EddieEndures - Children's Home Society

Volume 116 Number 2 • Fall/Winter 2011 SERVING CHILDREN & FAMILIES SINCE 1893Eddie Enduresendure: 1) to hold up under fatigue; 2) to sustain adversity; 3) to tolerate pain; 4) to continue without flinchingEditor’s note: Not long ago, Eddie stopped at Sioux FallsChildrens’ Home to show his three children the place where hespent part of his childhood in the early 1990s. Eddie waspleased to be able to reconnect with many staff members still atCHS. In regard to his rescue from his birth home, he wasgenerous in his thanks to staff “...for getting me out of there.” Itis with his assistance and permission that we share his story.As a young boy, Eddie had a lot of certainties in his life—certain that he would be beaten by his Mom and herboyfriends; certain that, more often that not, he and hissiblings would be left alone to fend for themselves fortheir basic needs; certain that he would be severelypunished for almost anything he did or didn’t do; andcertain that he would have to wonder what was going tohappen from day to day.Eddie remembers the day he met the social worker thattook him to CHS. At first he was scared about what wasgoing to happen to him, but Eddie recalls that it wasn’tlong before he decided he never wanted to leave!Eddie was discharged from CHS and went to live with aCHS therapeutic foster family. But then one day, anotherchapter in Eddie’s life unfolded.His birth mother came to the school that Eddie attendedand abducted him. Eddie was too young at the time tounderstand the implications of saying, “yes”, when hisbirth Mom pulled up to the school and asked Eddie if hewould like to go to Texas. And that’s where they headed.And it wasn’t long before birth Mom began beating Eddieonce again.Later, when Eddie was registered for school in Texas, heshowed up as a missing child from South Dakota. At thatpoint, local law enforcement and the FBI were called in,and Eddie was taken out of his classroom by theauthorities. Eddie clearly remembers what he wasthinking when all these law officers came to get him—“Did I cheat on a test, or something?”(Continued on page 2)Eddie says, “It was great to get fed everyday, have cleanclothes, and not get beaten if you did something wrong.I couldn’t believe all the things I got to do. We got to playoutside, ride bikes, and go swimming. I liked doing craftprojects with Blair. I still remember the bead bracelet thatwe made together. We went on camping trips. Iremember it felt so good to have friends, and just playball and play games and do so many things I never gotto do as a kid. I know I did a lot of work with mycounselors and teachers on the problems I had, but Iremember mostly just getting to be a kid, and learningthat my life could be different than it was.”Eddie continues, “The worst part of my stay at CHS waswhen my Mom called to schedule a visit, because sherarely showed up. I was held out of activities on thosedays that we waited for her to come, and that made meangry. After awhile, whenever she scheduled a visit, thestaff would let me go about my activities with the otherkids and staff, and told me they would just come and getme if she came.”

ExecutiveDirectorEddie EnduresBillColson(Continued from page 1)Just over a month ago was thetenth anniversary of the horribleevents that we refer to as 9-11.Most people remember where they were thatmorning and what their initial reaction was once theylearned that our country had been attacked byterrorists.I remember that day as clearly as if it wereyesterday. As the day unfolded, (the second tower inNY, the collapse of the pair, the Pentagon, and ruralPennsylvania), I began to wonder—“What will benext?” and “When will it end?”.Like so many others, I was filled with fear andworry about the unfortunate people directly affected,their families, our country, and even myself and thoseimportant to me. It was a very scary time. But eventhen, I had confidence in our strength as a nation andin the leadership that would be needed to carry usthrough. I knew that we would work together, confrontthe challenges, and be okay in the end because ournation is built on sound principals, documented forus to follow in the Constitution.I wonder if the tragedies and hurts experienced bythe children we serve is any less scary. I doubt it.Imagine the life of an abused child. They, too, don’tknow—“What will be next?” or “When will it end?”.Just as we did after 9-11, they need reassurance oftheir safety. They need to know that someone iswatching out for them and will do whatever isnecessary to prevent more awful things fromhappening to them.Being these things to CHS children is our calling,and is a responsibility we embrace. If we can’treassure them, comfort them, and help them findtheir way—who will? No one, I fear. Thank Heaven forour caring staff, our Board, and our long list of friendsand supporters. Because of them, CHS will be thereto serve whenever needed.And what about Children’s Home Society?Economic times remain uncertain, causing us to alsowonder “What will be next?” and “When will it end?”.We’ve received reductions in vital Medicaidfunding in the last year that amounted to nearly$500,000. I’ve reported on and we’ve dealt with theseMedicaid reductions. We can do this only becausewe have spent decades getting ready for theinevitable, and focused on endowment-building,financial readiness, and “friend raising”.Quite honestly, we don’t know “What will be next?”or “When will it end?”. But we do know that we havea legacy of perseverance, spirit, and conviction, andthe support of committed friends dedicated to thecontinuance of our mission. No matter what happens,we are in the best of hands, thanks to you.CHILDREN’S HOME SOCIETY OFSOUTH DAKOTA serves over 2,000children each year through residentialtreatment, education, emergencyshelter, forensic interview &examination centers, foster care &adoption services, relativeplacements, and prevention services.The majority of these children arevictims of severe abuse or neglect.SERVICES ARE PROVIDED AT:Black Hills Children’s Home........Rapid CitySioux Falls Children’s Home.......Sioux FallsMessengers Children’s Center ....Rapid CityChildren’s Inn ..............................Sioux FallsChild Advocacy Center...............Rapid CityChild’s Voice ...............................Sioux FallsAccredited by the Joint CommissionLicensed by South Dakota Department ofSocial ServicesCertified by South Dakota Department ofEducationCHS services are provided regardless ofrace, color, religion, gender, or nationalorigin.2 www.chssd.org/foundationEddie doesn’t recall being afraidor upset by the experience. Hethought it was pretty fun to get toride in a police car, stay in a fancymotel, and then get to ride on anairplane. Once back in SouthDakota, it was decided he shouldreturn to CHS to process all thathad happened.So while at CHS for the second time, another family cameforward. But this family was interested in adopting him. Notknowing their intentions, Eddie was selected to be a tour guidefor these “guests” on campus. They were able to spend sometime with Eddie without any pressure for either them or Eddie.After several months of work and transition, Eddie went to livewith his new family when he was 12, with the adoption finalizedwhen he was 13. He still considers them to be his parents tothis day.Today, Eddie has been happily married to his wife, Andi, for 11years, and they have three children: Brett is 10; Erica is 6; andJared is 5.When asked what he would say to CHS kids today, Eddie says,“I would just remind them to listen to staff and not getdiscouraged. They are here to help your life get better. Never,never give up. There are people who care. I have met them.They are all around you.”When asked what he would say to CHS staff today, Eddie says,in a voice that breaks, “I would just wrap ‘em all up in my armsand give ‘em a great big bear hug. I am here today because ofthe road they helped me find, and travel on.”Bill Colson ........................Executive DirectorRick Weber.................Development DirectorPat Nadolski...............Chief Financial OfficerMuriel Nelson ............Community Services &Marketing DirectorAshley Fellows ....Human Resources DirectorTim Fitzgerald ........BHCH Program DirectorSue Williams ...........SFCH Program DirectorSteve Deming .................BHCH CommunityServices DirectorRoxie Schmitz ..................SFCH CommunityServices DirectorGreg Riley ...........BHCH Education DirectorRod Lenz ..............SFCH Education DirectorChildren’s Home Foundation (CHF)provides operational support,building funds, endowment security,and community awareness &education for CHS.The Children’s Friend is a twiceyearlypublication of Children’sHome Foundation. Debra Moritz,Editor. Address correspondence todeb.moritz@chssd.org; or Children’sHome Foundation, PO Box 1749,Sioux Falls, SD 57101-1749; or call(605) 965-3136.

CHS LaunchesChamber Appeals CampaignFor the expansion & remodel of Van Demark HouseAt Sioux Falls Children’s Home (SFCH), a two-phase, and two-story expansion and remodel of Van DemarkHouse is underway. This building serves as bedroom and living space for 42 children, provides office spacefor support staff, therapists, and counselors, and houses CHS medical services and the campus laundry.VAN DEMARK PHASE 1 is currently underway and willprovide expanded space for therapy groups, medical &psychiatric services, a family visitation area, aconference room, a work room, recreation areas, moreoffices, an expanded reception area, and the addition ofan elevator. Phase 1 is being funded by a previouscampaign that also provided for the expansion andremodel of the school, construction cost savings fromthat project, and depreciation funds.VAN DEMARK PHASE 2 will expand the children’sbedroom and living space, and provide play space anda library. This phase will include 5,200 square feet of newconstruction, and 3,700 square feet of remodeled space,at an estimated cost of $1,250,000.The SIOUX FALLS CHAMBER OF COMMERCE hasapproved a “Community Appeals Campaign” to thebusiness community in the amount of $800,000 towardthe Phase 2 project. CHS’ goal will be to raise anadditional $450,000 through private foundations andother sources. The Chamber Campaign will occurNovember 2011 through March 2012.WHY THE PROJECT IS NEEDED• Van Demark House was originally designed in 1984 for 30children. Out of need over the years, capacity has beenstretched to serve 42 children. The expansion will bring CHSinto compliance with licensing codes for living spacerequired, per child, for residential facilities.• The expansion will increase the number of bedrooms from14 to 22, and will provide individual bedrooms for childrenwho are high risk due to sexual abuse, who have contagioushealth issues, or who have sleeping problems that aredisruptive to other children.• With more children served, there is also more staff, requiringoffice and therapy space.• Storage space is minimal. Many CHS children areessentially homeless, which requires storage of anybelongings they may have. The expansion will provideincreased, efficient, storage space.• Inside play space is extremely limited. Currently, the kitchenand bedroom halls are also used for play. The expansion willprovide additional play and recreational space. There willalso be room for arts & crafts, quiet play & reading areas,and a kitchen.• Expanded recreation space will also allow CHS to betteraddress supervision and developmental considerationswhen working with both boys and girls with ages rangingfrom 4 to 13.CAMPAIGN LEADERSHIPCampaign Co-ChairsDr. Bob & MarilynVan DemarkAl SchoenemanJulie Anderson FriesenBill BakerBob BakerDave BangasserMiles BeacomGreg BlombergChad BreidenbachPaul BruflatLynne ByrneRod CarlsonCraig CherringtonJulie ChoudekMike CostanzoDana DykhouseJon EricksonAnne Marie FeiockTerri FosterNick GarrySteve GarryCurt GrafingScott GrunewaldtTim HamelSteve HauffPhil HellandTom HellandCraig HodgsonBlake HoffmanJack HopkinsJay HuizengaDave JansaJerry JencksCoralee JorgensenTom KelleyKirk KeuppThom KoehlerMarilyn KorstenScott KorstenGeorge LappScott LawrenceKelly ManningJack MarshmanJane MartinMark MartinAli MassaJim MathisMark McClungDick MenkeKristi MetzgerCynthia MickelsonJay MitchellJarrod MullerJerry NachtigalJeff NelsonJulie NelsonTom NicholsonRitch NobleBill PetersonDoug PetersonDenise PinsJud PinsMichelle PoeShawn PoeGary PoppensTJ ReardonDrew ReavesLisa Richmond-KirbyLayne RichterPam RippentropGeorge RobertsJamison RoundsJohn RozellSusan SabersBill SanfordJeff ScherschligtJessie SchmidtJon SchulteJodi SiemersJeff SkinnerCarolynn StavengerTim StenbergDennis SteneJack StengelSusan StokkaEllyn SugaMaureen SugaJoe SztapkaPam Taylor JansaJulie TverbergGene TverbergGene UherDwight VondraRoger WeberNancy Weber-SweereHeather Zweifel3

DevelopmentDirectorRick WeberAs I write this, wehave just wrappedup our annual statewide meeting of ourboards of directors for Children’s HomeSociety and Children’s HomeFoundation. These are always greatmeetings, but once again, I am amazedby, and am appreciative of the level ofheart-felt commitment and support thatour board members have for thismission.The work of Children’s Home Societyis about responding to challenges—onmany levels. We work with childrenwhose stories are heart-wrenching. Wework with families that have the courageto seek help in the best interests of theirchildren. Funding streams from referralsources are in a constant state of flux.Fundraising will always be necessary, aslong as children and families continue toneed us.But here’s the good part—just like Ifeel today at the close of these meetings,surrounded by people that are here todirect and sustain the work of CHS, Iknow we do not have to feel that we arealone in our work. Thankfully, manypeople are motivated to help CHS inwhatever way they can because theyfeel called to help these children. Theyare not “CHS kids”, they are all “ourkids”.So many people do what they can,and this newsletter is filled with proof ofthat. People participate in poker runs,sponsor golf teams, purchase auctionitems, serve as campaign volunteers,rally employees to support CHS increative ways, sponsor outings for ourkids, purchase Christmas presents andclothing, give to our endowment fund,remember CHS in their estate plans,send monthly gifts of support…..the listgoes on and on.If not for the strength we draw fromthe support of so many friends, this workwould seem overwhelming. Butthankfully, we are surrounded by anarmy of people that truly care about thelives and futures of “our kids”. Giftscome in many forms and sizes, andeach one is appreciated and valuedbecause of the heart that gave it.We get by with A LOT of help from ourfriends! Thank you so much.Creative Arts Endowment UpdateProviding music & art for CHS Kids!Thanks to start-up grants, a part-time music teacher and a part-time artteacher are now part of the teaching staff at both BHCH and SFCHschools. In the meantime, Children’s Home Foundation is working to builda Creative Arts Endowment Fund that will sustain these teaching positionsonce the grant funds have been used. Earnings from a $2 million fundwould forever secure the art and music programs at both schools.“Since beginning our Music and ArtPrograms in 2008 here at CHS, Ihave had the amazing opportunity tosee children, who normally are quietand reserved, discover a wonderfulvessel through which to expressthemselves. Our children suffer froma variety of traumatic experiences.Working through their trauma is verydifficult for children, and I haveobserved that Art and Music havegiven them more outlets to workthrough their issues. It is my sincerehope that our Art and Music Programwill continue to exist and remain apart of our program here at CHS.”Kay Francis, CHS Teacher“What these teachers bring to ourschool has far exceeded anythingwe could have imagined.Introducing our children to art andmusic—by teachers with expertise inthose areas—has enriched the entireacademic experience for our kids.”Greg RileyBHCH Education DirectorWendy Ensz, the SFCH MusicTeacher cites a few examples of howthe music program has impactedspecific children:Two boys, who don’t usually getalong very well, ended up playing aduet on a Djembe drum. Theystarted perfectly together, andremained in flow throughout theirturn, naturally creating music as ateam.One afternoon, the fourth gradersfinished singing “God Bless theUSA.” It was so beautiful, so from theheart, so full of meaning, so together,that I started to cry tears of joy(which I explained to them!). Amonth later, all of the CHS childrensang this song for our golf eventgala. Their meaningful performancemoved the audience to a standingovation.The third graders made connectionafter connection as we learnedabout each phrase of the “StarSpangled Banner.” Connections towhat they were learning in SocialStudies about American history,connections to other places theyhave heard the NationalAnthem, andconnections to thegeography of theChesapeake Bayand Fort McHenry.We mark steady progress toward the overall goal of $2 million. Thanks tothe recent gift of $100,000 from the estate of Marjorie Rawlins, fundsraised toward this goal now total $1,020,801.If you would like to help secure art & music programs for CHS kids,please use the coupon on page 11.4

Guardians of the ChildrenGUARDIANS OF THE CHILDREN is a planned giving program established to recognizeand honor those people whose vision, philanthropy, and love of children has beendemonstrated by a planned gift to Children’s Home Foundation’s endowment fund.A golfer knows the pure exhilaration of getting a hole-in-one! But how often doesa hole-in-one come to benefit hundreds of children?In August of 1991, DeAun West was a participant in the Rushmore Rotary GolfTournament to benefit Black Hills Children’s Home. Her son-in-law, George Twitero,was an active Rotary member, and invited DeAun to play in the event.At one of the holes, there was a hole-in-one contest to win a Cadillac—andDeAun aced the hole! Hole-in-one contests appear at most any golf event, but howoften does a person actually win? The place went wild!But here is where the story takes a twist. The Rotarians had insurance to coverthis possibility, but the insurance was not applicable because DeAun hit from thewomen’s tee. At that shorter distance, there was no insurance coverage.Wanting to do the right thing, the Rotarians committed to purchase the Cadillacfor DeAun. But DeAun selflessly offered another solution. She forgave the moralobligation of the Rotarians, in exchange for their promise to pledge $30,000 (thevalue of the car) to Black Hills Children’s Home.Over the years, this “deal” has evolved into Rapid City Rushmore Rotarybecoming a significant partner with Children’s Home Society in the support of itsmission. The club surpassed the $30,000 “deal” many years ago. Through theproceeds of their annual Golf Tournament and the Mount Rushmore Winter Gala,the Rapid City Rushmore Rotary Club has raised almost $1 million for CHS!And it all started with a selfless, ace-in-the hole negotiator named DeAun West!In addition to monthly gifts to CHS for many years, DeAun and her late husband,Mack, made a provision for CHS in their Charitable Remainder Uni-Trust.Tax Benefits of a Stock GiftDeAun WestWith gifts of appreciated stock held for more than one year, there is potential to receive double benefits!1) You receive a charitable deduction for the value of the stock (when given), and2) You avoid a capital gains tax on the stock appreciation.“I grew up during the Depressionyears, as one of six kids, andthough I never felt we were ‘poor’,I do remember the time that wetore the floor furnace apart,because someone thought a dimehad been dropped there. But as Ireflect on what our lives were like,we were blessed in so manyways. Not so much with things,but with values and love, based ina strong faith in God.I was introduced to Children’sHome through my kids. When Ifirst heard some of the stories andsituations that brought kids toCHS, it brought me to tears. Whatthey had been through wasbeyond my imagination. Howwonderful that they have a safeplace to go, where they canreceive counsel and tender care,and be around people that believein them.In this day and age, there are somany ways to give to so manydeserving organizations. Butaside from my church, the work ofChildren’s Home Society has myheart.”Important points to consider:• When giving stock to a qualified charity, you must give it “un-sold”.• To avoid paying capital gains tax, you must have owned the stock for one year or more.• It is generally not advisable to donate stocks that have declined in value.• There are limits to charitable giving deductions. For appreciated property, it can be 30% of adjusted grossincome. Total charitable contributions can be 50% or adjusted gross income.• Gifts of stock can typically be given easily by electronic transfer.Tax laws can change from year to year. It is always recommended that you consult your tax advisor in regardto your personal situation.For more information about how your stock gift could support the mission of Children’s Home Society, you oryour financial advisor can contact Rick Weber at (605) 965-3127, or email rick.weber@chssd.org.5

BHCH = Black Hills Children’s HomeSFCH = Sioux Falls Children’s Home“Give us this daySince 1893, grassroots support for Children’s Home Society has been the constantsupply for “our daily bread”. We are so grateful for friends—all across the state andbeyond—who find special ways to support the CHS mission. We would like to sharethe story of some of the “loaves” that have been given…THE DAKOTA V-TWIN POKER RUN was held June 11 in theBlack Hills, and raised $1,700! Special thanks to NICKCRAMER!THE ASSOCIATED GENERAL CONTRACTORS POKER RUNwas held June 18 in the Black Hills, and raised $3,500! Specialthanks to KEN GIFFORD!The loyal sponsors, riders, and participants of THE BORROWEDBUCKS POKER RUN, held July 30 in Sioux Falls, raised $5,000!Special thanks to KIRK KEUPP and SCOTT HOFFMAN!THOSE GUYS ABATE POKER RUN on July 17 in Sioux Fallsraised over $5,000! Special thanks to DAVE BRENDE!J&L HARLEY DAVIDSON sponsored the “YOUR BUTT ISOURS!” fundraiser, and gave customers $5 to donate to one ofthe designated charities if they test-drove one of their products.$1,160 from this fundraiser was given to CHS.THE ORION CLASSIC was held on August 7 & 8.Thanks to many sponsors and friends, the 2011 eventnetted over $314,000 for CHS! One highlight from thisyear’s event was the addition of a raffle for a 2011 Prius,donated by BILLION TOYOTA.The lucky winner was LisaTiensvold, who was present thenight of the drawing, and had thewhole room cheering on hergood fortune!A Black Hills area perennialfavorite, the RUSHMOREROTARY GOLF TOURNAMENTwas held July 25 at ArrowheadCountry Club in Rapid City, andraised over $43,000 for CHS. BHCH kids assisted with golfer registration, and they—along withkids from Messengers Foster Home—were invited to swim at the Arrowhead pool!MARLIN’S FAMILY RESTAURANTS & CHEAP SHOTS BAR & GRILL GOLF BENEFIT was held onSeptember 10, and raised $1,236! Special thanks to MIKE FLETCHER!6

our daily bread.”Matthew 6:11DUHAMEL BROADCASTING radio stations in Rapid Citysponsored a promotion to recruit foster and adoptivefamilies for SD children needing families.SIOUX VALLEY ENERGY in Brandon hosted their AnnualMeeting and Member Appreciation Day on May 31 whichincluded a picnic, carnival rides, entertainment, and acharity dunk tank—which resulted in a $1,538 gift toCHS!FIRST BANK & TRUST in Sioux Falls gave a $5 donationto CHS for every customer survey returned during themonths of April & May, and raised $920! They alsotreated SFCH kids and staff to a picnic lunch onSeptember 13.FIRST CONGREGATIONAL UNITED CHURCH OFCHRIST in Sioux Falls presented a concert called“Sowing Seeds of Peace” to commemorate the 10thAnniversary of 9/11. A freewill offering was taken tobenefit the Van Demark House expansion project atSFCH, resulting in a gift of $510.META PAYMENT SYSTEMS in Sioux Falls raised $3,250for CHS through their “Jeans & Jerseys” days, and aspecial BBQ lunch.DOWNTOWN KIWANIS CLUB once again readied SFCHkids’ bikes for lots of spring and summertime riding withtheir annual bike repair event. They also sponsored a dayat the Great Plains Zoo & Museum for all SFCH kids.THE RALPH & SYLVIA GRODE FAMILY hosted a“Country Fun Day” for SFCH on June 13. The Grodes’ 11children and their spouses, and many of theirgrandchildren opened a country acreage filled withinflatables, a petting zoo, ladder ball, hayrides, bottlecalves, games, a picnic lunch, and so much more!KRIS EVANS McKITTRICK wanted to make sure each ofthe 3 units at BHCH got to have a special outingsometime during the summer. Kids and staff on East Unitchose to go to Bear Country and then out for pizza. TheWest Unit drove to Spearfish to play in the park and thenwent out for pizza. The Tully House kids and staff spentthe day at a giant waterslide park and then—can youguess?—out for pizza.GO TWINS! On August 21, many of the kids at SFCH tooka road trip to Minneapolis to see a MINNESOTA TWINSgame. Sponsors for this trip included JOE MAUER andTHE TWINS COMMUNITY FUND, AL SCHOENEMAN,MIKE & WENDY SKILLINGSTAD, and TONY & SARAVENHUIZEN.Thanks to a lead gift from STATE BANK & TRUST andGENE & BRIGITTE UHER, the annual “Summer Fun Day”,held August 24, saw SFCH kids enjoy outdoor games,inflatables, a picnic, and water fun! Other sponsors forthis end-of-summer festival included DEAN & PEGGULBRANSON, JIM & ARDYS BERVEN, and SUSANSABERS & CHRIS DUNHAM.The SIOUX FALLS MORNING OPTIMISTS treated SFCHkids to a movie on September 17. Pass the popcorn,please!THE JON CRANE CHILDREN’S HOME SOCIETYBENEFIT AUCTION featured works from renownedregional artists, was held on September 30,and raised$20,000 for CHS. Special thanks to Jon & Gail Crane,Denny McKay, Bill Bomberg, Rachel Nordbye, LoriNonnast, and Rose DuBois; and to “Dream Team” artistsShawn DeGroot, Richard DuBois, Jerry Green, BarbHallberg, Mick Harrison, Angela Marie Poches, andSonja Taylor.ROB & DEBBIE MUDGE sponsored a day of fun on thewater for ALL CHS kids—at both ends of the state!On July 8, it was “Catfish Bay Day” for SFCH. The kidsenjoyed tubing, waterskiing, fishing, and swimming.SFCH kids and staff also were special guests for theFriday evening show at Catfish Bay. Special thanks alsogo to JIM BRUNS and all the great folks at CATFISH BAY!Then on August 17 & 24, BHCH kids also enjoyed aday of swimming and water ski instruction on beautifulSheridan Lake. The most fun we know, on H2O!A summertime favorite, JEFF & TAMMIE BROIN onceagain sponsored a day for SFCH kids at Wild Water Weston August 3rd. And pizza & pop, too!7

Child Advocacy Centerof the Black HillsAdds Family Support & Victim Advocacy“I have a question…”These are some of the most frequently askedquestions about CHS.WHY DO CHILDREN COME TO CHILDREN’S HOME?The majority of children are exhibiting emotional orbehavioral problems that are a result of physical abuse,sexual abuse, or extreme neglect. Some children aredealing with emotional, mental health, developmental, orlearning issues which are not the fault of parents, andneed more intensive intervention than a parent and/or apublic school can provide.WHO REFERS CHILDREN TO CHS?The majority of children are referred by the SDDepartment of Social Services. Others come from schooldistricts, psychiatric hospitals, parents, tribal & BIA SocialServices, and Social Service offices from surroundingstates.Shown left to right: Steve Deming; Dr. Charles Hart, RegionalHealth; Dr. David Mueller, Black Hills Pediatrics; and Bill Colson.The Child Advocacy Center (CAC) is located at Black HillsPediatrics in Rapid City. Working with law enforcement and socialservice agencies, CAC provides a single, specialized medicalexamination and forensic interview in cases of suspected childabuse—particularly in cases of alleged sexual abuse. This level ofevidence is critical in the prosecution of child abusers and sexualoffenders. More importantly, this service reduces a child victim’strauma by coordinating one single exam and interview to be used byall investigative parties.“While this is an invaluable service, done with excellence, there iscertainly one thing we could do better—and that is providing supportservices to the families of these children we are seeing,” says SteveDeming, Director of Children’s Home Society’s Community BasedServices in the Black Hills.In 2010, CAC received a grant that permitted the hiring of a familysupport specialist for one year. And those funds are about to run out.“That is where Regional Health stepped in,” Deming continues.“Black Hills Regional Health has donated $25,000 to sustain thisposition beyond 2011. In addition, the Children’s Miracle Network—an agency of Rapid City Regional Hospital—also contributed fundsto update medical equipment for the center.”The Rushmore Rotary Club of Rapid City has also been a keysupporter of CAC by raising $1 million over the past 10 years to helpendow the center’s daily operations.“When local organizations step up to help like this, it makes all thedifference in the world,” says Bill Colson, CHS Executive Director.WHERE DO THE KIDS COME FROM?Geographically, children come from virtually every countyin South Dakota. In 2010, there were 2,276 children fromall across the state that were served by a CHS program.HOW LONG DO THEY STAY?An average length of stay for children in residentialtreatment is 12-13 months.AFTER THEY LEAVE CHS, WHERE DO THEY GO?IN A RECENT YEAR:• 47% returned to birth parents• 23% went to live with foster parents• 12% went to a relative other than parents• 9% went to adoptive or pre-adoptive parents• 9% needed to continue residential treatment in anotherprogram due to the level of the behavioral or emotionaldisturbances.What would you like to know?Please email your question(s) to deb.moritz@chssd.orgWe will feature reader questions in future issues.DIRECTORS EMERITUSHas served six or more years as a CHS Board Member; andHas served six or more years as a CHF Board Member; andHas served as President of either Board.Emeritus Board Members include:Lynne ByrneJeb ClarksonSteve EggerPhil Helland*Blake HoffmanBob Hoover*Deanna Lien*Helen MadsenJack MarshmanMac McCrackenLinda Mickelson GrahamRob Mudge*TJ ReardonJohn Rozell*Peg SeljeskogDennis Stene*Pam Taylor JansaMarilyn Van Demark*Doug Wells*Current Board Member8

Board of DirectorsThe statewide annual board meeting for Children’s Home Society and Children’s Home Foundation was heldOctober 6 & 7. The following are the elected officers and board members for 2011-2012.CHILDREN’S HOME SOCIETY 2011-2012Gene UherPRESIDENTSioux FallsMonicaBurgessVICEPRESIDENTRapid CityKrisMcKittrickSECRETARYRapid CityRickBelsaasTREASURERRapid CityMikeAlbertsonRapid CitySally AndersonMesquite, TXJulieAndersonFriesenSioux FallsDanAshmoreRapid CityJan BrewerRapid CityPatBurchillRapid CityMaureenClarksonBelleFourcheBill ColsonRapid CityRobertFoubergAberdeenPhilHellandSioux FallsBobHooverRapid CityGaryJensenRapid CityDeannaLienRapid CityRossMcKieRapid CityMelanieMadsenSioux FallsTim MeyerHarrisburgCynthiaMickelsonSioux FallsRobMudgeRapid CityJerryNachtigalSioux FallsJohnRozellSioux FallsBillSanfordSioux FallsKarenSchreierSioux FallsDennisSteneSioux FallsSusanStokkaSioux FallsMaureenSugaSioux FallsCHILDREN’S HOME FOUNDATION 2011-2012Meg WarderPRESIDENTHill CityMarilynVan DemarkVICE PRESIDENTSioux FallsCarolynStavengerSECRETARYSioux FallsDaveSchmidtTREASURERRapid CityLindaDaugaardPierreTim HamelSioux FallsScott KorstenSioux FallsRachelNordbyeRapid CityMichelle PoeSioux FallsGeorgeRobertsSioux FallsSusanSabersSioux FallsAlSchoenemanSioux FallsNorbertSebadeRapid CityScott SlettenSioux FallsJack StengelSioux Falls9

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Please remember the children atCHILDREN’S HOME SOCIETYin your Holiday or year-end giving plans.Friends of CHS are able to donate on-line.Go to www.chssd.org/foundationFor VISA or MASTERCARD gifts:Please call Kim at 605-965-3144(Formerly known asTHE HOT STUFF FOODS CHALLENGE)An envelope isenclosed for yourconvenience.If your family, church, business, or club would like informationabout providing Christmas gifts for CHS kids, please contact:BLACK HILLS CHILDREN’S HOMETheresa Schreiner – (605) 343-2811theresa.schreiner@ chssd.orgSIOUX FALLS CHILDREN’S HOMEDeb Moritz – (605) 965-3136deb.moritz@chssd.orgTo see a general wish list, please visit www.chssd.orgGreat ideas for any size group or family!15,000 companies match gifts! Does yours? Double the impact of yourgift at no additional cost! Please check with your employer to see if yourgift can be matched through a company matching gift program.✁Please enclose with your check,so we may honor the intention of your gift.✁Name:_____________________________________________________PLEASE USE OUR GIFT OF $____________:_____ Where needed most_____ General Endowment for CHS_____ Creative Arts Endowment___ for Black Hills Children’s Home___ for Sioux Falls Children’s HomeANOTHER WAY TO HELP!Card packets are available.PLEASE SEND:_____ Memorial card packet(s)_____ Honor card packet(s)Memorial cardHonor card_____ Tribute card packet(s)Tribute card11

CHILDREN’S HOME SOCIETYOF SOUTH DAKOTAP.O. BOX 1749SIOUX FALLS, SOUTH DAKOTA 57101-1749Non-profit OrganizationU.S. POSTAGEPAIDSIOUX FALLS, SDPERMIT #437ADDRESS SERVICE REQUESTEDPROBLEMS! We’d like to make it right! Change label and mail back to us.___Misspelled name___Wrong address___Receive more than one.___Remove my name from mailing list.Good Hearts are TimelessThis photo was taken at the Lambda Chi Alpha Fraternity at theUniversity of South Dakota (USD) in December of 1951. At that time,CHS children were bussed to Vermillion on a Saturday in December,and were treated to lunch, afternoon games, Christmas presents, andan evening meal before returning to “The Orphanage” in Sioux Falls.Shown in this photo is long-time CHS friend Loren Amundsonplaying Santa Claus. He was in his third year of pre-med studies atUSD. Surrounding him are CHS children and fraternity brothersCharles Krall of Mitchell, Paul Hauffe of Leola, Clifford Lonnie Andersonof Sioux Falls, a partial view of Wayne Ufford of Vermillion, and VernonStaum of Elk Point.“What a glorious day for the children, and for the fraternity,” Loren reflects.An interesting note — South Dakota Governor Dennis Daugaard (former CHS Executive Director) later played SantaClaus for this same event while a student and fraternity brother at USD in the 1970s.Special thanks to Loren Amundson for his assistance with this feature!There is a program in Rapid City called LOVE, INC that works with over 60 churches in the Black Hills area. Oneof their special projects is “Clothe-a-Kid”, which provides names, sizes, and favorite color information to donorsthat will provide new school clothes, a jacket, and socks & underwear for an underprivileged child.BLESSED SACRAMENT CHURCH in Rapid City took the names and needs ofevery child at Black Hills Children’s Home, and from the MessengersChildren’s Center emergency foster home—a total of 60 children to clothe!One CHS staff member who was present when the Messengers’ childrenreceived their clothing bags, told of an impromptu “fashion show” thatevolved as the kids excitedly emptied their bags of new clothing. One 5-year-old girl twirled around again and again exclaiming, “This is exactlywhat I would buy if I went to a store!” Another young boy struck a “GQpose” as he modeled his new look to the CHS staff cheering him on.What a wonderful lift/gift for a child!fTo protect the privacy of the children and families we serve,Check out our facebook pageand become a fan!(unless otherwise noted) it is our practice to use names and photosthat represent our stories, but respect confidentiality.To receive our e-newsletter go towww.chssd.org/foundationTake this link to the CHS Channel!www.youtube.com/user/ChildrensHomeSD