions<br />
is whether sexual-minority individuals are “genderinverted”<br />
in their interpersonal functioning, such that gay<br />
men resemble heterosexual women and lesbians resemble<br />
heterosexual men. Research findings suggest that when it<br />
comes to relationship behavior, this is not the case; rather,<br />
studies commonly find that combining two men or two<br />
women in a couple relationship actually tends to magnify<br />
gender-specific patterns.<br />
For example, consistent with the notion that women are<br />
socialized to develop greater interest in interpersonal<br />
intimacy and to be more “relationally-focused,” studies<br />
have detected a tendency for lesbian couples to report<br />
greater intimacy with their partners, assessed by selfreported<br />
factors such as shared time together and the<br />
degree to which partners maintained a “couple” identity<br />
(Diamond, 1998), as well as heightened levels of cohesion,<br />
adaptability, and satisfaction (Zacks, Green, & Marrow,<br />
1988). Yet interestingly lesbian couples have not been found<br />
to show greater relationship stability than either gay male<br />
or heterosexual couples. Rather, studies (such as Kurdek,<br />
1998) suggest that having barriers to dissolving a relationship<br />
is more important for keeping it together than having a<br />
“double-dose” of female-typed relationship skills and<br />
maintenance strategies.<br />
Another topic of interest with regard to gender magnification<br />
in same-sex couples concerns power and equality<br />
in domains ranging from decision-making to influence<br />
strategies, household labor, and problem solving. Although<br />
stereotypes have historically presumed that same-sex<br />
couples implicitly designate one partner to take the classically<br />
“female” role and one partner to take the “male” role<br />
in these domains, research does not bear out this view.<br />
Rather, gay and lesbian couples place a high value on<br />
equity in their relationships, and lesbians in particular<br />
report particular success in achieving equitable arrangements<br />
(Peplau & Cochran, 1980, September). Strategies for<br />
achieving equity follow a number of different patterns.<br />
With respect to household responsibilities, research indicates<br />
that same-sex couples develop largely idiosyncratic<br />
arrangements, allowing their respective interests and<br />
desires to shape daily practice (Huston & Schwartz, 2002).<br />
Accordingly, it is not uncommon for same-sex partners to<br />
mix and match female-typed and male-typed tasks and<br />
roles (i.e., Amy handles auto maintenance and most of the<br />
cooking, while Deb takes care of social arrangements and<br />
financial planning). This is not to suggest, of course, that<br />
same-sex couples are uniformly successful in avoiding<br />
power differentials. For example, research has found that<br />
among both gay male and lesbian couples, income discrepancies<br />
tend to be associated with power differentials<br />
(Caldwell & Peplau, 1984; Harry, 1984; Harry & DeVall,<br />
1978; Reilly & Lynch, 1990), more so for for gay men than<br />
for women (Blumstein & Schwartz, 1983).<br />
Some of the most interesting directions for future<br />
research concern gender-related patterns of conflict resolution.<br />
Given the increasing evidence that (1) gender-related<br />
conflict dynamics have clear-cut implications for both<br />
mental and physical health, and that (2) these health effects<br />
are themselves differentiated by gender, one intriguing<br />
new direction for future research involves moving beyond<br />
the global self-report measures that have characterized<br />
previous research on this topic and collecting coordinated<br />
physiological and observational data on conflict resolution<br />
in same-sex couples. This is a direction my own laboratory<br />
is currently pursuing. Specifically, following a methodology<br />
that has long been used with married heterosexual<br />
couples, we are bringing same-sex couples into our<br />
psychophysiological laboratory and videotaping them as<br />
they discuss a common topic of disagreement. Meanwhile,<br />
we are measuring each partner’s cardiovascular and<br />
endocrinological reactivity to the conflict discussion.<br />
Previous research has suggested that the classic “female<br />
demand, male withdrawal” pattern is particularly aversive<br />
to both men and women (but especially women) and is<br />
associated with detrimental patterns of high and sustained<br />
physiological reactivity. But will same-sex couples show<br />
the same pattern? Is a “double dose” of withdrawal as bad<br />
for female-female couples as for male-female couples, or is<br />
withdrawal less aversive for women when it comes from<br />
another woman? By directly comparing male-male, femalefemale,<br />
and male-female couples’ conflict patterns and<br />
their physiological reactivity, we hope to introduce a new<br />
level of specificity into the traditional investigations of<br />
gender-related dynamics in same-sex couples, and to<br />
explore their important implications for physical health.<br />
Special Issues for Adolescents<br />
It took some time for researchers studying sexual-minority<br />
youths to devote significant attention to their romantic<br />
relationships. Up until 10–15 years ago the vast majority of<br />
extant research on sexual-minority youths focused on their<br />
sexual practices, identity development, stigmatization/<br />
victimization, and suicidality. Although these are important<br />
issues deserving of attention, researchers generally<br />
overlooked the more mundane features of adolescent life,<br />
such as routine relationship formation, maintenance, and<br />
dissolution.<br />
This neglect hampered our understanding of the<br />
normative socio-emotional developmental trajectories of<br />
sexual-minority youths. <strong>Of</strong> the multiple transitions that<br />
take place during the adolescent and young adult years,<br />
those involving interpersonal relationships are among the<br />
most salient and important. Adolescents undergo notable<br />
increases in their desires and capacities for emotional<br />
intimacy with peers, and these changes can profoundly<br />
reshape their close relationships and the sense of self they<br />
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derive from these relationships. These transformations<br />
might be particularly meaningful for sexual-minority<br />
youths, given that same-sex sexuality is a fundamentally<br />
interpersonal as well as intrapsychic phenomenon.<br />
Because of their stigmatized minority status, sexualminority<br />
youths sometimes have to settle for partners and<br />
relationships they consider less than ideal. Others adapt to<br />
these hurdles by seeking out a diverse variety of sexual and<br />
affectionate same-sex bonds, many of which violate<br />
traditional conventional definitions of friendship and<br />
romance (Diamond, 2000a). It has been difficult to systematically<br />
chart and interpret such diverse relationship<br />
patterns because research on adolescent relationships has<br />
traditionally relied on vague, theoretically impoverished<br />
distinctions between different types of intimate relationships<br />
(Diamond, Savin-Williams, & Dubé, 1999). Rough<br />
lines are drawn between platonic and romantic relationships,<br />
and between casual and serious romances, but rarely<br />
do researchers probe the full range of affectional and sexual<br />
ties that adolescents from diverse backgrounds might<br />
consider.<br />
For example, one pattern of same-sex romantic<br />
intimacy that has been observed primarily among young<br />
women is passionate friendships (Diamond, 2000a). These<br />
bonds typically contain the affective and behavioral<br />
features of romantic relationships—such as emotional<br />
passion, possessiveness, exclusivity, and frequent physical<br />
affection—without explicit sexual desire or activity<br />
(although in some cases, the bonds may eventually become<br />
physically intimate). Thus, passionate friendships may<br />
provide sexual-minority youths with all of the benefits of a<br />
same-sex romantic relationship (most notably, social<br />
support and emotional intimacy) while avoiding many of<br />
the risks and complications. Notably, a similar degree of<br />
fluidity and ambiguity between friendships and romantic<br />
relationships is also observed among adult sexual-minority<br />
women (Nardi & Sherrod, 1994; Rose, Zand, & Cimi, 1993;<br />
Weinstock, 1997).<br />
Thus, many sexual-minority youths’ most extensive<br />
experience with same-sex intimacy will occur in relationships<br />
that look nothing like typical dating or romantic<br />
relationships. These diverse relationship types might be<br />
conceptualized as different solutions to the problems all<br />
youths—but especially sexual minority youths—face in<br />
balancing their needs and desires for sexual and affectional<br />
intimacy with the risks posed by different types of intimate<br />
relationships, as well as the constraints they face in finding<br />
the partners and relationships they want.<br />
It is important to note, however, that these constraints<br />
take a discernible toll on sexual-minority youths’ psychological<br />
well-being. <strong>In</strong> one recent study comparing the<br />
relationship experiences and expectations of heterosexual<br />
and sexual-minority youths, my research team used quantitative<br />
surveys and qualitative interviews to investigate<br />
the mental health implications of sexual-minority and<br />
heterosexual youths’ experiences and expectations regarding<br />
friendships and romantic relationships (Diamond &<br />
Lucas, 2004). Consistent with prior research, we found that<br />
sexual-minority youths had higher levels of anxiety, loneliness,<br />
depression, and physical symptomology than their<br />
heterosexual counterparts. Yet importantly, these effects<br />
did not appear to be attributable to sexual-minority youths’<br />
overall perceptions of stress and stigmatization, as is<br />
commonly assumed. Rather, they were mediated by differences<br />
between heterosexual and sexual-minority youths’<br />
romantic relationship expectations. Specifically, sexualminority<br />
youths reported significantly greater fears that<br />
they would never be able to find “the kind of romantic<br />
relationship I want” in the future, even though they had<br />
social networks of comparable size and rates of romantic<br />
involvement that were similar to their heterosexual counterparts<br />
(this particular sample of sexual-minority youths<br />
were fairly “out” and active in the local lesbian-gaybisexual<br />
community, which increased their opportunities<br />
for same-sex romance). Mediational analyses demonstrated<br />
that these relationship fears were responsible for these<br />
youths’ disproportionately low well-being. Such findings<br />
provide a stark demonstration of the importance of<br />
intimate relationship experiences for adolescent mental<br />
health.<br />
Considerations for Future Research<br />
<strong>In</strong> considering the history and future of psychological<br />
research on sexual-minority relationships, the underlying<br />
cultural assumptions and unavoidable political dimensions<br />
that shape the asking and answering of questions about<br />
same-sex relationships warrant continual scrutiny. <strong>In</strong> an<br />
influential critique of early research on lesbian and gay<br />
individuals, Kitzinger (1987) pointed out that the longstanding<br />
emphasis on documenting the lack of significant<br />
mental health differences between gay/lesbian and heterosexual<br />
individuals might have appeared to represent the<br />
triumph of scientific objectivity over social prejudice, but in<br />
fact functioned to reinforce the social disenfranchisement of<br />
sexual-minority individuals by implicitly predicating their<br />
social acceptability on patterns of thought, feeling, and<br />
behavior that were judged “normal” and “healthy” by<br />
mainstream society. Her analysis demonstrates the importance<br />
of continually monitoring our own explicit and<br />
implicit theories of sexuality and relationships in order to<br />
appropriately represent how these phenomena develop,<br />
unfold, and interact within the life courses of diverse<br />
sexual-minority individuals.<br />
These aims, of course, introduce notable challenges for<br />
researchers. As noted above, perhaps chief among these is<br />
the issue of sampling appropriately diverse populations of<br />
sexual minorities. <strong>In</strong> my own work, I have continually<br />
struggled to reach out to “hidden pockets” within the<br />
sexual-minority population, striving to include as broad a<br />
range of men and women as possible. Given the stigmatization<br />
faced by sexual minorities, this continues to be an<br />
uphill battle. One hopeful advance is the rise of the internet,<br />
which provides a means for reaching individuals who<br />
remain highly secretive about their same-sex sexuality, and<br />
who might never attend a Pride parade, read an advertisement<br />
in a lesbian-gay-bisexual publication, or see a flyer<br />
posted at a lesbian-gay-bisexual community center.<br />
Researchers have yet to comprehensively assess how<br />
internet samples resemble and differ from samples<br />
collected in conventional ways, and clearly such analyses<br />
are critically important if we are to make appropriate<br />
generalizations from the findings of future research.<br />
Another important obstacle, particularly for developmentally-oriented<br />
research on same-sex relationships<br />
among adolescents, is the prevailing conservativism of<br />
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contemporary American culture regarding adolescent<br />
sexuality. Even in just the past 10 years, researchers have<br />
noted a rising tide of opposition to studies seeking to ask<br />
adolescents direct questions about their sexual and<br />
romantic feelings and experiences, despite the fact that the<br />
lack of a thoroughgoing understanding of youths’ experiences<br />
will clearly hamper our efforts to provide them with<br />
appropriate psychological and informational resources to<br />
make healthy decisions about their relationships. This<br />
increasing conservativism is particularly pernicious when<br />
it comes to same-sex sexuality. Researchers such as myself<br />
have had to become active advocates for the intellectual<br />
and social value of our research, arming ourselves with the<br />
wealth of evidence showing that adolescents are, in fact,<br />
well-served by the collection and dissemination of more and<br />
better data about the diversity of their intimate experiences<br />
and their developmental implications.<br />
Despite these challenges, I remain optimistic. The scope<br />
of research on same-sex relationships over the lifespan has<br />
broadened and diversified to a degree that I could scarcely<br />
have imagined when I first began studying this topic, and<br />
no doubt these changes will continue to produce a deeper<br />
understanding of intimate relationships in the context of<br />
same-sex sexuality and a deeper understanding of same-sex<br />
sexuality in the context of intimate relationships.<br />
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Coping Strategies of Marital<br />
<strong>Relationships</strong> in Bamenda Cameroon<br />
Gladys Ngoran<br />
Human Development Resource Centre<br />
Bamenda Cameroon<br />
E-mail: gladngov@yahoo.com or<br />
ngopmbiy@yahoo.com<br />
Meaning of Marriage in Africa<br />
Sub-Saharan Africans hold marriage in high esteem as a<br />
fundamental union that gives rise to a family which is the<br />
basic unit of society and the springboard of life. With this<br />
in mind, families endeavour to inculcate the expectation of<br />
marriage in their children at an early age. As the children<br />
grow up, they know that they will marry in future.<br />
Anything a child does is appreciated in relation to<br />
marriage.<br />
<strong>In</strong> grassland Cameroon, as in most parts of sub-Saharan<br />
Africa, it is common to hear parents say; “That was well<br />
done son/daughter. Your wife/husband will always be<br />
happy if you can keep it up.” “Are you sure your husband<br />
will eat this type of poorly prepared food? Always take<br />
time to cook well.” “No woman will like a coward for a<br />
husband. Be a man.”<br />
Preparing children for marriage is one of a constellation<br />
of cultural values which are jealously guarded. These<br />
values as Nsamenang (1992) explains are established in the<br />
personal preferences and inner regulations of individuals.<br />
These values are passes down through the generations thus<br />
using the family as a medium of continuity of the lineage<br />
and preservation of values. When children come of age or<br />
become mature, parents expect them to be settled in<br />
marriage.<br />
Marriage is seen as a legitimate way to procreate and<br />
have socially integrated children (Nsamenang, 2000). These<br />
children are considered as insurance for parents in their old<br />
age. The children will cater for the elders and give them the<br />
necessary comfort in their later lives.<br />
Marriages are also a contract between the families of<br />
the two spouses thus creating a relationship that Filani<br />
(1984) describes as extensive, with social network ramifications.<br />
Choosing a marriage partner takes on varied<br />
forms, with parents playing a vital role. <strong>In</strong> some communities<br />
within Africa, parents indicate the wish to have a wife<br />
or husband for their children from a particular family<br />
background (Mbiti, 1969). Serious investigation is thus<br />
made into the family background of the chosen partner<br />
and into his/her way of life before accepting that person<br />
for their child.<br />
One key factor in African marriages is that marriage<br />
between close relations is not allowed; in most of grassland<br />
Cameroon it is believed that if close relatives marry<br />
they could die as punishment for violating this traditional<br />
rule. Parents in particular and society in general therefore<br />
strive to prevent marriages between close relatives,<br />
especially because the living dead (ancestors) do not<br />
feel happy about such relationships given that incest is<br />
taboo.<br />
<strong>In</strong>vestigating Problems and Coping<br />
Strategies in Cameroon Couples<br />
Based on this complex and cherished traditional background<br />
of African marriage, we designed the current study<br />
to investigate coping strategies in marital relationships. The<br />
specific objectives were to identify sources of marital difficulties<br />
and to determine what sustains marriage or keeps<br />
spouses together despite these problems. Above all, this<br />
research work was meant to provide an insight into marital<br />
life as background information for instituting marital and<br />
family counselling.<br />
We conducted our study in Bamenda, a town in the<br />
North West Province (in an urban setting) in the English<br />
speaking part of Cameroon. This town has a population of<br />
329600 inhabitants (MINPAT, 2000) coming from diverse<br />
ethnic origins of Cameroon. The research was carried out<br />
using a questionnaire survey of 31 items adapted from<br />
those of Filani (1984), Bakare (1970) and Kersten (1990),<br />
enriched by additional relevant literature. It comprised a<br />
demographic section and three sub scales, which were<br />
designed to measure personal data, communication and<br />
attitude to marital life, marital cooperation and disaffection<br />
and finally, marital adjustments. The construct, face and<br />
content validity of this instrument were ascertained with<br />
the assistance of an expert psychologist.<br />
Data was collected from a literate sample of 160 volunteers<br />
(34.4% male and 65.6% female) drawn from Christian<br />
groups and social groups in the town of Bamenda. The age<br />
range of this sample was 61 years with the youngest spouse<br />
being 21years and the oldest 82 years old. Their mean age<br />
was 41 years while their mean duration in the same marital<br />
relationship was 21 years. <strong>Of</strong> the 160 respondents, 86.2% of<br />
them are still in their marital relationship, 6.8% are widows<br />
and 5.4% are separated, while 1.6% are divorced.<br />
The data underscored the existence of marital<br />
problems among couples. The most frequently reported<br />
problems revolved first on disagreement over the use of<br />
finances (58.8%). <strong>In</strong>fidelity (involvement in extra marital<br />
sexual relationship) was second with a percentage rating<br />
of 34.34% followed closely by the intrusion of in-laws<br />
rated at 32.2%. Despite these marital problems, couples<br />
persisted in the union to uphold the traditional precepts<br />
that see marriage as a lifelong contract. Tradition therefore<br />
rejects divorce.<br />
Respondents also acknowledged that they seldom<br />
discussed family issues and would hardly listen to each<br />
other’s point of view, except when it concerned children.<br />
They perceived children as a binding force in marriage and<br />
the main reason for persistence in marital unions and the<br />
continuation of interaction between separated or divorced<br />
partners.<br />
Given the incidence of problems of finance, infidelity,<br />
intrusion of in-laws and poor communication reported in<br />
this study, we can conclude that happiness was limited<br />
amongst respondents. Partners’ disagreement over<br />
finances revealed a spirit of greed and selfishness amongst<br />
them. This could lead to the disintegration of the home.<br />
These problems were probably exacerbated by<br />
traditional Cameroonian belief that the man is the head of<br />
the family and has control over everything within his<br />
family, including the wife’s money. <strong>In</strong>fidelity may have<br />
arisen in part because most partners are not true to<br />
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themselves when it concerns their sexual life. Sex is<br />
considered a taboo topic for discussion in most of our<br />
communities (Nsamenang, 2004) yet there are problems<br />
among spouses that make their sex lives unenjoyable<br />
thereby leading to extramarital relationships. If partners<br />
could feel free towards each other and express their<br />
feelings frankly, a solution could be sought. <strong>In</strong> this way,<br />
infidelity could be checked thus letting out ill feeling and<br />
distress that comes with it. Tradition holds that marriage<br />
is polygamous, but under the influence of Christianity<br />
many people commit to monogamous marriage and then<br />
indulge in secret extramarital relationships. Society sometimes<br />
looks at men in monogamous relationships as being<br />
weak, so some men indulge in extra marital relationships<br />
to prove their manhood and wealth. When people who<br />
live together for life become a nuisance to one another,<br />
their marriage becomes permeated by ill feeling and frustration.<br />
<strong>In</strong> Cameroon, as in the rest of sub-Saharan Africa,<br />
in-laws can help a young couple to establish a loving<br />
marriage or break it down by initiating conflicts based on<br />
jealousy, greed, or other negative traits.. As tradition<br />
demands, parents-in-law should accept their children-inlaw<br />
as members of their family. This will enable the<br />
family union to remain amicable and keep the extended<br />
family strong.<br />
Our results also revealed that communication was poor,<br />
primarily because spouses did not listen to each other.<br />
Communication without listening could be viewed as a<br />
waste of time and expression of the mind. The above<br />
explanation implies that there is good and bad communication<br />
as Wright (1981) says it. Good communication brings<br />
joy and bad communication reduces happiness. When<br />
communication is poor, cooperation within the family will<br />
be lacking. Cooperation shows a spirit of joint effort with<br />
common goals to be achieved. If we could go by the adage<br />
“united we stand, divided we fall” and the marriage principle<br />
of one plus one being one, then we can see that<br />
cooperation is a great component of marriage and family<br />
life. When marital partners are ignorant or neglect the<br />
importance of functioning as one, they will likely not have<br />
time for in-depth family discussion.<br />
African Marriage—A Contract Between<br />
Spousal Families<br />
Respondents in this study cope with marital life and the<br />
above discussed problems because of their respect for and<br />
attachment to traditional norms and the pro-natalist value<br />
of marriage as a lifelong union. During marriage solemnisation<br />
over a calabash of palm wine in the Northwest<br />
Province of Cameroon, the young couple are made to<br />
understand that marriage is permanent before they share a<br />
cup of palm wine. This sharing thus opens the way for all<br />
other family members present to drink the wine, after<br />
emphasising on the permanent nature of the relationship<br />
being created by that rite.<br />
Upholding these traditional precepts is imperative<br />
because it is a deep-seated indigenous norm upon which<br />
the stability of the society and the pride and dignity of its<br />
members depend. By respecting these traditional beliefs<br />
and upholding the sanctity of marriage, one’s personality<br />
and self-esteem are affirmed. Maintaining a marital<br />
relationship is seen as a developmental marker of maturity,<br />
which is indeed fulfilled with the birth and proper care of<br />
one’s children. Those who fail to fulfill their duties after<br />
marriage, or do not marry, bring shame and disgrace to<br />
themselves and their families. Society looks down on them<br />
and many people do not allow their children to marry into<br />
such families because of fears of contamination. When the<br />
marriage of children is threatened by problems of any kind,<br />
parents get in forcibly to bring peace because when those<br />
marriages are shaken it is an indication that their role in<br />
child upbringing and transmission of traditional cultural<br />
values was not efficiently done, indicating a failure on their<br />
part.<br />
Persistence in marriage in spite of problems signifies<br />
people’s ability to endure pain and hardship in order to<br />
uphold the sanctity of marriage, which is seen as the only<br />
acceptable cultural institution for child bearing and child<br />
rearing. By showing an enduring spirit, people further<br />
reveal that they are attached to the principle of moderation<br />
and functioning within one’s circumstances.<br />
The High Value of Children<br />
Children are seen as the major reason for the institution of<br />
marriage. Thus, partners bear all the troubles and difficulties<br />
of marriage for the sake of the children born into that<br />
relationship. It is believed that children brought up in the<br />
absence of one parent as a consequence of divorce will be<br />
maladjusted in one way or another. Children are the fruits<br />
of marriage, and when they cannot be brought up jointly<br />
because of marital problems, the affected parents become a<br />
Figure 1. Spousal Union Figure 2. The value of children<br />
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Figure 3.<br />
disgrace to society. If people fail in child upbringing,<br />
society sees them as failures.<br />
Children are insurance for parents in old age because<br />
they will give aged parents the necessary assistance in<br />
later life: abandoning parents in old age would violate a<br />
fundamental duty. Parents who fail to give their children<br />
the best of education that can enable them earn a living<br />
will have nobody to take proper care of them with love<br />
and concern. Children who marry and have a family<br />
become a source of great pride to their parents; infertility<br />
and childlessness are a loathsome prospect. The children<br />
are said to be a source of continuation of the family lineage<br />
and insurance against permanent death, (Nsamenang,<br />
2004). You are alive even after death because your whole<br />
image and behaviour are reflected in the children you gave<br />
birth to. Since children in this sense will become one’s<br />
history, everybody protects them and will consequently<br />
face any odds to have the children grow within a marital<br />
union. There are, however, single parents who do manage<br />
to bring up their children with utmost care so that they<br />
grow to live by the expectations of society and equally get<br />
to enjoy marital life.<br />
Parts of these findings tie in with those of Soetan (1982)<br />
which revealed that in-laws have an effect on the marital<br />
life of men and women, and those of Filani (1984) which<br />
recommended training skills to foster marital adjustments.<br />
Over and above all, the findings are consistent with the<br />
image of the African family being in a crisis of change<br />
(Weisner, Kilbride, & Bradely, 1997)<br />
Conclusion<br />
Marriage contract<br />
Our study is subjected to some limitations. Firstly, some of<br />
the social groups used for this research work meet in a<br />
common venue once a month, and others on a weekly basis.<br />
This slowed down the data collection process. It was timeconsuming<br />
and financially demanding to get to these<br />
groups several times to get the questionnaire copies from<br />
the respondents. Secondly, only Christians were used for<br />
this study because Moslems, who constitute part of the<br />
population of Cameroon and this research area, received<br />
the questionnaire copies but did not return them, the reason<br />
being that they cannot discuss their marital issues with a<br />
non Moslem. It must be noted that this group of people give<br />
their children in marriage as early as 12 years (girls in<br />
particular).<br />
Finally, only the literate were used for this study in a<br />
region that has illiterates. The use of an interview might<br />
have provided some details that the questionnaire could<br />
not provide, but because we needed to maintain confidentiality<br />
this could not be applied.<br />
Nevertheless, our study revealed a picture of couples in<br />
Cameroon persisting despite marital problems because of<br />
respect for age-old traditions. Though the study did not<br />
explore the effects of marital problems (and related frustration<br />
and stress) on respondents’ psycho-emotional well<br />
being, an association between the two is very likely<br />
(Johnson & Booth, 1990). The nature of the marital<br />
problems identified suggests the need for premarital and<br />
marital counselling. This would enable couples to identify<br />
their areas of weakness in relation to each other, and in the<br />
relationship as a whole. Consequently, adjustments could<br />
be made that may help to create an amicable relationship,<br />
even in times of socio-cultural changes that have led some<br />
Cameroonian couples into divorce and its challenges<br />
within a community that rejects it.<br />
References<br />
Bakare, C.G.M. (1970). Marital Adjustment Scale. Behavioural<br />
Science Research Unit Ibadan Nigeria.<br />
Filani, T.O. (1984). An Experimental Study of Communication<br />
Training and Cognitive Restructuring on Marital Adjustment<br />
of some Couples. Ibadan Nigeria.<br />
Johnson, D.R., & Booth, A. (1990). Rural Economic Decline<br />
and Marital Qualit. A panel study of farm marriage.<br />
Family Relations Journal of Applied Family and Studies,<br />
39(2).<br />
Kersten, K.K. (1990). Family <strong>In</strong>terventions. Family Relations<br />
Journal of Applied Family Studies, 39(3).<br />
Mbiti, J.S. (1969). African Philosophy. Chaucer Press.<br />
MINPAT (2000). Cameroon Census Report by the Ministry of<br />
Plan and Regional Development.<br />
Nsamenang, A.B. (1992). Human Development in Cultural<br />
Context. A Third World Perspective.<br />
Nsamenang, A.B. (2000). Family and Marital Life Counselling.<br />
Lecture Notes: B.U.S.T Bamenda Cameroon.<br />
Nsamenang, A.B. (2004). Family and Marital Life Counselling.<br />
Lecture Notes: B.U.S.T Bamenda Cameroon.<br />
Soetan A. (1982). The Effects <strong>Of</strong> <strong>In</strong>—Laws on The Marital<br />
Adjustment of Couples in Nigeria. University Ibadon<br />
Nigeria.<br />
Weisner, Bradley, & Kilbride (1997). African Families And The<br />
Crisis <strong>Of</strong> Social Change. London.<br />
Wright, H.N. (1981). The Family that Listens. Victor Books.<br />
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COMMENTARY: Adolescent and Young Adult<br />
<strong>Romantic</strong> <strong>Relationships</strong>—The Need for a<br />
Broader Conceptual Perspective<br />
Shmuel Shulman<br />
Department of Psychology, Bar Ilan University<br />
Ramat Gan, Israel<br />
E-mail: Shulman@mail.biu.ac.il<br />
<strong>In</strong> the last decade or so the study of adolescent romantic<br />
relationships has evolved dramatically, shedding light on the<br />
centrality and importance of romance in the lives of adolescents<br />
(Collins, 2003). The main body of research on adolescent<br />
romantic relationships has been conceptualized within a<br />
developmental framework and draws from the study of peer<br />
relationships, which has affected the nature of sampling and<br />
research methodology. The four papers in this issue which focus<br />
on different aspects of romantic relationships and may seem<br />
unrelated to each other point, in my opinion, to the broader<br />
universal features and principles of romantic relationships and<br />
their function for the individual and society.<br />
<strong>In</strong> their paper, Connolly and McIsaac describe how their<br />
interest in the study of romantic relationships grew out of a<br />
research agenda focused on adolescents’ peer relationships<br />
(Furman, Brown, & Feiring, 1999). Within this understanding,<br />
earlier experiences with friends are carried over into, enacted<br />
and operate the emergent romantic relationships. For example,<br />
the capacity to balance the needs of self and other is associated<br />
with intimacy in romantic relationships (Friedlander,<br />
Connolly, Pepler, & Craig, in press). <strong>In</strong> a similar vein, a history of<br />
having been bullied by one’s peer group may create later problematic<br />
conditions for young people’s romantic relationships<br />
(Williams, Connolly, & Cribbie, in press).<br />
However, despite the similarities to friendships, romantic<br />
relationships represent a highly distinctive, novel feature of<br />
adolescent social experience (Giordano, Manning, & Longmore,<br />
2006). For example, in contrast to close friendships that are<br />
more settled, romantic relationships are characterized by<br />
heightened emotionality: love, attraction, sexual desires, and<br />
jealousy (Larson, Clore, & Wood, 1999). Though romantic<br />
relationships are the main relational context of sexual behavior<br />
(Furman & Shaffer-Hand, 2006), the fields of sexuality and<br />
romantic relationships among adolescents have been described<br />
as separate domains (Furman, 2002; Florsheim, 2003). The<br />
separation between romantic relationships and sexual behavior<br />
does not allow for a full understanding of the content and<br />
meaning of romantic relationships; understanding romantic<br />
relationships in a more integrative mode may lead to some new<br />
insights.<br />
<strong>In</strong> her seminal work, Fisher (Fisher, 1998, 2006; Fisher, Aron,<br />
Mashek, Li, & Brown, 2002) differentiated between three types<br />
of love experiences: lust, romantic attraction and romantic<br />
attachment. Lust is characterized by the craving for sexual gratification;<br />
attraction is characterized by elation, heightened energy,<br />
and craving for union with a beloved; and attachment is characterized<br />
by maintenance of proximity, affiliation, and a sense of<br />
security and mutual commitment.<br />
Fisher’s work, conceptualized within an evolutionary framework<br />
(Fisher, 1998, 2006; Fisher et al., 2002) suggests that<br />
humans are programmed to build and maintain mating relationships<br />
for survival and procreation. Contingent upon the biological<br />
network for reproduction, adolescents and young adults,<br />
just like more mature adults, are susceptible to the search for<br />
a partner, the capacity to be emotionally swept away by<br />
romantic love and the desire to invest oneself in maintaining a<br />
relationship (Fisher, 2006, p. 9).<br />
Attraction has evolved to enable individuals to select<br />
preferable potential mating partners and to motivate them to<br />
focus their courtship attention on these individuals, thereby<br />
conserving courtship time and energy (Fisher, 1998; Fisher et<br />
al., 2002). Attraction is characterized by elation, heightened<br />
energy, mood swings, focused attention, obsessive thinking<br />
about a partner and craving for emotional union with him or<br />
her (Aron, Fisher, Mashek, Strong, Li, & Brown, 2005; Fisher et<br />
al., 2002). <strong>In</strong>dividuals reporting feelings of attraction experience<br />
a host of labile psycho-physiological responses such as exhilaration<br />
and euphoria. They often think about the beloved obsessively,<br />
to the extent of “intrusive thinking,” including exclusively<br />
focused attention on the beloved and his/her well-being (Fisher,<br />
1998).<br />
Attachment or companionate love (Fisher, 2006) is characterized<br />
by maintenance of proximity, affiliative gestures, and<br />
expressions of calm and contentedness when in contact with<br />
the long-term mating partner. Similarly, within the framework of<br />
marital relationships and social psychology, adult as well as<br />
adolescent romantic relationships have been conceptualized in<br />
terms of affiliation, intimacy, attachment, and commitment<br />
(Furman, Brown, & Feiring, 1999; Shaver & Hazan, 1988).<br />
<strong>In</strong>timacy leads to a deeper and more committed form of<br />
relationship (Connolly & Goldberg, 1999). <strong>In</strong> turn, the presence<br />
of commitment leads to a long-term relationship, enhancing the<br />
bonding between partners, enabling them to express deeper<br />
levels of caring for each other (Brown, 1999) and forming the<br />
basis for the optimal development of offspring (Fisher, 2006).<br />
Adopting an ethological perspective suggests that romantic<br />
relationships among adolescents are more than simply a different<br />
form of peer relationship. While on the one hand, becoming<br />
attracted romantically, sexually involved, and learning to stay in<br />
a steady relationship are markers of adolescent development<br />
(Brown, 1999; Carver, Joyner, & Udry, 2003; Shulman & Scharf,<br />
2000), these milestones are also central for an adaptive transition<br />
to adulthood aimed at procreation and the well-being of<br />
the next generation. Understanding romantic relationships as<br />
expressions of an ethologically driven process can explain their<br />
intensive dynamics and the importance culture attributes to<br />
them.<br />
A reading of the four papers shows that they did not<br />
emerge solely from a developmental perspective on adolescent<br />
romantic relationships, but also incorporate, in my opinion,<br />
ethological understandings despite the fact that this is not<br />
discussed explicitly. As they outline, Connolly and McIsaac’s<br />
study grew out from a peer relationships agenda and their<br />
paper discusses components such as group dating and the<br />
balancing of connectedness and autonomy in romantic relationships.<br />
Connolly and McIsaac also examine romantic break-ups<br />
and tie them to psychosocial adolescent issues of intimacy and<br />
autonomy. However, despite its association with age related<br />
tasks, relationship termination is a major issue in the study of<br />
romantic relationships, and yet it is less examined in connection<br />
to adolescent friendships.<br />
Negotiating the needs of self and other is an important<br />
adolescent task in relations with parents, friends, and romantic<br />
partners (Shulman & Knafo, 1997). Difficulties in this task may<br />
lead to relationship difficulty or relationship termination. Saini’s<br />
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paper describes another form of relational difficulty—romantic<br />
aggression—and shows the extent to which aggression and<br />
victimization between romantic partners affects individual<br />
mental health. Adolescent and young adult college students<br />
who reported being victimized by their romantic partner were<br />
more likely to report higher levels of anxiety and depression.<br />
From an ethological perspective these two papers focus on<br />
conditions differentiating between adaptive and less adaptive<br />
romantic relationships. During adolescence, individuals are<br />
supposed to learn to cope with the inevitable strains of keeping<br />
a romantic relationship intact (Connolly and McIsaac) and<br />
managing conflicts and aggression (Saini). From an ethological<br />
perspective, acquiring the capability to become involved in a<br />
stable and adaptive romantic relationship is crucial for procreation<br />
and the well-being of the next generation as it is related<br />
to individual functioning within a relationship (Saini—low<br />
depression and anxiety) and to withstanding difficulties that may<br />
lead to a break-up of the relationship (Connolly and McIsaac).<br />
The importance of establishing a long-lasting marital bond<br />
for the sake of reproduction and the well-being of the next<br />
generation is further embodied in Ngoran’s study on marital<br />
relationships in Bamenda Cameroon. It was interesting to learn<br />
how cultural transmission of rules, norms and values teaches<br />
and leads the younger generation starting from early childhood<br />
to adopt the role of husband/wife and of parent. Moreover,<br />
parents are supposed to bear marital and personal difficulties<br />
for the sake of the children born into the marital bond.<br />
Diamond’s paper, though originating in the United States,<br />
does not examine typically researched adolescent romantic<br />
relationships. Yet through the examination of young women<br />
who are highly variable in their sexual identification, Diamond<br />
offers new insights that are relevant for the understanding of<br />
romance across different populations. Diamond describes<br />
patterns of bonds that contain the affective and behavioral<br />
features of romantic relationships at large, such as emotional<br />
passion, exclusivity, physical affection, and sexual behavior. Her<br />
original contribution is the description of passionate friendships<br />
(Diamond, 2000) that resemble the behavior and emotional<br />
intensity of romantic relationships but lack explicit sexual activity<br />
or desire.<br />
Given the existing prejudices against sexual minority<br />
persons and personal struggles with sexual identity, it can be<br />
understood why the intimate relationships of some of these<br />
young women do not include explicit sexual activity or desire.<br />
Returning to Fisher’s ethological model (Fisher, 1998, 2006;<br />
Fisher, Aron, Mashek, Strong, Li, & Brown, 2002) can be helpful<br />
in better understanding the meaning of passionate friendships.<br />
According to Fisher, love experiences consist of lust, romantic<br />
attraction and romantic attachment. Refraining from explicit<br />
sexual activity does not necessarily exclude the additional forms<br />
of love experiences: attraction and attachment. The existence<br />
of the romantic attraction component is what differentiates<br />
between common friendships and passionate friendships<br />
(which are closer to and resemble full romantic relationships).<br />
<strong>In</strong>terestingly, as outlined above, the major body of research<br />
on adolescent romantic relationships was mainly generated<br />
within a developmental and peer relationship perspective.<br />
However, though the majority of adolescents’ sexual behaviors<br />
occur in the context of their romantic relationships (Giordano,<br />
Manning, & Longmore, 2006), the fields of adolescent romantic<br />
relationships and sexual behavior have not been integrated<br />
(Furman, 2002) and authors in one field rarely reference the<br />
body of knowledge in the other field. The research on relationships<br />
treats relationships almost as if they were platonic. <strong>In</strong><br />
contrast, the study of sexual behavior has been conducted<br />
within a health-risk framework and from a deficit model and<br />
rarely considers the relational context in which the sexual<br />
behavior is occurring (Welsh, Rostosky, & Kawaguchi, 2000).<br />
<strong>In</strong>tegration of the developmental and sexual perspectives<br />
on relationships is conducive to a comprehensive understanding<br />
of adolescent romantic relationships and their development.<br />
<strong>In</strong>tegration of the two fields can be helpful for differentiating<br />
between adolescents whose sexual behaviors are expressions<br />
of normal, healthy exploration and those whose expressions of<br />
sexuality are symptomatic of psychological turmoil (Diamond<br />
& Savin-Williams, 2003; Florsheim, 2003; Lefkowitz & Gillen,<br />
2006). A normative perspective examines the meaning of sexual<br />
behaviors, diversity of sexual behaviors (e.g., the importance of<br />
kissing; Welsh, Haugen, Widman, Darling, & Grello, 2005), the<br />
contexts in which they occur, and the individual characteristics<br />
of adolescents that can change the meaning of the sexual<br />
behaviors (Welsh et al., 2000).<br />
<strong>In</strong> two separate studies in the United States and in Israel,<br />
Welsh and her colleagues (Grello, Welsh, Dickson, & Harper,<br />
2003; Grello, Welsh, & Harper, 2006), and we, ourselves,<br />
(Shulman, Weisman, & Schleyer, 2008) examined the interplay<br />
between romantic development and sexual behavior and its<br />
association with depression or problem behavior. By distinguishing<br />
between the varied relational contexts of the sexual<br />
behavior, our findings revealed that sexual behavior within a<br />
steady romantic relationship, representing mastering the capability<br />
to become involved in stable relationships, was not associated<br />
with increased depressive symptoms. However, sexual<br />
behavior within transient romantic encounters, representing a<br />
possible a lag in romantic development, was associated with<br />
increased depressive symptoms.<br />
While Giordano and Furman (Giordano, et al.,, 2006;<br />
Furman & Shaffer-Hand, 2006) called attention to the fact that<br />
adolescent romantic relationships and sexual behavior are not<br />
integrated, little attention has been paid to the role of attraction<br />
in romantic relationships. Though studies within a social<br />
psychology perspective have dealt with and examined romantic<br />
attraction (see for example Hatfield & Sprecher, 1986; Sternberg,<br />
1998), this attraction has, however, been conceptualized<br />
as one form of a romantic experience but has not been seen<br />
as one of the three basic types of romantic relationships. <strong>In</strong> a<br />
forthcoming paper, we (Shulman, Mayes, Cohen, Swain, &<br />
Leckman, in press) examined the interplay between the intensity<br />
of romantic attraction among couples at the early stage of<br />
a relationship and their ability to cope with and resolve<br />
disagreements. Findings suggested that higher levels of romantic<br />
attraction are related to partners’ inclination to downplay their<br />
disagreements and to negotiate their differences less successfully.<br />
A second assessment of these couples after a period of six<br />
weeks showed that where levels of romantic attraction among<br />
romantic partners stayed stable, the partners showed an<br />
increasing ability to recognize and face their disagreements and<br />
that a tendency to negotiate disagreements more effectively<br />
started to emerge. Conceptually, these findings suggest that two<br />
processes operate within a bond between romantic partners.<br />
The first process refers to the attraction or preoccupation<br />
between partners as outlined by Fisher and the second refers<br />
to the quality of conflict negotiation that evolves over time,<br />
representing the movement toward a stable and balanced<br />
relationship. Whereas at the initial stage of a romantic bond the<br />
attraction process overshadows partners’ behavior as theorized<br />
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by Fisher (Fisher, 1998, 2006; Fisher et al., 2002), over time<br />
attachment between couples tends to become more prominent<br />
and is expressed through their increased competence in<br />
negotiating differences that is crucial for relationship stability.<br />
I approached the reading of the four papers from within<br />
the common romantic relationships approach that is embedded<br />
within a developmental and peer relationship framework.<br />
However, after reading them and realizing the unique contribution<br />
of each paper, I realized that a broader framework is<br />
required to put the four papers in context. Rereading them<br />
within Fisher’s ethological perspective points to the behavioral<br />
and emotional intensity of romantic relationships which are part<br />
of a powerful network for reproduction (Fisher, 2006, p. 9) and<br />
for this reason it is evidenced across cultures, adolescence and<br />
young adulthood, and finds unique expression in sexual<br />
minority populations.<br />
References<br />
Aron, A., Fisher, H., Mashek, D. J., Strong, G., Li, H., & Brown, L.L.<br />
(2005). Reward, motivation, and emotion systems associated<br />
with early-stage intense romantic love. Journal of<br />
Neurophysiology, 94, 327–337.<br />
Brown, B.B. (1999). “You’re going out with who?” Peer group<br />
influences on adolescent romantic relationships. <strong>In</strong>: W.<br />
Furman, B. B. Brown & C. Feiring (Eds.), The development of<br />
romantic relationships in adolescence (pp. 291–329). New<br />
York: Cambridge University Press.<br />
Carver, K., Joyner, K., & Udry, J.R. (2003). National estimates of<br />
adolescent romantic relationships. <strong>In</strong> P. Florsheim (Ed.),<br />
Adolescent romantic relations and sexual behavior: Theory,<br />
research, and practical implications (pp. 23–56). Mahawah, NJ:<br />
Erlbaum.<br />
Collins, W.A. (2003). More than myth: The developmental<br />
significance of romantic relationships during adolescence.<br />
Journal of Research on Adolescence, 13, 1–24.<br />
Connolly, J., & Goldberg, A. (1999). <strong>Romantic</strong> relationships in<br />
adolescence: the role of friends and peers in their emergence<br />
and development. <strong>In</strong> W. Furman, B. B. Brown, &<br />
C. Feiring (Eds.), The development of romantic relationships in<br />
adolescence (pp. 266–290). New York: Cambridge<br />
University Press.<br />
Diamond, L.M. (2000). Passionate friendships among adolescent<br />
sexual-minority women. Journal of Research on Adolescence,<br />
10, 191–209.<br />
Diamond, L.M., & Savin-Williams, R.C. (2003). The intimate<br />
relationships of sexual minority youths. <strong>In</strong> G. Adams &<br />
M. Berzonsky (Eds.), Blackwell handbook of adolescence<br />
(pp. 393–412). Malden, MA: Blackwell.<br />
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COMMENTARY: Why is a Cross-Cultural<br />
Perspective on <strong>Romantic</strong> Experiences in<br />
Adolescence Clearly Needed?<br />
<strong>In</strong>ge Seiffge-Krenke<br />
Department of Psychology, University of Mainz<br />
Mainz, Germany<br />
E-mail: seiffge@uni-mainz.de<br />
The scientific study of romantic relations during adolescence<br />
has only recently begun to grow in developmental psychology.<br />
It is not an easy study, as relationships with romantic partners<br />
during the early stages of adolescence are mostly casual, less<br />
intense, and short-lived. Even at later stages, romantic experiences<br />
may assume a variety of forms, ranging from those which<br />
parallel “close friendships” to those typical for “casual dating” or<br />
“exclusive dating” relationships. Sometimes the adolescents<br />
themselves are not sure whether they are involved in a crossgender<br />
friendship or a romantic relationship (Leaper &<br />
Anderson, 1997).<br />
<strong>In</strong> recent years, models of romantic development have been<br />
proposed (Brown, 1999; Connolly & Goldberg, 1999), according<br />
to which relationships progress from a more casual initial<br />
stage towards a more committed affection phase. <strong>In</strong> addition,<br />
studies have supported the idea that adolescent romance<br />
develops in terms of phases that follow a specific sequence with<br />
a different focus on self, and on the impact of both peers and<br />
the romantic partner (Seiffge-Krenke, 2003). Further research<br />
has analyzed the beginnings and endings of romance, nicely<br />
summarized by Jennifer Connolly and Caroline McIsaac in this<br />
newsletter, and informed us that unmet needs that lead to a<br />
break-up may be very similar to the needs that motivate young<br />
people to start a relationship.<br />
Studies placing romantic relationships of adolescents in the<br />
context of other significant relationships at this age, such as<br />
relationships with parents, peers, siblings and close same-sex<br />
friends, are on the increase. However, as Lisa Diamond showed<br />
in this newsletter, it took some time until researchers turned<br />
their attention to romantic development in sexual minority<br />
youth; her contribution underscores the variety of different<br />
types and functions of romantic relationships in this population.<br />
That romantic experiences are linked with different indices<br />
of adaptation is a substantial finding in several studies. <strong>In</strong>creases<br />
in depression, and in externalizing behaviors were found among<br />
youth who dated regularly. It is noteworthy that, in recent<br />
studies, the frequency and impact of aggression in romance and<br />
couple relationship has come into focus. Two contributions in<br />
this newsletter address this topic. <strong>In</strong> research based in <strong>In</strong>dia,<br />
Sunil Saini shows that relationship aggression is linked to a<br />
more negative perception of the relationships and, that males<br />
and females experience equally high levels of relationship<br />
aggression, highlighting the idea that aggression is reciprocal.<br />
Gladys Ngoran’s contribution further elaborates on the “darker<br />
side” of partnerships. It became apparent in her research in<br />
Cameroon that the lack of communication is common for<br />
couples, and that separation is perceived as personal shame and<br />
a problem for the larger community. Her contribution, like that<br />
of Connolly and McIsaac from Canada, shows that it is necessary<br />
to include the cultural background in order to advance our<br />
understanding of romantic relations.<br />
Clearly, we need more studies on adolescent couples from<br />
different ethnic backgrounds. But why is it urgently necessary<br />
to adopt a cultural perspective? <strong>In</strong> Western societies,<br />
adolescents make up a decreasing proportion of the overall<br />
population, whereas an increasing proportion of such youth are<br />
characterized by diversity in ethnic background and greater<br />
poverty. <strong>In</strong> general, culture teaches adolescents about romance,<br />
based on accepted traditions, mores and practices. Culture and<br />
tradition determine the meaning and significance of romantic<br />
experiences, and as a result determine how adolescents behave<br />
in romantic exchanges (Brown et al., 2002). These cultural<br />
differences can be traced into marriage, as the contribution of<br />
Ngoran in this newsletter shows.<br />
There are significant variations in dating and marriage rituals<br />
across different ethnic groups (Kagitcibasi, 1996). There is also<br />
quite high variation in the values and goals of a romance. For<br />
example, the Western and North American worldview places<br />
great value on individual expression, freedom and choice. <strong>In</strong><br />
European countries, the idealization of romance has a long<br />
tradition since medieval times. For the Eastern worldview, what<br />
is best for the social group to which one belongs is more<br />
important than individual choice and freedom. For the African<br />
worldview, spirituality is important, and the focus is on connectedness<br />
to the extended family, as the contribution of Ngoran<br />
underscores. There are different cultural scripts stipulating the<br />
extent to which positive or negative emotions (such as<br />
aggression) are openly expressed. Furthermore, the impact of<br />
close friends and peers on the choice of romantic partner<br />
among teens is more pronounced in Western and North<br />
American cultures, while acceptance and expectations from<br />
parents are more important in other cultures. And there is of<br />
course a high variation in religiosity, parenting practices, and<br />
styles of intimacy in diverse nations which impacts romantic<br />
relationships. Conceptions of romance, behavior and scripts in<br />
romantic encounters are all influenced by the cultural background<br />
of the adolescents.<br />
Because the developmental context of many adolescents in<br />
Western industrialized countries is now characterized by<br />
increasing ethnic diversity, romantic partners not infrequently<br />
come from different cultural backgrounds. Migrant adolescents<br />
may attempt to assimilate into the new culture by having a<br />
romance; the romantic liaison may serve as a way of being<br />
acculturated into the others partner’s group. On the one hand,<br />
cross-ethnic relationships offer a rich opportunity for broadening<br />
relationship experiences. On the other hand, tensions and<br />
conflicts may arise between developing an ethnic identity and<br />
trying to fit into the broader majority culture.<br />
<strong>In</strong>deed, conflicts are an integral part of any relationship, and<br />
it is important to balance both negative, i.e. conflict-related, and<br />
positive relationship qualities in romantic partnerships. Not<br />
much research to date has dealt with specific stressors in<br />
romantic experiences. Longitudinal research on conflict<br />
management (Nieder & Seiffge-Krenke, 2001) revealed a significant<br />
decrease in romantic stress over time; concurrently, the<br />
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quality of romantic relationships changed towards greater<br />
intimacy and affection.<br />
Adolescents from different cultures, for example individualistic<br />
and collectivistic cultures, may experience quite different<br />
types of stressors when attempting to gain emotional<br />
autonomy from parents. <strong>In</strong> addition, the ramifications a<br />
romantic relationship has on close friendships may differ across<br />
cultures. Further, issues of commitment and closeness in the<br />
romantic partnership, as compared to individuation, may be of<br />
different concern for adolescents stemming from different<br />
countries. Finally, the sexual aspect of romantic relations may<br />
cause stress, depending on cultural norms and prescriptions.<br />
<strong>In</strong> a 20-nation study (N=15347, age 12 to 18 years), typical<br />
stressors adolescents experienced in romantic relationships<br />
depending on their cultural background were assessed (Seiffge-<br />
Krenke, 2006). Adolescents filled in questionnaires assessing<br />
recent romantic stressors. According to Brown et al. (2002), the<br />
adolescents from the 17 nations were grouped together<br />
according to regions, including Middle Europe (for example<br />
Germany, Switzerland, the Netherlands, England), Southern<br />
Europe (for example Greece, Italy, France, Spain) Northern<br />
Europe (for example Finland, Norway) Eastern Europe (for<br />
example, Poland, Russia, Estonia, Lithuania) Asia and the far East<br />
(for example, Pakistan, Hong Kong; Korea ) and South America<br />
(for example, Peru, Mexico).<br />
The findings showed that romantic stress was highest<br />
among adolescents from Middle Europe, followed by Southern<br />
Europe, and that adolescents from the Far East, South America<br />
and Eastern Europe named considerably fewer romantic stressors.<br />
Feelings of jealousy and the impact of romance on close<br />
friendships were of great concern for adolescents from Middle<br />
and Southern Europe. Adolescents from South America and<br />
the Far East were mainly stressed by feeling unsure about the<br />
romantic partners’ feelings and by the fear of hurting their<br />
respective partner. Age differences emerged, too, illustrating<br />
that the early phases of romantic encounters were perceived<br />
as more stressful then later stages. Noteworthy, too, were<br />
gender differences, with females worrying more about the<br />
impact of the romance on their close friendships with other<br />
girls, while males were more concerned about not having a<br />
partner. <strong>In</strong>terestingly, differences depending on the marital status<br />
of the parents were also found. Adolescents from two-parent<br />
families were much more concerned about the romantic<br />
relationship than adolescents from single parent families.<br />
Considering the effect size of the findings, the impact of the<br />
culture or region was by far the most important, followed by<br />
the impact of the family status of the adolescent. Age and<br />
gender effects were of minor importance. Taken together, the<br />
study shows that it is important to consider diversity in<br />
romantic relationships, depending on the cultural background<br />
of the adolescents.<br />
Gray and Steinberg (1999) have suggested that the stress<br />
perceived in romantic relationships is only partly related to the<br />
romantic affair as such and that its origin lies in the diverse functions<br />
romantic relationships serve for adolescents. They<br />
proposed that the development of romantic interests is inherently<br />
linked to the task of separation and individuation from the<br />
family. The emergence of romantic activity can be seen as part<br />
of a more general process in the development of emotional<br />
autonomy first taking place in the family context and later on,<br />
as the quality of romances changes from casual to more<br />
committed, in the peer context. Apparently, as the abovementioned<br />
findings illustrate, adolescents from different cultures<br />
showed a different focus on the self, the impact of peers, and<br />
concern for the partner. However, a lot of research is still<br />
necessary to clarify the culture-dependent conceptions of<br />
romance, the different behavioral scripts and the cultural framework<br />
of romantic experience. Also, the developmental<br />
sequence following diverse phases which has been established<br />
for Western industrialized cultures, needs to be validated in<br />
different cross-cultural settings. It is not clear whether the typical<br />
Western sequence from more casual, short-term encounters<br />
to exclusive, long-term and bonded relationships is characteristic<br />
for adolescents living in other cultures. Thus, romantic stress<br />
may not only differ, depending on the phases of romantic<br />
development, but is influenced by the cultural context.<br />
Linking adolescent romantic experiences to the context of<br />
their rapidly changing social world may clarify the outstanding<br />
functions of romance in adolescence as well as the specific<br />
strains a romantic relationship places on those same<br />
adolescents.<br />
References<br />
Brown, B.B. (1999). You’re going out with who? Peer group influences<br />
on adolescent romantic relationships. <strong>In</strong> W. Furman,<br />
B.B. Brown, & C. Feiring, (Eds.), The development of romantic<br />
relationships in adolescence (pp. 291–329). New York:<br />
Cambridge University Press.<br />
Brown, B.B., Larson, & Saraswathi, T.S. (2002). The world’s youth.<br />
The adolescence in eight regions of the globe. Cambridge:<br />
Cambridge University Press.<br />
Connolly, J.A., & Goldberg, A. (1999). <strong>Romantic</strong> relationships in<br />
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<strong>In</strong> W. Furman, B.B. Brown, & C. Feiring, (Eds.), The<br />
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Kağıtc‚ıbas‚ı, C. (1996). Family and human development across<br />
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Leaper, C., & Anderson, K.J. (1997). Gender development and<br />
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S. Shulman & W.A. Collins (Eds.), <strong>Romantic</strong> relationships in<br />
adolescence: Developmental perspectives (pp. 85–104). San<br />
Francisco: Jossey-Bass.<br />
Nieder, T., & Seiffge-Krenke, I. (2001). Coping with stress in<br />
different phases of romantic development. Journal of<br />
Adolescence, 24, 297–311.<br />
Seiffge-Krenke, I. (2003). Testing theories of romantic development<br />
from adolescence to young adulthood: Evidence of a<br />
developmental sequence. <strong>In</strong>ternational Journal of Behavioral<br />
Development, 27, 519–531.<br />
Seiffge-Krenke, I. (2006). Nach Pisa. Stress in der Schule und mit<br />
den Eltern. Bewältigungskompetenz deutscher Jugendlicher<br />
im internationalen Vergleich. Göttingen: Vandenhoeck &<br />
Ruprecht.<br />
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Reports from the Lab<br />
Studying the Formation of <strong>Romantic</strong><br />
<strong>Relationships</strong>: A Case for Prospective<br />
Online Studies<br />
<strong>In</strong>es Schindler*<br />
Department of Psychology, University of Utah<br />
Salt Lake City, USA<br />
E-mail: ines.schindler@uni-jena.de<br />
A lot of research has focused on the initiation, development,<br />
and dynamics of romantic relationships (cf. Cate &<br />
Lloyd, 1992; Gottman, 1994; Surra, Gray, Cottle, &<br />
Boettcher, 2004). However, one gap in this literature has<br />
remained: We know little about what happens between the<br />
first date and the establishment of a committed relationship<br />
(or failure to do so); and what we do know is mostly based<br />
on retrospective accounts. <strong>In</strong> the following, I will report on<br />
our experiences in the longitudinal Partner and Study<br />
Selection (PASS) Study (conducted by <strong>In</strong>es Schindler,<br />
Cynthia A. Berg, and Christopher P. Fagundes at the<br />
University of Utah, and funded through a research fellowship<br />
and research grant of the German Research Foundation<br />
(DFG) awarded to <strong>In</strong>es Schindler, as part of which<br />
we ventured into this largely uncharted territory of early<br />
relationship formation. With this project we had to face<br />
three major issues that complicate the study of how people<br />
select romantic partners and that may be responsible for the<br />
described dearth of longitudinal research in this area: (1) It<br />
is impossible to know when an individual will start dating<br />
a potential partner; (2) It is imperative to gather data on a<br />
fledgling relationship right after the first few dates, that is,<br />
when the dating partners have not yet decided on the fate<br />
of their relationship; (3) <strong>In</strong>complete data as a result of<br />
missed assessments or participant dropout are unavoidable.<br />
Our way of dealing with these three issues was to<br />
conduct a prospective longitudinal study on partner selection<br />
where we mainly employed online assessments. I will<br />
now share some insights that we gained during the PASS<br />
Study as well as suggestions for future research.<br />
The PASS Study: Design, Procedure, and<br />
Research Questions<br />
Our central aim in conducting the PASS Study was to<br />
investigate the process of selecting a romantic partner<br />
and/or college major longitudinally in a sample of undergraduate<br />
students (University of Utah and Salt Lake<br />
Community College). We recruited 150 heterosexual<br />
participants (53% women) who were not in a committed<br />
relationship (n =125) and/or undecided on their major (n =<br />
55) and followed up on their decision-making process for<br />
the next 5–12 months (depending on when they were<br />
recruited). Participants completed five-day diaries, weekly<br />
*<strong>In</strong>es Schindler is now at the Center for Applied Developmental Science,<br />
Friedrich Schiller University of Jena, Germany.<br />
assessments (partner choice only), and monthly assessments<br />
online, which asked about their perceptions of the<br />
decision to be made (e.g., importance, irreversibility),<br />
decision criteria (e.g., matching interests with partner,<br />
others’ opinion), and ways of making a decision (e.g.,<br />
relying on intuition, rational thought). Whereas the aspect<br />
of the study focused on choice of major started once participants<br />
had been recruited, we had to wait for our participants<br />
to start dating before we could begin with the partner<br />
choice part. As soon as participants indicated that they had<br />
gone on a first or second date and intended to date this<br />
partner again, we had them complete a five-day partner<br />
diary, followed by weekly partner assessments for the next<br />
eight weeks or until they either stopped dating this partner<br />
or had entered into a committed relationship (i.e., dating<br />
seriously and exclusively). If no decision on whether to<br />
commit to this partner or not had been reached within eight<br />
weeks (which only happened in four cases), we followed<br />
up on the dating relationship with monthly assessments.<br />
Once participants had started a committed relationship, we<br />
followed up on this relationship with monthly assessments<br />
(asking about continuation of the relationship, relationship<br />
satisfaction, and perceptions of the partner) until the end of<br />
the study.<br />
The final PASS Study assessments were conducted in<br />
October 2007 and we are currently in the process of analyzing<br />
the longitudinal data. Right now, our analyses focus on<br />
two research questions. First, we investigate how dispositional<br />
attachment to romantic partners influences the<br />
partner choice process and how normative attachment<br />
functions (cf. Hazan & Zeifman, 1994) develop in a new<br />
relationship between the first few dates and up to two years<br />
into the relationship. We found that people who reported a<br />
disposition toward avoidant partner attachment at the<br />
intake assessment were less likely to commit to a romantic<br />
partner during the study (after controlling for age, gender,<br />
time of study participation, desire to form a committed<br />
relationship, number of previous relationships, and selfrated<br />
physical attractiveness; Murdock, Schindler,<br />
Fagundes, & Diamond, 2008). With regard to normative<br />
attachment functions, our preliminary findings clearly indicated<br />
that partner attachment starts developing even before<br />
a relationship is considered as committed.<br />
A second research question focuses on the decisionmaking<br />
process during partner choice. I have conducted<br />
initial analyses of how the perceived attractiveness (ratings<br />
of importance of decision criteria ratings of dating<br />
partner on criteria) of chosen and nonchosen partners<br />
changes before the decision to either commit to this partner<br />
or stop dating is reached. These analyses show that the<br />
experimentally well-established bolstering of preferred<br />
alternatives and denigration of rejected alternatives (for a<br />
review see Brownstein, 2003) also occurs during partner<br />
choice in real life: People who form a committed relationship<br />
increase the perceived attractiveness of their dating<br />
partner prior to commitment and people who stop dating<br />
report decreasing attractiveness of their partner. Future<br />
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analyses will focus on interindividual differences in the<br />
amount of change in perceived attractiveness, how they can<br />
be predicted, and how they relate to satisfaction with one’s<br />
decision.<br />
A Watched Pot Never Boils? How Many<br />
Participants Does It Take to Study<br />
Relationship Formation?<br />
A challenge that arises with the described prospective<br />
approach to studying partner choice is that participants<br />
will not necessarily date or start a committed relationship<br />
within 5–12 months of recruitment. Therefore, it would be<br />
helpful to have some information on the percentage of a<br />
given population who will form a romantic relationship<br />
within a defined time frame. Unfortunately, when we<br />
started the PASS Study, we had no such information available.<br />
Our strategy therefore was to recruit undergraduates<br />
between 18–27 years who indicated that they were looking<br />
for a romantic partner. We assumed that undergraduates of<br />
this age group (who also were about 50% Mormon as is<br />
representative of the Salt Lake City area) would be highly<br />
motivated to date and, as part of the undergraduate experience,<br />
would have plenty of opportunities to meet new<br />
people of the opposite sex. <strong>In</strong> spite of these favorable<br />
conditions, we found that the majority of our participants<br />
were unsuccessful in forming a committed relationship<br />
during the study—and what complicates things even more,<br />
those who entered into a committed relationship did not<br />
necessarily stay in that relationship.<br />
The changes in relationship status that we observed in<br />
the PASS Study between August 2006 and August 2007 are<br />
illustrated in Figure 1. As can be seen in panel A, out of<br />
those 61 women and 64 men who indicated that they were<br />
looking for a romantic partner at the intake assessment,<br />
30% dropped out of the study or did not provide any information<br />
on their dating life. Although we saw a fair amount<br />
of dating activity among those who remained in the study,<br />
34% did not date at all or at least never made it past a first<br />
date (or series of first dates) and 10% dated casually but<br />
never entered into a committed relationship. Finally, 26%<br />
committed to partner at some point in the study. It should<br />
A: Out of those 125 participants who were<br />
initially not committed to a partner . . .<br />
be noted, however, that we studied up to four different<br />
dating partners per participant and that out of those 33<br />
participants who committed to a romantic partner eight<br />
only did so after they had dated other partners casually. It<br />
was also interesting that 12% of the committed relationships<br />
in the PASS Study did not survive for more than six<br />
months (Figure 1, panel B). <strong>In</strong> sum, based on our experience<br />
we would suggest that researchers interested in the<br />
prospective study of romantic relationship development<br />
during young adulthood consider that only about a quarter<br />
of a given sample may actually form a longer-term<br />
committed relationship during the period of observation.<br />
<strong>In</strong> addition to recruiting large samples, researchers may<br />
want to consider other ways of increasing the chances of<br />
observing the formation of relationships. Speed-dating was<br />
recently discovered as a valuable method for studying<br />
romantic attraction (Finkel, Eastwick, & Matthews, 2007)<br />
and should also be a useful tool in studying relationship<br />
development prospectively. <strong>In</strong> our future research, we plan<br />
to include a subsample of participants in a speed-dating<br />
study and follow them up longitudinally for a year to<br />
increase the chances of observing partner selection<br />
processes. This will further increase the likelihood of<br />
having both dating partners in the sample. While we would<br />
have been interested in the perspective of both dating<br />
partners, we decided that trying to recruit their dating<br />
partners through our PASS Study participants would have<br />
created too much of an interference in these fledgling<br />
relationships.<br />
It’s Now or Never! Online Assessments as a<br />
Way to Ease Data Collection<br />
A second challenge that we faced was to ensure that participants<br />
contact us when they start dating and are able to<br />
complete partner assessments in close succession to going<br />
out on a date. We dealt with this problem by using online<br />
data collection methods. We e-mailed our participants once<br />
a month and asked them to fill out college major assessments.<br />
As part of these e-mails, we included a monthly<br />
reminder for participants to please contact us as soon as<br />
they start dating a potential partner. On the day following<br />
B: Out of those 58 participants who already were<br />
in a committed relationship or had started one . . .<br />
2% unknown<br />
26% committed<br />
to a partner<br />
10% dated<br />
casually<br />
30% unknown<br />
34% did not date/<br />
get past 1st date<br />
71% were still<br />
committed to their<br />
partner at the final<br />
assessment<br />
12% broke<br />
up within<br />
6 months<br />
15% broke<br />
up after over<br />
6 months<br />
Figure 1. Changes in relationship status observed during the PASS Study: Formation (panel A) and termination (panel B) of<br />
relationships.<br />
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the date, participants were instructed to go to our webpage<br />
and log on with an individual user-id and password to<br />
complete a partner diary on five consecutive days. The<br />
diary was followed by weekly online assessments. <strong>In</strong><br />
addition to allowing participants easy access to the questionnaires<br />
at their preferred time (some actually did fill out<br />
assessments at 2 am), the online questionnaires enabled us<br />
to realize an individualized schedule for every participant,<br />
include person-specific information (such as the name of<br />
their dating partners), and include a branching structure in<br />
the assessments so that only questions applicable for this<br />
participant were asked. For instance, our study included<br />
four different partner assessments (diary, weekly and<br />
monthly dating assessments, assessment for committed<br />
relationships) and an online database that contained the<br />
information about which assessment is to be displayed for<br />
each participant at his or her next login. The partner questionnaires<br />
always started by asking whether the participant<br />
is still dating a specific partner. <strong>In</strong> case the participant indicated<br />
the he or she is not dating any longer, the assessment<br />
asked about who terminated the relationship and reasons<br />
for its termination instead of how much the participant<br />
would like to commit to this partner.<br />
We found the online assessments to be a great asset to<br />
our study as they were a fast and convenient method for<br />
participants to provide responses and also saved a lot of<br />
time for data entry and correcting inevitable errors in data<br />
entries. By employing user-ids and passwords, we also<br />
made sure that only our participants had access to questionnaires.<br />
However, the downside to employing online<br />
assessments with this level of sophistication is that their<br />
development requires programming skills that researchers<br />
in psychology usually do not have. We greatly benefited<br />
from having a computer professional available in the<br />
psychology department of the University of Utah who<br />
devoted countless hours to programming our online<br />
assessments. Researchers who do not know how to<br />
program in HTML or use java script (or do not have the<br />
time to do so) would be well advised to recruit the help of<br />
someone with these programming skills before attempting<br />
to conduct a study like the PASS Study. While there are<br />
solutions for conducting online research for people without<br />
programming skills (cf. Reynolds, Woods, & Baker, 2007 for<br />
different ways of conducting online research), we doubt<br />
that it would have been possible to create a questionnaire<br />
and database structure like the one we used with these<br />
applications.<br />
Overall, we highly recommend online assessments for<br />
researchers interested in relationship development, especially<br />
when conducting research with an undergraduate<br />
population who usually have access to a computer at home<br />
and/or at school. While this makes completing assessments<br />
more convenient, however, it is still possible to “miss the<br />
action” when waiting for participants to contact the<br />
research team. Even though we sent monthly e-mail<br />
reminders, we still had a few participants who failed to<br />
notify us of a dating partner before the relationship was<br />
committed. <strong>In</strong> our future research, we plan to include<br />
monthly online assessments asking about all dates of the<br />
past month (even if they did not progress past a first date)<br />
to further reduce the likelihood of participants not reporting<br />
on dating relationships.<br />
You Can’t Have It All: Dealing with<br />
<strong>In</strong>complete Data<br />
Even if data collection is conducted online and puts<br />
minimal demands on participants, it is impossible to avoid<br />
some missed assessments or sample attrition—especially if<br />
measurements are conducted once a month or even more<br />
often throughout a year. Most participants in our study had<br />
missed assessments even if they did not drop out of the<br />
study altogether. People got busy with coursework, were<br />
temporarily out of town, or had trouble with a broken<br />
computer. As a result of missed assessments, the different<br />
timing of participants dating, and different durations of<br />
study participation, the number of partner assessments<br />
available for each participant varies widely (from none to<br />
several diaries, weekly assessments, and monthly assessments<br />
for different partners). This would have created a<br />
problem when analyzing these data before full information<br />
maximum likelihood estimation was implemented in<br />
statistical software (e.g., Mplus, HLM) to analyze incomplete<br />
data without either imputing or dropping missing<br />
observations. Currently it is easy to analyze longitudinal<br />
data with different numbers of observations per participant<br />
and model the exact timing and spacing of repeated observations<br />
(for more details see Collins & Sayer, 2001; McArdle<br />
& Nesselroade, 2003; Singer & Willett, 2003). <strong>In</strong> the PASS<br />
Study, we organize our data so as to represent time before<br />
and after making a decision. We model weekly change until<br />
the decision to either commit to this partner or stop dating<br />
is reached. For committed relationships, we model monthly<br />
change across months since the beginning of the relationship.<br />
Thus, owing to current data analysis options, there is<br />
no need to shy away from designs that will most likely lead<br />
to incomplete data and irregular intervals..<br />
References<br />
Brownstein, A.L. (2003). Biased predecision processing.<br />
Psychological Bulletin, 129, 545–568.<br />
Cate, R.M., & Lloyd, S.A. (1992). Courtship. Newbury Park,<br />
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Collins, L.M., & Sayer, A.G. (Eds.) (2001). New methods for<br />
the analysis of change. Washington, DC: American<br />
Psychological Association.<br />
Finkel, E.J., Eastwick, P.W., & Matthews, J. (2007). Speeddating<br />
as an invaluable tool for studying romantic<br />
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Gottman, J.M. (1994). What predicts divorce? The relationship<br />
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J.A. Schinka & W.F. Velicer (Eds.), Handbook of psychology:<br />
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L.M. (2008). Maybe it is me? How attachment style and<br />
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and commitment. Poster presented at the 9th Annual<br />
Meeting of the Society for Personality and Social<br />
Psychology, Albuquerque, February 7–9, 2008.<br />
Reynolds, R.A., Woods, R., & Baker, J.D. (Eds.) (2007).<br />
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Hershey, PA: Idea Group Reference/IGI Global.<br />
Singer, J.D., & Willett, J.B. (2003). Applied longitudinal data<br />
analysis: Modeling change and event occurrence. New York:<br />
Oxford University Press.<br />
Surra, C.A., Gray, C.R., Cottle, N., & Boettcher, T.M.J.<br />
(2004). Research on mate selection and premarital<br />
relationships: What do we really know? <strong>In</strong> A.L. Vangelisti<br />
(Ed.), Handbook of family communication (pp. 53–82).<br />
Mahwah, NJ: Erlbaum.<br />
Studying the Daily Life of Couples by<br />
Using Mobile Diaries<br />
Kaisa Malinen and Anna Rönkä<br />
Family Research Centre, University of Jyväskylä,<br />
Finland<br />
E-mail: kaisa.malinen@jyu.fi and<br />
anna.ronka@edu.jyu.fi<br />
The Palette study, located in the Family Research Centre at<br />
the University of Jyväskylä, is a research project concentrating<br />
on the everyday life of families with young children. As<br />
an important aspect of family life, the spousal relationship<br />
is studied in the Palette project using methods suitable for<br />
a daily approach. One aim of the project is to develop diary<br />
methods that capture daily family dynamics. Technology<br />
has developed enormously during recent years, offering<br />
researchers several new possibilities for data collection. <strong>In</strong><br />
this article we will demonstrate how we have used mobile<br />
phones as a diary data collection tool in studying daily<br />
family life among Finnish couples.<br />
Daily life of couples<br />
Daily life is one of the new areas of interest in marital and<br />
family research (e.g., Laurenceau & Bolger, 2005). A daily<br />
life approach was put together and named as the Emotion<br />
Transmission Paradigm in Family Research at the end of<br />
the last millennium by Larson and Almeida (1999). <strong>In</strong><br />
marital studies, rather than asking “What are the determinants<br />
of spousal satisfaction?” or “Who will be divorced?”<br />
this new research paradigm sets the following types of<br />
research questions: “What kinds of emotions are triggered<br />
in daily situations between spouses?”, “What are the ‘good,<br />
bad and ugly’ moments for spouses in their everyday life?”<br />
and “Why are there better and worse days and weeks in the<br />
marital relationship?”.<br />
Emotions occupy an important role in research on daily<br />
spousal relationships because they are considered barometers<br />
of daily wellbeing and because of their central role in<br />
families today. Other issues that are commonly studied by<br />
taking a daily approach include the quantity and the<br />
quality of spousal interaction, daily and weekly rhythms,<br />
and daily stressors and coping behaviors. <strong>In</strong> families with<br />
young children, parents divide their time and energy<br />
between many life spheres: children, work, homework,<br />
friends, relatives, hobbies—and the spousal relationship.<br />
Therefore, studies on daily life have focused on time use,<br />
reconciliation in the spousal relationship and working life,<br />
and emotional transmission between different life spheres.<br />
The spousal relationship is a central moderator in this life<br />
palette as it can either facilitate or hinder the quality of<br />
daily life.<br />
A large part of the existing knowledge of the spousal<br />
relationship has been gained through observations and<br />
questionnaires, and time frames of seconds and minutes or<br />
of months and even years have been utilized. As stated by<br />
Larson and Almeida (1999), the study of daily life links<br />
these research traditions together by filling in the missing<br />
time frame of hours and days. Observational studies may<br />
capture the micro aspects of spousal interaction, but the<br />
question of the generalizability of these results to the<br />
natural contexts of couples’ daily lives remains open. On<br />
the other hand, longitudinal studies (or questionnaire<br />
studies in general) may answer questions about the effects<br />
of work stress on spousal satisfaction, but leave open the<br />
question of mechanisms through which these life spheres<br />
interact with each other. Against this background, in the<br />
Palette study diaries were chosen as a tool to examine the<br />
spousal relationship from the viewpoint of everyday life. <strong>In</strong><br />
contrast to observations and questionnaires, diaries permit<br />
the examination of day-to-day events and experiences in<br />
their natural context and enable the effects of retrospection<br />
to be minimized.<br />
Diary method<br />
<strong>In</strong> diary studies, the participants make frequent reports on<br />
the events and experiences of their daily lives. The idea is<br />
to study the phenomenon in question for a limited time<br />
intensively, meaning, for example, several times a day over<br />
the course of a week. The main benefit is to obtain memoryunbiased,<br />
situation-specific information on daily emotions,<br />
interactions and use of time. This kind of approach offers<br />
researchers better possibilities to study causal relations and<br />
rapid changes. The diary method is well suited to marital<br />
research as it enables both members of a relationship to be<br />
studied at the same time, thus allowing their different<br />
voices to be heard.<br />
The wide variety of diary methods available differ in<br />
a number of methodological aspects, such as frequency of<br />
measurement points (ESM, daily diary approach); type of<br />
design (interval-, signal- and event-based); form of diary<br />
questions (e.g., structured, open-ended, daily check-list)<br />
and use of reporting tools (e.g., paper-and-pencil, electronic).<br />
Recently, the diary approach has been intensively<br />
developed (see reviews by Bolger, Davis, & Rafaeli, 2003;<br />
Christensen, Barrett, Bliss-Moreau, Lebo, & Kaschub, 2003;<br />
Scollon, Kim-Pieto, & Diener, 2003). One of the main areas<br />
of development concerns the tools used in diary reporting.<br />
The traditional paper-and-pencil method has been<br />
replaced or at least complemented by a range of new electronic<br />
tools and innovations such as pagers, telephones<br />
and palmtops (for more on the ongoing debate regarding<br />
“paper or plastic” see Green, Rafaeli, Bolger, Shrout, &<br />
Reis, 2006).<br />
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How did we do it? The mobile diary design<br />
in the Palette study<br />
<strong>In</strong> the Family Research Centre we have developed a diary<br />
method for the study of daily family dynamics in which<br />
traditional paper-and-pencil and a new technology, i.e.<br />
mobile phones, are used side by side. We have used and<br />
tested this format in two family studies: the Pilot study in<br />
2003 and the Palette study in 2006.<br />
The purpose of Palette study, funded by the Academy<br />
of Finland, was to shed light on everyday family life in<br />
working families with young children. <strong>In</strong>tensive diary data<br />
covering a one-week time span was collected at the end of<br />
the year 2006. <strong>In</strong> addition, a larger number of parents (n =<br />
204 mothers and 161 fathers in 208 families) filled in questionnaires<br />
concerning, for example, work, parenting styles<br />
and stress, the marital relationship, child well-being and<br />
temperament and day-care. The diary design involved altogether<br />
107 families, each family consisting of parents (or<br />
stepparents) and one target child. The children were all<br />
drawn from municipal day care centres. Diary data were<br />
collected by using three types of diary: a mobile diary, a<br />
paper-and-pencil diary and a child diary. <strong>In</strong> the case of the<br />
paper-and-pencil diary, parents answered in the traditional<br />
manner the diary questions every evening, which were<br />
given in a separate booklet containing a daily check-list,<br />
questions about use of time, and four open-ended questions<br />
concerning both good and challenging situations<br />
within the family. The mobile diary study involved 42<br />
families and included both parents (or stepparents) from<br />
the family.<br />
The design of our mobile diary was a combination of<br />
the interval- and event-based design—the reporting<br />
occurred at specific time periods in accordance with the<br />
participants’ working schedule (more about the mobile<br />
diary method in Rönkä, Malinen, Lämsä, Kinnunen, &<br />
<strong>To</strong>lvanen, 2007). <strong>In</strong> order to be able to study work-family<br />
interaction (e.g., spillover and crossover) in a relatively<br />
small sample we included in our mobile study only the<br />
families in which both parents worked in regular day shifts.<br />
The one-week diary phase began on Monday morning and<br />
ended on the following Sunday evening. The mobile diary<br />
consisted of ten questions concerning mood and interactions<br />
to be answered three times a day in the form of<br />
short text messages (SMSs) using a mobile phone. As both<br />
parents from 42 families kept mobile diaries for seven days<br />
the mobile diary data comprise a total of over 1600 SMSs<br />
(missing answers excluded). The reporting times and<br />
instructions together with the structured diary questions<br />
were given in a diary booklet. The booklet was designed to<br />
be compact in size so that it could be easily carried by the<br />
participants. The participants sent their answers, a list of 10<br />
numbers, by SMSs. On workdays the reporting time was in<br />
the morning before going to work, in the afternoon and in<br />
the evening before going to bed.<br />
As we were using a technically based data collection<br />
tool and the answers were sent directly to the database, we<br />
were able to react immediately to the responses. The<br />
participants were told that the program would not take<br />
delivery of answers that were not sent within the agreed<br />
times. Moreover, there was no possibility to change the<br />
answers afterwards. The diary program involved several<br />
activities that gave feedback about the transmission of<br />
answers and helped the participants to remember to<br />
answer at the fixed times. They got a reminder SMSs every<br />
morning and a feedback message after a successful transmission<br />
or in the case of a mistake (for example, too many<br />
or too few numbers). The costs of using the mobile diary as<br />
a data collection tool consisted of the fee paid to the information<br />
technology firm and the costs of sending text<br />
messages (approximately 21 SMSs per person; max. 10<br />
cents per SMS). As the participants were carrying their own<br />
mobile phones we did not have to invest in any equipment.<br />
Moreover, owing to the fact that the data went directly to<br />
the database, there were no coding costs, and coding errors<br />
were minimized.<br />
What can a mobile diary study reveal about<br />
spousal relationships?<br />
Given that the participants answered the mobile diary three<br />
times a day for one week and that both spouses rated the<br />
aspects of their relationship, there are several alternative<br />
routes by which to analyze the data. <strong>In</strong> this article we will<br />
demonstrate some of the questions that can be answered on<br />
the basis of diary data, focusing in particular on intimacy<br />
in the spousal relationship. The question, “Please rate how<br />
much (mental and physical) intimacy you felt regarding<br />
your spousal relationship during this morning/evening?”<br />
was asked in the mobile diary every morning and evening<br />
during the week.<br />
How do women and men evaluate intimacy<br />
in their relationship? Do spouses share the<br />
same feelings?<br />
Women and men rated intimacy in their spousal relationship<br />
at the same level. The average of all ratings was just<br />
above the middle of the scale from 1 to 7. Feelings of<br />
intimacy were highly reciprocal between the spouses, as the<br />
high between-spouses correlations showed. <strong>In</strong> Larson’s<br />
and Richards’s (1994) words, the realities of spouses were<br />
shared in this aspect.<br />
Does the time of day or the day of the<br />
week make a difference?<br />
Feelings of intimacy were higher during the weekend than<br />
on weekdays. <strong>In</strong> contrast, intimacy did not vary according<br />
to the time of day. The quality of spousal relationships<br />
seemed to rise on the weekend, a time when couples<br />
usually spend more time together and have more free time.<br />
Is there any between-individuals variation?<br />
Do individuals always feel the same way?<br />
Considerable mean level differences were found between<br />
individuals. For some participants the spousal relationship<br />
seemed to offer more feelings of intimacy than it did for<br />
others. On the other hand, feelings of intimacy seemed to<br />
be highly susceptible to changing circumstances, as there<br />
was considerable fluctuation in the momentary intimacy<br />
scores around each individual’s mean level. That is to say,<br />
intimacy in the spousal relationship is not a stable characteristic<br />
of the relationship; instead, feelings of intimacy<br />
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Women<br />
7 =<br />
Very<br />
much<br />
Men<br />
Mon Tues Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun<br />
Morning<br />
Evening<br />
1 =<br />
Not<br />
at all<br />
Mon Tues Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun<br />
Morning<br />
Evening<br />
Figure 1.<br />
Spousal intimacy during the week<br />
within a relationship are in constant flux. Our preliminary<br />
results show that feelings of intimacy as evaluated in a<br />
mobile diary every morning and evening were related, for<br />
example, to the evaluations of daily satisfaction in the<br />
spousal relationship and success in work-family reconciliation<br />
given during the same evening in the paper-andpencil<br />
diary.<br />
<strong>In</strong> addition to spousal relationships, we are currently<br />
analyzing the daily transmission of mood between work<br />
and family using the mobile. We have found, for example,<br />
that among daily work experiences and moods (e.g., happiness,<br />
efficacy, anger) stress is felt at home in a consistent<br />
way among both women and men. Even though parents<br />
were generally relatively happy and relaxed during the<br />
week, tiredness was common, especially in the evening<br />
time.<br />
Mobile diary—A low threshold tool for<br />
participants and researchers<br />
On the basis of our experiences, the diary method is well<br />
suited to gathering information about the spousal relationship,<br />
which is characterized by constant variation in<br />
emotions and tensions in response to the flow of daily life.<br />
As our results show, the feelings of spouses towards each<br />
other vary widely and thus one challenge of the research is<br />
to find the important factors behind this daily fluctuation<br />
and a basis for more permanent evaluations of the relationship.<br />
As both spouses keep diaries at the same time, the<br />
dynamic nature of the spousal relationships can be<br />
captured in a way which is unreachable with many other<br />
methods. The differences in partners’ reports should not be<br />
seen as a sign of unreliability; on the contrary, these distinctions<br />
mirror the multiple voices in families and in spousal<br />
relationships in particular. A further advantage of the diary<br />
method is that the role of memory bias in reporting can be<br />
minimized since reporting occurs close to actual events and<br />
experiences.<br />
We find many extra benefits to be gained from using a<br />
mobile diary to study the spousal relationship. Sending<br />
answers about intimate feelings as SMSs increases the<br />
perception of privacy and anonymity, as it minimizes the<br />
possibility that others will see them. The mobile diary is a<br />
low threshold tool for both participants and researchers<br />
because of its familiarity and inexpensiveness. <strong>In</strong> comparison<br />
to PDAs—which are commonly used as an electronic<br />
diary tool—the mobile phone is easy to handle and no technical<br />
assistance is usually needed. Like other electronic<br />
tools, the mobile diary meets the criterion of preventing<br />
backfilling. Moreover, researchers are able to check whether<br />
the participants have given their answers during the time<br />
range set (for more on backfilling see Piaseccki, Hufford,<br />
Solhan, & Trull, 2007). Reminders can be given either<br />
beforehand or afterwards (if the participant has not given<br />
his/her answer in time).<br />
During the diary week we had only few minor technical<br />
problems, which did not impinge on the research in a<br />
remarkable way. We think that the main reason for the<br />
absence of technical problems is the familiarity of the<br />
mobile phone to the participants. Moreover, because our<br />
diary program was rarely incompatible with the participants’<br />
mobile phones, few families had to be excluded<br />
from our sample. According to our experiences, the main<br />
limitation of the mobile diary method is the fact that owing<br />
to the SMS format the space for answers is limited. Therefore,<br />
the questions used have to be carefully designed. If<br />
more detailed information is needed—as is usually the<br />
case—the mobile diary should be complemented with<br />
other methods, such as the paper-and-pencil diary and the<br />
questionnaire.<br />
References<br />
Bolger, N., Davis, A., & Rafaeli, E. (2003). Diary methods:<br />
Capturing life as it is lived. Annual Review of Psychology,<br />
54, 579–616.<br />
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Kaschub, C. (2003). A Practical guide to experiencesampling<br />
procedures. Journal of Happiness Studies, 4,<br />
53–78.<br />
Green, A.S., Rafaeli, E., Bolger, N., Shrout, P.E., & Reis, H.T.<br />
(2006). Paper or plastic? Data equivalence in paper and<br />
electronic diaries. Psychological Methods, 11, 87–105.<br />
Larson, R.W., & Almeida, D.M. (1999). Emotional transmission<br />
in the daily lives of families: A new paradigm<br />
for studying family process. Journal of Marriage and the<br />
Family, 61, 5–20.<br />
Larson, R., & Richards, M.H. (1994). Divergent realities. The<br />
emotional lives of mothers, fathers, and adolescents. Basic-<br />
Books. A Division of HaperCollinsPublishers.<br />
Laurenceau, J., & Bolger, N. (2005). Using diary methods to<br />
study marital and family processes. Journal of Family<br />
Psychology, 19, 86–97.<br />
Piaseccki, T., Hufford, M.R., Solhan, M., & Trull, T. (2007).<br />
Assessing clients in their natural environments with<br />
electronic diaries: Rationale, benefits, limitations, and<br />
barriers. Psychological Assessment, 19, 25–43.<br />
Rönkä, A., Malinen, K., Lämsä, T., Kinnunen, U., &<br />
<strong>To</strong>lvanen, A. (2007). Capturing daily family dynamics<br />
via text messages: A development of a mobile diary.<br />
Manuscript submitted for publication.<br />
Scollon, C.N., Kim-Prieto, C., & Diener, E. (2003). Experience<br />
sampling: Promises and pitfalls, strengths and<br />
weaknesses. Journal of Happiness Studies, 4, 5–34.<br />
The Family Research Centre<br />
The Family Research Centre is a multidisciplinary research<br />
centre which promotes and coordinates basic and applied<br />
family research and researcher training nationally and<br />
internationally. Currently the FRC is occupied in organizing<br />
the 4 th international congress of the European Society on<br />
Family Relations (ESFR), which will take place 24–27<br />
September 2008 in Jyväskylä, Finland. More information<br />
about the scientific program of the congress, submission of<br />
abstracts and registration are available at: http://www.jyu.fi/<br />
esfr2008<br />
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Notes from The PresidentP<br />
2008—another terrific biennial ISSBD meeting coming up in<br />
Wuerzburg, Germany! Program Chair Wolfgang Schneider and<br />
his colleagues have done an outstanding job of recruiting distinguished<br />
invited speakers and symposia. The submitted program<br />
promises to be equally interesting and important. The results of<br />
the ISSBD election will be announced at the Business Meeting,<br />
along with other significant plans. View the meeting plans<br />
on the conference website: http://www.issbd2008.de/.<br />
The winning 2010 conference bidders will unveil their plans<br />
for the 2010 meeting at the end of the 2008 meeting. Robert<br />
Serpell and his team from Africa submitted a programmatically<br />
and logistically rigorous proposal for the 2010 meeting in<br />
Lusaka, Zambia that impressed the 2010 selection committee.<br />
This will be a new continent for an ISSBD meeting, providing<br />
new opportunities for ISSBD learning and collaborations. Do<br />
not miss this one!<br />
<strong>In</strong>ternational organizations like ISSBD have become more<br />
important than ever. With globalization and many emergent<br />
trends as background, understanding of human development<br />
worldwide is essential for everything from commerce and trade<br />
to war and human suffering to knowing how best to support<br />
positive development for individuals, their families, and<br />
communities. We have a significant opportunity in ISSBD to<br />
surface—through our meetings and our publications—the most<br />
outstanding and important research to inform these applications<br />
as well as to advance developmental science.<br />
For example, for their 2007 Development Report, the World<br />
Bank focused on youth (This report may be accessed at<br />
http://go.worldbank.org/N17EU24T31.). The annual World<br />
Bank development report highlights the most significant issue<br />
for attention in the global development community. This is an<br />
impressive report, whose approach to programs was based on<br />
understanding of transitions in development. While any of us<br />
might have changed an aspect or two of the report, I was<br />
amazed and pleased by the focus on human development and<br />
the overall soundness of the analysis and recommendations.<br />
Although it is challenging to try to influence policy outcomes,<br />
the impact can be enormous.<br />
From the scientific perspective, an example of an important<br />
emergent trend is the cumulative body of findings coming from<br />
brain research, and specifically the more recent hybrids like<br />
social neuroscience (the topic of one of our 2008 ISSBD preconference<br />
workshops.) <strong>In</strong>creasingly findings are identifying the<br />
wholeness of human functioning, supporting the hypotheses<br />
and previous research of some ISSBD members. Social and<br />
environmental factors influence genes and the brain, and the<br />
brain is the grand integrator of effects on human development.<br />
We live in exciting times. We humans are still seriously<br />
flawed in how we capitalize—or not—on our opportunities. We<br />
can only hope that we will improve our capacity to learn from<br />
science and from our history. I look forward to our exchanges in<br />
Wuerzburg!<br />
Anne C. Petersen, President<br />
MAJOR CONFERENCES AND WORKSHOPS OF INTEREST<br />
2008 July 3–6<br />
2 nd <strong>In</strong>ternational Congress on <strong>In</strong>terpersonal Acceptance<br />
and Rejection<br />
Location: Rethymno, Island of Crete, Greece<br />
Website: www.isipar08.org<br />
2009 April 2–4<br />
Society for Research on Child Development Biennial<br />
Meeting (SRCD)<br />
Location: Denver, Colorado, USA<br />
Website: www.srcd.org<br />
2008 July 13–17<br />
20 th Biennial Meeting of the <strong>In</strong>ternational Society for<br />
the Study of Behavioural Development (ISSBD)<br />
Location: Wuerzburg, Germany<br />
Website: www.issbd2008.de<br />
2008 July 20–25<br />
XXIX <strong>In</strong>ternational Congress of Psychology (ICP)<br />
Location: Berlin, Germany<br />
Website: www.icp2008.de<br />
2009 July 7–10<br />
11 th European Congress of Psychology (ECP)<br />
Location: Oslo, Norway<br />
Website: www.ecp2009.no<br />
2009 August 18–22<br />
European Conference on Developmental Psychology<br />
Location: Vilnius, Lithuania<br />
Website: www.esdp2009.com<br />
2008 July 27–31<br />
XIX <strong>In</strong>ternational Congress of the <strong>In</strong>ternational<br />
Association for Cross-Cultural Psychology (IACCP)<br />
Location: Bremen, Germany<br />
Website: www.iaccp.org<br />
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