Shelly Lubben, who said <strong>the</strong> following:Sex-packed porn films featuring freshly dyed blonds whose provocativeeyes say, ‘I want you,’ is quite possibly one of <strong>the</strong> greatest deceptions of alltimes. Trust me, I know. I did it all <strong>the</strong> time, and I did it for <strong>the</strong> lust of powerand <strong>the</strong> love of money. I never liked sex and I never wanted sex, and infact I was more apt to spend more time with Jack Daniels that some of <strong>the</strong>studs I was paid to fake it with. That’s right. None of us freshly dyed blondslike porn. In fact, we hate it. We hate being touched by strangers whocare nothing about us. Some women hate it so much you can hear <strong>the</strong>mvomiting in <strong>the</strong> bathroom between scenes. O<strong>the</strong>rs can be found outsidesmoking an endless chain of Marlboro Lights. But <strong>the</strong> porn industry likesyou to think we porn actresses love sex. They want you to think we enjoybeing degraded by all kinds of repulsive acts.She makes a good point. If a woman were to get up and speak plainly, saying, “Ofcourse, I don’t enjoy this,” that would ruin not only her career, but <strong>the</strong> amount ofpaychecks that would come in from her films. People don’t want to hear that.Donny: Absolutely, because you know what ends up happening over and over andover again? These girls ended up hating men because <strong>the</strong>y get used to that lustful lookthat a guy gets in <strong>the</strong>ir eye, and it becomes a negative to <strong>the</strong>m, something that <strong>the</strong>yabsolutely despise.88%88% of scenes in <strong>the</strong>top-selling porn filmscontain acts of physicalaggression (principallyspanking, gagging,slapping, etc.). 749%49% of scenes in <strong>the</strong>top-selling porn filmscontain acts of verbalaggression (primarilyname-calling). 8Even when you’re filming it on <strong>the</strong> screen, <strong>the</strong> girl is screaming in pleasure whensometimes she’d ra<strong>the</strong>r be screaming in pain, because she knows if she does not getthis scene right, she is going to have to come back tomorrow. You don’t get paid until<strong>the</strong> scene is complete.The <strong>hardcore</strong> <strong>truth</strong> | 12
They become more and more treated as a commodity, a piece of meat, and that’s not<strong>the</strong> way a woman is wired.Matt: I asked a friend of mine who was in <strong>the</strong> industry, “Are <strong>the</strong> women in <strong>the</strong> industryjust raging nymphomaniacs?” And she said this, “There are several reasons why girlsget into <strong>the</strong> porn industry, but a <strong>hardcore</strong> sex drive isn’t one of <strong>the</strong>m.”Myth #5:Watching Porn is Healthy, Adult EntertainmentMatt: You were talking about men and <strong>the</strong> lustful look in <strong>the</strong>ir eyes, which brings usto our fifth myth: that porn is healthy; it’s adult behavior; it’s somehow gentlemen-likeentertainment.Donny: I think that that’s just an excuse that people give <strong>the</strong>mselves to justify giving into animal instincts, because really, real man will actually be able to fight against <strong>the</strong>se.I had a young man come up to me when I was speaking at a church, and he was inhigh school. He had “been around.” He said, “These girls, <strong>the</strong>y just throw <strong>the</strong>mselvesat me, and <strong>the</strong>y give me <strong>the</strong>mselves all <strong>the</strong> time. How am I going to say no to this? Imean, porn is <strong>the</strong> same way.” I could tell that he was very masculine. I said, “Let meask you this: if you had a woman in your life right now, would you fight for her?” And hesticks his chest out and says, “Of course I would.” I say, “What if two years from now,you meet <strong>the</strong> woman of your dreams, and you can say, ‘I’ve been fighting <strong>the</strong> battleof my life for you, and I didn’t even know you yet.’” He asks, “What are you talkingabout?” I was like, “Say no to <strong>the</strong>se women that are throwing <strong>the</strong>mselves at you. Bewilling to fight for her even when she is not willing to fight for herself. That’s what aman does. These women that are throwing <strong>the</strong>mselves at you are putting <strong>the</strong>mselveson a screen—in this case, with porn—<strong>the</strong>y are not fighting for <strong>the</strong>mselves. What isgentlemanly about giving in and just using <strong>the</strong>m?”Matt: Yeah, it’s very true. I think <strong>the</strong>re is something very un-masculine aboutpornography use. These large neon signs that scream “Adult” or “Gentlemen”: I thinkit’s <strong>the</strong> height of defensive advertising and I think if we want to know what is it to be aman, <strong>the</strong>n we just need to look to no o<strong>the</strong>r place than what Christ had to say in Luke22:19: “My body given up for you.” We just know this is masculine. You think about <strong>the</strong>movies we love, and it usually always involves a man sacrificing himself for <strong>the</strong> good ofThe <strong>hardcore</strong> <strong>truth</strong> | 13