54-57 dunn_FALL2010.indd - WLS Lifestyles Magazine
54-57 dunn_FALL2010.indd - WLS Lifestyles Magazine
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Obesity is a disease that<br />
causes much (dis)-ease in<br />
one’s life. It seems pretty<br />
common to hear someone<br />
say, “I hope I don’t wake up<br />
one day with cancer,” but I often hear “I hope I don’t wake up<br />
obese again someday.” In order to heal it was necessary to die<br />
to my old way of thinking, my old programming and my old<br />
negative thoughts so that I could celebrate life! When I was<br />
obese I wasn’t dead, but I wasn’t alive, I was merely existing.<br />
When I write articles for the magazine, I generally write<br />
about my experiences with obesity and the healing that has<br />
taken place in my life. This year I celebrated my 40 th birthday,<br />
and yes I realize I am still very young! I also celebrated being 7<br />
years post weight loss surgery.<br />
At the age of 30 I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease<br />
they thought to be a rare form of Lupus. Three months<br />
were spent on bed rest, and it gave ample time to put my life<br />
in perspective. Being 385 pounds and being dependent on<br />
others for even the basics of self-care is enough to humble<br />
anyone, including myself.<br />
Often I lay in the bed during that illness and dreamed of<br />
what life would be like IF I were well, IF I were thin, IF I<br />
were healthy, and IF I were loved. Loving myself never<br />
crossed my mind; instead I continued to search outside for<br />
love and acceptance.<br />
Three years after that diagnosis on September 11, 2003 was<br />
the beginning of a healing process. Going into the operating<br />
room that day to have gastric bypass I vowed to change my<br />
life! I perceived this surgery as a second chance at life, which<br />
I would make the choice to live and no longer merely exist!<br />
As the number on the scale dropped, my thought process<br />
shifted from being afraid of dying from obesity, to the fear of<br />
not succeeding with the actual weight loss, and eventually<br />
the fear of gaining my weight back. My programming was so<br />
negative, I could not imagine being successful at anything,<br />
including living. Finally, I am at a point in my life that I can<br />
admit there were times I not only felt like I was dying,<br />
I wanted to die!<br />
I began to ask myself questions. “How can I move forward?<br />
How can I learn to leave these old ways behind me? Are there<br />
lessons left that I need to learn from this experience? Why am<br />
I so attached to these situations and these feelings?”<br />
When I say I had to die to my old ways, it was exactly that,<br />
a death. I was negating the fact that just because I was physically<br />
dying, I was leaving my old ways behind me. There is a<br />
reason I refer to my surgery date as my re-birthday. I had to<br />
grieve the loss of things in my life such as eating for comfort,<br />
and constantly being negative so that I could experience a<br />
sense of rebirth and live freely in a bright healthy light.<br />
My journey is my own personal path to healing and wellness.<br />
Each of us has our own story, our own unique path that<br />
we are taking. It is a wonderful feeling to embrace yourself<br />
and your journey. I encourage you to find your own path and<br />
experience it daily.<br />
On my journey, I have had the opportunity to hear many<br />
speakers, meet people and meet new friends. Last November<br />
I was at an event in Atlanta and I met Mary Jo Rapini. It was<br />
a refreshing experience, and as soon we met I felt like I had<br />
known her all my life. She spoke from her heart and one of<br />
the things she discussed openly with others and me at this<br />
event, is the parts of obesity that is often quieted. Too often<br />
sexuality and intimacy is a topic that is neglected because it is<br />
just too taboo. Of course, I was experiencing these discussions<br />
with MY therapist in what I perceive as my safe zone in her<br />
office. And I was beginning to realize I am not alone.<br />
I had allowed the parts of me that I consider sacred to be<br />
violated and had spent years trying to punish myself for those<br />
choices. There is certain liberation in being able to acknowledge<br />
this fact, as well as a desire to take responsibility and<br />
move forward.<br />
After reading Mary Jo’s book, Is God Pink? Dying to Heal, I<br />
began to connect the words she wrote about her near death<br />
experience and her experience and relationship with God, to<br />
my own experiences of “dying to my old ways of life.”<br />
Often I find myself reading Heart and Soul with Mary Jo,<br />
found on Maryjorapini.com where she blogs about life experiences<br />
that I relate to in my weight loss journey.<br />
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