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R A P I D R I V E R A R T S & C U L T U R E<br />

southern comfort<br />

A JOURNAL OF SHORT STORIES BY JUDY AUSLEY<br />

40 Years Later<br />

Over 50? Big deal, I say. Over<br />

70? Dear God, who made<br />

the statement life just gets<br />

better? To that I say, Bull!<br />

I know I am not the first<br />

person to say, “it only gets worse.” And<br />

I mean it.<br />

Remember the big dreams we<br />

had, the ones we put on the back<br />

burner and ruled out as unreasonable<br />

at the time? After Robert Kennedy<br />

was killed, I wanted to just leave and<br />

join the Peace Corps. About the time I<br />

would say that to friends, another idea<br />

would come along and off I would go<br />

in another direction.<br />

I often tell folks that I did not<br />

get any respect in my profession as a<br />

reporter until I turned 50. Before this<br />

continues, I need to say in the early<br />

part of the sixties when I started out<br />

in journalism there were very few<br />

women in the profession. We were all<br />

surrounded by cigarette smoking, hard<br />

drinking male reporters. I made $60 a<br />

week, right out of college at my hometown<br />

newspaper in Florida. I always<br />

wondered how much money the male<br />

reporters made then. I still do! It was<br />

not equal, I assure you.<br />

But, in those days none of us<br />

questioned salaries. We took what we<br />

could get and made due. Not to say<br />

things did not change. They did. After<br />

10 years of struggling and partying far<br />

too much, I moved to North Carolina<br />

for a new start.<br />

It was 1971 and I ended up in<br />

Durham, North Carolina. It was not<br />

too long after that, in order to drive<br />

and function we stood for hours in<br />

gasoline lines. Jimmy Carter was<br />

Asheville’s Only Alcohol<br />

Free Bar, Creatures Cafe<br />

Live music, great people, mocktails<br />

and a place to kick back<br />

and relax are all items on the<br />

menu at Creatures Café.<br />

Creatures Café is an alcohol<br />

free venue that offers amazing<br />

espresso, natural drinks and<br />

appetizers, and a comfortable<br />

lounge. Read, surf the Internet,<br />

play games, or enjoy the art of<br />

conversation.<br />

Located downtown at 81 Patton<br />

Avenue. For more information<br />

call (828) 254-3636 or visit www.<br />

creaturescafe.com.<br />

president. A couple of my newspaper<br />

friends from Tampa came through<br />

Durham on their way to Detroit for<br />

big city living and bigger paychecks<br />

each week. Yes, we got paid every<br />

week, not by the month, which was<br />

a good thing because not many of us<br />

stayed in one place very long.<br />

It was the day in news reporting<br />

that some of us would move to<br />

another town or state just to get a $10<br />

raise. That was a time after Vietnam<br />

when things in this country changed<br />

drastically. It was a time of protesting.<br />

Pro Choice, the women’s movement<br />

and the Feminist Movement became<br />

dinner party discussions. I spent many<br />

hours attending rallies and meetings<br />

on the Duke University Campus. It<br />

was all so new, so right and a wonderful<br />

time of life.<br />

I recall the locations where I was<br />

offered jobs in those days: Miami,<br />

West Palm Beach, Winston-Salem.<br />

The list of those early newspapers<br />

goes on, when excitement and high<br />

adrenaline ran in the veins of all of us.<br />

And, I was one who had to have my<br />

fix every day and my addiction to the<br />

news and reporting was ruling my life.<br />

Marriage and children were<br />

not anything I even considered as<br />

remotely possible. Nobody was going<br />

to tie me down in some boring situation<br />

for life. When I had the opportunity<br />

to move to North Carolina, I<br />

grabbed it and I stayed. I did not plan<br />

it that way, but things happen. New<br />

and different people come in and out<br />

of our lives. That does change things<br />

and alters dreams.<br />

Today, 40 years later, here I am<br />

still in the Tar Heel state. I often wonder<br />

especially now, how my life would<br />

have been had I chosen one of those<br />

other jobs and where I would be now!<br />

Some of the dreams I had in<br />

those early years have been altered<br />

drastically, but I still dream. Not of<br />

big newspaper jobs and more money,<br />

but for peace in this turbulent world,<br />

no more wars, and maintaining the life<br />

I created for myself here in Asheville.<br />

I also dream of seeing old<br />

friends from the sixties, some old<br />

lovers and others in a new and much<br />

older way. We are all growing older.<br />

We have to create our own little<br />

Camelot someplace.<br />

My partying days have been gone<br />

for a long time now. I never believed<br />

I would end up living in a “beer<br />

city” and I do not drink. It has been<br />

20 years since that era ended. The<br />

BY JUDY AUSLEY<br />

seriousness of life in Asheville now is<br />

everyone is expected to drink, especially<br />

the new beers being made here.<br />

Granted this is the one business that is<br />

steadily making money in Asheville. It’s<br />

much easier than opening another art<br />

gallery or restaurant.<br />

Owners should take note that<br />

many people in this town do not<br />

choose to drink. The end results of<br />

indulging in too much alcohol in any<br />

form is not one iota different socially<br />

than it ever was. There are people who<br />

drink too much, they get addicted and<br />

horrible things do happen from drinking.<br />

It is not all good cheer, folks!<br />

To say America has changed is<br />

putting it mildly. Seems every single<br />

thing concerning family and just the<br />

simple task of going to buy groceries is<br />

different. We are bombarded with huge<br />

grocery prices, gas prices are rising,<br />

young adults do not think or talk the<br />

way we did. They do not understand<br />

other generations. There is not much<br />

respect for human beings, no manners<br />

in the younger set, not much honesty<br />

in folks and some businesses in town,<br />

no apologies for rude and crude behavior.<br />

Families are divorcing each other<br />

when a family crisis occurs. Disagreements<br />

go unresolved and there is anger<br />

and hatred everywhere.<br />

How did I get off in this? I was<br />

talking about always wanting to volunteer<br />

for the Peace Corps, but I failed to<br />

tell you that recently, I think I would<br />

like to be an evangelist.<br />

A last thought for now, every<br />

one of us including this writer can<br />

reinvent ourselves regardless of being<br />

70 or over. We have to know our own<br />

strength and gained wisdom. Things<br />

may not go the way we planned it, but<br />

we can all handle it. I for one want to<br />

live my “bucket list” now, later may be<br />

too late and I may not remember.<br />

Writer Judy<br />

Ausley has<br />

been a<br />

reporter with<br />

newspapers<br />

in NC for 40<br />

years. She<br />

retired in 2005 and continues to<br />

freelance at her home in Asheville.<br />

She can be contacted by e-mail at<br />

Judyausley@aol.com. If you know a<br />

character in Asheville who has not<br />

had a conventional life, put them in<br />

touch with Judy for an article in this<br />

column, Southern Comfort.<br />

Vol. 14, No. 8 — RAPID RIVER ARTS & CULTURE MAGAZINE — April 2011 13

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