JONAS GERARD - Rapid River Magazine
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R A P I D R I V E R A R T S & C U L T U R E<br />
southern comfort<br />
A JOURNAL OF SHORT STORIES BY JUDY AUSLEY<br />
40 Years Later<br />
Over 50? Big deal, I say. Over<br />
70? Dear God, who made<br />
the statement life just gets<br />
better? To that I say, Bull!<br />
I know I am not the first<br />
person to say, “it only gets worse.” And<br />
I mean it.<br />
Remember the big dreams we<br />
had, the ones we put on the back<br />
burner and ruled out as unreasonable<br />
at the time? After Robert Kennedy<br />
was killed, I wanted to just leave and<br />
join the Peace Corps. About the time I<br />
would say that to friends, another idea<br />
would come along and off I would go<br />
in another direction.<br />
I often tell folks that I did not<br />
get any respect in my profession as a<br />
reporter until I turned 50. Before this<br />
continues, I need to say in the early<br />
part of the sixties when I started out<br />
in journalism there were very few<br />
women in the profession. We were all<br />
surrounded by cigarette smoking, hard<br />
drinking male reporters. I made $60 a<br />
week, right out of college at my hometown<br />
newspaper in Florida. I always<br />
wondered how much money the male<br />
reporters made then. I still do! It was<br />
not equal, I assure you.<br />
But, in those days none of us<br />
questioned salaries. We took what we<br />
could get and made due. Not to say<br />
things did not change. They did. After<br />
10 years of struggling and partying far<br />
too much, I moved to North Carolina<br />
for a new start.<br />
It was 1971 and I ended up in<br />
Durham, North Carolina. It was not<br />
too long after that, in order to drive<br />
and function we stood for hours in<br />
gasoline lines. Jimmy Carter was<br />
Asheville’s Only Alcohol<br />
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conversation.<br />
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president. A couple of my newspaper<br />
friends from Tampa came through<br />
Durham on their way to Detroit for<br />
big city living and bigger paychecks<br />
each week. Yes, we got paid every<br />
week, not by the month, which was<br />
a good thing because not many of us<br />
stayed in one place very long.<br />
It was the day in news reporting<br />
that some of us would move to<br />
another town or state just to get a $10<br />
raise. That was a time after Vietnam<br />
when things in this country changed<br />
drastically. It was a time of protesting.<br />
Pro Choice, the women’s movement<br />
and the Feminist Movement became<br />
dinner party discussions. I spent many<br />
hours attending rallies and meetings<br />
on the Duke University Campus. It<br />
was all so new, so right and a wonderful<br />
time of life.<br />
I recall the locations where I was<br />
offered jobs in those days: Miami,<br />
West Palm Beach, Winston-Salem.<br />
The list of those early newspapers<br />
goes on, when excitement and high<br />
adrenaline ran in the veins of all of us.<br />
And, I was one who had to have my<br />
fix every day and my addiction to the<br />
news and reporting was ruling my life.<br />
Marriage and children were<br />
not anything I even considered as<br />
remotely possible. Nobody was going<br />
to tie me down in some boring situation<br />
for life. When I had the opportunity<br />
to move to North Carolina, I<br />
grabbed it and I stayed. I did not plan<br />
it that way, but things happen. New<br />
and different people come in and out<br />
of our lives. That does change things<br />
and alters dreams.<br />
Today, 40 years later, here I am<br />
still in the Tar Heel state. I often wonder<br />
especially now, how my life would<br />
have been had I chosen one of those<br />
other jobs and where I would be now!<br />
Some of the dreams I had in<br />
those early years have been altered<br />
drastically, but I still dream. Not of<br />
big newspaper jobs and more money,<br />
but for peace in this turbulent world,<br />
no more wars, and maintaining the life<br />
I created for myself here in Asheville.<br />
I also dream of seeing old<br />
friends from the sixties, some old<br />
lovers and others in a new and much<br />
older way. We are all growing older.<br />
We have to create our own little<br />
Camelot someplace.<br />
My partying days have been gone<br />
for a long time now. I never believed<br />
I would end up living in a “beer<br />
city” and I do not drink. It has been<br />
20 years since that era ended. The<br />
BY JUDY AUSLEY<br />
seriousness of life in Asheville now is<br />
everyone is expected to drink, especially<br />
the new beers being made here.<br />
Granted this is the one business that is<br />
steadily making money in Asheville. It’s<br />
much easier than opening another art<br />
gallery or restaurant.<br />
Owners should take note that<br />
many people in this town do not<br />
choose to drink. The end results of<br />
indulging in too much alcohol in any<br />
form is not one iota different socially<br />
than it ever was. There are people who<br />
drink too much, they get addicted and<br />
horrible things do happen from drinking.<br />
It is not all good cheer, folks!<br />
To say America has changed is<br />
putting it mildly. Seems every single<br />
thing concerning family and just the<br />
simple task of going to buy groceries is<br />
different. We are bombarded with huge<br />
grocery prices, gas prices are rising,<br />
young adults do not think or talk the<br />
way we did. They do not understand<br />
other generations. There is not much<br />
respect for human beings, no manners<br />
in the younger set, not much honesty<br />
in folks and some businesses in town,<br />
no apologies for rude and crude behavior.<br />
Families are divorcing each other<br />
when a family crisis occurs. Disagreements<br />
go unresolved and there is anger<br />
and hatred everywhere.<br />
How did I get off in this? I was<br />
talking about always wanting to volunteer<br />
for the Peace Corps, but I failed to<br />
tell you that recently, I think I would<br />
like to be an evangelist.<br />
A last thought for now, every<br />
one of us including this writer can<br />
reinvent ourselves regardless of being<br />
70 or over. We have to know our own<br />
strength and gained wisdom. Things<br />
may not go the way we planned it, but<br />
we can all handle it. I for one want to<br />
live my “bucket list” now, later may be<br />
too late and I may not remember.<br />
Writer Judy<br />
Ausley has<br />
been a<br />
reporter with<br />
newspapers<br />
in NC for 40<br />
years. She<br />
retired in 2005 and continues to<br />
freelance at her home in Asheville.<br />
She can be contacted by e-mail at<br />
Judyausley@aol.com. If you know a<br />
character in Asheville who has not<br />
had a conventional life, put them in<br />
touch with Judy for an article in this<br />
column, Southern Comfort.<br />
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