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way, as people got off I moved to sit next to him. I asked whether he had come alone or with
somebody. We talked a bit. I asked for his number. Since then, we call each other and meet. We
have been in the relationship for two months, but I have not had sex with him yet. I am shy to
have sex with the one I love.
When having sex, I do not want anybody to touch my penis. I don’t ever have an orgasm when
I am with a partner; I am shy. Sometimes I will watch a porn movie and masturbate, but never if
someone else is around. I do not get money from sex, but I do give some money to my partners
- the ones who I feel special about.
I did not use condoms before, but since I have been a volunteer with a health programme, I do.
Well, there are still times I do not use one - when I do not bring any with me.
If I can choose, I would like to to be born as kathoey again. Being kathoey, one can do whatever
she wants. Being a woman, it is difficult to go out and stay outside late, and you need to be
within a boundary. If going out late at night, girls will be criticized. In the future my mother
wants me to live in a big city, a more civilized place so that it is easy to find job.
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I am 24 years old and from the south of Laos. When I was young, I lived in a temple from about
the age of eight. We call this sankalii – a person who helps the monks and local people who
come to make merit at the temple. There were nine monks living at this temple.
When I was about 13, a Thai monk came to visit for about one week. He came with a Lao friend.
The Thai monk knew people at the temple, so he came to visit specifically. At the time, I was
the youngest there, and already I had a female nature. The Thai monk asked if I would sleep
with him for company. That first night he asked me to touch him and suck him. The second
night he entered me from behind. We didn’t use condoms. It was the first time I had sexual
pleasure – I had an orgasm. I did not know about sex before this. We stayed together for a
week and when he left I missed him very much. I wanted to go with him, but he wouldn’t let
me. He used to write to me and send me presents. One other time, I had sex with a young
man who was in the temple for a short period (neyn - acolyte). My next lover was a friend I
had known since childhood. We used to sleep together as friends, but when we were about
14 years old we started to hold each other at night and give each other pleasure. But I knew
he had already had girlfriends, so I didn’t want to get too close to him or fall in love with him.
After him, I slept with another friend at school for several years. He was a ‘real’ man – he had a
girlfriend too. Now he is married. The last time we had sex was just before he got married. We
are still friends and still see each other sometimes, but we don’t have sex anymore. My mother
moved to Vientiane and opened a pharmacy here, just out of town. So I moved here also and
kept on at secondary school until year 6. I helped my mother run the store, and would have sex
with students sometimes. I gave them money each time to help their study – 20,000-30,000
kip. Sometimes up to 50,000 kip. I didn’t sleep with many. They would come and find me – I
had about 10 partners like this. I slept with a gay once. I knew he wanted me to do it to him – I
tried, but I felt disgusted. It was like sleeping with someone of the same sex. I had sex with two
foreigners also – they gave me 200,000 kip. I met the first at a disco. The second man was a
teacher at the university who I met when I was working at a sauna. He invited me to his house
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