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5 For teenagers5It hurts when someone you love or someone who was important to you dies. The loss and hurt leaveyou grieving. When you are grieving it can be painful and frightening. It may seem like everything is outof control. It can be helpful to know a bit about grieving. This may make it easier to understand what ishappening.Grieving is as natural asCrying when you get hurtSleeping when you are tiredEating when you are hungrySneezing when your nose itches.It is nature’s way of healingA broken heart.Anon12
There are many different reactions to grief. Some of these include:ANGER GUILTDEPRESSION FEARCONFUSION SADNESSFEELING UNLOVEDLONELINESSLIKE ‘YOUR GOING MAD’CAN’T CONCENTRATEDON’T WANT TO GO OUTHEADACHESPROBLEMS SLEEPINGEXHAUSTIONDRY MOUTHSTOMACH ACHESCAN’T BE BOTHERED WITHWORK OR SCHOOLCRYINGYou may feel some of these - or you may not.You may not know what you are experiencing, it may seem like a time of “nothingness”.It’s OK to feel this way.Everyone’s grief will be different and how they express it may also be different.Suicide presents us with additional challenges in understanding or accepting death.When someone takes their own life there may be more intense thoughts about:■■■■■■■■Searching for ‘why’; trying to make sense of it all. This can sometimes lead to blaming others or blamingone thing that happened.Regrets and guilt - “If only I’d done something different;” “Couldn’t someone have stopped it?”Anger and rejection - “How could he/she do this to me?”Feeling suicidal. If you feel like this it is important to talk to someone who can help. Often people whoconsider suicide see no other way to solve their problems. Remember there is always someone to talk toand other ways to deal with pain.Remember, you are NOT responsible for the death.“You are only in charge of your own destiny. You cannot control the lives of others no matter how muchyou love them.” (1)It takes time to heal.The intense pain does not go on forever.It does soften.Gradually there will be more good days than bad days.This does not mean you will forget and stop loving the person who died.In the words of one teenager:“I think a lot about my special friend. Sometimes I feel sad and cry. Lately, I’ve begun to smile when Iremember what we did together. I feel better knowing that this person is with me - only a thought away.” (1)13
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Page 3: ContentsChapterPage1 On first being
Page 6 and 7: 2 Practical matters2All sudden and
Page 8 and 9: 3 Telling people3Should I tell peop
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Page 26 and 27: 9 Early grief and mourning9ShockThe
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Page 30 and 31: Do men and women grieve differently
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Page 36 and 37: 14 Grieving Aboriginal way14When yo
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