Third Grade Life Skills Parent Newsletter - Key School
Third Grade Life Skills Parent Newsletter - Key School
Third Grade Life Skills Parent Newsletter - Key School
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<strong>Third</strong> <strong>Grade</strong> <strong>Life</strong> <strong>Skills</strong> <strong>Parent</strong> <strong>Newsletter</strong><br />
Dear <strong>Parent</strong>s:<br />
September, 2008<br />
This week, third grade students will begin a life skills unit on solving<br />
interpersonal problems. Our goal is to help students successfully, and more<br />
independently, navigate the conflicts that may arise during the course of a<br />
normal day with peers, friends and siblings.<br />
This life skills unit builds on the collaborative and conflict resolution skills<br />
that the students learned in second grade, and teaches a problem solving<br />
process designed for the more matured third grade mind. An overview of this<br />
problem solving model follows in the pages of this newsletter.<br />
In addition to our classroom sessions, we will launch small “lunch bunch”<br />
gatherings with students to focus on collaborative skills. All third graders will<br />
have the opportunity to join Sally Trapp and Ellie Young for an interactive<br />
session of instructive games and hands-on activities.<br />
On Wednesday morning, September 24 at 8:30AM, there will be a<br />
<strong>Parent</strong> Meeting about grade three and grade four life skills in the<br />
Science Room (Manse Addition). This informal meeting is a good<br />
opportunity for parents to ask questions, and is especially valuable for us to<br />
hear from you.<br />
We look forward to a strong partnership with you to strengthen the life<br />
skills taught both at home and at school. Please contact us with your ideas,<br />
questions, and concerns so that we may better assist your children on their<br />
journey towards independence.<br />
Yours truly,<br />
Nancy Conroy Lynn Dombi Sue Hood<br />
<strong>Third</strong> <strong>Grade</strong> Teacher <strong>Third</strong> <strong>Grade</strong> Teacher <strong>Third</strong> <strong>Grade</strong> Teacher<br />
Jennifer Blanchard Sally Trapp Ellie Young<br />
<strong>School</strong> Social Worker Learning Department <strong>Life</strong> <strong>Skills</strong> Teacher
The problem solving model we are teaching at school has four steps.<br />
1. What is the problem?<br />
2. What can I do?<br />
3. What might happen if...?<br />
4. Choose and use a solution.<br />
(1) The first step - answering “What is the problem?” - requires<br />
students to pay attention to feelings, facial expressions, body language,<br />
and situational clues in order to identify what is the matter. Children<br />
tend to phrase problems from only one point-of-view and often are<br />
judgmental and blaming, so we practice neutral problem statements:<br />
Blaming:<br />
Neutral:<br />
Jack is mean. He took the ball and won’t let<br />
Jill play with it.<br />
Jack and Jill want to play with the same ball,<br />
and Jack got to it first.<br />
To assist students with problem identification, we use the acronym<br />
H.A.L.T. - Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. Halt, meaning stop, is an<br />
appropriate reminder for students to slow down and consider what the<br />
problem might be: “Is it hunger, anger, loneliness or tiredness?” For<br />
example, a child bickering during the drive home from school might<br />
really be hungry and tired (sound familiar?).<br />
(2) The second step - answering “What can I do?” - requires<br />
students to think about what they need to do during a problem situation.<br />
In class, we are generating a list of ideas for students to refer to<br />
throughout the year (copies will be sent home).<br />
Sometimes children become stuck on one type of solution and need<br />
assistance generating alternatives. We can help students to<br />
brainstorm as many ideas as possible by refraining from evaluating<br />
their suggestions, remaining neutral, and gently probing (“That’s one<br />
idea. What is another? Can you think of a different type of option?<br />
What else could you do?”).<br />
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(3) The third step – “What might happen if...?” - requires students<br />
to evaluate solutions for consequences on the basis of safety,<br />
feelings, fairness and workability. Often children are eager to return<br />
to their play and want to rush past this step; direct them to slow down<br />
and think about each solution. If they are leaning towards a lessthan-appropriate<br />
solution, encourage a back-up plan.<br />
(4) The final step – “Choose and use a solution” - requires<br />
students to make a choice, evaluate whether their chosen solution is<br />
working, and change to an alternative solution if needed. The ability<br />
to change directions requires flexibility which teachers and parents<br />
should encourage, praise, and model.<br />
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This problem solving approach will be taught using a variety of case<br />
studies and role-plays. Students will practice in the safety of the<br />
classroom, and will be supported throughout the day as they<br />
encounter real problems on the playground and elsewhere.<br />
We hope that you will find opportunities to solve problems out loud<br />
with your child. Helping your child to talk through a problem<br />
reinforces the process of slowing down and thinking through several<br />
options. Equally important is explaining the steps you are using to<br />
solve a problem while you are using them.<br />
As you well know, it takes a lot of practice to become an<br />
accomplished problem solver. Over time, and with our joint support,<br />
students will gain the needed experience, judgment, and confidence<br />
to manage interpersonal relationships independently.<br />
I-Message<br />
By way of a refresher, in second grade the students learned<br />
an I-message as a way to provide information without blaming<br />
others in a conflict situation.<br />
I feel __________ when _________________.<br />
I want ________________________________.<br />
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2. Define the problem:<br />
What is the problem?<br />
H.A.L.T.<br />
Am I hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired?<br />
3. Brainstorm ideas:<br />
What can I do?<br />
Calm down (breathe slowly, count to 10).<br />
Share with an I-message.<br />
Take a break. Find another activity.<br />
Seek advice. Talk to a friend or adult.<br />
4. Evaluate options:<br />
What might happen if…?<br />
Is it safe? How will people feel?<br />
Is it fair? Will it work?<br />
5. Take action:<br />
Choose and use a solution.<br />
Is it working?<br />
If not, what can I do now?<br />
Adapted from Second Step, Committee for Children