The Blue Book - TARSHI

• to take charge of your life
• to stick to what is important to you
• to not give in to pressure or emotional
blackmail to have sex if and when you are
not feeling ready for it
Having sex is often taken to mean having intercourse
or 'going all the way' or doing 'everything'.
It does not have to mean that at all. Sex is not one
activity- it is a combination of many things. And
sex is not just a physical activity though it may be
expressed in a physical manner. Sex involves feelings, thoughts, beliefs
and values. People who have special needs because of a physical or mental
disability also have sexual feelings. They may have some difficulty in
expressing their sexuality in certain ways but that does not make their sexual
feelings less valid or important. The sexual feelings and expression of
people who are not heterosexual (see page 16) are also as valid as those of
everyone else.
Some of the sexual activities that people engage in:
hold hands fantasise
gaze at someone they love
kiss or smooch
intercourse dance together
masturbate talk
massage each other.........
Sometimes people imagine doing things. It's a bit like day-dreaming. Day-dreams
or imaginings are called fantasies. People fantasise about many things - food,
holidays, clothes, money, and also sex. Fantasies are a way of mentally exploring
and playing with various options and scenarios. It is normal and natural to
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