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eight years back. I had to drop out of a class because the instructor wasgiving me his opinion about the photos that he just happened to stumbleupon. The love of my life broke up with me because of the pics. He gotback together with me, but will never marry me. I’ve had people I work withget together behind closed doors and share those pictures with each other,and I had to quit. People recognize me when I’m out about town. I’ve lostmy sense of security.”Does that sound liberating? Sounds like the opposite.Matt: I read some interesting research. Psychologists from Middlesex University andthe University of Surrey in Great Britain did a study and found out that when presentedwith descriptions of women taken from magazines that they have in Great Britain—similar to Maxim and that type of trash—coupled with comments from convictedrapists, the vast majority of the men simply couldn’t distinguish who was making thecomment. Even something as apparently “harmless” as Maxim influences our opinionsof women in a negative way, and this certainly isn’t liberating.Donny: There is a girl I recruited when she was 18—a beautiful girl. I knew that shewould make a lot of money. She did make a lot of money. She became successful. Weshared the profits with her on the website that we made. When she would be out atparties, guys assumed that she was a “porn star” even though, at that time, she hadactually not even engaged in anything sexual with another person. She was just posingnude alone and just doing videos alone. They assumed that since she was a porn star,they could take whatever they wanted from her, and she now has a child whom she willnever know who the father is. She was passed out at a party one time, and they justtook what they wanted.This happened over and over again to different girls—not necessarily being raped likethat, but guys just assuming when they walk up to them at a bar that this girl must beeasy and willing to give whatever I want.Myth #4:Porn Stars Love the SexMatt: That really goes into this next myth, which is that porn stars are simplynymphomaniacs. Before I get your thoughts on that, I’d like to quote an ex-porn starThe hardcore truth | 11