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CALENDER
FEBRUARY
02 Feb Mon 09:00 – 13:00 New office open (Mondays to Fridays)
14 Feb Sat 14:30 Johannesburg Monthly Meeting, TCF Centre Jnb, Shannon 082 883 1406
14 Feb Sat 15:00 New TCF OFFICE INAUGURATION
192 Edinburgh Avenue, Clubview, Centurion. Bring-a-Plant, Bring-&-Braai.
19 Feb Thu 19:00 Pretoria Monthly Meeting
Minor Hall, Brooklyn Methodist Church, Murray str, Brooklyn 084 855 5303
21 Feb Sat 14:00 Soweto Meeting - Oncology Clinic, Baragwanath Hospital Charlotte 011 932 6597
21 Feb Sat 14:00 Infant Meet ing – TCF Centre Jnb, Dominique 084 618 7684
28 Feb Sat 08:00 Bereavement Counselling Training by Dr Hanlie Meyer
108 Saffier Ave, Lyttleton, Centurion. R300.00
28 Feb Sat 14:00 Suicide Meeting – TCF Centre Jnb, Elise 011 788 9829
28 Feb Sat 14:00 Lenasia Meeting, Recreation Centre, Roseline – 011 852 5344
MARCH
14 Mar Sat 14:30 Johannesburg Monthly Meeting, TCF Centre Jnb, Shannon 082 883 1406
19 Mar Thu 19:00 AGM 19:15 Pretoria Monthly Meeting
Minor Hall, Brooklyn Methodist Church, Murray str, Brooklyn 084 855 5303
21 Mar Sat 14:00 Soweto Meeting - Oncology Clinic, Baragwanath Hospital Charlotte 011 932 6597
21 Mar Sat 14:00 Infant Meet ing – TCF Centre Jnb, Dominique 084 618 7684
28 Mar Sat 14:00 Suicide Meeting – TCF Centre Jnb, Elise 011 788 9829
28 Mar Sat 14:00 Lenasia Meeting, Recreation Centre, Roseline – 011 852 5344
TCF Facilitator for Men
Gary Sheehan
083 633 4732
Talita Serfontein
Trauma Counsellor
Valhalla 012 355 1554
SUE PROCTER
SIBLINGS COUNSELLOR
082 462 1497
Tel: 012 6549902
Sakkie Malan
Sielkundige
Tel: 083 258 9936
Landscaping: Annelise
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THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS
PRETORIA CHAPTER
Support Group offering Friendship and Understanding
to Bereaved Parents, Siblings & Grandparents
NEWSLETTER
DECEMBER 2008 & JANUARY 2009
Dear Compassionate Friends
Here we are, facing the silly season, the season of joy and goodwill, of celebrations and
obligations, with an overwhelming feeling of wanting to cancel the entire season. You are
not alone in your feelings. Try not to cancel it, we must go through it, if not this year, it will
be next year!
Christmas trees are round, symbolizing the eternity of no beginning or ending. They form
a symbolic "arrow" to Heaven. They are ever-green, reminding us that life and hope
continue and that love is forever.
Lights remind us that there is hope. Light always prevails in the darkness.
Gift wrapping reminds us that there are still wonderful things in our future that we haven’t
seen yet.
Special foods and fragrances remind us of the nourishment needed to go on living.
Music reaches the soul in ways that words alone cannot. If it makes you cry, remember
tears do bring healing.
At this time of the year we remember our own children and the love and joy they brought
into our lives. They now remain a precious memory for us to treasure in our hearts
forever. May you find gentle peace and hope to guide you through this Christmas time
and the New Year.
The New Year is set before us like an unwritten volume - all its pages are blank.
Let us write upon each day’s page things that at the end of the year we will look back
with rejoicing rather than regret.
I wish all our members peace over Christmas and the New Year. If this is your first
Christmas, our hearts go out to you, but no matter how long it has been, please be gentle
on yourselves, hold tight to the precious memories and the beauty and joy our children
brought into our lives.
They were, are and always will be part of us.
With love & compassion,
Retha
OUR EVER GRATEFUL THANKS
TO THE BROOKLYN
METHODIST CHURCH
for allowing us the use of the
Minor Hall.
Rev Paul Bester 012 460 3271
Dr Hanlie Meyer
Voorligtingsielkundige/Counselling
Psychologist
P.O. Box 7823 Centurion 0046
Tel/Fax: 012 664 1587
P.O. Box 13509 Hatfield Pretoria 0028
084 855 5303
Fax 012 362 3407
E-mail: tcfpretoria@gmail.com
www.tcfp.co.za

KOBUS STRYDOM
07 Augustus 1980 – 05 Desember 2004
“Life is a choice and it is yours to make”
Kobus het Duchenne-spierdistrofie gehad
en was ten spyte van hierdie vernietigende siekte
‘n ongelooflike inspirasie vir een en almal!
Hy sal onthou word vir sy fyn sin vir humor,
liefde vir mense en immer positiewe lewensuitkyk.
Van: Pappa, Mamma, Christina & Santjies
WORLDWIDE CANDLE LIGHTING
14 December 2008 19:00
This event is annually held in memory of all children who have died, on the second
Sunday in December at 19h00 local time. Light your candle/candles whether you
are at home, or on holiday or wherever you are. Candles stay lighted for one hour
in each time zone around the world, creating a virtual 24-hour wave of light that
encircles the globe, thereby connecting us in an awesome way!
Twelve Ways to Keep Your Loved One’s Memory Alive Through the
Holiday Season By Brenda Zahnley, Director of Bereavement
‘n Gebed van ‘n Pa….
Here, dit is so leeg,
so dolleeg hier binne-in my.
Gedagtes, woorde, trane en gebede het
stil geword.
Al wat oorbly is die pyn van verlange,
van smart, van rou, van hartseer.
U wil het geskied, U het hom kom haal.
Ons seun…
Nou weet ek iets van U pyn en van die
prys wat U op Golgota betaal het.
Nou begryp ek ook iets van U liefde en U
genade en U troos.
Amen
Let us be children in faith,
unconditional love and happiness.
Let us be adults in experience,
compassion and wisdom.
SHAUN SWANEPOEL
16.03.1973 – 14.12.1999
Geliefde seun van
Vera Kruger
Holidays can be especially difficult following the death of a loved one. However setting
aside some sacred time to memorialize and remember your loved one is an essential part
of the grieving process. Taking time to cherish the memory of your loved one makes an
important statement that he/she will never ever be forgotten.
Some suggestions for memorializing are:
1. Find a special ornament or decoration that symbolizes something about his/her life. Let
that be the first ornament you put on your tree this year.
2. Adopt a needy family or buy a meal/treats for the orphanage/old age residents. Let them
know this gesture is in honor of your loved one.
3. Find a special photograph of your loved one that died. Put it in a decorative frame and give
them as Christmas gifts to close family.
4. Light a candle at church or at home in memory of your loved one. Let yourself be reminded
of the warmth and love they gave to you.
5. Toast your loved one at your Christmas dinner, or include him/her in your table prayer.
6. Hang up a Christmas stocking in memory of your loved one and write “special messages” to
them in the stocking. How do we know they don’t receive those heartfelt messages?
7. Even though Christmas music can be difficult to listen to, play some Christmas carols, hold
your loved one’s picture close to your heart and allow yourself to have a good healthy cry!
8. Decorate the grave at the cemetery or memorial place with something special for
Christmas, eg. special wreath, small Christmas tree, etc
9. Make a donation to your favorite charity, college, hospice or organization in memory of
your loved one who have died.
10. Write a poem in recognition of your loved ones and all the blessings they gave to you when
they were alive. Read this to all those sitting around your Christmas tree before the
presents get opened.
11. Treat yourself to a present that your loved one might have picked out for you. Remember
your loved one would want you to find happiness, so give yourself permission to treat
yourself.
12. Write a year-end letter to your deceased loved one. Say all the things you wish you could
say. Ask questions you would like to ask. Plead for forgiveness if you need to. Let go of
the intense pain. Then burn the letter and “release” yourself from the heartache of
regrets, “if only's” and “what if's”.
Be kind to yourself!

FROM THE LIBRARIAN'S DESK….
Reminder – kindly return all the books that were borrowed.
A Special Thank you to all members who have so kindly donated
and/or sponsored books for our TCF Library.
Thank you for the members who have so kindly returned their books.
Betsi 084 556 2100
vdwatem@unisa.ac.za
Your Committee Members
– if you need a friend who will understand, please call us:
Retha Naude – Chapter Leader – 082 441 6360
Jaco Grobler – Vice Chapter Leader –082 927 2970
Lynette Gradwell – Secretary – 083 408 5271
Jenni Pohl – Treasurer – 083 730 0659
Betsi van der Watt – Library – 084 556 2100
Susan van Vuren – Social Planner – 082 537 8566
FUND RAISING
CARD PROJECT
We need your used
Christmas, Birthday,
any cards to recycle,
Please!
Cards will be on sale at
the meetings.
Please support TCF.
Bereavement Counselling Skills Training 2009
Dr Hanlie Meyer
108 Saffierlaan, Lyttelton, Centurion
Sat 28 February 2009 Full day R300.00pp
Sat 28 March 2009 Full day R300.00pp
TCF JEWELLERY
– by Lynette
Necklaces,
keyring/handbag charms,
bookmarks, etc will be on
sale at the meetings.
Profit goes to TCF
Please book as soon as possible with Retha, to secure your place.
Small group, first booked and paid will be accepted.
Only criteria; bereaved parents/siblings, must be at least two years down the line.
“Those of us who have worked through our grief and found
that there is a future, are the ones who must meet others
in the valley of darkness and bring them back to the edge of light”
– Rev Simon Stephens, our much loved and respected TCF founder (1969)
MATTHEW KISAKYE LUBEGA
*13.12.2002 + 17.02.2007
I was born a twin to my parents Nelson Edward Kamoga and Rita Sonko-
Najjemba on 13 December 2002 at Kingsbury Hospital in the city of Cape Town
SA. My twin sister is Mercy Kirabo Nalubega.
I had a wonderful life with my family over the 4 years I lived with them. I made
wonderful friends at school over the one year I was at Lynnwood Park Montessori
in Pretoria, SA. I know I was dearly loved and I loved back too.
I want all my people to know; I loved you all. I enjoyed every moment with you
and I will be with you always. Please remember me like all those perfect times.
And know that I will not be far. I might start a new journey, but a part of me
will remain with you always.
Don’t worry about enjoying the rest of your journeys
Do know that I am in a good place
Do know that I know I was loved
Do know I will miss you too
Do know it is okay to miss me
Do know that I will see you again
Although the time I lived with my parents, sister, family and friends may appear
short, it was just right for me to leave to a higher place. I will always remain
proud of the experience I had leaving everyone. That my friends, was the fullest
life I was meant to live.
I am happy that my life touched a lot of people I came close to and even
happier that it is remembered through the Matthew K Lubega Foundation. I
believe it will touch many souls, young and old. I hope that this grows to be
bigger than the essence that everyone knows as Matthew’s memory.
A new beginning…
Matthew’s foundation is a children’s charity
supporting early childhood learning and child
safety in under-resourced communities. We are
currently running two children’s book clubs and
libraries in Shoshanguve, north of Pretoria and
are in great need of children’s books (any donations
of new or used books are greatly appreciated).
For more information about Matthew's Foundation
please visit our website www.mkl-foundation.org
or call Rita 082 411 5055/rita@pactsa.org.za
By Compassion we make others’ misery
our own, and so, by relieving them,
we relieve ourselves also.

Our Very Special Angel Child
(Written by Tamlyn 16/12/2004)
Dedicated To NICOLE AMY MARTIN
11/04/1984 – 16/12/2004
NICOLE, our baby, what can we say, every day was a special day.
You were given to us, our special child, so content and calm, so meek and mild.
You’ve made us laugh; you’ve made us cry,
and a few times we’ve had to say goodbye.
You’ve pulled through times, your strength we know,
I hope you know we love you so.
Now you’ve gone and we’re still here, but in our hearts we hold you near.
The time had come to say goodbyes, and we still see those ANGEL EYES.
We miss your smiles and dolphin sounds. We miss your little princess crown.
We miss those giggles late at night, our Angel child, what a fight.
God’s time had come to take our child, I still remember that one last smile.
Smiles that stretched from eye to eye, when I think of it, it makes me cry.
Up in heaven, you’re free of pain, but life will never be the same.
No changing doeks or meds at night, just knowing OUR ANGEL is shining bright.
Your golden halo and angel wings, we wish that we could hear you sing.
Mom and Dad and Ang and Me, Baby Love, that’s all we see.
We miss you lots, Henk and Phillip too, family and friends, I know they do.
I wish that you were here to see, a little girl that’s born to be.
Gran and Annah misses you too, I think you know we all do.
In our house, there’s an empty space. But in our hearts, you’ll always stay.
We love you lots, our Angel child, so content and calm, so meek and mild.
OUR VERY SPECIAL ANGEL CHILD.
We miss you so much!!
Love Mommy, Angelique and Tamlyn
Internet briefie van Susan van der Westhuizen:
JANUARY CONTINUE…..
JOHAN LOUBSER 24 ∗18.01.1984 – †30.06.2008 SADS
Son of Gert & Santjie – 083 564 6447
Brother of Janeke
Husband of Annerie
ARMANDT VAN DER MERWE 4 Months ∗05.09.2005 – †18.01.2006 Zellweger Syndrome
Son of Anzelle & Nico – 082 931 8759
KOTIE MALAN 27 ∗19.01.1971 – †09.09.1998 Victim of Suicide
Son of Judith & Kotie
Sibling: Eileen
RICHARD WILLERS 20 ∗21.01.1984 – †13.04.2004 Drowning Accident
Son of Peter & Ria
ADRIAAN PIENAAR 22 ∗22.01.1980 – †05.10.2002 Car Accident
Son of Louis & Linda – 082 778 3539
WERNER DU PLESSIS 19 ∗06.05.1986 – †22.01.2006 Car Accident
Son of Gerhard & Isabel – 083 617 8738
Brother of Eunine & Pierre
ELDON COHEN 24 ∗16.09.1974 – †24.01.1998 Mugged
Son of Fiona – 083 580 3108
Brother of Wayne & Steven
INGE DIEDERICKS 1 ∗02.10.2002 – †25.01.2004 Drowning Accident
Daughter of Stefan & Charmaine
SHANE 21 ∗08.10.1980 – †26.01.2002
Son of Johan & Lynne Swanepoel – 082 831 2303
DEBBIE MARTIN 19 ∗27.01.1985 – †10.02.2004
BIANCA SMIT 16 ∗28.01.1986 – †06.10.2002 Victim of Suicide
Daughter of Elronah – 082 969 3319
Daughter of Jan Smit
Sister of Vanessa
ZELMA FLETCHER 17 ∗31.01.1987 – †02.05.2004 Victim of Suicide
Daughter of Ben & Marianne – 072 504 2144
Sister of Bernice
Cherished memories of TCF Laudium Children’s Anniversaries
December
VINAY KRISHNAMURTHY *28.08.1976 †06.12.2002
SANJAY MAKKAN *01.03.1976 †06.12.2002
SUNEEL CHETTY *07.12.1970 †19.07.1970
JAYMAL SODHA *10.12.1978 †10.01.2003
SHAMIT SODHA *14.12.1980 †14.07.1999
ASHLEY ISAIAH *09.09.1980 †15.12.2003
RAVINDRA JOSHI *16.12.1949 †19.06.2002
UGESH PILLAY *25.12.1980 †31.10.2006
January
GOVINDAMALL PADAYACHY *28.03.1944 †08.01.2006
JAYMAL SODHA *10.01.1978 †10.12.2003
VISHEN MOOLOO *22.10.1967 †10.01.2002
SHINEALIN PADAYACHY *06.06.1991 †31.01.2003
TCF Laudium
Group Leader:
Vani Muthaya
Tel: 083 992 6901
E-mail: vmuthaya@yahoo.com
Sincere apologies for omissions or errors, please put me right.

DECEMBER CONTINUE…..
CANDICE JACOBUS 20
∗30.12.1982 – †30.10.2003 Bus Accident
Daughter of Jacqueline – 072 636 3980
LOUIS LOTZ 27 ∗11.08.1978 – †30.12.2005
Brother of Susan Lotz
KYLE JONES 19
∗04.11.1988 – †31.12.2007 Car Accident
Son of Rory & Sandy – 082 308 2473
Brother of Tyrone
ANTON BOTHA 37
∗22.08.1966 – †31.12.2003 Victim of Suicide
Son of Maureen – 072 485 3436
Brother of Karen de Kock
BRENT LESLIE HISCOCK 23
∗03.03.1983 – †31.12.2006 Murdered
Son of The Late Alan & Barbara – 083 324 3806
Brother of Allan & Mioko
JANUARY
JACUS CELLIERS 21
∗02.01.1984 – †18.03.2005 Cancer
Son of Hulda Heyns – 082 411 3242
Brother of Cathrien
THEO GRADWELL 18
∗02.01.1983 – †19.01.2001 Run over by a car
Son of Grant & Lynette – 083 408 5271
Sibling: Brent
KIMBERLEIGH RAS 2½
∗06.01.1997 – †08.01.2000 Drowning Accident
Daughter of Pieter & Vanessa – 083 454 0878
Sister of Tammy-Lee
CHRISTIAAN VOSLOO 2 ∗07.01.2003 – †14.02.2005 Medical – Gangliosidoses
Son of Michael & Samantha – 072 149 9254
FRANCOIS HOFFMAN 30 ∗08.01.1974 – †19.10.2004
Son of Jaco
JOHANNES PETRUS PRINSLOO 22 ∗10.01.1979 – †07.04.2001 Accident
Son of Johan & Alta – 082 566 7065
Sibling: Lizelle Brunswick
LAURA GRACE PORTER 21Days ∗10.01.2007 – †31.01.2007 Premature Multiple Organ
Daughter of Chris & Carolyn – 082 809 2491 Failure
Sister of Emily & Megan
NASTASHA DELPORT 20 ∗10.01.1987 – †21.10.2007 Car Accident
Daughter of Mark & Santi – 083 268 6669
Sister of Jennilee
EMIL VENTER 15 ∗11.01.1989 – †15.05.2004
Son of Jimmy – 082 559 7246
Son of Ronel Venter
JUSTIN SCHROEDER 26 ∗12.01.1982 – †05.05.2008 Victim of Suicide
Son of Kevin & Cecile – 082 413 6677
Brother of Natasha
Grandson of Zaid & Doug Ingram
VAUGHAN JOSS 20 ∗13.01.1972 – †13.11.1992 Car Accident
Son of Allen & Jennifer Joss – 012 440 3751
Brother of Craig, Marisa & Dale
GAELIN MATTHEWS 8 ∗10.03.1997 – †16.01.2005
APPELKOSIE VERMAAK ∗†16.01.2008 Miscarriage
Parents: Gert & Rechelle Vermaak – 082 433 6992
Happy Birthday Candy Girl
DEWAR SMITH
27.12.1979 – 17.05.2004
I Don’t Want To Say Goodbye
By Felicity Bleach
ANGUISH
I wish I could tell you – the pain will grow less,
though you and I know our lives are a mess.
Of the pain and anguish we’re suffering still,
we know we have far to go – mostly uphill.
There are sometimes moments
when life seems a bit lighter.
Then again comes that feeling –
our hearts growing tighter.
Through the beauty of flowers, trees and the rain...
Still we see shadows of sadness and pain.
CANDICE JACOBUS
*30.12.1982 †30.10.2003
I Miss You So Much.
Your last few words to me was “Love You Ma”. I could not even respond
as we always did “Love you Ca”.
I do not even want to think of the years that has passed since you’ve gone from me,
because I promised you that “I will not survive without you”.
Yet the years have come and gone.
But the pain is the same, it cuts beyond flesh and bone, it cuts to the very soul of me.
It’s a pain that no one can imagine unless they have suffered a loss too.
Your birthday is coming up soon: 30 December. You who loved your birthdays so much!
Life was such a celebration for you, my Candy Girl, you lived it to its fullest.
Your sparkle, your vibrancy, your love for life and people,
is the only memories of comfort...
This is my birthday message to you:
“As I write across the open sky that only you can see”,
Happy Birthday Candy Girl –
May you only know Happiness throughout eternity and beyond.
Love you Always and Forever
“Ma Jacqui”

Kimberleigh Ras
06 June 1977 – 08 January 2000
Our Darling sunshine and beautiful Daughter,
taken so suddenly,
without a “Goodbye”.
How we all long for you, your hugs,
your touch and mostly your special spurts of
generosity!
We hate that word “Why”,
we never receive a reply.
We move forward with the strength of God,
holding us up day to day and when we fall,
God lifts us up gently!
May we see you soon,
so that we may be one again.
Take care and keep guiding and comforting us.
'Till we meet again.
Love: Mom, Dad & Tammy-Lee
JACUS CELLIERS
02.01.1984 – 18.03.2005
Jacus, my sonskynkind
Ek mis jou so geweldig, elke dag in die klein en groot van die lewe.
Jou aanstap het ons so veranderd gelaat -
ons harte is verskeur, maar tog vertroos.
Ons Trooster, het nader aan ons gekom,
gekom met arms van ontferming en ons toegevou in ons seer!
Ek is nogsteeds so trots op jou, al is jy nie eers hier om dit in stand te hou!
Op verrassende wyse, tussen 70,000 mense op Loftus…
Kom ‘n jongman en vertel van jou impak op sy lewe…
Hy troos en verseker dat jy veilig in die hemel is!
Dankie Jacus dat jou dood ons nie troosteloos gelaat het nie, want jou lewe is
verseker by Jesus.
Onbekend vir ons, maar ek weet jy het ingestap in die ewige Lewe saam met
Jesus en dit is ons enigste troos, tot ons jou weer ontmoet.
Hulda
Cherished memories of our children’s Anniversaries
DECEMBER
Please remember how much a phone call means
LOURET GROBLER 29
∗01.12.1976 – †27.11.2006 Cancer
Daughter of Ria Grobler – 082 961 4770
Twin sister of Christel Price – 082 900 8712
KOBUS STRYDOM 24
∗07.08.1980 – †05.12.2004 Duchenne Muscle Dystrophy
Son of Hannes & Susan – 082 397 2223
Brother of Christine & Susan
DAVE DAVEL 57
∗04.07.1950 – †07.12.2007 Cancer
Son of Eleanor – 074 204 8976
CHRISTO LE ROUX 22 ∗09.12.1978 – †20.02.2004
Son of Sofia & Chris
AMBER PEAKE 3 Months ∗10.12.2001 – †07.03.2002 SIDS
Daughter of Greg & Cherie – 083 262 0770
Siblings: Jason & Bianca
KATJA DAMASKE 4 Days ∗12.12.2004 – †16.12.2004 Medical
Daughter of Antje & Klaus – 082 449 2688
DEON THERON 14
∗16.06.1989 – †13.12.2003 Electrical Shock
Son of Deon – 082 971 1333
Brother of Cobus
MATTHEW KISAKYE LUBEGA 4 ∗13.12.2002 – †17.02.2007 Drowning Accident
Son of Dr Nelson Kamoga & Dr Rita Sonko – 082 411 5055 (www.mkl-foundation.org)
Twin brother of Mercy
SHAUN SWANEPOEL 26 ∗16.03.1973 – †14.12.1999 Car Accident
Son of Vera Kruger – 083 627 0796
NICOLE AMY MARTIN 20 ∗11.04.1984 – †16.12.2004 Brain Tumor
Daughter of Lizelle – 079 919 8363
Daughter of Kevin
Siblings: Angelique & Tamlyn
KEVIN HILL 18 Months
∗12.06.2002 – †19.12.2003 Medical
Son of Jo-Mari – 083 433 5762
Siblings: Megan & Kaylin
ABRIE VAN ZYL 21
∗19.12.1983 – †13.06.2004 Car Accident
Son of Jan & The Late Elize van Zyl
Brother of Marlize
PATRIC VAN DER WEIDE 20 ∗25.12.1983 – †02.08.2004
Son of Mariette
ROLINDA HAARHOFF 10
∗27.12.1991 – †30.11.2002 Road Accident
Daughter of Roelien & Neville
Sister of Nico
DEWAR SMITH 24
∗27.12.1979 – †17.05.2004 Victim of Suicide
Son of Langley & Hayley – 083 958 4228
Brother of Layne
JOHAN PIETERSE 22
∗27.02.1976 – †29.12.1988 Malaria
Son of Hannes & Rula – 082 459 6611
BUNGANE SIPAMLA 20 ∗13.02.1985 – †29.12.2005
Son of Patricia – 073 244 4793

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Thank you so much…
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THANK YOU All for the collection at our meetings for tea/coffee, security guard, etc.
THANK YOU All for the donations received at the Candle Lighting Memorial Ceremony
THANK YOU Lynette Gradwell – Profit from TCF Jewellery
THANK YOU Vanessa Ras – Love Gift in memory of their daughter Kimberleigh
THANK YOU Vanessa Ras – Cash donation
THANK YOU Cecilia Schroder – Cash donation
THANK YOU Julie & Cliff Coxen – Cash donation
THANK YOU Sarie & Watze Hepkema – Cash donation
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THEO ZINN GRADWELL
02.01.1983 – 19.01.2001
SON OF LYNETTE & GRANT
BROTHER OF BRENT
As Christmas is coming closer and your
Birthday will be upon us, we miss you so!
The years and memories we shared,
Your ever smiling face we always remember!
Loving you always!
Mom, Dad and Brent
“As you hold me close in memory
Even though we are apart
My spirit will live on
There within your heart”
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal
Love leaves a memory no one can steal
BRENT LESLIE HISCOCK
Youngest son of Allan & Barbara Hiscock, brother to Allan & Mioko
03.03.1983 – 31.12.2006
Murdered (23yrs old)
No greater love has he who gives his life
to save another.
No words are good enough to describe
our son and brother.
Your laughter, humor, hugs and love
are so missed here.
But your memory and braveness will be forever dear.
We salute and honor you.
Brent’s father died 6 months later.
So they are together forever.
May they rest in peace.

Photos from our Annual Candle Lighting Memorial Ceremony
Gedig van ‘n Pa – Hennie Nel
NASTASHA DELPORT
10.01.1987 – 21.10.2007
Ons liefste Tashie
Die tweede Kersfees sonder jou, en kort daarna,
in Januarie, jou 22ste verjaarsdag…
We miss you desperately, your smile, your amazing
presence, and all that made you tick.
You would have gotten your degree now,
but it was never meant to be.
We will always remember the motto you lived by:
“No love, no life.
Know love, know life.”
Met verlangende liefde
Daddy, Mamma en Jennilee xxx…
Retha & Sonja

WERNER DU PLESSIS
06.05.1986 – 22.01.2006
You were my gift from heaven, we shared a special love.
A connection that was far too short, now you watch me from above…
There are so many special times, your laughter fills my ears,
The smile I still see upon your face, helps to calm my fears.
I learned about compassion, about love and care and hope,
The fact that you shared your life with me…
Is how, each day I cope.
Wernie, ons mis jou verskriklik en is baie lief vir jou…
Liefies, Ma, Pa en Pierre…
Wernie…
Om elke dag sonder jou deur te maak is baie swaar…
Dis seer as ek dink aan hoeveel dinge nog moet gebeur, sonder my boetie daar.
Ek weet jy is by ons groot Pappa daarbo, en jy kyk op ons af…
Maar ek wens ek kon jou net weer een keer sien, of jou net hoor lag…
Al ons herinneringe sal ek vir altyd koester en jou elke dag in my hart saamdra…
Onthou net ek is verskriklik lief vir jou en ek mis jou vreeslik… maar ek sien jou
eendag daar!
Liefies …sus Nien
On a Night in December
By Genesse Bourdeau Gentry
In the midst of the summer and all the trees turned green,
We were faced with shopping malls where carols filled the air.
And thoughts all turned to loved ones, those present and those not.
For us, whose lives were drained of light, it was solace that we sought.
And so began a journey of candles round the earth
Bringing light to darkness and honoring the worth
Of children held so dear to us but never to grow old,
Whose lives filled ours like tapestries, their threads the finest gold.
Now we gather on this night and watch the candles burn,
See their pictures; say their names one by one, in turn.
And our children, brothers, sisters, for whom we gather here,
Let us know, in the candles' glow, that they are always near.
Their light will ever surround us; their love will always flow.
As we leave, may we remember, that this is ever so.
With Love, Hope and Joy we remember our children
and when we have remembered everything,
we grow afraid of what we may forget.
A face? A voice? A smile?
No need to fear forgetting, because the heart remembers always!

12 January 1982
5 May 2008
Justin Schroëder
My sadness seems reflected in the music that I hear.
Every young one’s glowing face, reminds me you’re not here.
Shoppers crowd the festive stores. Emotions all run high.
This world I was a part of once, seems to pass me by.
Take the first step in faith.
You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
This season’s meant for happy times, for love, warm hearts and cheer.
But grieving families around the world remember those not here.
We struggle through the season, lighting candles to proclaim.
Our children aren’t forgotten, round the world our candles flame.