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My past was full of commotions, but I don’t regret it. I’ve<br />
learned to accept myself to walk on my own path to<br />
tranquilly. I’ve learned to accept what others have to<br />
say about me and the only time I’m ever looking back is<br />
when I narrate my story. -Bao Xiong<br />
I’ve accepted that I love to eat and I<br />
don’t care what people think.<br />
- Kia Lor<br />
Something I’ve learned to accept is the fact<br />
that I am Hmong. For a long time I’ve fought<br />
it but today it is a very impartment part of<br />
who I am because I feel that it enhances my<br />
experience as a person. It’s the extra-confidence<br />
that I feel because I know I am not<br />
standing only for me; I am standing for my<br />
people. And it’s the extra-drive I have to go<br />
the farthest I can go because I am not only<br />
going of me, I am carrying a whole generation<br />
on my shoulders. I am so proud to be<br />
Hmong. -Mysee Chang<br />
I’ve accept the challenges that<br />
life brings of those we know of<br />
and those we may not know of.<br />
I’m ready for the challenges<br />
and the new adventures.<br />
- Ricki Vang<br />
I have a lot of<br />
scars from my<br />
childhood and<br />
from playing<br />
basketball and<br />
soccer. I have<br />
come to accept<br />
them because I’m<br />
athletic.<br />
- Pahnia Lee
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Fall 2008<br />
Acceptance & Rejection<br />
<strong>Contents</strong><br />
Adult Role Model: Xiong Pao Lee<br />
Page 10<br />
Regulars<br />
Editor Bios Page 2, 27<br />
Editors’ Note Page 4<br />
Letters to the Editors Page 4<br />
Letter from the New Editor-in-Chief Page 5<br />
Knowing Your Hmong: The Purpose of the Soccer Tournament Page 9<br />
Adult Role Model: Xiong Pao Lee Page 10<br />
Review: CHAT’s Arts & Music Festival Page 20<br />
Theme: Acceptance and Rejection<br />
Why Am I Constantly Being Compared to Others Page 12<br />
Deforming Orthopedic Problem Page 13<br />
My Very Special Sister Page 13<br />
Reject 101 Page 14<br />
Rejection Page 14<br />
Accepting Yourself First Page 15<br />
Acceptance Page 15<br />
My Impetus Page 16<br />
Rejecting the Real Me Page 17<br />
To Be or Not to Be a Friend Page 18<br />
Accepting Myself Page 19<br />
Special Election Coverage<br />
2008 Presdiential Candidates: The Vote is Yours Page 6, 9<br />
Why You Should Vote! Page 7<br />
Reads<br />
8 Ways to Lose Someone Who Bugs the Living Out of You Page 8<br />
HAP Scholarships for Hmong Students Page 17<br />
What is an Eating Disorder Page 19<br />
Poems<br />
A Story of a Young Man Page 22<br />
Summer of Lost Love Page 23<br />
I Am Hmong Page 24<br />
Untitled Page 24<br />
Quiz<br />
Are you an ACCEPTOR or a REJECTOR Page 25<br />
Comics<br />
Mai-Mai Page 26<br />
Rock Stars Page 26<br />
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Editor’s Note:<br />
There are many new changes occurring at HmoobTeen magazine. We are welcoming our<br />
new editor-in-chief, Sai Vang and saying goodbye to Mee Xiong, Jonny Vang, and Youa<br />
Vang. We will miss the three of them and their contributions to the magazine. A big thank<br />
you shout out to United Way for their support!<br />
There is also a bit of a change with Editor Lee “Yolei” Yang. As of the end of August, she has<br />
been studying and living in South Korea! Look for articles from Yolei about her experiences<br />
and stories living aboard. We are sure she will have exciting stories to share with everyone.<br />
Email us to let us know what you would like to know about what it’s like to live aboard- especially<br />
in South Korea, and Yolei will be able to answer some of those questions for you!<br />
Acceptance and Rejection is a theme we’ve thought about for a long time. What do they<br />
mean Why do we all go through life rejecting and accepting people or things But most<br />
importantly, it is about accepting who we are as Hmong teens. Sometimes as a Hmong teen it<br />
is difficult to accept who you are when there are no images or positive portrayals of Hmong<br />
or even Asian Americans in the media. We all cope with it but this issue allows us all to hear<br />
the stories about how we all come to deal with our acceptance of who we are and others.<br />
We have also been out and about in the Minnesota community promoting our<br />
magazine at various events. These have been wonderful opportunities for us<br />
to meet and talk to our readers and supporters. We’ve enjoyed meeting<br />
everyone and knowing that you are continuously supporting the voices of<br />
Hmong teens nationwide! We will be at the Hmong Resource Fair in October<br />
and hopefully, at the annual Hmong National Development conference in<br />
Appleton, Wisconsin. We hope to see you there!<br />
-The Editors<br />
Letters to the Editors:<br />
Hi HmoobTeen! If someone writes a poem will you pay them<br />
- Yang Bee, Minnesota.<br />
Yang Bee,<br />
Thank you for being a faithful reader. We do pay for poems,<br />
articles, and artwork published in our magazine. All published work<br />
are paid depending on length and content. - Sai Vang<br />
HmoobTeen Editors<br />
Bao Xiong, Blia Vue, Blong Vang, Jonny Xiong, KaZoua Vang, Kia<br />
Lor, Lee Yolei Yang, Meng Yang, Mysee Chang, Nhia Lee, Panhia<br />
Lee, Pa Yong Xiong, Ricki Vang, Youa Vang<br />
Editor In Chief<br />
Sai Vang<br />
Designs<br />
Kia Lor, Yolei Yang, Ricki Vang, Panhia Lee, Sai Vang<br />
SEND IT IN!<br />
CONTRUBITING WRITERS and ARTISTS<br />
Chong Yang, T. Xiong, Kou Vang, Chimay Hang, Mary Xiong,<br />
Stephanie Moua, Noah Vang, Moua Xiong, Fue Yang, and Kia<br />
Xiong, Suzy Xiong<br />
Log onto www.hmong.org for more details on the following:<br />
We pay for work we publish.<br />
Articles/Photo Essays/Comics: up to $25<br />
Drawings: up to $20<br />
Poems: up to $15<br />
Winter 2008 theme is<br />
Melting Pot<br />
Tell us:<br />
The boundary of what is Hmong and what<br />
is not.<br />
What are Hmong stereotypes<br />
<strong>About</strong> Hmong diversity.<br />
<strong>About</strong> losing our roots.<br />
The new ways of courtship.<br />
Deadline:<br />
October 10, 2008<br />
Send your work in!<br />
Email: Hmoobtm@hmong.org or by mail toHmoobteen,<br />
1075 Aracde Street, St. Paul, MN 55106<br />
Spring 2008 theme is<br />
Crime & Punishment<br />
Tell us:<br />
What acts of injustice have you or people<br />
you know done <br />
What laws do you believe are unfair<br />
Which rules in the Hmong culture are<br />
unfair<br />
What was your worst punishment<br />
Deadline:<br />
February 6, 2009<br />
You must include your name, age, city, state, telephone number and<br />
email where we can reach you--even if you wish to remain anonymous.<br />
All submissions are subject to revision. We may contact authors to work<br />
with authors on revisions.<br />
Submission Requirements:<br />
Art-Must be on unlined paper and MUST NOT be folded.<br />
Writing-Type in MS Word and attach document to your email.<br />
HmoobTeen holds all the rights of works once published. Submissions sent to Hmoob-<br />
Teen becomes HmoobTeen property, is done at the risk of the sender and will not be<br />
returned. Email your work if you can.<br />
HmoobTeen (ISSN 1935-1542) is published 4 times a year: Spring, Summer, Fall and Winter<br />
by Hmong American Partnership. Currently we reach over 20,000 readers per issue.<br />
Our next issue, coming to you Fall 2008, has the theme Acceptance and Rejection.<br />
Subscriptions/Back Issues: 651-495-1526 or hmoobtm@hmong.org<br />
The views expressed in this publication are of the authors and do not represent opinions<br />
or the views of Hmong American Partnership (HAP) or HmoobTeen, their staff, volunteers,<br />
funders or partners.<br />
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Letter From the New Editor-in-Chief<br />
My first week as editor-in-chief has been the easiest transition I<br />
have ever experienced and the most exciting at a new job. I was<br />
able to witness the editors in action as they interviewed elders at<br />
Hmong American Partnership’s Intergenerational Pinic; read the<br />
outpouring of submissions from faithful readers; and reviewed<br />
more and more applications for the new editor positions. Before<br />
coming on board, I knew how amazing this magazine was, but I<br />
am now beginning to realize the wide spread impact it has in the<br />
community. I am very excited to join and be a part of this amazing<br />
team!<br />
Thank you Mee<br />
Xiong, Jonny Xiong,<br />
and Youa Vang!<br />
We will miss you!<br />
I would like to show my greatest apprecitation to my predecessor,<br />
Mee Xiong, who worked tirelessly on HmoobTeen for more<br />
than three years. Her efforts has made HmoobTeen the premiere<br />
magazine for Hmong American youth all over the nation. Thank<br />
you Mee and we wish you the best of luck in all your future endeavors.<br />
As we look forward to the 12th year of HmoobTeen, we must also<br />
say our farewells to Jonny Xiong and Youa Vang. Jonny has been<br />
an editor since 2006. His out-of-the-box thinking and constant<br />
constructive analysis has brought a different voice to the magazine<br />
that has not heard before. Youa has been an editor since<br />
2005. Her creativity has brought us Hmongscopes and the stories<br />
of a girl name Mai. Her voice and perpective will also be missed.<br />
Lastly, expect for HmoobTeen to continue to grow its rich tradition<br />
of being the place where teens can speak and be heard. Send in<br />
your work and send in your letters; we apprecitate<br />
and want to know what you have to say!<br />
Sincerely,<br />
Youa Vang<br />
Sai Vang<br />
Mee Xiong<br />
Jonny Xiong<br />
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SPECIAL ELECTION COVERAGE<br />
2008 Presidential Candidates: The Vote Is Yours<br />
By Jonny Xiong, HmoobTeen Editor, 20, Minneapolis, MN<br />
I’m not usually a person who likes to talk or write about politics to others, unless of course it involves cookies and milk. But in the thoughtfulness<br />
of others, I have decided to fork over my soul in the best interest of the young people. Note: When I began writing this article, people<br />
were stabbing me with their opinions of the better candidate. So to restrain myself from spewing out my own corrupted opinions, I’ll list<br />
down the positive and solid facts of each candidate and issues that should be of concerns for all Hmong teens.<br />
IRAQ<br />
EDUCATION<br />
BARACK OBAMA<br />
Obama believes we must be as careful getting out of<br />
Iraq as we were careless getting in. Immediately upon<br />
taking office, Obama will give his Secretary of Defense<br />
and military commanders a new mission in Iraq: ending<br />
the war. The removal of our troops will be responsible<br />
and phased, directed by military commanders on the<br />
ground and done in consultation with the Iraqi government.<br />
Military experts believe we can safely redeploy<br />
combat brigades from Iraq at a pace of 1 to 2 brigades<br />
a month that would remove them in 16 months. That would<br />
be the summer of 2010 – more than 7 years after the<br />
war began.<br />
Obama will reform No Child Left Behind (NCLB), which<br />
starts by funding the law. Obama believes teachers<br />
should not be forced to spend the academic year preparing<br />
students to fill in bubbles on standardized tests. He<br />
will improve the assessments used to track student progress<br />
to measure readiness for college and the workplace<br />
and improve student learning in a timely, individualized<br />
manner. Obama will also improve NCLB’s accountability<br />
system so that we are supporting schools that need<br />
improvement, rather than punishing them.<br />
The Dropout Crisis: Obama will address the dropout crisis<br />
by passing his legislation to provide funding to school<br />
districts to invest in intervention strategies in middle school<br />
- strategies such as personal academic plans, teaching<br />
teams, parent involvement, mentoring, intensive reading<br />
and math instruction, and extended learning time.<br />
JOHN MCCAIN<br />
McCain believes it is strategically and morally essential<br />
for the United States to support the Government of Iraq<br />
to become capable of governing itself and safeguarding<br />
its people. He strongly disagrees with those who<br />
advocate withdrawing American troops before that has<br />
occurred.<br />
The best way to secure long-term peace and security is<br />
to establish a stable, prosperous, and democratic state<br />
in Iraq that poses no threat to its neighbors and contributes<br />
to the defeat of terrorists. When Iraqi forces can<br />
safeguard their own country, American troops can return<br />
home.<br />
No Child Left Behind has focused our attention on the<br />
realities of how students perform against a common standard.<br />
John McCain believes that we can no longer accept<br />
low standards for some students and high standards for<br />
others. In this age of honest reporting, we finally see what<br />
is happening to students who were previously invisible.<br />
While that is progress all its own, it compels us to seek<br />
and find solutions to the dismal facts before us.<br />
McCain will build on the lessons of NCLB. There should be<br />
an emphasis on standards and accountability. However,<br />
our goal cannot be group averages. Instead, our focus<br />
should be to inspire every child to strive to reach his or<br />
her potential. While NCLB has been invaluable in providing<br />
a clear picture of which schools and students are<br />
struggling, it is only the beginning of education reform.<br />
CONTINUED ON PAGE 9<br />
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SPECIAL ELECTION COVERAGE<br />
Why You Should Vote!<br />
By Blia Vue, HmoobTeen Editor, 17, St. Paul, MN<br />
Are you someone who is interested in government policy or maybe<br />
a person who just wants to make a difference in your own life or<br />
the lives of others If you are this type of person then get out and<br />
vote! Or are you the type who says, “What‘s so great about voting,<br />
when our votes don’t even count” or “One vote doesn’t make<br />
a difference.”<br />
Five reasons why YOU should get out there and VOTE<br />
1. You get to complain about things you dislike.<br />
2. Being able to vote is a privilege that not everyone has.<br />
Let’s look into these different opinions.<br />
Do you know that your one vote won’t<br />
make a difference The honest truth is<br />
that every vote does count! Voting is a<br />
privilege. We live in the United States of<br />
America where many of us don’t even care<br />
about how the country is run anymore.<br />
Have we forgotten how this country is run<br />
We have also forgotten how important it<br />
is as Americans to be heard. Our voices<br />
may be a whisper as an individual, but<br />
once it‘s combined together, it will<br />
become a powerful voice.<br />
Voting is a privilege. Being able to vote<br />
is a privilege that not everyone has the<br />
rights to in other countries. For example,<br />
many young people my age actually die<br />
fighting for the right to vote in developing countries around the<br />
world. They are willing to sacrifice everything and their families by<br />
fighting with blood to be heard. So why aren’t we using the rights<br />
and freedom that we have as a given privilege<br />
We may not have the direct ability to decide who we want to be<br />
governed by because many of us are younger than 18 years old;<br />
but we can let them know the issues we care about. There are also<br />
many youth programs that we all love and look forward to in the<br />
future. Who knows, maybe all of these youth programs will come<br />
to an end if we don’t stand up. So if we still want to see them<br />
happen in the future, it’s best to vote on these issues or advocate<br />
for adults to vote on your behalf. Voting is a powerful action any<br />
individual can do to show they care about today’s problems and<br />
issues.<br />
“Our voices may be a whisper as an<br />
individual, but once it‘s combined<br />
together, it will become a powerful voice.”<br />
Election day is<br />
NOVEMBER 4<br />
3. If you vote, it shows elected officials that you care. Therefore<br />
more money will go to youth programs you want. Make sure your<br />
elected officials all know how important these programs are to<br />
you.<br />
4. Do you like others making decisions for you If not, get out there<br />
and make your own decisions and you decide how you want things<br />
to be.<br />
5. You get to keep a red sticker that says,<br />
“I Voted”. (It’s not just an ordinary sticker, it’s<br />
a sticker that shows you did your job; you<br />
have use your rights properly.)<br />
I VOTED<br />
We vote to show that we care about what is going on in our state,<br />
country and world. We vote to let them know that we are aware<br />
of problems and programs we want. We vote to defend what we<br />
love. We vote because we want to be heard.<br />
Again, voting is an extraordinary privilege and a right that everyone<br />
should have and not everyone is born with it. So why not<br />
make use of it to the fullest We can all make a difference. All<br />
that you have to do is make the decision. So are you in or not You<br />
decide!
8<br />
WAYS TO LOSE SOMEONE WHO<br />
BUGS THE LIVING OUT OF YOU<br />
By Ricki Vang, 16, HmoobTeen Editor, Brooklyn Park, MN<br />
So there are times in our lives where we come across people<br />
who we wish we would of never met. Such as those who<br />
made our lives a bit less livable, those who just make our<br />
Sundays longer than it’s supposed to, and those who just<br />
don’t simply fit in our book of people.<br />
Catching on... Yes, I’m talking about those who we simply<br />
can’t get rid of and somehow they keep on landing right in<br />
front of our door over and over again. No matter how much<br />
we try to ignore them or push them away, somehow it never<br />
seem to work.<br />
So next time when they end up in your door again try some<br />
of these ways to get them off your back for good.<br />
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1. Be honest and tell them about how he/she makes you feel.<br />
Break down and show emotions because when emotions come<br />
into play, the whole subject changes because when feelings get<br />
hurts, oh no, it’s the highest point.<br />
2. Act different when you’re around them. When talking to<br />
them, have a total different personality, views, and thoughts.<br />
3. Bug them. Drive them crazy as they do to you. Make him/<br />
her feel as you feel when they bug you.<br />
4. Talk about a subject that you know they hate talking about.<br />
Bring it up all the time when you guys see one another.<br />
5. Become friends with his/her most disliked person.<br />
6. Figure out his/her deep darkest secret.<br />
7. Invite him/her out to a place where they would never want<br />
to go back to.<br />
8. Trick someone into replacing you as his/her bugging buddy.<br />
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Knowing Your Hmong<br />
The Purpose of the Sport Tournament<br />
By Panhia Lee, HmoobTeen Editor, 16, St.Paul, MN<br />
Have you ever pondered the thought of why there is a sports tournament<br />
every year Sure, most of us think that it’s the same each<br />
year, but what’s its purpose We all go to the tournament to watch<br />
the sports games, shop, and eat without actually knowing the purpose.<br />
I believe that by knowing why this large annual gathering of<br />
Hmong people happens, we will all appreciate the event and the<br />
people who make it possible each and every year more.<br />
The main organizer of the event is Lao Family, a non-profit<br />
mutual assistance association founded in 1977. This organization<br />
has helped a lot of Hmong and Lao families adapt to life in the<br />
United States, particularly in Minnesota, California and Wisconsin.<br />
One of their goals is to guide families to gain access and network<br />
within the mainstream society. They provided supportive services<br />
to the new refugees, mainly in those three states. Since their organization<br />
was founded, they have helped many families, and each<br />
year they hold a tournament to celebrate the coming together of<br />
our people.<br />
In 1980, the first celebration started out with a handful of families<br />
coming together from all over the states, including Canada. The<br />
event was held at the bank of Mississippi river where Harris Island<br />
is right now. At the time, there were very few Hmong families in<br />
the United States and because families were separated after the<br />
Vietnam War. It was the first time that the Hmong families were<br />
able to find peace at this gathering.<br />
As each year approached more and more families settled in the<br />
St. Paul/Minneapolis area, the event was moved to Como Park.<br />
Although some infusion of American culture has been mixed in with<br />
ours, the purpose has remained the same as when it first started<br />
out. So, next year when the time comes again, with your knowledge<br />
now, appreciate and keep on welcoming the new Hmong families.<br />
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ECONOMY<br />
BARACK OBAMA<br />
Obama will increase federal support for research, technology<br />
and innovation for companies and universities so<br />
that American families can lead the world in creating new<br />
advanced jobs and products.<br />
Invest in the Sciences: Barack Obama supports doubling<br />
federal funding for basic research and changing the<br />
posture of our federal government from being one of the<br />
most anti-science administrations in American history to<br />
one that embraces science and technology. This will foster<br />
home-grown innovation, help ensure the competitiveness<br />
of US technology-based businesses, and ensure that 21st<br />
century jobs can and will grow in America.<br />
JOHN MCCAIN<br />
McCain believes that globalization is an opportunity for<br />
American workers today and in the future. Ninety-five<br />
percent of the world’s customers lie outside our borders<br />
and we need to be at the table when the rules for access<br />
to those markets are written. To do so, the U.S. should<br />
engage in multilateral, regional and bilateral efforts to<br />
reduce barriers to trade, level the global playing field<br />
and build effective enforcement of global trading rules.<br />
Export growth is the strongest part of our sluggish<br />
economy, and we should be encouraging the growth of<br />
even more jobs in this sector through more free trade<br />
agreements which give American firms more access to sell<br />
our goods and services abroad.<br />
OTHER ISSUES<br />
Human Rights<br />
National Security<br />
Environment and energy independences<br />
Effort to reduced our national debt<br />
Better and more efficient foreign policy<br />
Healthcare<br />
Immigration<br />
Efficient and better independent energy sources<br />
National security<br />
Healthcare<br />
Climate Change<br />
Immigration<br />
Fighting Crime<br />
Rights to bare arm<br />
HmoobTeen does not endorse either Obama or McCain for president. We are simply providing information taken from the candidates’ websites to increase<br />
awareness and allow individuals to vote based on their own values and opinions. This is not an exhausted list of issues provided by both candidates. For more<br />
information please visit www.BarackObama.com and www.JohnMccain.com.<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 9
Adult Role Model<br />
SUCCESS IS THE END RESULT OF YOUR SELF-KNOWLEDGE<br />
By Mysee Chang, HmoobTeen Editor, 17, Corcoran, MN<br />
Xiongpao Lee is a very active and dedicated community leader. The achievements he’s earned have taught him one<br />
very important lesson: “Success is the end result of your self-knowledge.” Today he is an Intensive Case Manger<br />
for Hmong American Partnership (HAP), Chair of the Board of Directors for the Center for Hmong Arts and Talent<br />
(CHAT) and also the band manager of Watching LeonA.<br />
Xiongpao Lee was born in Nong Khai refugee camp in<br />
Thailand and grew up in Fresno, California when his family<br />
immigrated to the United States. During his senior year<br />
of high school, his father decided to relocate the family<br />
to South Carolina. In 2001, Xiongpao graduated with<br />
a Bachelors degree in Graphic Design and Marketing<br />
from the University of South Carolina Upstate, in Spartanburg,<br />
South Carolina. Two years later he relocated<br />
to Minnesota. His family, a brother and his parents, still<br />
reside in South Carolina. There were many factors that<br />
drew Xiongpao to Minnesota, from organizations like the<br />
Center for Hmong Arts and Talent (CHAT) to the elections<br />
of state Senator Mee Moua and state Representative Cy<br />
Thao, “I was like, that’s where I want to be, that’s where I<br />
want to get involved,” Xiongpao explained. However, if it<br />
weren’t for his brother he wouldn’t have made the decision<br />
to come, “We got into this big argument one day and he<br />
said, ‘if you have all these dreams that you want to pursue<br />
then stop talking about them and go make them come<br />
true, otherwise, you’ll just be dreaming.’ He was right. If I<br />
don’t go and do something, then nothing’s going to happen.”<br />
“If I don’t go and do something, than<br />
nothing’s going to happen.”<br />
And he sure did something. For a 29-year-old man, he’s<br />
accomplished a lot. A few accomplishments that Xiongpao<br />
is proud of are placing third in the Hmong American<br />
New Year Prince Charming Pageant in 2004, awarded<br />
the “Most Influential Person” from Hmong V.I.S.I.O.N (an<br />
organization dedicated to creating social change for the<br />
Hmong community), co-founder of CHAT’s I.C.E. Open Mic,<br />
coordinator of the St. Paul Hmong Men’s Circle program<br />
and currently, he is a member of the Community Advisory Committee that will be guiding the Metropolitan Council in the constructing of<br />
the Central Corridor Light Rail Transit project. “I’m happy that I’ve been able to accomplish a lot but I still think there’s a lot more work<br />
to do,” said Xiongpao.<br />
Xiongpao often accounts the happiness and success he has today to the self-knowledge he’s gained from experiences in the past. In high<br />
school, he participated in the Asian Club and in programs like DARE (Drug Abuse Resistance Education) and AVID (Advancement Via<br />
Individual Determination). His involvement in these programs taught him many important things and he encourages teens to take advantage<br />
of these programs in their high schools, “AVID was really the first program that helped me to see why I needed to go to college. It<br />
really opened up my eyes to see what’s really out there for me and I hope teens can get involved and see it for themselves too.” However,<br />
coming out of high school there was one thing Xiongpao wished he could have changed, “I was so unsatisfied with my involvement<br />
because even though I was there, I really didn’t do much. Yes, I helped but in terms of being a leader and standing up to speak out and<br />
making decisions, [but I felt] I didn’t do much. So going into college, I really wanted to change that.”<br />
10 / HmoobTeen Fall 2008
In college, Xiongpao was more involved<br />
and became a student leader on the<br />
summer Orientation Team, in the Asian<br />
Club and in Student Government. He is<br />
also an alumnus of Pi Kappa Phi fraternity.<br />
His experience with the fraternity<br />
taught him a lot about the brotherhood<br />
in our culture, “I only have one brother<br />
and I don’t have any other siblings so<br />
brotherhood was something I wanted to<br />
explore. The fraternity kind of helped<br />
me to reflect upon our clan system, the<br />
brotherhood between the males in the<br />
Hmong society, and what it means to be<br />
a Hmong man.” Overall his involvements<br />
in high school and college have led him<br />
to believe that what you do in the past<br />
shapes and influences who you are and<br />
what you do in the future, “That’s what I<br />
mean by ‘success is the end result of your<br />
self-knowledge.’ Everyone has their own<br />
definition of success but for me, success is<br />
satisfaction. What everything boils down<br />
to in the end is how happy you are and<br />
for you to be able to achieve that, it all<br />
comes down to knowing yourself or your<br />
‘self-knowledge’: who you want to be,<br />
who you are, and what you can or can’t<br />
do If you can know these things and answer<br />
these questions then it will translate<br />
into your success.”<br />
“I only have one brother<br />
and I don’t have any other<br />
siblings so brotherhood<br />
was something I wanted<br />
to explore. The fraternity<br />
kind of helped me to reflect<br />
upon our clan system, the<br />
brotherhood between the<br />
males in the Hmong society,<br />
and what it means to be a<br />
Hmong man.” -Xiong Pao lee<br />
xiong pao at CHAT’s music festival as a hmong warrior.<br />
In addition to learning more about who you are, Xiongpao’s words of wisdom are to have fun in high school and to be proud of your<br />
culture. “Have fun in high school because it’s the last period of your life that is truly innocent. If you are unhappy or unsatisfied, angry<br />
or upset at certain things, work it out and work through it because after high school it only gets harder. All your issues, all the unhappiness<br />
or happiness, really does translate into your later life. Some grown men and women still have issues from high school that they’ve<br />
never worked out and it’s unfortunate because it holds them back. Lastly, be proud of your Hmong culture. Be proud of your traditions.<br />
Be proud of where you came from and where you are going because it’s a transitional time right now, and we’re defining what’s<br />
Hmong-American as we go. No one else can do it, only us because we are Hmong-Americans.”<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 11
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Why Am I Constantly Being Compared To Others<br />
By Pa Yong Xiong, 17, HmoobTeen Editor, St. Paul, MN<br />
“Why aren’t you as smart as your friend”<br />
“Why aren’t you as helpful as your sister”<br />
You are at the age when your body is changing rapidly. This<br />
includes mentally, physically, and or emotionally. But that is<br />
not all; you are also growing up between two totally different<br />
worlds. Now on top of that, there are small little comments that<br />
just seem to hurt your feelings. These comments can be made<br />
from your parents, friends, or teacher such as “Why aren’t<br />
you as smart as your friend,” or “Why aren’t you as helpful<br />
as your sister” So, why do these comments hurt so badly Because<br />
they hit close to home.<br />
Especially because we are adapting to a different culture,<br />
speaking English as a second language, then, these remarks<br />
and or comments can rise to questions such as, “Am I normal”<br />
Next thing you know, you may be comparing yourself to others<br />
and if they are coping with life better than you. You can<br />
feel that you are not developing normally at all and may feel<br />
insecure.<br />
Comparison comments hurt a lot and sometimes when you are<br />
compared to someone you are close to, the feelings of jealousy<br />
and resentment can be caused. This can really mess up<br />
your relationship with them.<br />
Basically, people compare you to others because they just want<br />
you to feel bad or it’s something they want you to improve on.<br />
So, how do we live with this Well, we cannot choose what<br />
other people can say to us. However, we can choose the way<br />
we handle it. <strong>Us</strong>ually when comparison comments are made,<br />
the person making it may not be aware, but they just want you<br />
to bring the best out of you. Comparisons can be helpful as<br />
well, because it points out your weaker sides. Knowing what<br />
your weaker sides are will motivate you to work on them.<br />
Just remember that if you do not feel comfortable about the<br />
comments made, you can approach them respectfully, whether<br />
it’s your parents, friends, or teacher and explain to them how<br />
the comments make you feel.<br />
TIP:<br />
Never write, talk, instant message, or email anyone you are<br />
mad at; wait until you cool down first to approach them, becasue<br />
you might do things that you might regret later on.<br />
12 / HmoobTeen Fall 2008
Deforming Orthopedic Problem<br />
By Anonymous, 15, St. Paul, MN<br />
As a 15 year old teenager, I love to dance a lot and I love to do<br />
many things. Pretty soon all that is going away for me. In the future<br />
I will be going through back pain and wouldn’t have the strength to<br />
do anything anymore. What I’m going through is a type of deforming<br />
orthopedic problem. It is a potentially progressive condition<br />
that affects children during their active growth phase and essentially<br />
subsides upon completion of spinal growth, leaving the child<br />
with a permanent deformity. Scoliosis can result in cardiopulmonary<br />
complications that can decrease life span. A scoliosis develops<br />
when the spine bends sideways and rotates along its vertical axis.<br />
When you look at someone from behind, the spine curves either<br />
like a “C” or like and an “S.” Scoliosis can be caused by congenital<br />
deformities, neuromuscular diseases and paralysis, but these causes<br />
make up a small percentage of scoliotic curves.<br />
Knowing all this information makes me not knowing what I’m going<br />
to get in the future. I’ve always wanted to be a model, singer, and<br />
dancer but people will know about my back and I don’t want them<br />
to notice it because it is so noticeable. There’s this someone that I<br />
really trust and he knows everything about me. This one time he<br />
called me a “crippled” and it really hurted me, I cried because to<br />
me it wasn’t funny. Deep inside it really hurts. This one time my mom<br />
and I went to go talk to a Hmong doctor and he told us that getting<br />
my spine fix is a really difficult thing. There was a possibility that I<br />
could die from the surgery. I told my friend that one day I wouldn’t<br />
be able to dance anymore but she said I could dance still. I know<br />
for sure that in the future I’m not going to have a career because<br />
no ones gonna want to accept me. I want to be an interior designer<br />
and have a big home for my family, so we wouldn’t have to keep<br />
moving and just stay at one perfect spot. My mom once told me<br />
that she wants me to get married because in the future no one is<br />
gonna want to marry someone like me because I don’t have that<br />
perfect body.<br />
Writing this article makes me want to cry because I wouldn’t be<br />
able to do anything anymore. So right now I’m having all my fun<br />
before everything goes away and dancing was the best thing I’ve<br />
ever enjoyed in life. Scoliosis runs through the family gene but why<br />
does it have to happen me Sometimes I wish I’d be dead because<br />
what’s the point of living when I’m gonna be going through pain.<br />
But now I’ve decided to just live in pain until it is time for me. I want<br />
to have kids that have part of my blood in them but I don’t want<br />
them to be going through what I’m having now. I was once compared<br />
to a Japanese drama movie called “One Liter of Tears,” it<br />
really hurts me but I just pretended to laugh along with them but<br />
really, deep inside I was crying.<br />
Hopefully everyone that has the same problem as I do, doesn’t feel<br />
ashamed of their body and know that they are not the only one<br />
going through this. For me even though I am struggling right now, I<br />
know that I still have the power to find my future and that I have to<br />
keep fighting harder.<br />
My Very Special Sister<br />
Chong Yang, 15, St. Paul, MN<br />
I know that everyone’s had to handle rejection before. Even I have.<br />
Rejection is a hard thing to handle, but one person I know who has<br />
to deal with a lot of rejections is my sister.<br />
My sister is the youngest daughter of eight children. What sets her<br />
apart from the rest of us is that she has a special condition called<br />
cerebral palsy. Cerebral palsy causes her right hand to be weak.<br />
The bones in her right arm aren’t strong enough to support her so<br />
she can’t use her right hand; that’s why she’s left-handed. Cerebral<br />
palsy also causes her to be slower in some areas of school. It may<br />
take her longer to understand something, such as a simple math<br />
problem that you are able to do in five minutes.<br />
Rejection can hit her hard because when she is at school, she sometimes<br />
gets judged because of her arm. She may not have as many<br />
friends as she could have. Not many people talk to her because<br />
they think she’s “special”. Yes, she is very quiet and shy, but just<br />
get to know my sister. Once she is comfortable enough around a<br />
person, they’ll see a different side of her. She has a big and loud<br />
mouth inside of her. She’s not as quiet and shy as she seems.<br />
Living with her may be hard at times, but I don’t mind. Even if living<br />
with her means that I’ll have to put up with her constant blabber<br />
about who hates her and who doesn’t; I guess I have to put up with<br />
it.<br />
Rejection is not the only thing I have learned having her as my sister,<br />
but patience, discipline, and self-acceptance. No matter how hard<br />
it is for her at school, no matter the situation, she still moves forward<br />
everyday. I am so proud having her as my sister.<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 13
Reject 101<br />
By Jonny Xiong, HmoobTeen Editor, 20, Minneapolis, MN<br />
“Accept others for who they are.” Hardly anyone<br />
whom I know personally (most) are less likely<br />
to put their actions before their words. Allow me<br />
to say this before the reader assumes I’m a one<br />
sided person. “If I’m not speaking for all, then the<br />
message speaks for those whom ever you deem<br />
appropriate to point your finger to.” I mean hey,<br />
everyone likes to be right, but of course by being<br />
right, then something must be wrong with that<br />
“other person” correct So that other person<br />
who wears American Eagles, GAP, South Pole,<br />
Dickies, Addidas, and Nikes- who believes in the<br />
Christian faith and the traditional Animism and<br />
who has one parent; not two parents- is someone<br />
whom you think is lower then you, because<br />
he/she doesn’t share, or have a better identity<br />
than you<br />
Everyday we wake up to find ourselves being<br />
questioned about our ideals or our everyday<br />
way of life. “What You don’t believe in God!”<br />
or “You aren’t Hmong because you don’t follow<br />
our traditions!” Countless acts of persuasion and<br />
peer pressure, we are force against our will to<br />
be who we ought to be. But who am I kidding,<br />
without change, what good is trying to be unique<br />
and different Yes, changes are good but why<br />
change by the will of others Are we trying to<br />
appeal more to them Are we trying to fit in, to<br />
be liked, to be the center of attention Probably.<br />
I find myself no different from you, constantly fighting the good<br />
battle to defend what originality is still left inside of me. Yet, I also<br />
want to fit in. Am I fighting to be accepted, or am I fighting to be<br />
myself Ask yourself that question.<br />
Duce Khan & Logo wrote:<br />
“Mom and Pop’s will always yell at me day and night<br />
They ask me why I don’t live a life to suit society<br />
Though it is said nicely, I can hardly hear anything nice<br />
That is why my life is so lost and miserable.”<br />
-A rough translation from Hmong to English from Duce Khan & Logo’s<br />
album: Mloog Zoo Zoo.<br />
Artwork by Suzy Xiong, 15, St. Paul, MN<br />
Rejection<br />
By T. Xiong, 17, St. Paul, MN<br />
What is rejection Do you know anything about it Well everybody’s<br />
been rejected at least once in his or her life. I did and I know a bit<br />
of it because I can’t lie. Rejection is something that will always come<br />
and go.<br />
I remember once I was rejected by a person that I liked in middle<br />
school. Yeah people made fun of it but after a while it became<br />
nothing but just a rejection. When a person gets rejected by someone<br />
they might feel down and embarrassed because of the fact that<br />
they tried so hard just to ask a question or to do something. When<br />
someone gets rejected, what he or she mostly need is confidence to<br />
make it through.<br />
Some people have low confidence so they get really uncomfortable<br />
at a moment when they are very nervous. Has that ever happened<br />
to me Yes, lots of times back then but it happens every now and<br />
then. So I kept telling myself, it’s nothing to be afraid of. Being<br />
strong over rejection is the smartest thing that a person would have<br />
to do.<br />
14 / HmoobTeen Fall 2008
Accepting Yourself First<br />
By Kia Lor, HmoobTeen Editor, 17, St. Paul, MN<br />
“You’re not good enough.”<br />
“You’re too fat.”<br />
“You’re too short.”<br />
“You’re too tall.”<br />
“You’re too this, you’re too that, blah, blah, blah.”<br />
I’m sure all of us have heard these things or something<br />
along the lines before. It’s not just you, it’s not just me, it’s<br />
every single one of us! As much as we try to tell ourselves<br />
it’s nonsense, ‘I know exactly who I am’, and ‘I don’t care<br />
what others think of me”, there’s always something at<br />
the back of our minds having second thoughts about<br />
what others say about us. People are always saying things<br />
about other people. Oh come on, you’d be lying to no<br />
one other than yourself if you think you don’t say things<br />
Theme<br />
about others. People love to put other people down to<br />
make themselves feel better about who they are.<br />
But as I’m getting older I’m realizing that what others say<br />
to me will only hurt me if I let them. You have to accept<br />
the good within you as well as your flaws. Accept the fact<br />
that you’re YOU. Accept the fact that you have meat on<br />
your skin, that there are pimples on your face, that both<br />
your eye brows are not the same arc, and that you have<br />
good and bad sides to your personality. Accept the fact<br />
that you slam the door when you’re mad, that you snore<br />
when you sleep, that you get straight C’s on your report<br />
card, and that you sometimes procrastinate.<br />
Just accept all the gift that is in you. Once you’ve accepted<br />
yourself for who you are you’ll feel way better about<br />
yourself. You’ll feel confident about who you are and<br />
what you do. You’ll feel alive and happy. Trust me, I’ve<br />
been there done that, I know what I’m talking about. Your<br />
imperfections that make you unique. Just accept yourself<br />
for who are, then others will accept you as who you are.<br />
Acceptance<br />
Kou Vang, 15, St. Paul, MN<br />
I have accepted a lot of different types of people in my life other than just those from my culture. This includes people of all kinds of<br />
ethnicities, such as, African American, Vietnamese, and Caucasian students as my friends.<br />
First, I have been friends with African American students since I was little. I have accepted being friends with them. We have had fun<br />
together and talked. I was about eight years old at the time when I made my first African American friend and he was also eight years<br />
old. We met while attending Maxfield Elementary School together.<br />
Next, I have accepted Vietnamese students as my friends as well.<br />
We have had ELL classes together and as a group, learned more<br />
about the English language. We played together and talked to each<br />
other. I made my first friend that was Vietnamese when I was eight<br />
years old while attending Maxfield Elementary School.<br />
Finally, I have accepted many Caucasian<br />
students as my friends. Sometimes, we played<br />
rough and did crazy things like pushing and<br />
shoving. We talked to each other and did<br />
projects together. We even had Special<br />
Education classes together. I made my first<br />
Caucasian friend when I was 14 years old<br />
while attending Hope Community Academy.<br />
As you can see, through my life, I have accepted<br />
people from all different ethnicities as<br />
my friends. My life is better because I got to<br />
know about the different cultures and I have<br />
been friends with them.<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 15
Throughout life we all get categorized from the way<br />
we look, act, dress, and so on. In the Hmong community,<br />
some of our elders tend to reject some of our<br />
very own passion, whether it’s music, art, or fashion.<br />
I realized this as I endured moments of my personal<br />
experience.<br />
My Impetus<br />
By Bao Xiong, HmoobTeen Editor, 16, St. Paul, MN<br />
As a hip hop artist, I’ve been rejected from my parents due to the fact that<br />
hip hop is labeled as from the streets to our loud banging speakers. When<br />
my parents first found out that I wanted to be a rapper they were fine with<br />
it until I became sturdily ambitious. It all started when I got in to a hip hop/<br />
poetry program that was held every Thursdays. My parents were my only<br />
ride to and from the program. Later on, I got swept like dirt because they<br />
disapprovingly said, “Hip hop was too gangsta” or that it’s for gangstas and<br />
black people and it is of no use in my life. My parents stopped taking me to<br />
my program so my mentor started taking me and that’s when he advised me<br />
to ignore it. Basically he enlightened me to keep doing what I like and not<br />
let anyone put me down because if I do, I won’t be able to attain my goals.<br />
I took his words to the heart and became a stronger outcast. I stayed in the<br />
program till it ended and it was worth the struggles.<br />
Through my little journey I have always remained positive. I remember the<br />
times I tried telling my mother that rap was not all about being bad. I would<br />
explain to her how I’d want to synthesize my rap in relation to the Hmong<br />
cultures in the future. Soon enough, my mother was there to support me and<br />
my dreams. I guess my persuasion changed her mind. Happily, she talked it<br />
out with my father and they bought me recording equipments. They finally<br />
accepted my love of hip hop because I was strong enough to hold every ominous<br />
doubt on my shoulders. It did take a while to earn their support and it<br />
certainly wasn’t easy. Truthfully, we all know that some of our Hmong elders<br />
do not understand what we like to do and they<br />
My parents<br />
said to me,<br />
“Hip hop<br />
was too<br />
gangsta;<br />
or that it’s<br />
for gangstas<br />
and<br />
black people<br />
and it<br />
is no use in<br />
my life.”<br />
Bao performing at CHAT’s<br />
Arts and Music Festival on<br />
8/16/2008.<br />
have a hard time accepting it, especially when we have<br />
adapted in the American life. Our elders do not look<br />
beyond it. They only complain about what they see, but<br />
I believe soon their perspectives will change and they<br />
will become our advocates.<br />
At the end, I want all my outcasts to feel my battle<br />
through this ride and believe in themselves. But I must<br />
say, don’t overly abuse your prospects. If you’re lucky<br />
enough, you’ll exceed even farther or else just right<br />
where you want. I believe behind every artist, there’s<br />
history and behind every history, there’s a reason. You,<br />
yourself is your own impetus.<br />
16 / HmoobTeen Fall 2008
Rejecting The Real Me<br />
by Chimay Hang, 13, Anoka, MN<br />
Turning 13 was like any other age. To it was just becoming<br />
older but also having new opportunities; a<br />
new school with new beginnings and more changes to<br />
take in. But as my 7th grade year rolled on I changed<br />
into someone else. A different face, a different shadow<br />
and a different reflection. I just stopped believing<br />
in myself. Even if no one knew the real me. I sure did,<br />
or so I thought.<br />
Middle school is like a competition. We are trying to<br />
fit in by wearing all the latest styles and having this<br />
and that. It just seemed like a lot of effort to put into.<br />
I never really understood why doing all this, was important<br />
to the human eye. Well at least that’s what I<br />
thought. Sure there were perks, but wouldn’t you think<br />
that being you was enough<br />
I thought if people saw me “different”, it would make<br />
me seem more interesting than just a regular girl.<br />
Maybe I just didn’t’ understand what I had to offer. I<br />
had never even noticed that I had changed from the<br />
inside out. Well more like outside in.<br />
When my step-father would pick me up after school,<br />
whether it being because of student council or a soccer<br />
game, everyone stared at me, because he was<br />
of a different ethnicity. I was afraid of what people<br />
would say to me, “a Hmong girl with a white dad”<br />
People said thing that had hurt a lot too and I let it<br />
get to me. I cared too much of what other people<br />
said when I should have cared about what I had to<br />
say.<br />
I was embarrassed by who I was. As I started to realize<br />
that being me is something unique. I finally didn’t<br />
care what people said about me. I understood that if<br />
I knew who I was, they would know the real me. They<br />
can judge me by what they see, but they’ll never really<br />
know.<br />
I rejected myself and lost a lot by doing so. I lost<br />
some great friends. I lost who I really was and I lost<br />
trust in me. Now, I’m accepting what life has to give<br />
and take, what my mistakes can teach me and where<br />
each road takes me.<br />
I’m still searching for good changes to make, but I<br />
have a lifetime to do so. So far now I like who I am. I<br />
like what life has given me so far. And I know there is<br />
more to come, no matter how far you wander away<br />
from yourself. The voices in your heart will lead you<br />
right back to the real you.<br />
Announces<br />
Scholarships for Hmong<br />
Students<br />
The Hmong American Partnership Educational Endowment<br />
will provide two types of scholarships this<br />
year:<br />
1) Leadership scholarships for seniors graduating from<br />
high school in 2008 that have demonstrated leadership<br />
and scholastic excellence.<br />
2) Non-Traditional Student scholarships for students<br />
who have demonstrated leadership potential and scholastic<br />
excellence. “Non-traditional” is defined as more<br />
than 22 years old, married, OR a single parent. Students<br />
in technical, occupational, and apprenticeship<br />
programs are especially encouraged to apply.<br />
Applicants must:<br />
• be Hmong,<br />
• reside in Minnesota, and<br />
• demonstrate financial need.<br />
Hmong American Partnership employees are ineligible for these<br />
scholarships.<br />
For more information about application packages, the<br />
scholarship awards, or Hmong American Partnership,<br />
please visit www.hmong.org or contact MaiKia Vang<br />
at (651) 495-1529 or maikiav@hmong.org.<br />
Applications must be postmarked by October<br />
17, 2008, or hand delivered to 1075<br />
Arcade Street, St. Paul, MN 55106 by 5:00<br />
p.m. on October 17, 2008. Awards will be<br />
made in December 2008.<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 17
Did you know. . .<br />
To Be Or Not To Be A Friend<br />
By Ka Zoua Vang, Hmoobteen Editor, 16, St. Paul, MN<br />
Every friendship you build will leave an imprint in your life. There will be some friends who you will quarrel<br />
and disagree with more often; meanwhile there will be some friends who will understand and are<br />
closer to you. Your friends and the peers you are around with will shape your character and who you<br />
are. For that reason, it’s up to you to choose the kinds of friends you want to have. Here are a few tips<br />
on how to make healthy decisions in choosing friends.<br />
Look for friends who:<br />
• Act as positive role models and help guide you.<br />
• Are supportive and encouraging.<br />
• Do not tease or depreciate of you.<br />
• Share and talk to you openly about any disagreements.<br />
• Apologize to you when they’ve hurt you.<br />
• Respect your opinions and accept your differences.<br />
• Encourage an equal balance in sharing and giving in a relationship.<br />
• Make positive choices and want the best for you.<br />
• Stay away from harmful, destructive or negative activities.<br />
Stay away from peers who:<br />
• Do drugs or pressure you to do drugs.<br />
• Tell you to be like them before they can accept you.<br />
• Bully you or pressure you to do things you know are wrong.<br />
• Participate in harmful or negative activities.<br />
• Make you feel insecure or unsafe.<br />
• Discriminate or disrespect you.<br />
“Who finds a<br />
faithful friend<br />
finds a treasure.”<br />
– Jewish saying<br />
If you ever find yourself in an unhealthy relationship, realize it and find ways to stay out of it. Here<br />
are a few ways to deal with negative peer pressure:<br />
• Tell them “no” and walk away.<br />
• Make up an excuse.<br />
• <strong>Us</strong>e humor or reverse the pressure.<br />
• Keep telling them you don’t approve of it and to leave you alone.<br />
• Find friends who have the same values as you, to back you up.<br />
• Talk to someone you trust (maybe a parent or teacher) about the situation.<br />
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Accepting Myself<br />
By Anonymous, 14, St. Paul, MN<br />
Theme<br />
I have never been the skinny girl and I am still not the skinny one. Ever since sixth grade, I have been in a battle against myself. All I<br />
wanted was to just be skinny, just like everyone else. I would scold myself for eating, or being “too fat”. Sometimes I look at myself in<br />
the mirror and sneer at the reflection because I thought that I looked hideous. Most of my friends were skinny, so whenever I see them, I<br />
would immediately compare myself to them and say to myself, “Look at them. They’re so skinny and look at me!”<br />
One summer, it got pretty serious and I almost stopped eating altogether. That<br />
was how desperate I was to lose weight. I would hide in my room to stop the<br />
urge to eat food. I was afraid that if I ate, then I would overeat and get fat.<br />
That summer, I lost 20 pounds. But still, I wasn’t satisfied. I wanted to lose more<br />
weight. I dropped five more pounds.<br />
This battle is still going on and I don’t know how much longer I will have to fight,<br />
but I am not giving up. I am slowly learning to accept myself and say, “So what<br />
if I am bigger than her So what I am me and no one else can be me. I will<br />
have to learn to love myself before others can love me.”<br />
For everyone else out there, I want to say that I know it’s hard. I know that everyone<br />
wants to be skinny but that doesn’t mean that you should starve yourself.<br />
Please don’t. Once I did that and I didn’t understand how it affected the people<br />
around me. But now I do. I got to be on the other side and experience the pain,<br />
hurt and worry for the person who isn’t eating. You feel so helpless and so<br />
angry that they’re doing this. I am not saying that you should constantly eat nor<br />
am I saying go starve yourself. No, I am saying accept yourself for who you are<br />
and live your life, being you. It doesn’t matter if you’re one or two or even three<br />
sizes bigger than your friends. No, all that matters is that you love yourself for<br />
WHO YOU ARE. Live your life and love yourself.<br />
What is an Eating Disorder<br />
Eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating disorder include<br />
extreme emotions, attitudes, and behaviors surrounding weight and food issues.<br />
Artwork by Mary Xiong, 14, St. Paul, MN<br />
ANOREXIA NERVOSA is characterized by self-starvation and<br />
excessive weight loss.<br />
Symptoms include:<br />
• Refusal to maintain body weight at or above a minimally normal<br />
weight for height, body type, age, and activity level<br />
• Intense fear of weight gain or being “fat”<br />
• Feeling “fat” or overweight despite dramatic weight loss<br />
• Loss of menstrual periods<br />
• Extreme concern with body weight and shape<br />
BULIMIA NERVOSA is characterized by a secretive cycle of binge<br />
eating followed by purging. Bulimia includes eating large amounts<br />
of food--more than most people would eat in one meal--in short<br />
periods of time, then getting rid of the food and calories through<br />
vomiting, laxative abuse, or over-exercising.<br />
Symptoms include:<br />
• Repeated episodes of bingeing and purging<br />
• Feeling out of control during a binge and eating beyond the point<br />
of comfortable fullness<br />
• Purging after a binge, (typically by self-induced vomiting, abuse<br />
of laxatives, diet pills and/or diuretics, excessive exercise, or fasting)<br />
• Frequent dieting<br />
BINGE EATING DISORDER (also known as COMPULSIVE<br />
OVEREATING) is characterized primarily by periods of<br />
uncontrolled, impulsive, or continuous eating beyond the point<br />
of feeling comfortably full. While there is no purging, there<br />
may be sporadic fasts or repetitive diets and often feelings<br />
of shame or self-hatred after a binge. People who overeat<br />
compulsively may struggle with anxiety, depression, and loneliness,<br />
which can contribute to their unhealthy episodes of binge<br />
eating. Body weight may vary from normal to mild, moderate,<br />
or severe obesity.<br />
OTHER EATING DISORDERS can include some combination of<br />
the signs and symptoms of anorexia, bulimia, and/or binge<br />
eating disorder. While these behaviors may not be clinically<br />
considered a full syndrome eating disorder, they can still be<br />
physically dangerous and emotionally draining. All eating<br />
disorders require professional help.<br />
Seeking Help, Referrals, or Answers<br />
Call Toll Free 1-800-931-2237<br />
Information and resources are provided by the National Eating<br />
Disorders Association. www.NationalEatingDisorders.org.<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 19
Review<br />
Center for Hmong Arts and Talents’<br />
7th Annual<br />
Arts & Music Festival<br />
By Bao Xiong, 16, Hmoobteen Editor, St. Paul, MN and Panhia Lee,<br />
16, Hmoobteen Editor, St. Paul, MN<br />
CHAT’s 7th annual Hmong Arts and Music Festival was held on August<br />
16th, 2008 at the Western Sculpture Park in St. Paul, Minnesota. It<br />
was amazingly successful event. There were music, portraits, cake<br />
designers, food, fashion, spoken word, games and performances.<br />
Everyone learned a little history about contemporary Hmong culture<br />
at the festival.<br />
Kao Lee Thao<br />
and paintings<br />
The festival started out with the Hmongland parade walking<br />
throughout the park. CHAT’s Art Saves <strong>Us</strong> puppet making class<br />
made two puppets for the parade; a boy and a girl both wearing<br />
Hmong clothes. Many models, students and volunteers wore traditional<br />
clothes as they marched behind in celebration.<br />
The most unique part about this years’ theme was the different interpretations<br />
of the flags in the center of the park. Each different<br />
flag represented a person’s definition of Hmongland; this year’s<br />
theme. The flags were not the only interpretation of Hmongland,<br />
there were several paintings by artists that came and showed their<br />
work. The competitors at the Cakes by Fhoua competition also made<br />
sure that all cakes followed the festival’s theme to participate.<br />
CHAT had performances throughout the day. Some of the performers<br />
were Bao Xiong and Gina Her, singing and rapping about how<br />
we should learn how to love ourselves. Popper Razi performed and<br />
stole many of sighs of admiration from the crowd. Qaib Dib Qeej<br />
performed with lots of cool flips along with a traditional qeej performance<br />
and Post Nomadic Syndrome performed with wonderful<br />
lyrics about being equal and social justice. There were a number<br />
of other musical artists that performed throughout the day on two<br />
stages.<br />
This year’s festival held the third annual InSession singer/song writer<br />
competition. The competition was created to help find emerging<br />
artists and musicians by helping them to create original music and<br />
to broaden their horizon as a musician. The five finalists this year<br />
are Sarah Yang, Tou M. Yang, Thomas Yang, Briana Heu, and Yer<br />
Vang. Before the competition started Tousue Vang, last year’s winner,<br />
performed with his band called A Day Forward. At the end<br />
of the competition, the judges; Oskar Ly, Tousue Vang, Danny Her<br />
and Alex Lubet announced that Sarah Yang is the winner of 2008’s<br />
InSession competition!<br />
We thank CHAT for holding this annual event. We had a wonderful<br />
opportunity meeting our readers was well and hope to see you guys<br />
there next year!<br />
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Artworks<br />
Cakes By Fhoua<br />
Child’s Hart<br />
Fresh Tradition<br />
Hmongland Flags<br />
Collaborative work by<br />
Lisxeem Lis and Dr. Txhiaj Lis<br />
Comedian Sai Vang<br />
and Mai Lor Lee<br />
Group performances<br />
These are just some of the<br />
MANY artists that were<br />
there. Make sure that you<br />
are there next year!<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 21
Poems<br />
A Story of a Young Man<br />
By Nhia Lee, HmoobTeen Editor, 17, Minneapolis, MN<br />
There was this kid who use to reject himself from yesterday through the rainy days of sorrow.<br />
You either accept him for who he is today or whom he’ll become tomorrow.<br />
He always wish he had a second option and a new life to borrow.<br />
He would reject his past crimes that he never wanted to follow.<br />
He would reject the scar on his head and the past drugs he had to swallow.<br />
But since he woke up from a miracle, life remains hollow.<br />
He was noticed as brain damage throughout his future introductions.<br />
It’s a miracle that he’s speaking and breathing after the concussion.<br />
He would always talk to God and have his own little discussions.<br />
He tried hard everyday to flow through the fires, wires, and conduction.<br />
It’s a miracle that he survived through these past corruptions.<br />
He was a broke-down wall being put back up on reconstruction.<br />
He walked through the rainy days as if there was nothing to mention.<br />
He talks through the microphone for himself and his people without wanting attention.<br />
All he really wanted to do is prove the world wrong and gain redemption.<br />
Even if his past life was torn.<br />
He continues staring at the cloudy skies wondering why God created storms.<br />
He looks and see his reflection of an angel with wings and a devil’s horn.<br />
He became stronger every single day with these wings he worn.<br />
Ever since the day he walked out of the hospital, he became reborn.<br />
From yesterday to today, he noticed his character went through a huge transformation.<br />
He noticed all the food in the world that couldn’t overeat starvation.<br />
All the people who hated and loved him became part of his motivation.<br />
His grandmother who rest in peace became an inspiration.<br />
The dreams and goals ahead of him became a dedication<br />
He runs away from the past but today he faces his hesitations.<br />
He hid the words but today it’s been brought out through anticipation.<br />
Even though some days remain a struggle.<br />
He put the world on his shoulder and accepted his future and his past scars.<br />
He wakes up in a middle of a highway walking past these upcoming cars and started to walk far.<br />
He started to fly out to reach his dreams even if it was to reach mars.<br />
Many people told him the skies the limit, I guess someday he’ll reach a star.<br />
He leads the path through what he believes and work his way up indeed.<br />
He used to walk on his knees and now he’s flowing with the air he breaths.<br />
Others might think this kid is negative by the way his style greets.<br />
He keeps a positive mind through what he needs to achieved.<br />
He pushes through the weights and found a way to succeed.<br />
This kid isn’t the best but he’s trying his best to stay mindfully free.<br />
This Hmong teen in the story can relate to you, because he relates to me.<br />
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Summer of<br />
Lost Love<br />
By Kani Yang, St. Paul, MN<br />
Even though the sun is glowing in this late evening of May.<br />
The sky appears darker each passing day.<br />
I have been sitting here and waiting,<br />
twirling my dark hair around my fingers and sitting beside the deck.<br />
Couples passed by, hand in hand;<br />
however, I was smiling happily more than anyone.<br />
I have sought for something special,<br />
but found and lost it.<br />
The thunder has been roaring ferociously,<br />
Ares has been in a tantrum, I suppose.<br />
I have waited each passing day,<br />
and you were nowhere in sight.<br />
Maybe if I cook your favorite dish,<br />
you may return to my side in the flick of an eye.<br />
Impossible it may be,<br />
But any possibility is good enough for me.<br />
The scent of wind has changed.<br />
It seems unfamiliar and sad.<br />
I see myself in the mirror,<br />
young, I may be, but old at heart.<br />
Remember those days we used to laugh innocently<br />
Will such a memory disappear<br />
I feel I want to forget what cannot be forgotten,<br />
but we, humans, can be unforgetful creatures.<br />
Let’s just say it was a summer of lost love.<br />
A summer in which the breeze once stopped in time to play<br />
with the leaves dangling on the trees.<br />
But as it is a breeze,<br />
it must continue its journey.<br />
As for the leaves,<br />
it falls off and flows gently somewhere anew.<br />
Leaves rot and leave its remains,<br />
just as memories of a summer of lost love.<br />
Memories are as light as a feather,<br />
but ones heart is as hard as a stone.<br />
You were once thought to be the key to unlock my heart.<br />
But now, I am searching for a new key.<br />
Summer is fading as if in it was just a distant dream,<br />
yet it will always be precious to me.<br />
Precious- what a funny word.<br />
Even though the sun is setting down in this evening of May.<br />
The sky seem brighter on my side of the world.<br />
The ferocious thunder has stopped.<br />
Aphrodite has been spreading joy, I suppose.<br />
The scent of wind has changed again.<br />
It seems familiar and carefree.<br />
A new year has begun,<br />
a new breeze has come to play with the leaves dangling on the trees.<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 23
Poems<br />
I Am Hmong<br />
ByStephanie Moua, 18, Lakeville, MN<br />
Our roots lie deep down in the rich soil of the Laotian hills. Where our soul was once with the spirits<br />
of the Earth. As we create quiet villages among whispering brooks and our suffering had made us<br />
strong. Then came the war like the distant thunder, we awoke to the sounds of crying. Our babies,<br />
our wives, and ourselves. A furious band of angry men tore down our villages, raped our women<br />
and killed our children. We desperately departed our loving roots, escaping into the night and<br />
into the jungles. Where there was starvation and brutality. The Mekong River swallowed our loved<br />
ones. Babies could not cry or they would die. From here, our roots dangling weakly behind us. We<br />
stumbled and fell and fought our way out. We waited and waited for our destiny.<br />
One day, lots of giant metal birds came gliding into our lives and loaded our people into the cloudy<br />
skies. As we are weeping, we climbed out of our world into your world, we felt more pain than ever.<br />
Our culture, our life, our home was all destroyed. We hesitated to speak, we tried to relate, but our<br />
children now grow their roots in a foreign soil. Yet we cannot shake the Laotian soil from our feet.<br />
With new ways and new traditions, yet our soul still return to the Laos of our birth. For I am one of<br />
those children who grew their roots in foreign soil. I am Hmong.<br />
Untitled<br />
By Noah Vang, Appleton, MN<br />
Artwork by Moua Xiong, 16, St. Paul, MN<br />
some say da youth is gone<br />
and there’s no hope for da future<br />
I say you’re wrong<br />
it’s deep in da skin<br />
like da sun in da sky<br />
and what’s gone<br />
is nearly polishing da eye<br />
and I refuse to lose<br />
feed in<br />
and listen<br />
to give in<br />
and give up hope<br />
cause truth is<br />
when you give up hope<br />
you fail to exist<br />
and everything you know<br />
and I know it’s hard<br />
but I believe<br />
da harder da struggle<br />
da harder da blood<br />
and it seems everything’s lost<br />
and taking<br />
and it’s in our hearts<br />
to accept da truth<br />
nothing’s gone<br />
cause it lies in you<br />
brew da truth<br />
and nurture<br />
and represent<br />
love who you are<br />
yellow genuine carved,<br />
hmong<br />
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Are you an ACCEPTOR<br />
Or a REJECTOR<br />
Quiz<br />
Hey everyone, are you all ready for an exciting quiz Okay, okay maybe not exciting but FUN survey. Please take a few minute to answer<br />
these questions and see how you do.<br />
By Blia Vue, HmoobTeen Editor, 17, St. Paul, MN<br />
1) It’s the first day of school, and you are eagerly looking forward to it.<br />
Just then, as you were walking into your English class, you see your three<br />
years long crush entering the same classroom. It’s such a coincidence<br />
that you get to sit behind him/her too. What would you do next<br />
A. Tap him/her on the back to get his/her attention and start a<br />
conversation.<br />
B. Talk loudly to your other friends, hoping that he’ll/she’ll<br />
notice you.<br />
C. Sit still, and just keep on staring and admiring his/her<br />
beautiful back.<br />
2) You just took a hard test yesterday and today you get to see your results.<br />
You’re nervous and scared at the same time because you’ve stay up<br />
all night talking on the phone with your boyfriend/girlfriend till 3 a.m.<br />
and didn’t have enough time to study and sleep. You get the result back;<br />
you score a 30/50, what’s your reaction to this<br />
A. Promise yourself to never talk on the phone late anymore<br />
and do better next time.<br />
B. “Oh my gosh, I pass! I got 60%! That’s passing!”<br />
C. Crimple up the test paper and do a basketball shoot at the<br />
garbage can.<br />
3) As you were walking home from a friend’s house, you happen to see<br />
that a little kid who just walk pass you had dropped a twenty-dollar bill.<br />
What would you do<br />
A. Do the right thing. Pick up the money and give it back to the<br />
little kid who dropped the money.<br />
B. Wait for the kid to walk a little farther, pick up the bill, and<br />
stuff it down your own pocket.<br />
C. Walk pass it and pretend you didn’t see it.<br />
4) Your best friend is moving out of state and won’t be coming back. You<br />
have been friends for ten years and have done everything together. You<br />
came to send her/him off, what do you do<br />
A. Give her/him a hug and smile as she departs, even though you’re<br />
sad inside.<br />
B. Beg her/him not to go or else you’ll die without her/him.<br />
C. Tell her/him you’re going to find a replacement immediately.<br />
5) You and a friend were assigned a big project that will be due in two<br />
days. You two have been best of friends since primary school. That night,<br />
you two quarrel about what kind of experiment to do. You want to do an<br />
experiment that relates to plants and your best friends wants to experiment<br />
with food. You two couldn’t settle out the problem; therefore, stays<br />
mad at each other. What would you do<br />
A. Reconcile with each other and combine both ideas into one.<br />
B. Remain mad at you partner and forget about the whole<br />
project.<br />
C. Forget about doing the project together and do it by yourself.<br />
6) You accidentally overheard two of your classmates threatening and<br />
bullying another classmate after school. Before thinking twice, you report<br />
it to your teacher secretly and the two of them were suspended. You<br />
later found out that the three of them were in theatre class together and<br />
they were just rehearsing. What would you do<br />
A. Go tell the teacher that it was all a misunderstanding and also<br />
apologize to the group.<br />
B. Forget about apologizing and just pretend that you weren’t involved<br />
at all.<br />
C. Do nothing.<br />
7) You have been in a relationship for two years, and all of a suddenly you<br />
started to see lots of changes in your partner. These changes in your partner<br />
include more arguments for the smallest reasons and hitting. What<br />
should you do<br />
A. Forget about the whole two years relationship and breakup with<br />
him/her.<br />
B. Bear with the pain.<br />
C. Try to adjust with the changes because your love for him/her is too<br />
great.<br />
8) You are different from the rest of the crowds, dress differently, eat<br />
differently, and do things differently. One day, as you was walking home<br />
from school, someone approaches you and ask you why you dress the<br />
way you are. The comments were rude and mean. After that person<br />
walks away, what would you do<br />
A. Ignore the rude comments because it doesn’t matter what people<br />
thinks, as long as you like yourself.<br />
B. Turn back and confront the person who just talked to you rudely,<br />
making sure that he/she knows that you won‘t let anyone make fun<br />
of you.<br />
C. Walk away quickly and change your ways of dressing.<br />
ANSWER KEY:<br />
Now that you are done answering the survey, please tally the scores and<br />
see your results below. For every (A) answers you score 3 points, (B) is<br />
2 points, and (C) is 1 point.<br />
19-24<br />
You’re totally an easy-going and a laid-back person. Your attitude is<br />
positive and always caring. You care about others and also yourself.<br />
You know when to change yourself in order to make yourself and others<br />
happy is something great about you. You’re always accepting others and<br />
yourself for who you are. People loves being around you, and making<br />
new friends is never a problem for you. Everyone loves you.<br />
13-18<br />
You’re an easy-going person; changes are never a problem for you. At<br />
times things may be hard to adjust but you’ll eventually get use to it. At<br />
times, you’ll reject things that you believe aren’t good or not the right<br />
things to do. But these rejections aren’t big problems, because you know<br />
how to handle the consequences and you know what you’re doing. You<br />
know how to handle your friendship obstacles.<br />
9-14<br />
You’re a cool person and at the same time a hard person to deal with.<br />
You might have a lot of friends, but getting along with them is a problem<br />
sometimes. It’s hard for you to make friends, because accepting others<br />
is a bit of a problem for you. You’re more likely to reject than to accept<br />
others for who they are. Others may not live up to your expectations;<br />
therefore, friendships isn’t one of the best thing that you can handle.<br />
8 and below<br />
You’re totally a rejecter! You’re totally not open-minded or easy-going.<br />
You’re always curious about everything and like things to be done the<br />
way you like. You like taking charge and making decisions, whether others<br />
like it or not. You’re too independent and cannot accept others’ opinions<br />
or ideas. Once you’ve decided on something, you can never change<br />
it. Making friends is hard for you and people don’t like to be around you<br />
as much.<br />
Fall 2008 HmoobTeen / 25
Comics<br />
Comic by Kia Xiong, 16, Morganton, NC<br />
Send in your comics! HmoobTeen will pay up to $25 for each!<br />
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What we<br />
Second-hand smoking<br />
Prejudice<br />
P o l l u t i o n<br />
Alcohol<br />
Reject!<br />
Summer 2008 HmoobTeen / 27